Shane Ramer is the founder and host of That Sober Guy Podcast, a culture and performance platform examining what happens when high-performing men remove alcohol and reclaim clarity, focus, and leverage. Since launching the show in 2014, Shane has reached millions of listeners across 100+ countries by challenging conventional narratives around masculinity, success, and sobriety. His work sits at the intersection of identity, discipline, and modern performance. Shane works privately with executives, founders, athletes, and creatives who are no longer interested in numbing high performance with low-level coping tools. His approach reframes sobriety not as healing, but as optimization, removing friction so men can operate with precision in business, health, and leadership. He is also the creator of the Sober Male Index, a performance-focused data project tracking how sobriety impacts focus, productivity, income, and social dynamics in men. Shane is a husband of 20 years, a father of two, and lives his work through faith, fitness, and daily discipline.
Everything is faster. Everything is easier. So why does it feel like everyone is more anxious, distracted, and exhausted than ever? This week, Shane takes a look at modern culture through the lens of performance, sobriety, and a healthy dose of sarcasm. From AI coworkers and wellness gadgets to dopamine addiction and convenience culture, we explore why we're optimizing everything except the things that actually matter. Has technology made us better... or just busier? If success is easier to access than ever before, why are so many people still stuck? This episode isn't about rejecting technology, it's about asking better questions, taking back your attention, and removing the distractions that quietly keep you from becoming the person you're capable of being. Because maybe the greatest performance hack isn't another app... Maybe it's learning to live with a little more intention. Episode Highlights: Why convenience may be making us weaker AI, productivity, and the illusion of having more time The billion-dollar wellness industry vs. real health Dopamine: the new performance drug Why alcohol isn't always the problem, the distraction is How to reclaim your focus and perform at your highest level ️ If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to stop optimizing everything except their own life. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What happens when you stop believing that alcohol is a requirement for connection, celebration, or success? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with Elisa Saunders, recovery advocate, business leader, and former educator, for an honest conversation about women's drinking culture, leadership, entrepreneurship, and building a life with purpose beyond alcohol. Together, they explore the rise of "mom wine culture," why so many successful women feel pressure to drink, and how removing alcohol can improve confidence, decision making, relationships, and performance both at home and in business. Elisa also shares her personal journey from addiction to over a decade of alcohol free living, how recovery transformed her career and sense of purpose, and why serving others has become the foundation of her life. In this episode, you'll learn: • The truth about mom wine culture and why it's become so normalized • Why alcohol can quietly hold back leaders and entrepreneurs • How quitting drinking can improve confidence and decision making • The connection between purpose, service, and long term fulfillment • Why leading your family and your business is easier with a clear mind • Practical insights for anyone questioning their relationship with alcohol Whether you're sober curious, alcohol free, an entrepreneur, a parent, or simply looking to become a better leader, this conversation will challenge the way you think about success, fulfillment, and alcohol's role in your life. Takeaway: If you're looking to eliminate alcohol, improve your health, sharpen your focus, and connect with growth minded men, join our free online men's community, The Victory Circle . You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge , designed to help you build momentum, increase energy, and perform at your highest level in every area of life. https://link.me/elisansaunders @elisansaunders on IG Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Everyone says they're exhausted. Burned out. Overwhelmed. Stressed. But what if the problem isn't that we're doing too much... What if we're doing too much of the wrong things? Somewhere along the way, we've started wearing exhaustion like a badge of honor while wondering why we never feel our best. This isn't just another conversation about alcohol. It's about energy, discipline, performance, and becoming someone you can count on. In this episode: • Why we've turned burnout into an identity • The biggest energy leaks holding us back • How comfort may be quietly stealing our potential • Why confidence comes from keeping promises to yourself • Practical ways to reset your performance and reclaim your energy If you've been feeling stuck, tired, or like you're capable of more, this episode is for you. oin “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcas Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What happens when you remove alcohol and start pushing yourself physically? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with fitness coach, host of the Discomfort Required Podcast, and longtime friend Trent Williamson for a conversation about discipline, fitness, mindset, and the life changing power of embracing discomfort. Trent is 672 days alcohol free and continues to help others build stronger bodies, stronger minds, and more resilient lives. Shane & Trent discuss the connection between alcohol, health, performance, and personal growth, why discomfort is essential for transformation, and how small daily decisions compound into extraordinary results. In this episode, you'll learn: • How fitness became a catalyst for lasting change • Why embracing discomfort leads to growth • The connection between alcohol free living and peak performance • Building discipline that lasts • Why consistency beats motivation • Practical strategies for improving your physical and mental health • How to create momentum in every area of life Whether you're looking to quit drinking, get back in shape, or simply become a stronger version of yourself, this conversation will challenge you to raise your standards and embrace the work. Takeaway: If you're a man looking to eliminate alcohol, improve your health, and connect with other growth minded men, join our free online men's community, The Victory Circle. You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge, designed to help you build momentum, increase energy, sharpen your focus, and perform at your highest level. