The Dildo Whisperer is where people go to get the sex education that their schools refused to give them and their parents were too embarrassed to discuss. This is sex education that is inclusive, inspiring and transformative! Listeners have the opportunity to ask questions, hear sex toy reviews and get insight from some of the top sexperts in the country. Hosted by Romaine Patterson and produced by DNR Studios.
This week on The Dildo Whisperer , we're joined by musician, author, award-nominated adult performer, and trans icon Blake Lovely for a candid conversation about confidence, sexuality, self-expression, and living authentically. This is part 2 of our conversation. From growing up in rural Virginia knowing she was destined to become the woman she is today, to building a successful music career, transitioning, and becoming one of the most recognized trans performers in adult entertainment, Blake shares her remarkable journey of self-discovery and empowerment. We discuss body image, attraction, dating, intimacy, the realities of working in the adult industry, and the lessons she's learned about confidence, communication, and embracing your desires without shame. Blake also opens up about her passion for music, her upcoming projects, and why authenticity is the sexiest quality anyone can possess. Whether you're curious about trans experiences, interested in the intersection of sexuality and self-expression, or simply looking for inspiration to live more boldly, this is an episode you won't want to miss. Join us for an honest, sex-positive conversation about identity, pleasure, confidence, and finding your power. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
This week on The Dildo Whisperer , we're joined by musician, author, award-nominated adult performer, and trans icon Blake Lovely for a candid conversation about confidence, sexuality, self-expression, and living authentically. This is part 1 of our conversation. From growing up in rural Virginia knowing she was destined to become the woman she is today, to building a successful music career, transitioning, and becoming one of the most recognized trans performers in adult entertainment, Blake shares her remarkable journey of self-discovery and empowerment. We discuss body image, attraction, dating, intimacy, the realities of working in the adult industry, and the lessons she's learned about confidence, communication, and embracing your desires without shame. Blake also opens up about her passion for music, her upcoming projects, and why authenticity is the sexiest quality anyone can possess. Whether you're curious about trans experiences, interested in the intersection of sexuality and self-expression, or simply looking for inspiration to live more boldly, this is an episode you won't want to miss. Join us for an honest, sex-positive conversation about identity, pleasure, confidence, and finding your power. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
Have you ever wished your partner could read your mind in the bedroom? You're not alone. One of the biggest obstacles to a satisfying sex life isn't technique—it's communication. In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer , we're talking about how to ask for what you want in bed without feeling awkward, selfish, or embarrassed. From overcoming shame and fear of rejection to learning how to give constructive feedback and discuss fantasies, desires, and boundaries, we'll explore practical ways to improve communication and strengthen intimacy. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, dating someone new, or simply trying to better understand your own needs, this episode will help you find the words to advocate for your pleasure and create more satisfying sexual experiences. Because great sex doesn't come from mind reading—it comes from honest conversations. Tune in and discover why using your words may be the sexiest thing you can do. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
What separates a charming flirt from a cringeworthy pickup artist? Is flirting something you're born knowing how to do, or is it a skill anyone can learn? This week on The Dildo Whisperer , we're exploring the art of flirting—the subtle dance of attraction, communication, confidence, and connection. From eye contact and body language to playful teasing and digital dating, we'll break down what flirting really is and why it's such an important part of human interaction. We'll discuss the psychology behind attraction, common flirting mistakes, how to recognize when someone is interested (or not interested), and why authenticity beats cheesy pickup lines every time. Whether you're single, partnered, shy, outgoing, LGBTQ+, or just looking to improve your communication skills, this episode offers practical tips to help you connect with others in a fun, respectful, and confident way. Plus, we'll answer listener questions about flirting in person, online, at bars, on apps, and everything in between. So smile, make eye contact, and join us as we uncover the secrets of successful flirting—without the games, pressure, or awkwardness. Because sometimes the sexiest thing you can say is simply, "Tell me more." Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer—helping you have smarter, healthier, and more satisfying conversations about sex. The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
