Sex and the One sees Kris (aka KV) and Bianca (aka B) get personal with all topics related to sex, dating and relationships. KV wrote a book about being a single mother of 4 adult children, having sex and looking for 'The One'. B is very happily married with 3 young daughters. Our unique and diverse views make for some spicy chats that will get you thinking about your own life. www.sexandtheone.com https://www.instagram.com/sexandtheone_podcast?igsh=cThrNDZ2c3Nrbm1i&utm_source=qr
What do men actually want? This week on Sex and the One, B & KV go there, and yes, we literally called a friend to get a male POV (because why guess when you can ask?). We unpack the big themes that kept coming up: ego stroking and validation, emotional labour (who’s really “managing” who?), why men love an element of mystery, and how desire + spontaneity keep things alive in long-term relationships. And then… we hit the spicy topic: porn in relationships, is it normal, is it a threat, and what’s the difference between fantasy and betrayal? (Hint: the lying is usually the part that hurts.) It’s honest, hilarious, a little chaotic, and very on brand. In this episode: - What men want (according to a male friend + our lived experience) - Ego, validation, and the “tell me I’m special” factor - Mystery, privacy, spontaneity & keeping it fresh - The porn conversation: fantasy vs disrespect, and how to talk about it - Why “The One” doesn’t mean you’ll never find anyone else attractive - And a public service announcement: stop sending unsolicited pics 🎧 Listen/Watch more: Sex and the One 👍 Like, subscribe, and drop a comment: What do you think men want most, and do you agree? #sexandtheone #datingpodcast #relationships #sexpositive #modernrelationships #datingadvice #loveanddating #podcastaustralia
What do women really want? In this episode, we get honest about the stuff people dance around, from the myth of “The One” and what it can make us believe about ourselves, to what women actually want in dating and relationships: respect, communication, safety, love and affection, independence, kindness, and compassion. We also dive into modern dating culture and why it can feel so cooked: ✨ Dating apps & entitlement energy 🚩 Objectification & being reduced to looks 🛑 Safety, boundaries, and trusting your gut 💬 Why “finding the one” isn’t the finish line, relationships take work Drop your thoughts in the comments: What do women want most, and what are you no longer tolerating? #podcast #love #relationship #dating
In this episode of Sex & The One, KV & B get into the real conversation: cuddle therapy (what it is, why it’s trending, and whether it’s genuinely helpful or just “therapy” dressed up with a new name). We also dive into a topic that hits hard: why more couples are separating later in life, especially once the kids are grown and the “then what?” era begins. From touch starvation and nervous system regulation to identity shifts in motherhood and the changing expectations of modern relationships… this one is honest, funny, and a little bit confronting. In this episode: - What cuddle therapy actually is (and why the word “therapy” is controversial) - The science of touch: oxytocin, cortisol, nervous system regulation - Would you ever pay for a cuddle? - “Who am I now?”, identity after kids and long relationships - Why women are choosing joy over staying stuck - Is “forever” the right goal… or just a story we were sold? 🎧 Listen now, and tell us: Would you pay for a cuddle, yes or no?