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/discomfort-required/id1896084385 @rawrathletics @cf_coach_trent http://www.rawrathletics.com Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Here's a controversial thought... Maybe nobody actually wants to quit drinking. What people really want is better sleep, more energy, less anxiety, stronger relationships, sharper focus, and a life they can be proud of. In this solo episode, Shane challenges the way we think about alcohol, habits, and personal change. Why do we know exactly what we need to do, yet keep making the same choices? Why is changing a routine so much harder than dreaming about a different future? This isn't another lecture about alcohol. It's a conversation about performance, discipline, identity, and the gap between knowing and doing. In this episode: • Why most people don't have an information problem—they have an implementation problem • The hidden cost of "I'll start Monday" thinking • Why sobriety isn't the destination—it's the vehicle • The power of running a 30-day experiment instead of making a lifetime commitment • How small daily routines create extraordinary long-term results If you've been telling yourself you'll make a change "someday," this episode is your reminder that someday starts with today. If you're ready to find out what you're truly capable of, check out the 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge and start your own experiment. Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
When UFC legend Dustin Poirier was arrested for public intoxication at an airport on Father's Day, the reaction was immediate: "He has a disease." But what exactly does that mean? In this solo episode, Shane dives into one of the most controversial conversations in recovery: the disease model of addiction. If addiction is a disease, is smoking a disease too? Why do we send people to rehab for alcohol and drugs, but not cigarettes? Why do some people lose control of their lives through addiction while others quit cold turkey and never look back? Drawing from personal experience, current events, and the work of addiction researcher Stanton Peele, Shane explores the tension between personal responsibility, brain science, recovery culture, and human agency. This isn't an anti-recovery episode. It's a conversation about asking better questions. In this episode: • The Dustin Poirier airport incident and what it reveals about alcohol • Is addiction really a disease? • Why nicotine may be one of the hardest addictions to quit • The difference between addiction, dependence, and choice • Insights from Stanton Peele's work on addiction and recovery • Why purpose, meaning, and personal agency matter • Can both the disease model and personal responsibility be true? Whether you're in recovery, questioning your relationship with alcohol, or simply interested in the broader conversation around addiction, this episode will challenge you to think differently. The goal isn't to prove who's right. The goal is to ask the questions most people are afraid to ask. Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What has changed about recovery, sobriety, and alcohol over the last decade? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane Ramer sits down with Paul Churchill, founder and host of the Recovery Elevator Podcast, for a conversation that has been more than ten years in the making. Shane and Paul both launched their podcasts in the early days of the modern sobriety movement and have spent years talking with thousands of people navigating their relationship with alcohol. In this episode, they reflect on how the recovery landscape has evolved, what they've learned from their audiences, and why more people than ever are questioning alcohol's role in their lives. Together, they tackle some of the biggest debates in recovery today, including identity, labels, moderation, the sober curious movement, and whether people need to hit rock bottom before making a change. They also discuss the common struggles men face when trying to quit drinking, the excuses that keep people stuck, and why so many smart, successful people continue drinking even when they know it's holding them back. In this episode: • How the sobriety and recovery movement has changed over the last decade • The rise of the sober curious movement • Do people still need to identify as alcoholics? • Can some people successfully moderate their drinking? • The biggest lies people tell themselves about alcohol • Why successful people continue drinking despite the consequences • What keeps people stuck longer than necessary • Lessons learned from thousands of conversations about recovery and personal growth • Where the future of sobriety may be headed Whether you're sober curious, alcohol free, in long term recovery, or simply questioning your relationship with alcohol, this conversation offers practical insights, honest reflections, and plenty of thought provoking discussion. Takeaway: If you're a man looking to quit drinking, improve your health, sharpen your focus, and connect with other like minded men, join our free online men's community, The Victory Circle. You'll find accountability, support, and encouragement from men who are committed to becoming stronger husbands, fathers, leaders, and business owners. You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge, designed to help men eliminate alcohol, increase energy, improve clarity, and build momentum in every area of life. CONNECT for a free month of Paul's Café RE. https://www.cafe-re.org/alcohol-free-community/ Connect Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What happens when the dream you've spent your entire life chasing comes to an end? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with former NFL linebacker Brandon Siler to discuss identity, purpose, leadership, mental health, and life after professional sports. Brandon shares his journey from being a standout athlete at the University of Florida and captain of a National Championship team to spending six seasons in the NFL with the San Diego Chargers and Kansas City Chiefs. But this conversation goes far beyond football. Together, Shane and Brandon explore what happens when your identity is tied to performance, why so many high achievers struggle after reaching their goals, and how men can build a life of purpose beyond success, status, and external accomplishments. They also discuss leadership, resilience, mental health, discipline, and the challenges many men face when navigating major life transitions. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why identity can become a trap for high performers • What happens when the thing that defines you is taken away • The connection between purpose, fulfillment, and mental health • Why many successful men struggle silently • Leadership lessons from the NFL that apply to everyday life • How discipline and accountability create long term success • The importance of building a legacy beyond your career • How to find meaning and purpose in your next chapter Whether you're an athlete, entrepreneur, business owner, father, leader, or someone navigating a major transition, this conversation offers practical wisdom on how to build a life rooted in purpose rather than performance alone. Takeaway: If you're a man looking to improve your health, strengthen your mindset, and connect with other men committed to growth and accountability, join our free online men's community, The Victory Circle. You'll find support, encouragement, and practical tools to help you become a stronger husband, father, leader, and man. You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge, designed to help men eliminate alcohol, increase focus, improve energy, and build momentum in every area of life. Pure Recovery California Siler Brain Clinic Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Something strange is happening. People are drinking less alcohol. Not because they joined a recovery program. Not because they found religion. Not because they suddenly became health gurus. Instead, they’re taking Ozempic, talking to AI companions, binge-watching Netflix, ordering DoorDash, and staying home. In this solo episode, Shane dives into one of the biggest cultural shifts happening right now. What if alcohol isn't disappearing because society got healthier? What if it's simply being replaced? We explore how GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic are reducing alcohol cravings, why AI companions are becoming a substitute for human connection, and how technology is quietly replacing the role bars and happy hours once played in our lives. This isn't just a conversation about sobriety. It's a conversation about culture, connection, loneliness, comfort, and where we're headed next. The future may be sober. But it might not be for the reasons we think. In this episode: • How Ozempic could disrupt the alcohol industry • Why AI companions are exploding in popularity • The decline of happy hour culture • What technology is replacing in our lives • The hidden connection between alcohol, dopamine, and modern comfort If you've ever wondered where drinking culture is headed, this episode is for you. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What happens when someone stays sober for 11 years... and still ends up relapsing? In this powerful episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with keynote speaker, bestselling author, filmmaker, and recovery coach Matt Farnsworth to discuss the hard truths about sobriety, relapse, identity, and what it actually takes to build a life worth staying sober for. Matt shares his incredible story of achieving more than a decade of sobriety before relapsing and spiraling into a devastating car accident that left him with a broken neck and clinically dead for three minutes. Yet even after surviving the crash, he found himself seeking alcohol again just hours later. Together, Shane and Matt explore why simply removing alcohol is often not enough, how many people mistake abstinence for recovery, and why rebuilding identity is one of the most important parts of lasting transformation. They also discuss the tendency toward self deception, the danger of trying to recover alone, and why rock bottom may be the beginning of a comeback rather than the end of the story. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why white knuckling sobriety often leads to relapse • The difference between being sober and being truly free • How identity shapes long term recovery • Why the brain that got you addicted cannot be trusted to get you out • The cycle of temptation, isolation, shame, and relapse • Why outside help, accountability, and community matter • How to turn rock bottom into a launchpad for change • What it takes to build a life worth staying sober for Whether you're newly alcohol free, years into recovery, or simply looking to level up your life, this conversation offers practical wisdom, hope, and a reminder that your past does not have to define your future. Takeaway: If you're a man looking to quit drinking, improve your health, and build momentum in your life, join our free online men's community, The Victory Circle. You'll connect with other men committed to becoming stronger husbands, fathers, leaders, and business owners while living alcohol free. You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge, designed to help high performing men eliminate alcohol, increase focus, improve energy, and unlock their full potential. Best Selling Book - The Comeback Blueprint https://a.co/d/0gkMmmXy ARMOR UP Apple https://apps.apple.com/us/app/armor-up-gospel-warrior/id6748839645 Google Play https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.armor_up.app Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Is addiction really a disease? Or does personal responsibility play a bigger role in recovery than most people realize? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with Dr. Tyler Evans, addiction medicine physician, public health leader, and CEO of Wellness Equity Alliance, for a thought provoking conversation about addiction, recovery, personal responsibility, and the systems that influence our health and behavior. Together, they explore some of the most debated topics in recovery, including the disease model of addiction, the role of trauma, the power of personal choice, and whether our current approach to recovery is helping people or holding them back. If you've ever questioned what you've been told about addiction, wondered why some people successfully quit drinking while others struggle for years, or challenged the labels and beliefs often associated with recovery, this episode will give you plenty to think about. In this episode, you'll learn: • Is addiction a disease, a behavior, or something in between? • How personal responsibility impacts long term recovery • Why alcohol remains one of society's most accepted addictive substances • The role of trauma, environment, and individual choice in recovery • Whether recovery labels help people heal or keep them stuck • How alcohol impacts performance, leadership, and reaching your full potential Whether you're sober curious, alcohol free, in recovery, or simply looking to optimize your health and performance, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on one of the most important topics affecting millions of people today. If you're a man looking to quit drinking, improve your health, and level up your life, join our free online men's community, The Victory Circle. You'll connect with other men committed to living alcohol free and building stronger lives, businesses, marriages, and families. https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge, designed to help high performing men eliminate alcohol, increase energy, sharpen focus, and build momentum in every area of life. https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days https://www.tylerevansmd.com/ https://www.wellnessequityalliance.com/ https://www.amazon.com/Pandemics-Poverty-Politics-Decoding-Political-ebook/dp/B0D9C6GTN6 https://www.linkedin.com/in/tyler-b-evans-md-ms-mph-dtmh-fidsa-767ba738/ Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What if alcohol was never really the problem? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane Ramer dives into identity, addiction, purpose, and why he no longer identifies as an “alcoholic.” From recovery culture and the disease model of addiction to faith, connection, masculinity, and personal responsibility, this is an honest and controversial conversation about what real freedom actually looks like. If you’ve ever felt stuck in labels, shame, or the endless cycle of escape, this episode will challenge the way you think about sobriety, and yourself. Sobriety gave me clarity. Purpose gave me freedom. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Everything Is ‘Self-Care’… Except Quitting Drinking? Everywhere you look, it’s “protect your peace,” “prioritize your mental health,” and “build better habits.” But somehow… drinking still gets a free pass. In this episode, we take a fun, honest look at the irony of modern self-care culture, where we track our sleep, invest in routines, and talk about mental health… while doing the one thing that quietly works against all of it. From “you deserve it” mentality to the real impact alcohol has on stress, sleep, and performance, this episode breaks it down in a relatable (and slightly sarcastic) way. Most of what we call self-care isn’t actually helping. If you’ve ever felt stuck in that cycle, or started questioning it, this episode will hit home. Because real self-care isn’t always comfortable— but it’s what actually moves your life forward. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Remember when staying out late, bar hopping, and “just one drink” sounded like a great idea? Yeah… not so much anymore. In this episode, we’re keeping things light, fun, and real as we talk about the things that used to feel exciting while drinking, but now just sound exhausting. From late-night chaos to hangovers that ruined entire weekends, we’re looking at how your definition of fun changes when you quit drinking. Sobriety isn’t boring. It’s clarity, energy, peace, and actually enjoying your life again. If you’ve ever realized that your priorities shifted after quitting alcohol, or you’re starting to feel that shift happening—this episode will make you laugh, nod your head, and maybe even feel a little proud of how far you’ve come. You didn’t lose fun when you quit drinking. You upgraded it. If you're tired of guessing… If you're tired of starting over… If you're ready to build structure instead of relying on willpower… That's exactly why I created the 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge. It's a simple, step-by-step daily framework to help you reset your habits, build discipline, and prove to yourself that you can do this. If that sounds like what you need, you can check it out in the description. If you're ready to commit to 30 days and build momentum, you can start here: https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Most men think they can’t quit drinking because they lack willpower. They tell themselves they need more discipline, more motivation, or to just try harder next time. But that’s not the real problem. In this episode, I break down the truth most men never hear: drinking isn’t random, it’s functional. It’s solving something. Stress, pressure, boredom, loneliness, or the need to escape. And when you try to remove alcohol without replacing what it was doing for you, your brain fights back. Not because you're weak. Because you're wired for survival. We’ll talk about why quitting feels so hard, what’s actually happening behind the scenes, and how shifting your focus from willpower to structure can change everything. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of starting over, this episode will help you finally understand why, and what to do next. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why willpower alone isn’t enough to quit drinking The real reason alcohol becomes hard to let go of How habits form around stress, routine, and reward Why structure beats motivation every time The first step to breaking the start-stop cycle Ready to stop guessing and start building a plan? That’s exactly why I created the 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — a simple, step-by-step daily framework to help you reset your habits, build discipline, and prove to yourself that you can do this. If you're ready to commit to 30 days and build momentum, you can start here: https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Thinking about quitting drinking for 30 days but not sure where to start? In this episode, I break down a simple, practical step-by-step plan to help men go alcohol-free for 30 days without white-knuckling it or relying on willpower alone. This isn't about perfection — it's about discipline, clarity, and building momentum. You'll learn: • Why most men fail to quit drinking • The biggest mistake guys make in the first week • How to prepare your environment for success • What to expect during the first 30 days • How to stay consistent when motivation drops If you're tired of starting over every Monday, this episode will give you a clear path forward. And if you're ready to take action, I created the 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — a simple daily plan designed to help men build discipline, improve performance, and gain control of their habits. Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
When you quit drinking, one of the biggest fears is this: Am I going to miss out on all the fun? In this episode, I talk honestly about the fear of missing out, and why sobriety doesn’t make life boring… it makes life better. I share how alcohol culture sells us the idea that drinking equals fun, why that belief is so hard to shake, and the mindset shifts that helped me realize I wasn’t missing out, I was leveling up. If you’ve ever worried that life without alcohol will feel dull, lonely, or restrictive, this episode will give you a new perspective and practical ways to enjoy life, stay social, and build a life you don’t need to escape from. In this episode, we cover: • Why FOMO is common in early sobriety • The truth about alcohol and fun • How to reframe the “I can’t drink” mindset • Ways to stay social and enjoy life without alcohol • Why sobriety gives you more, not less And if this topic resonates with you, be sure to check out my book, Sober Guy: How Do I? — Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking and Win at Life, where I dive deeper into the exact strategies and mindset shifts we talk about in this episode. Because the truth is simple: You’re not missing out. You’re leveling up. Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Let me paint you a picture. You walk into the grocery store for a normal errand… and suddenly the beer aisle lights up like a Christmas tree. You weren’t planning on drinking. You weren’t even thirsty. But out of nowhere, the craving hits. If you’ve ever found yourself negotiating with your own brain - "Maybe just one." "No, don’t do it." "Come on, you deserve it." - then you know exactly what I’m talking about. In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast , we’re continuing the 4-week series from my book: Sober Guy: How Do I? — Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking, Lead Strong, and Win at Life. We’re breaking down what cravings really are, why triggers happen, and the simple tools you can use to stay in control when the urge to drink shows up. Because here’s the truth: Cravings are normal. They’re temporary. And they don’t control you. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why cravings and triggers happen (and why they’re not a sign of weakness) • The HALT method to identify what’s really driving the urge • The 5-minute rule that helps cravings pass • How to interrupt the pattern before you relapse • Simple strategies to stay strong in real-life situations If you’re trying to quit drinking, stay sober, or just want better tools to handle urges when they hit, this episode is for you. Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Stress was one of my biggest drinking excuses. Rough day at work? I deserved a beer. Bills piling up? Couple drinks would “take the edge off.” Kids bouncing off the walls? Let’s drink about it. But here’s the truth I had to learn the hard way: alcohol never removed stress, it just delayed it. In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast , I break down practical, real-life ways to handle stress without reaching for a drink. We’ll talk about why stress is such a powerful trigger, how drinking actually stacks stress instead of solving it, and the simple tools that help you stay calm, focused, and in control when life gets heavy. This episode is part of a special 4-week series from my book: Sober Guy: How Do I? — Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking, Lead Strong, and Win at Life. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, burned out, or tempted to drink when pressure hits — this one’s for you. You’ll learn: • Why stress triggers the urge to drink • How to reset your mind and body in minutes • The simple daily habits that reduce anxiety • How to respond to stress instead of escaping it Remember: Drinking made stress worse. Sobriety makes you sharper. Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
One of the biggest fears men have when they think about quitting drinking is this: What happens to my social life? In this episode, Shane dives into Chapter 3 of his book Sober Guy, How Do I: Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking, Lead Strong, and Win at Life and answers one of the most common questions guys ask when they start getting sober: How do I stay social without alcohol? You’ll learn practical strategies for navigating parties, work events, dinners, and nights out with confidence, without feeling awkward, isolated, or like the odd man out. Shane shares real-life experiences, mindset shifts, and simple tactics that make staying social without alcohol not only possible, but actually better. If you're worried that quitting drinking means losing your social life, this episode will change your perspective. Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking Join “The Victory Circle” , our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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