How long is sex supposed to last, anyway? And what exactly counts as premature ejaculation? In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer , we're tackling one of the most common—and most misunderstood—sexual concerns: premature ejaculation (PE). Whether you've experienced it yourself, have a partner who has, or you're simply curious about the science behind it, we're separating fact from fiction and taking the shame out of the conversation. We'll explore what premature ejaculation actually is, why it happens, and how anxiety, stress, biology, and unrealistic expectations can all play a role. You'll learn practical techniques that may help improve control, discover treatment options, and hear why lasting longer isn't necessarily the key to better sex. Plus, we answer listener questions about masturbation habits, edging, condoms, performance anxiety, and whether PE can develop later in life. If you've ever worried about finishing too quickly, this episode is for you. Remember: great sex isn't measured with a stopwatch. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer—helping you have smarter, healthier, and more satisfying conversations about sex. The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
Pack your bags — and maybe your carry-on toy cleaner — because this week on The Dildo Whisperer , we're diving into your listener questions! We're talking about the dos and don'ts of traveling with sex toys, how to navigate airport security without dying of embarrassment, and what you should know before packing chastity devices or prostate toys for your next adventure. We also explore the fascinating — and surprisingly controversial — medical history of the vibrator, including how these devices were once marketed as respectable wellness tools long before they became symbols of sexual empowerment. Along the way, we answer your questions about safety, pleasure, stigma, discretion, and why sexual curiosity has always found a way to travel through history. Whether you're a frequent flyer, a toy collector, or just love weird sex history, this episode has something buzzing for everyone. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
Erectile dysfunction medications like Viagra and Cialis are more common than ever — but how much do we really know about them? This week on The Dildo Whisperer , we dive deep into the world of ED medications: how they work, why people use them recreationally, the pressures surrounding sexual performance, and the very real health risks that can come with misuse. We also tackle one of the most important harm reduction conversations in queer nightlife and hookup culture: the dangerous combination of ED drugs and poppers. Why is this mix so common, and why can it become medically dangerous so quickly? Along the way, we unpack shame, masculinity, aging, anxiety, porn culture, and the myth that erections define sexual worth. Because great sex isn't about perfection — it's about communication, pleasure, connection, and safety. Come for the hard truths. Stay for the safer sex education. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
This week on The Dildo Whisperer , we're diving into one of the messiest modern relationship questions: Is it cheating if it only happens in your head? Is fantasizing about an ex during masturbation crossing a line? What about during sex with your current partner? We explore the emotional grey areas of relationships, including emotional affairs, online flirting, secret texting, social media behavior, and the complicated space between fantasy and betrayal. Cheating isn't always physical anymore — and every relationship defines boundaries differently. This episode unpacks why these topics trigger such strong reactions, how secrecy changes the equation, and why communication may matter more than the fantasy itself. Honest, uncomfortable, funny, and deeply relatable — this is a conversation almost everyone has thought about… but few people openly admit. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
This week on The Dildo Whisperer , we're blasting off into the strange, sexy, and surprisingly common world of alien sex fantasies. From alien impregnation storylines and futuristic pleasure devices to tentacles, abduction roleplay, and sci-fi seduction, we explore why the unknown can be such a powerful turn-on. What do these fantasies reveal about curiosity, transformation, power, and human desire? Why do so many people find freedom in imagining sex beyond the limits of humanity? And how has pop culture shaped our fascination with extraterrestrial intimacy? Join us for a fun, open-minded conversation about one of sexuality's most imaginative frontiers. Because when it comes to fantasy… humans are definitely not staying on this planet. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
Coming out isn't just for teenagers—it happens every day, at every age. In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we explore what it means to come out later in life: the fear, the freedom, the grief, and the sexual awakening that can follow. Whether you're navigating this journey yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers compassion, real talk, and a reminder that it's never too late to live your truth. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
May is Masturbation Month, and we're celebrating by diving headfirst into the world of self-pleasure, stigma, and sexual self-discovery. This week on The Dildo Whisperer, we're joined by Parker Woods—the reigning "Master Bator" turned host of the hit reality series The Great BateWorld BateOff on BateWorld. Parker takes us behind the scenes of Season 5, where five contestants compete in inventive (and sometimes surprising) challenges like "Hands Free" and "Mirror Bate," all in pursuit of the ultimate title. But this conversation goes beyond the show—exploring how masturbation intersects with confidence, shame, body awareness, and sexual health. We unpack why self-pleasure is still taboo, how communities like BateWorld are changing the narrative, and what people can learn from embracing their own pleasure without guilt. Whether you're curious, cautious, or already celebrating Masturbation Month in full force, this episode is equal parts fun, informative, and affirming. New episodes of The Great BateWorld BateOff premiere every Friday at 12 AM ET, exclusively on BateWorld.com.