In this episode of Sex and the One, KV & B unpack a viral TikTok statement that hit a nerve: “Exceptional women are single because women have evolved faster than men.” From the dating app experience (and why it’s feeling worse than ever) to modern relationship expectations, we talk about the widening gap in emotional intelligence, effort, safety, and what “being the provider” even means now. We also get real about the double standard: why so many women give endless empathy to women… but feel a guttural “do better” reaction towards men. And then we flip it—because good men absolutely exist, and resentment can quietly become a filter that blocks them. This one’s honest, funny, a bit spicy, and deeply relatable if you’re single, dating, married, partnered, or simply watching the culture shift in real time. In this episode, we cover: - The “women evolved faster than men” debate - Why dating apps feel cooked (and expensive) - Men’s fear of rejection vs women’s safety planning - Why women’s standards rise when they build a peaceful life - The “competing with her peace” problem - Are expectations too high (for everyone)? - How to spot the good ones (without ignoring red flags) 👇 Question for you: Do you think the gap is real… or are we all just traumatised by the apps? Listen/Watch next: New episode every week. Subscribe for more conversations on love, sex, dating and relationships. #SexAndTheOne #Dating #Relationships #ModernDating #DatingApps #SingleWomen
In this episode of Sex and the One, KV & B get into the real mechanics of desire in long-term relationships, inspired by an article from Andy Ziegler (“what I learned about married sex in 2025”). We unpack the spicy parts, the controversial parts, and the parts that honestly should not need saying out loud… yet here we are 😅 We chat about: - “Your wife wants to want you”, why desire is often about conditions, not rejection - The mental load, open tabs, and why intimacy can feel impossible when life is loud - Why “who initiates” isn’t the point (and how keeping score kills desire) - The truth: wives have fantasies too, and why shame keeps women quiet - Why women “read porn” (and what men miss because of it) - The hot take: improve the sex first, and the relationship follows - Taking the reins vs. actually caring about your partner’s needs (big difference) - Our scepticism around men telling men “what women want” (ask a woman, babe) If you’re in a long-term relationship, married, dating, or just fascinated by how desire actually works in the real world, this one’s for you. Subscribe for weekly episodes on sex, love, dating, and relationships, and hit the bell so you don’t miss the spicy ones. 💋
Welcome back to Sex & the One, the podcast where we get down and dirty about love, life, sex, dating & relationships (and the taboo topics everyone thinks about, but no one wants to say out loud). In this episode, we unpack a story that honestly made us rage: a single woman at a New Year’s event, a married man crossing the line, and the gross reality that women still end up blaming themselves for men’s behaviour. Then we go deeper into the question so many of us avoid like: - Why do we feel pulled toward emotionally unavailable people, even when we “know better”? - The idea that attraction isn’t logic… It’s a nervous system response, and why “familiar” can feel safer than healthy (even when it’s chaos). Plus: the public cheating scandal conversation, when does a personal mistake become a professional consequence? Should it impact someone’s role, reputation, or leadership? In this episode: - The “single girl” blame game (and why it’s BS) - Married men flirting & why it’s so normalised - Emotional unavailability & low-effort relationships - “The Pattern No One Wants To Name” (and why it keeps repeating) - Attraction, sensation, safety & the nervous system Cheating, integrity & whether it should affect careers 🎧 Listen / watch Sex & the One on YouTube & Spotify 💬 Question for you: Is attraction a choice… or a trauma pattern? And should cheating impact someone’s job? #SexAndTheOne #DatingPodcast #Relationships #ModernDating #Cheating #EmotionalAvailability #AttachmentStyles #WomensStories #LoveAndRelationships #SexPodcast
Kate Kennedy from the Make Them Pay podcast is BACK for Part 2, because Part 1 was so good we weren’t done. 😮💨 This episode goes deeper into the stuff people don’t say out loud: the stigma that puts sex workers at risk, how shame gets weaponised, what it’s like to “come out” publicly, and why allyship matters (especially for people outside the industry). We also talk about the “Wild Wild West” of sugar sites, the most surreal moments Kate’s experienced, and one of the most important takeaways of the whole conversation: what men are actually paying for (hint: it’s not perfect lingerie or porn-star performances). In this episode, we cover: - How stigma shapes safety for sex workers (and why it’s the biggest danger) - Shame, secrecy, and what happens when you stop hiding - Why these conversations matter for people outside the industry - The “Wild Wild West” of sugar sites + the craziest stories Kate can share - Why men “outsource” intimacy, and what they really want - Kate’s advice to women: stop comparing, start connecting, bring back validation + closeness - Where Kate’s heading next with Make Them Pay Follow Kate: @makethempay_ Check out her podcast: Make Them Pay #sexandtheone #makethempay #podcast #sexwork #relationships #dating #intimacy #women
