Patterns of Power with Craig Perra (habits, mindfulness, high-performance, self-leadership)

Are you successful… or just successful enough to stay stuck? 🔥 THE EDGE | OCTOBER 22–24 | SACRAMENTO, CALIFORNIA Learn more and reserve your spot: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/the-edge1 Rock bottom gets your attention. But when life is good enough, you can stay on the wrong track for years without ever being forced to change. In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra shares five powerful reasons why men need to step outside their normal environments and surround themselves with people who challenge them to grow. From accelerating personal growth and uncovering blind spots to building accountability, evaluating your habits, and creating a vision for your future, Craig explains why getting into the right room can change the direction of your life. But real transformation isn't about getting motivated for a few days. It's about building systems that create sustainable change in your business, relationships, health, and personal life. You don't have to wait for rock bottom to become the man you know you're capable of being. THE EDGE | CRAIG PERRA, MINDFUL HABIT October 22–24 | Sacramento, California The Edge is Craig's three-day, men-only anchor event focused on rapid, sustainable transformation. For over 14 years, Craig has helped men build systems designed to create more money, peace, joy, love, and fulfillment. Learn more: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/the-edge1 OTHER MEN'S EVENTS, RETREATS & COMMUNITIES CRAIG RECOMMENDS JORDAN BOWDICH | THE MANDATE SUMMIT November 12 | Austin, Texas | 4 DaysA 36-hour group fast broken in ceremony, deep personal work, and a room of men willing to be honest with each other. Jordan believes sex is more than something that's nice to have. It's a powerful form of connection that can transform romantic partnerships. Jordan is a personal friend of Craig's, and Craig has personally experienced his work. https://themandate.club/ THE MAN​KIND PROJECT | NEW WARRIOR TRAINING The ManKind Project is a nonprofit men's training and education organization with decades of experience hosting experiential personal development programs. Their global network includes free peer-facilitated men's groups focused on integrity, authenticity, and service. Craig personally attended the New Warrior Training and describes the experience as epic. https://mankindproject.org/ DAVE MEHLER | MAN ON FIRE Man On FIRE helps married businessmen reconnect with who they are, strengthen their marriages, and create meaningful results in their personal and professional lives. Craig has personally experienced Dave's work and was incredibly impressed. https://manonfirerising.com/ NIKO ARAPKILES | VISION ESPRESSO Niko specializes in turning purpose into action and helping people build systems around the future they want to create. Craig loves Niko's mission, has personally experienced his work, and highly recommends what he's created. Featured online event: October 6. https://VisionEspresso.co/2 AARON VELKY | LIVING VISION Aaron and his team host retreats for entrepreneurs, executives, and founders who are serious about growth, scale, and impact. Living Vision has three retreats planned for 2027, with limited seats and a qualification process for attendees. https://living.vision/ KYLE EMANUEL BROWN | FIT C.E.O. Kyle is the founder of FIT C.E.O., where he helps entrepreneurs and leaders get into the best shape of their lives, align with their purpose, and build businesses that create freedom. Kyle is a great friend of Craig's, and Craig personally recommends his work. https://fitceo.ai/ CONNECT WITH CRAIG PERRA FREE Self-Sabotage Assessment: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst Mindful Habit Mastery: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com The Edge: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/the-edge1 The question to ask yourself today: What am I tolerating in my life that I know is beneath my own standard? #menshealth #highperformance #success #habits #addiction #executive #entrepreneur #professional

What happens when the thing that made you successful suddenly disappears? In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Alex Molden, former NFL first round draft pick, eight year NFL veteran, University of Oregon Hall of Famer, and leadership consultant. Alex shares the identity crisis he faced after leaving the NFL and the brutal moment a job interviewer told him, “Football is what you did. It’s not who you are.” That conversation changed the direction of his life. Craig and Alex unpack what separates sustainable high performers from everyone else, why discipline and character matter more than talent alone, and Alex’s leadership framework of Assignment, Alignment, and Adjustment. Today, Alex brings the lessons he learned competing at the highest level of professional sports into his work helping leaders and Fortune 500 executives perform and lead at a higher level. Connect with Alex Molden: Instagram: @alexmolden Website: www.alexmolden.com Email: info@alexmoldenspeaks.com Alex is also the author of Breaking on the Ball of Life and The Ultimate Playbook for Athletes and offers his Leadership 101: 5 Keys for Rising Leaders free ebook. Connect with Craig Perra: Mindful Habit Mastery

