Beauty in Battle is a high-energy conversation for married couples to help you energize your relationship, give you purpose, and draw you close to your spouse by turning the tension that divides you into energy that fuels you. In this podcast, Jason and Tori Benham share the stories of their relationship and the practical ways they turned conflict and quarrels into passion and purpose by leaning into their struggles rather than trying to avoid them. As a result, they discovered that fighting together drew them together. Their message is clear - you don’t need to stop fighting; you need to start fighting … the right way. When you and your spouse choose to no longer fight against each other in a personal battle but alongside one another in a spiritual war, the results are amazing as you begin to recognize your God-given purpose together. Laced with practical insights and easy-to-follow steps, our discussions will help you discover:* The number one relationship killer and how to stay away from it. * How to combat negative thinking toward your spouse. * The one key that will magnetize you to your spouse and your spouse to you.* How to win your love back when “you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling.”* Why there was a wedding crasher at the first marriage in history and how he showed up at your wedding too. We all fight. The question is, will you discover the beauty in battle? We're here to help you do just that!
Contact Us Join us as we unpack the dangers of familiarity, what causes it, and how to overcome it so you can grow closer to your spouse instead of drifting apart. In this episode, we're revisiting what we shared four years ago because its timeless principles are just as relevant today. Enjoy!
Managing Conflict Through Curiosity
Contact Us Conflict isn't meant to divide you—it's meant to connect you. In this episode, discover how replacing assumptions with curiosity can help you uncover what's really beneath the conflict and build a stronger marriage. Enjoy.
Four Relationship Killers
Contact Us Dr. John Gottman, one of the world's leading marriage researchers, identified four behaviors that predict relationship failure. He calls them the "Four Horsemen." In this episode, we'll unpack all four and show you how to overcome each of them. Enjoy.
Overcoming Anger In Marriage
Contact Us Anger isn’t the problem—it’s a signal pointing to something deeper. In this episode, we uncover four root causes of anger in marriage and share practical, biblical ways to address them. Enjoy!
Three Rules For Relationships
Contact Us Healthy relationships are built on the right rules. In this episode, we unpack three powerful principles that can transform your marriage. When couples stop fighting for position and start fighting for connection, everything changes. Enjoy.
Using The Johari Window In Marriage
Contact Us Marriage isn’t just about happiness; it’s about transformation. In this episode, we use the Johari Window to show how your relationship reveals blind spots, uncovers hidden struggles, and deepens intimacy. You're gonna love this one!
Getting To The Heart Of Your Man
Contact Us Ladies - how do you truly get to the heart of your man? In this episode, we unpack a powerful example from Abigail’s interaction with David in 1 Samuel 25 and reveal five simple but impactful ways to speak to your man’s heart. Enjoy.
Getting To The Root Of Anxiety
Contact Us Anxiety in marriage doesn’t just show up—it has roots. In this episode, we walk through a simple four-step framework to help you identify what’s really driving anxiety. When you get to the root, you can respond with clarity, support your spouse better, and move toward lasting peace together.
Anxiety's Three Damaging Effects
Contact Us In this episode, we unpack the three damaging effects of anxiety and how it quietly takes control. Understanding these patterns is the first step to breaking anxiety’s grip and learning how to respond with clarity, courage, and faith. This episode is based on our newely released book: Unshakeable: A Proven Plan To Crush Anxiety, Defeat Overwhelm, And Conquer The Fears That Freak You Out. Grab your copy HERE .
Dealing With Anxiety In Marriage
Contact Us Anxiety doesn’t just affect individuals—it impacts marriages. In this episode, based on our new book Unshakeable , we talk about how to deal with anxiety together as a couple and the three-step process to set you free. Peace in marriage is possible—and it starts with becoming unshakeable together. Grab a copy of UNSHAKEABLE: A Proven Plan To Crush Anxiety, Defeat Overwhelm, And Conquer The Fears That Freak You Out
The Power Of The Pivot
Contact Us How you respond to pain determines whether you stay stuck or step into strength. In this episode, we explore two keys that help couples process emotions and drawing closer together at the same time.
Lessons From 25 Years Together (p2)
Contact Us In Part 2 of our anniversary series, it’s my (Jason's) turn. In this episode, I'm sharing five lessons I've learned that have shaped my marriage and helped us grow stronger through every season. Enjoy.
Lessons From 25 Years Together (p1)
Contact Us Today we celebrate 25 years of marriage (please, hold your applause!). In this episode, Tori shares five lessons she’s learned along the way. In the next episode, I’ll share my five from our two and a half decades together. Enjoy.
Dodging Relational Drift
Contact Us Busyness doesn’t kill intimacy— drifting does . In this episode, we unpack how small, unguarded moments lead to danger in marriage. You’ll learn the four-stage drift progression and simple ways to close the gap. Drift isn’t failure; it’s feedback. Enjoy.
Why You Keep Having The Same Argument
Contact Us Most couples think they’re fighting about dishes or tone—but they’re actually fighting a pattern . In this episode, we unpack the 4-part cycle that keeps conflicts on repeat and show you how to break it. This one will totally reshape how you handle recurring arguments.
The Gratitude Reset
Contact Us Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools for emotional and relational health. In this special Thanksgiving episode, we explore how gratitude rewires your mind, draws you closer to your spouse, and keeps negativity from taking over your marriage.
Breaking Generational Trauma
Contact Us Emotional pain doesn’t end with us—it echoes through generations. In this episode, we unpack Reuben’s story to show how family trauma repeats and three keys that can break the cycle. Enjoy! Oh, and it's that time again - our Beauty In Battle Marriage Retreat in July of 2026. Click HERE for more info. Come hang with us!
Four Steps To Calm The Chaos
Contact Us When life feels chaotic, it’s easy to get stuck in your head instead of staying connected to your spouse. In this episode, we share four simple steps to calm the chaos . Each one helps you reset your mind, release stress, and reconnect emotionally. Enjoy.
The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage (p2)
Contact Us Healthy marriages thrive on healthy boundaries. In this episode, we dive into Part 2 of The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage , based on Dr. Henry Cloud’s classic book. We’ll walk through the first five laws and show how clear, godly boundaries protect your relationship, build trust, and deepen connection. Enjoy
The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage (p1)
Contact Us Healthy marriages thrive on healthy boundaries. In this episode, we dive into Part 1 of The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage , based on Dr. Henry Cloud’s classic book. We’ll walk through the first five laws and show how clear, godly boundaries protect your relationship, build trust, and deepen connection. Enjoy