Kate Kennedy from the Make Them Pay podcast joins Sex and the One for Part 1, and we get real about what “sugaring” actually is (spoiler: it’s not the fairytale people think it is). Kate’s been a sugar baby for 12 years, and she breaks down the blurry line between “paid girlfriend,” escorting, and trophy-wife dynamics, plus the mindset, boundaries, and emotional labour that most people never talk about. We also chat about wealthy men, loneliness, power, travel, and why being “good with money” matters when your income can swing wildly week to week. If you’ve ever wondered: “What is a sugar baby?” “Is sex involved?” “How do allowances work?” “Do sugar daddies catch feelings?” — this one’s for you. In this episode, we cover: - What sugaring is (and what it isn’t) - Why Kate chose it, and why she’s stayed in it - The travel “life hack” side (private jets… then back to backpacking 👀) - Boundaries, confidence, and handling men who push limits - Money talk: allowances, expectations, and setting the bar - When “dating problems” show up in sugaring too - The stigma & discrimination sex workers face (banks, platforms, real estate) - Why we’re having these convos: empowerment, honesty, and awareness If you enjoyed this ep, subscribe and drop a comment: Could you separate money from emotion in dating? #sexandtheone #makethempay #podcast #love #dating #relationship
Ok so… Megs went through old episode transcripts and pulled out a bunch of our most chaotic one-liners. Now we’re sitting here like: “Did we say that?” “I don’t remember saying that.” …and then immediately realising we would say it because it’s literally us. 😂 This ep is a mix of laughing, cringing, and accidentally saying something kinda deep between laughs. We get into: - Unsolicited pics (yep, digital flashing) - Cheating / emotional cheating - Gut feelings + red flags - Reality TV takes we stand by and a few quotes that should’ve stayed buried 🫣 jokes, we love putting it all out there! If you want a proper “group chat on the couch” vibe, welcome. #podcast #comedy #relationship #love #dating
Happy holidays besties — we’re still in the festive blur, but this week we’re talking about what actually matters heading into 2026. B & KV unpack: - Why New Year’s resolutions make some people spiral (and what to do instead) - “Eulogy goals”: the mindset shift that instantly clears the noise - Vision boards vs values (and why KV stopped doing them) - Detaching from outcomes without going emotionally numb - Relationship goals: date nights, burnout, libido + being exhausted Dating in the public eye: ghosting, getting deleted, and why the pod/book can scare people off If you’re entering 2026 overwhelmed, unmotivated, or just… not vibing with “new year, new me”, this one’s for you. 🎧 Subscribe / follow so you never miss an episode. #podcast #christmasseason #podcastclips #holidayseason #comedy
The holidays can be beautiful… and also bloody stressful. In this episode, KV & B get real about what Christmas actually looks like behind the tinsel, family dynamics, kids, pressure, expectations, and why joy doesn’t have to be allocated to a date on the calendar. We chat: - Why Christmas can be triggering (and how to drop the guilt) - “Peace over tradition” and normalising boundaries - The gift of time (aka the most underrated love language) - Identity shifts, generational changes, and rewriting your own rules - Thoughtful gifts vs experiences (and yes… the accidental sex-toy-at-work story 💀) If this season feels heavy, awkward, lonely, overstimulating, or just not it, consider this your permission slip: you’re allowed to do the holidays your way. 🎧 Subscribe / follow so you never miss an episode. #podcast #christmasseason #christmas #comedy #podcastclips
What if your best sex didn’t end in your 20s… but actually started in your 40s, 50s and beyond? 👀In this episode of Sex and the One, B & KV sit down with intimacy expert and “Glamazon of Sex Ed” Susan Bratton to talk about all things real sex: mismatched libido, long-term relationships, body confidence, and how to have way more (and better) orgasms at any age.We dive into:- Why so many women feel “broken” or like their libido has disappeared – and why that’s usually NOT a hormone problem- How Susan went from “duty sex wife” to having the best sex of her life in her 60s- What Yoni massage actually is, why it’s going viral, and how it can completely change your arousal and pleasure- The truth about “mismatched libido” and why most couples just need better skills, not a new partner- Creating a Sex Life Bucket List so monogamy never has to mean monotony- The Sexual Soulmate Pact: Susan’s communication framework so you can say what you really want in bed (without hurting each other’s feelings)- Why scheduling sex dates can be the sexiest thing you do for your relationship- Sex after kids, after menopause, and when life feels like a browser with 87 tabs open- Support for men: erectile issues, penis pumps, toys and ways to keep intimacy hot as you ageIf you’ve ever thought, “I love my partner, but something is missing in our sex life,” this one is for you.🔥 CONNECT WITH SUSANStart here: betterlover.com – Susan’s hub for videos, articles, and her email newsletter🎧 LISTEN TO SEX AND THE ONENew episodes every week with B & KV talking love, sex, dating, relationships and everything in between.Subscribe on YouTube, follow us on your fave podcast app, and come hang with us on socials: @sexandtheone_podcast❤️ If this episode made you feel seen (or turned you on just a little), hit like, drop a comment, and share it with a friend who needs a sex rebrand.