You can look healthy, work out regularly, and still have no idea what’s actually happening inside your body. In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Deepak Saini, a health, longevity, and performance expert who helps clients solve complex health challenges, reverse biological aging, and elevate performance. After overcoming his own battles with an autoimmune condition, obesity, and a debilitating back injury, Deepak became deeply focused on understanding the body and helping others improve their health and performance. Craig brings his own perspective from more than 14 years of helping executives, entrepreneurs, professionals, and high performers transform the habits and patterns impacting their lives. Together, they dive into biological aging, blood work, gut health, nutrition, stress, emotional health, and longevity, and why the goal isn’t just living longer. It’s staying healthy longer. Connect with Deepak Saini Website: https://deepaksainihealth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dsainihealth/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deepak-saini-aa486215a/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deepak.saini.848981 Book a FREE Discovery Call with Deepak: https://calendly.com/info-20912/discovery-call-1 Connect with Craig Perra FREE Self Sabotage Assessment: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst Mindful Habit Mastery: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com If this episode helped you, subscribe and share it with someone who needs to hear it.

What if the habits and patterns you hate most about yourself aren't trying to hurt you—but actually protect you? In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Anat Peri, inner child expert, emotional intelligence speaker, and founder of Training Camp for the Soul, to explore how childhood experiences can shape the patterns we carry into adulthood. They dive into people pleasing, overachieving, avoidance, addiction, nervous system regulation, inner child work, and self-sabotage—and why fighting these patterns often doesn't create lasting change. You'll discover why your protective patterns developed, how your nervous system influences your reactions, the impact of mother and father wounds, and Anat's five stages for healing and creating lasting transformation. If you've ever wondered why you know better but still repeat the same patterns, this conversation could completely change the way you understand yourself. Connect with Anat Peri🎧 Free Audio from Anat: https://mastery.trainingcampforthesoul.com/csbw-home 🌐 Training Camp for the Soul: https://www.trainingcampforthesoul.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anat.peri/?hl=en 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anat-peri/ 🎙️ About Craig Perra Craig Perra is the founder of Mindful Habit Mastery and creator of the Mindful Habit System. For more than 14 years, he has helped leaders and high performers transform destructive patterns and create greater freedom, performance, and fulfillment. Take Craig's FREE Self-Sabotage Assessment: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst 🌐 Mindful Habit Mastery: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com If this episode resonates with you, subscribe and share it with someone who needs to hear it.

What if the strongest marriages aren't built on chemistry... but on intention? In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig sits down with Eric and Cheri Plantenberg for a conversation about what it really takes to build a relationship that grows stronger over time. They share the incredible story of how their relationship began, the lessons they learned through life's hardest seasons, and the practical principles that have helped them build a marriage rooted in trust, purpose, and commitment. This isn't just a conversation about marriage. It's about becoming the kind of person who creates healthy relationships—in business, in family, and in life. In this episode you'll discover: • Why great marriages are built, not found • The power of intentional communication • How to navigate conflict without growing apart • The habits that strengthen trust over time • Why personal growth is the foundation of every great relationship Whether you're married, dating, or simply want stronger relationships, this episode will leave you with practical insights you can apply immediately. Connect with Eric & Cheri Plantenberg: 🌐 Those Lucky Bastards https://www.thoseluckybastards.com 🌐 Abundant Living Retreat https://www.abundantlivingretreat.com 🎙️ Patterns of Power explores the habits, mindset, and systems that help leaders create extraordinary lives. Take Craig's FREE Self-Sabotage Assessment: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst 🌐 Mindful Habit Mastery https://mindfulhabitmastery.com If this episode helped you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who would benefit from the conversation.

