Published by Carla Da Costa
A podcast by coach and author Carla Da Costa for women who are separated and divorced where we get real about the healing and self-reflection journey that happens after a long-term relationship ends and the real self-empowerment journey that lies ahead.
Listen on Apple PodcastsThe Four Most Dangerous Words Keeping You Stuck After Divorce The stories you tell yourself shape the life you create. In this episode, we're exploring the four words that quietly keep so many people stuck after divorce—and how one simple shift in the questions you ask yourself can open the door to confidence, possibility, financial independence, and an extraordinary second chapter. If you're ready to stop simply healing and start intentionally creating your next chapter, I'd love to support you. 💛 Work with me 1:1 (Women): Women's Coaching Link 💙 Work with me 1:1 (Men): Men's Coaching Link 🌿 Join AfterGlow: The Reinvention Era: AfterGlow Link If this episode resonated with you, I'd love it if you subscribed, left a review, or shared it with someone who is rebuilding their life after separation.
Ready to Become the Woman Who Builds Wealth? Doors are now open to my brand-new 9-Day Activation: Become the Woman Who Builds Wealth Upgrade your financial identity. Create wealth from the inside out. Find further details here. This isn't a budgeting course. It isn't about spreadsheets. It's about becoming the woman who knows how to create wealth—financially, emotionally and professionally. ✨ We begin 7th July . Join here: Click Here. Episode 46: The Woman I Had To Become Before I Could Build Wealth Most women believe wealth begins with money. I don't. I believe wealth begins with the woman. In today's episode, I'm sharing one of the most personal financial decisions I've ever made. When my marriage ended, I left with money. Everyone around me gave me the same advice. Buy a house. Return to dental hygiene. Play it safe. Protect what you have. Instead... I chose something completely different. I invested in myself. I backed my dreams. I built a business. I embraced uncertainty instead of certainty. And in doing so, I realised something that completely changed the way I think about wealth. My greatest investment was never property. It wasn't business. It wasn't the stock market. It was becoming the woman capable of creating wealth. In this episode, we explore why financial freedom is built through identity first, why courageous decisions often feel uncomfortable, and how your relationship with money may be shaped far more by your mindset than your circumstances. If you've ever wondered why some women create extraordinary wealth after divorce while others remain stuck in survival mode, this conversation is for you. In this episode we cover: Why leaving my marriage with money didn't automatically create financial freedom. The advice everyone told me to follow—and why I chose a different path. The difference between protecting money and creating wealth. How fear quietly disguises itself as "being sensible." Why financial growth rarely feels safe. The financial identity shift that changed everything. What almost losing my business taught me about true wealth. Why I believe wealth begins with the woman—not the money. If this episode resonates with you, I'd love to hear your biggest takeaway. Send me a message on Instagram @carladacostacoach or share this episode to your stories and tag me so I can thank you personally. And if you're ready to upgrade your financial identity and begin creating wealth from the inside out... I'd love to welcome you inside Become the Woman Who Builds Wealth .
Are You Thinking Too Small About Your Life Post-Separation? In this episode, Carla explores how survival mode can quietly shrink our vision for what's possible and why so many women underestimate the future they are capable of creating. In this episode, we discuss: ✨ Why survival can quietly become an identity ✨ The difference between safety and possibility ✨ Why rebuilding your life isn't the same as rebuilding yourself ✨ How women unintentionally think too small after separation ✨ The question that changes everything: What would you love your life to look like 12 months from now? ✨ Why capability isn't the problem for most women — vision is ✨ How to start imagining a future bigger than your past If you've been focused on healing, rebuilding and simply getting through, this conversation is your invitation to dream again. Because the goal was never just to survive your separation. The goal was to create a life that excites you. AFTERGLOW: THE REINVENTION ERA Doors are currently open. Please find more information here. This is my signature coaching program for women ready to move beyond survival mode and consciously create their next chapter. 🤍 Carla Da Costa
In this deeply personal episode, I share my own reinvention journey year by year since leaving my marriage in 2016 and the lessons, challenges and growth each season of my life demanded from me. From leaving dentistry, building a coaching business, navigating divorce, rebuilding my finances, learning self-worth, relationships, identity shifts and stepping into entirely new versions of myself, this episode explores what it really takes to create a life that barely resembles the one you left behind. Because changing your life isn't about getting lucky. It's about becoming different. It's about allowing life to change you. It's about creating such a profound shift in your identity, beliefs, standards and behaviours that your future unfolds differently. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why awareness alone doesn't change your life ✨ The difference between healing and reinvention ✨ How identity shifts create new timelines ✨ The lessons each chapter of life asks us to learn ✨ Why some people stay stuck while others create entirely different futures ✨ What it really means to become someone new The deeper the reinvention, the deeper the change. If you've been feeling the pull towards a bigger next chapter, this episode is for you. 🤍 AFTERGLOW: The Reinvention Era is now open. My signature coaching program for women navigating divorce, separation, heartbreak and major life transitions. Learn more: HERE 🤍 Private 1:1 Coaching & Mentorship For men and women who know they are standing on the edge of their next expansion and are ready for personalised support, strategy and transformation. Learn more: WOMEN HERE MEN HERE
In this episode of Divorce & Everything In Between , Carla explores one of the most difficult truths many women face after divorce. The ways we continue protecting, enabling and carrying the consequences of another person's behaviour long after the relationship has ended. You'll learn: • Why protecting your ex often comes at the expense of your own peace and self-respect • The difference between compassion and enabling • How carrying someone else's consequences keeps them comfortable and unaccountable • Why emotional honesty is healthier for children than maintaining an illusion • How boundaries and self-respect create freedom for both you and your children • The powerful question that can help you identify where you're still giving away your energy This episode is an invitation to stop carrying what was never yours to hold and start reclaiming your voice, your peace and your power. Ready for personalised support? If this episode hit close to home and you're struggling to navigate the emotional weight of divorce, co-parenting, boundaries or rebuilding your confidence, my Once Off Coaching Session is designed to help you gain clarity, perspective and practical next steps. In this private 75 minute session, we'll focus on what's keeping you stuck right now and create a clear path forward that feels aligned, empowering and achievable. Click here to book your Once Off Coaching Session: LINK HERE
The Emotional Weight of Reinventing Yourself While Holding Children, Career, Finances and Your Life In today's episode, Carla explores the emotional weight of trying to heal, grow and reinvent yourself while simultaneously managing children, work, finances and everyday life. If you've ever felt exhausted by the pressure of carrying your own growth while supporting everyone around you, this conversation is for you. In This Episode: ✨ Why reinvention can feel emotionally exhausting ✨ Supporting your children while navigating your own journey ✨ The weight of career, finances and responsibility after separation ✨ Why so many self-aware, empathetic people feel overwhelmed right now ✨ Why you don't have to rebuild your entire life at once Work With Carla AFTERGLOW: The Reinvention Era A coaching experience for those ready to stop simply surviving and start consciously rebuilding themselves, their identity and their future. 🔗 AfterGlow Link 1:1 Coaching for Women Private coaching for women navigating divorce, healing and reinvention. 🔗 Insert Women's Coaching Link 1:1 Coaching for Men Private coaching for men navigating separation, growth and rebuilding life after significant change. 🔗 Insert Men's Coaching Link Instagram: @carladacostacoach If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need to hear it. Because healing may begin the journey. But reinvention is where everything changes.