Would you upload your passport or a selfie just to watch porn? 👀 In this episode of Sex and the One, KV, B, and returning chaos guest Megs dive into Australia’s new proposed porn age-verification rules, what it means for privacy, and why “data leak” is the first thing on everyone’s mind. We get into: 🇦🇺 Porn, passports & facial recognition, would you hand over your ID to Pornhub? 💳 The Ashley Madison vibes, data breaches & why some payment gateways are blocking spicy content (Bonnie Blue, we see you 👀). 📺 Reality TV obsession vs reality TV exhaustion: Selling Sunset, Real Housewives, Mormon TikTok mums, Murder She Wrote nostalgia and whether “trash TV” is actually manifestation. 🤖 AI boyfriends & chatbot relationships: why women are turning to AI for affection, validation and low-drama companionship. 💌 Megs’ real-life AI bestie “Bob” (yes, her ChatGPT boyfriend) and how she uses AI for everything from full moon rituals to banana bread. 💔 Loneliness, catfishing, emotional safety & the dark side of relying on tech to feel loved. This one is equal parts hilarious, unhinged and uncomfortably real, especially if you’ve ever: - Waited anxiously for a text back - Escaped into reality TV to cope - Used AI to draft “the perfect” message - Thought, “An AI boyfriend actually sounds… kinda good?” 😅 👇 Hit subscribe so you don’t miss the follow-up episode where Megs reports back on creating her custom GPT boyfriend. #podcast #comedy #selflove #friends #love #dating #relationship
In this unfiltered episode of Sex and the One, KV & B dive head-first into modern dating chaos, pop culture scandals, porn politics, and why everyone seems obsessed with drama, even when they claim they want peace. From reality TV cheating scandals (hello Mormon mums and swinging rumours), to dating app meltdowns, unsolicited compliments, and the moment one of us realised she’d been paying for BDSM porn for three years without knowing it… nothing is off-limits. We also unpack: - Why reality TV feels fake (and why we still can’t look away) - Open marriages, cheating, and honesty in long-term relationships - The ethics of porn, and why women’s porn is treated differently - OnlyFans, Reddit, and how nothing stays private anymore - Dating apps, inflated compliments, and why “breathtaking” isn’t always a vibe - Lily Allen, radical honesty, and saying the quiet parts out loud This episode is funny, confronting, chaotic, and deeply real, because pretending everything is fine doesn’t serve anyone. Subscribe for honest conversations about sex, dating, relationships, and modern womanhood. #sexandtheone #sexpodcast #aussiepodcast #datingpodcast #relationshippodcast #womenspodcast #uncensoredconversations
Is it a green flag… or just a man doing the bare minimum? 👀 This week, KV and B are joined by the woman who’s been quietly pulling strings behind the mic, Megan Coleman, for an unfiltered deep dive into the wild world of modern dating red flags and green flags. From opposite-sex besties and private Notes apps to “I don’t post on socials” energy and who really pays the bill, nothing is off-limits. It’s raw, real, and just a little too relatable. 💋 In this episode: - The hidden red flags we keep excusing - Why some “icks” are actually emotional maturity - Read receipts, DMs, and why we overthink every text - Separate finances vs shared futures - Exes, keepsakes, and the cursed “private Notes app” - How to spot a soft-launch specialist - Late-night work drinks & blurred boundaries 🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Tell us your biggest red flag moment in the comments. (We’ll rate it on air 👀)
What happens when a joke about quitting your job turns into Australia’s most empowering sex-toy brand? This week on Sex & The One, KV and B sit down with Justine, founder of That’s The Spot , to talk about motherhood, pleasure, and how one offhand comment sparked a business helping women reclaim their confidence between the sheets (and beyond). From working in construction to creating a sex-positive gifting experience, Justine gets real about: - The story behind That’s The Spot - How a vibrator named “Steely Dan” changed everything - Why gifting sex toys should be as normal as sending flowers - The surprising link between orgasms and calmer babies (yes, really) - The toys Aussies can’t stop buying, including the viral Ducky Whether you’re a new mum, a curious beginner, or just ready to drop the shame and own your pleasure, this episode is a cheeky, honest, and empowering must-listen. 🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. 💋 Use code SEXYONE for 20% off your next order at thatsthespot.com.au