Cruz Gamboa spent 20+ years climbing to the top of General Electric — closing an $800 million deal, leading capital markets across Latin America, and earning a spot in the executive ranks. Then the CEO called to congratulate him. And he felt completely empty. In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Cruz Gamboa, founder of Ascend Growth Ventures, to unpack what happens when high-performing men reach the goal — and discover it was the wrong one. Cruz gets raw about work addiction, panic attacks, porn use, daily drinking, a marriage that couldn't survive the grind, and the moment a doctor told him the problem wasn't physical. It was between his ears. If you're a driven man privately wondering why success doesn't feel like enough — this conversation is for you. What you'll take away: -Why work addiction is one of the most socially accepted and least recognized dopamine traps -How identity gets fused to professional title — and what it costs when that title changes -The difference between being curious about your dream and being committed to it -Why lack of self-love is the root cause behind every compulsive pattern Craig sees in clients -How to build a mission big enough that bad days become data instead of disasters -The OKR framework for aligning your goals to your actual purpose — not just your metrics Who this is for: Executives, entrepreneurs, and high-performing men who are winning on paper and quietly asking "is this it?" Connect with Cruz Gamboa: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cruzgamboa Website: https://ascendgrowthventures.com Website: www.AscendGrowthVentures.com Take the Self-Sabotage Assessment (free): www.mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst Patterns of Power is the essential playbook for high-performing men ready to dismantle reactive habits and step into their full power. Hosted by Craig Perra, founder of The Mindful Habit System. 🌐 High Performance: www.mindfulhabitmastery.com 🌐 Sex & Porn Addiction: www.mindfulhabithelp.com #leadership #success #entrepreneur #highperformance #burnout #mindset #selfleadership #executive #personaldevelopment #mentalhealth

Prediction markets like Kalshi let you bet on presidential elections, Taylor Swift's engagement, and whether it'll snow in LA this month. Billions in annual trading volume. Near-zero consumer protections. And a younger male demographic growing faster than any other. Craig Perra sits down with Joe Ciccolo -- nationally recognized expert in digital asset regulatory compliance, founder of BitAML, and Executive Director of the California Blockchain Advisory Coalition -- to break down what prediction markets actually are, why they're structurally different from gambling (and why that distinction matters for your protection), and what nobody in the industry wants you to know about the regulatory gap that leaves consumers completely exposed. This is not a fear piece. This is a pattern recognition conversation. What you'll learn: *How prediction markets work and why they're more addictive than traditional betting *The insider trading paradox: why informed trading is literally built into the model *Why the FTC regulates these platforms but has zero consumer protection mandate *How crypto exchanges fusing with prediction markets are eliminating the last friction between you and a compulsive bet *What the industry's own marketing reveals about who they're really targeting If you recognize yourself in any of this, the Self-Sabotage Assessment at mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst is where to start. Connect with Joe Ciccolo: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joeciccolo/ Website: https://www.bitaml.com 📱 Text "I WANT FREEDOM" to 877-356-5573 🌐 Mindful Habit Mastery https://mindfulhabitmastery.com 📊 Take the Self-Sabotage Assessment https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst Follow Craig Perra for more insights on self-leadership, habit change, impulse control, and creating freedom that lasts. #predictionmarkets #gamblingaddiction #digitaladdiction #sportsbetting #crypto #impulsecontrol #menshealth #highperformance #executive #entrepreneur #habits #selfleadership

Most couples never learned how to talk about sex — let alone create a deeply connected, passionate relationship that lasts decades. In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig sits down with Dan Purcell, founder of Get Your Marriage On, coach to hundreds of couples worldwide, host of a podcast with 1.7M+ listens, and creator of intimacy tools used by over half a million couples. Together they unpack: • Why many men grow up believing sex is shameful or dangerous • How porn, secrecy, and performance pressure quietly damage intimacy • The surprising difference between spontaneous vs. responsive desire (and why this changes marriages) • What healthy masculine sexuality actually looks like • Why “duty sex” destroys connection • The hidden ways couples accidentally make intimacy worse • How to rebuild trust, passion, vulnerability, and play inside long-term relationships • Why great sex isn’t luck — it’s something couples can intentionally build If you’ve ever wondered: “Why does intimacy feel disconnected?” “Why do I feel rejected?” “Why did our sex life disappear?” “Can marriages actually get better after years together?” This conversation is for you. About Dan Purcell: Dan and his wife Emily founded Get Your Marriage On with a mission to help millions of couples create stronger marriages through fun, deeply connected intimacy. Dan is working toward his PhD in Clinical Sexology, has coached couples around the world, hosts a top relationship podcast, leads retreats and workshops, and created the popular Intimately Us and Just Between Us apps. 🎁 Free gift from Dan for Mindful Habit listeners: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mindfulhabit Connect with Dan: Podcast: Get Your Marriage On Website: https://getyourmarriageon.com Learn more about Craig & The Mindful Habit: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com #Marriage #Intimacy #Relationships #MensHealth #SelfLeadership #PornRecovery #Connection #SexualHealth #MindfulHabit #HighPerformance