Have you ever noticed that the porn you used to watch doesn't excite you anymore — and you start looking for more extreme or unusual content just to feel turned on? In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer , we talk about porn tolerance, dopamine, escalation, and why the brain starts chasing novelty. From niche fetishes to taboo fantasies, we explore why this happens, when it becomes a problem, and how to find balance without shame. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
Cuckolding is one of the most misunderstood fantasies in modern sexuality. Is it about humiliation? Power? Trust? Jealousy? In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer , we break down what cuckolding actually is, why some people are turned on by it, and how consent, communication, and emotional safety make the difference between a healthy kink and a harmful situation. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
We all say we have a "type" — but where does that type come from? In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer , we explore the difference between personal preference and social prejudice when it comes to attraction. Are we drawn to certain people because of chemistry, comfort, culture, or conditioning? And how can having a rigid type impact who we choose to date — for better or worse? This episode dives into psychology, bias, dating patterns, and how understanding your attraction can lead to healthier relationships. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer , we talk about Hooters, Twin Peaks, and other "breastaurant" style restaurants — and the bigger conversation they raise about body image, sexualization, and cultural expectations for women. Are these places harmless fun for adults, or do they reinforce unrealistic beauty standards that affect how women see themselves? We explore the difference between sexual expression and objectification, the impact on young women, and how to talk about these issues without shaming the people who work in these environments. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
What does it really mean when people say someone has "let themselves go" in a relationship? In this episode, we unpack the complicated mix of comfort, attraction, body changes, and effort that comes with long-term partnerships. Is getting comfortable a sign of emotional safety—or relationship complacency? We explore the pros and cons of settling in, how cultural expectations shape our views on attraction, and how couples can maintain desire without unrealistic pressure. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
Does your number of previous partners matter when it comes to dating? In this episode of the Dildo Whisperer, we talk about body count, sexual history, double standards, insecurity, and how past experiences can (and can't) impact relationships. We explore why people care, when it's relevant, and how to talk about your sexual past without shame, pressure, or judgment. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
In this encore episode- One of our listeners sent in a topic idea and this week the Dildo Whisperer and Ajay discuss how music can enhance the sexual experience. Find out what makes a great sex playlist and how to make one! Plus, learn about why music is such an important tool in your sex tool box. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
Aftercare is not optional—it's part of the play. In Part 5 of the Finding Pleasure in Pain series, we're talking about aftercare : the physical and emotional support that helps bodies and minds recover after pain play. From hydration, warmth, and first aid basics to reassurance, emotional presence, and post-scene check-ins, this episode explores why aftercare is essential—not extra. We'll unpack common post-scene experiences like sub-drop and Dom-drop, how to negotiate aftercare before a scene, what to do when aftercare is missed or mismatched, and why self-aftercare matters too. Whether you're new to pain play or deep into kink, this episode centers consent, care, and connection as foundations of pleasure. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
Pain doesn't just live in the body—it can move emotions, unlock release, and create powerful moments of connection. In this episode of Finding Pleasure in Pain , we explore what it means emotionally to find pleasure in pain and why this experience is so meaningful for many people. We talk about emotional release, control and surrender, grounding, trust, and intimacy, as well as how power exchange and consent shape these experiences. This conversation also gently addresses the complexity of pain, trauma, and choice—without assuming that kink is about being "broken" or needing to be fixed. Whether pain helps you feel present, connected, cared for, or simply alive , this episode invites curiosity, compassion, and reflection around the emotional layers of pain-based pleasure. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