"Successful Marriages" without fulfilment is a term I coined in 2023. This is re-record of the original podcast I recorded at that time. * To enquire about how I support clients trying to leave these dynamics OR heal and rebuild after the dissolution of these marriages please contact me here. * To find the instagram post I mentioned in this episode please find it here.
This is open for men and women. For the one who was emotionally abused AND for the one was the emotional abuser. Please learn more about The Self-Respect Shift here. We start May 12th. Alternately please visit my website here for other ways to work with me post your marriage ending.
The Gift Of Rock Bottom - I'm not speaking from a high and mighty, never been here before place. I'm speaking from a lived experience and embodied place. Some sh*t you can't learn in a text book. Please find my full coaching services here: www.carladacosta.com I offer new client once off sessions here for men and women. My 1:1 coaching for men here. My online and group coaching program for women called 'AfterGlow' here. My 1:1 coaching for women here. With love x
If this episode resonated with you please find my coaching services below. My 1:1 private coaching consultancy for new clients here. My AfterGlow online coaching program for women here.
Is this you? Or are you still navigating an ex where this was the dynamic. You don't need more therapy to understand this man. You need a strategy and a plan to navigate this man into the long-term future. Because they don't change is my experience after working with over 2,000 clients. Please explore having a 1:1 once off new client session with me here.
Please join me inside No More Almost here. We start March 8th. 21 Days. Live with me. A love activation. A new self-identity.
Please find the links mentioned in this episode below. The AfterGlow Coaching program here. My 1:1 Coaching for men here.
The three perspective shifts we need to have. The first two we almost automatically go through even if we don't want to. So often individuals get stuck at number two and don't progress to number three. But for your children it's a must that you progress to number three. Please explore my Once Off New Client Session offer here. To discuss working with me further please email me with your questions here at hello@carladacosta.com With love if this episode triggered. Triggers always point us to where we need to heal.
If this is your story please email me at hello@carladacosta.com to enquire how best to work with me. Options To Work With Me Professionally Below: AfterGlow my long-term support coaching container here. 1:1 Private coaching for women here. 1:1 Private coaching for men here. All further details about myself and my work are here www.carladacosta.com
As a woman were you the container in the relationship or were they? And where do you see your patterning having stemmed from FIRST. To enquire about my services please email me at hello@carladacosta.com Options To Work With Me Professionally Below: AfterGlow my long-term support coaching container here. 1:1 Private coaching for women here. 1:1 Private coaching for men here. All further details about myself and my work are here www.carladacosta.com
If this is your story please email me at hello@carladacosta.com to enquire how best to work with me. Options To Work With Me Professionally Below: AfterGlow my long-term support coaching container here. 1:1 Private coaching for women here. 1:1 Private coaching for men here. All further details about myself and my work are here www.carladacosta.com
Please listen to the end where I talk about why healthy, present love can trigger some of us who didn't grow up in a healthy, nurturing childhood environment. Posts As Mentioned In The Show Below: If you don't address your childhood wounds your first marriage will post here. Post-Separation dating guide here. Options To Work With Me Professionally Below: AfterGlow my long-term support coaching container here. 1:1 Private coaching for women here. 1:1 Private coaching for men here. All further details about myself and my work are here www.carladacosta.com
This podcast is for women who are ready to stop chasing closure and start choosing themselves. Post-separation, the feminine role is not to fix, pursue, or over-explain. It is to become magnetic. To regulate her emotions, rebuild self-trust, and move forward with clarity and intention. This is about becoming centred, self-led, and emotionally available to the life that is calling you next. Options To Work With Me Professionally Below: AfterGlow my long-term support coaching container here. 1:1 Private coaching for women here. 1:1 Private coaching for men here. All further details about myself and my work are here www.carladacosta.com
No denials that for many of us 2025 was a year of challenges and NOT the year you perhaps asked for or intended for yourself to have. But was it the one that needed to happen for you? My latest post on this letting go of 2025 energy can be found here. Options To Work With Me Professionally Below: AfterGlow my long-term support coaching container here. 1:1 Private coaching for women here. 1:1 Private coaching for men here. All further details about myself and my work are here www.carladacosta.com