Millions of men struggle with performance anxiety, erection problems, stress, shame, and intimacy issues—but almost nobody talks about it honestly. In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig sits down with Shay Doran, who specializes in helping men overcome sexual performance anxiety and erection problems. After experiencing these struggles himself, Shay has gone on to help men around the world regain confidence, improve intimacy, and feel normal again. In this conversation: • Why performance anxiety happens • Stress, shame & the nervous system • Porn, pressure and male identity • The hidden reasons many men struggle silently • Why the solution is often deeper than physical symptoms • Practical steps toward lasting change Connect with Shay and take his free quiz: https://shay-doran.com/free-quiz/ If you’re struggling with stress, habits, shame, or self-sabotage, start here: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst Subscribe for conversations on self leadership, habits, performance, stress, and sustainable change. #menshealth #highperformance #success #habits #executive #entrepreneur #performanceanxiety #selfleadership

What you consume in private does not stay private. In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra opens up about the hidden cost of porn, secrecy, shame, and compartmentalization — especially for high-performing men who look successful on the outside but feel out of alignment behind closed doors. This is not a shame-based conversation. It is a call for honesty. Craig breaks down how private patterns can slowly escalate, how they affect intimacy, leadership, self-respect, and family life, and why men need to ask a harder question: Is what I do in private consistent with the man I say I want to become? Take the self-sabotage assessment here: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst #menshealth #highperformance #success #habits #addiction #executive #entrepreneur #professional

You’ve tried willpower. Discipline. Therapy. And you still end up in the same patterns. That’s not failure. That’s a broken strategy. Your behavior isn’t random — it’s the predictable output of a system that was built long before you understood it. Once you see it, everything changes. Take the self-sabotage assessment Craig mentioned (takes 5 minutes): https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst

My dad passed away on March 1st. This isn’t just about grief… it’s about what it exposed. In this episode, I break down the 3 lessons that hit me in real time — about triggers, pain, identity, and what actually matters when life hits you the hardest. Most men think growth means the pain goes away. That’s not how it works. The real work is being ready when it comes back. If you’ve ever felt like you “shouldn’t” still struggle… this episode is for you. — Learn more about Eric Farewell: https://ericfarewell.com/ — If you're ready for deeper work and real accountability: The Patterns of Power Mastermind is launching June 1st. This is Craig’s highest level of support — built around brotherhood, accountability, and real transformation across health, wealth, and relationships. To learn more or apply: Text “MASTERMIND” to 877-356-5573 — For coaching, programs, and deeper support, visit: 👉 www.mindfulhabitmastery.com and if you're struggling with sex and porn addiction - visit www.mindfulhabithelp.com

You think distraction is a productivity problem. It’s not. It’s a health crisis. In this episode, Craig Perra breaks down 6 shocking, research-backed facts about distraction that will completely change the way you think about your phone, your focus, and your one life. From the 25-minute recovery tax your brain pays every time you get interrupted, to the neuroscience showing that — for the first time in 100 years — the current generation is less intelligent than their parents, this episode pulls no punches. But here’s where it gets really personal. Not all distractions are created equal. There’s a multiplier effect when the distraction is secret — and if you’re living with one, your nervous system is paying a price that no productivity hack can fix. This isn’t about willpower. This isn’t about being lazy. This is a war for your mind, your body, and your years — and the data shows the distractions are winning. If any of this lands, reach out. The link is in the show notes. For coaching, programs, and deeper support, visit: 👉 www.mindfulhabitmastery.com