From loving your boobs to popping in a ball gag (yes, really), this week’s episode with Sex with Lex dives into confidence, kink, and how some men really love to submit. New Sex and the One ep is out now! Listen wherever you get your podcasts, and trust us, you’ll want headphones for this one 😅 Ready to show off your sex-ed smarts? Join Cliterally Trivia for a night where the foreplay is the quiz. Plus, treat yourself at thatsthespot.com.auau with 20% off using code SEXYONE 🧡 Got a story or spicy opinion? Come share it inside The Naked Circle 💋 https://www.facebook.com/groups/1173460901277122
What really happens when a sexologist, a microphone, and two women with zero filter sit down to talk about the clitoris? Spoiler: everything. 😏 In this hilarious, educational, and wildly honest episode of Sex & The One, B and KV welcome back fan-favourite guest @sexwithlexmelb for a deep dive into the world of female pleasure, from the anatomy class you wish you got in school to the toys, techniques, and truths that actually work. You’ll hear: - The real difference between the vulva and the vagina (yes, we said flaps) - Why the clitoris is the only organ built purely for pleasure - Our honest review of the Satisfyer Pro + “splash blankets” (you’re welcome) - Clitoral vs penetrative orgasms and why most women need both - Period sex, kink, and how Melbourne’s BDSM community is rewriting the rulebook The difference between a kink and a fetish (and our very specific confessions 👀) It’s unfiltered, funny, and unexpectedly educational, the kind of sex talk you’ll want your friends to hear, too. So grab your lube, hit play, and prepare to laugh, learn, and blush your way through Sex with Lex (Part 1). 💋 Join the fun in The Naked Circle Facebook group: 👉 https://www.facebook.com/share/g/17UZuBid5Q/ #SexAndTheOne #SexPodcast #SexEducation #SexPositive #AustralianPodcast #Clitoris #Foreplay #WomenAndPleasure #Kink #Relationships #FemaleEmpowerment
What happens when one wild idea, a tiny house, and a naked man kick off a year of the most unfiltered conversations about sex, love, and everything in between? 😈 In this first birthday episode of Sex & The One, B and KV look back on 12 months of chaos, connection, and confessions, from The Naked Man story that “broke the internet” to The Cougar Rule, blowjobs and menopause, AI boyfriends, and why they’ll never say “should” again. You’ll hear: - How a tiny house with no Wi-Fi started a viral podcast - The Cougar Rule explained (and debated) - Hot-seat moments, body counts, and non-monogamy myths -The “plastic vs glass balls” lesson that saved relationships - Why vulnerability, laughter, and sex talk changed everything It’s raw, real, and laugh-out-loud funny, the perfect mix of chaos, heart, and honest conversation that made you fall in love with this pod in the first place. Hit play, celebrate with us, and tell us: what’s been your favourite Sex & The One moment this year? 💋 Don't forget, you can keep up with all the fun in the Facebook Group, The Naked Circle https://www.facebook.com/share/g/17UZuBid5Q/ #SexAndTheOne #DatingPodcast #SexPositive #PodcastAnniversary #Relationships #AustralianPodcast
This week, KV and B sit down with Karlie and Clayton, the founders of The Barn Brisbane, an exclusive adult play centre that’s redefining intimacy, connection, and exploration in Australia. From building equipment by hand (including their now-famous milking table), to creating a safe, private space for couples and small groups, Carly and Clayton share the wild journey of turning an empty warehouse into one of Brisbane’s most talked-about venues. We dive into: - How The Barn came to life from scratch - What makes it different from clubs and open-door venues - The unique equipment (yes, we talk about that table) - How privacy, safety, and cleanliness are prioritised - Why couples are reconnecting, and even making “Barn babies” If you’ve ever been curious about the world of adult play spaces, or how intimacy and innovation collide, this episode is a must-listen. Follow The Barn Brisbane: https://www.instagram.com/the_barn_brisbane/ 💌 Subscribe for more real, raw, and sex-positive conversations every week.