What if the key to breaking destructive habits, leading at your highest level, and creating a great life wasn’t more discipline… but learning to lead yourself? In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra explains why self-leadership is the missing foundation behind real transformation. Drawing from thousands of years of faith traditions, modern psychology, leadership science, and neuroscience, Craig reveals the one principle they all point toward: there is a center inside you that can lead your life. Most people are not living from that center. They’re being run by a committee of reactive parts—shame, fear, anger, addiction, criticism—each fighting for control. But when you learn to access your Self, everything changes. In this episode, Craig breaks down: Why self-leadership is the true through-line behind recovery, high performance, and personal transformation How faith traditions across the world describe the same inner center (Christ within, Atman, Buddha nature, the divine spark) What modern psychology and neuroscience say about the observing self and executive control Why your critic, shame, and even addictive impulses may actually be trying to help you How accessing your Self energy shifts you from reactive survival to powerful leadership This episode lays the foundation for the entire Patterns of Power philosophy. Because the truth is simple: You don’t eliminate the chaos of life. You learn to lead yourself in the middle of it. If you’ve ever felt like different parts of you are fighting for control… this episode will change the way you understand your mind—and your power. Next Episode: Craig begins breaking down the parts that orbit the Self—like the addict part, the critic, resentment, and procrastination—and how to lead them instead of fighting them. If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to remember: There is a center inside you that can lead your life. Learn more at: www.mindfulhabitmastery.com

Money isn’t just numbers. It’s memory. Emotion. Identity. Survival. In this episode, Craig sits down with Hannah Chapman to explore why money feels so charged — and how our earliest experiences quietly shape the way we earn, spend, save, and stress. Hannah breaks down how emotional safety, childhood conditioning, and nervous system patterns influence our financial decisions, often without us realizing it. This conversation dives into: Why money triggers anxiety, avoidance, or control How early experiences create lifelong financial habits Why earning more doesn’t heal emotional scarcity What real financial freedom actually looks like This isn’t about budgets or hustle culture. It’s about healing your relationship with money at the root. If you’ve ever felt stressed about finances, avoided looking at your numbers, or repeated the same patterns despite your best efforts — this episode will help you understand why. About Our Guest: Hannah Chapman is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP®) with over 20 years of experience helping entrepreneurs navigate the emotional and practical complexities of money. As the founder of X-Squared Wealth Planning and Expansive CEO, she supports visionary business owners in creating financial clarity, long-term security, and a healthier relationship with wealth. Hannah uniquely integrates traditional financial planning and investment strategy with Human Design, Gene Keys, and money psychology — bringing both the intellect and the heart into the wealth-building process so prosperity becomes something you live, not something you chase. Connect with Hannah and explore her work: https://hannahrchapman.com

There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally. They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time. In this episode, I’m explaining a major shift: my podcast is no longer called Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions. It’s now called Patterns of Power. And I didn’t change the name because it sounded better. I changed it because over 14 years of doing this work, I realized something I couldn’t ignore anymore: If the framework keeps men stuck in shame, fear, and identity collapse… it might get their attention, but it won’t build the life they want. In this episode, I break down: Why “addiction language” helps some men early on… but can hold others back long-term How the real issue is often patterns, not porn Why sex isn’t the root problem… it’s the relief valve The shift from running away from a problem → to building a system that makes you unstoppable How power, integrity, self-leadership, and capacity are the real transformation Because shame keeps people quiet. Power builds movements. If you’re a leader, founder, executive, or high performer who knows something is “off” internally… this podcast is for you. Ready to interrupt the patterns and step into your power? Visit: mindfulhabitmastery.com If you’re struggling with sex and porn addiction and need direct support: Visit: mindfulhabithelp.com

There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones quietly collapsing inside. They’re driven, disciplined, respected — and deeply disconnected. Hiding behind busyness. Chasing validation. Terrified of stillness. Losing themselves one “successful” decision at a time. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now! In this episode of Patterns Of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Aaron Velke, founder of Get Out of Your Own Way and creator of the Living Vision Program, to expose the hidden patterns that keep high-performing men stuck — even when everything looks good on the outside. Aaron works with seven-, eight-, and nine-figure leaders who have already “made it,” yet feel restless, unfulfilled, and quietly trapped by compulsive achievement. Together, Craig and Aaron unpack why success doesn’t heal insecurity — it often amplifies it — and why the real work begins when the noise finally stops. In this conversation, they explore: • The masks high-achieving men wear to avoid feeling “not enough” • Why validation, busyness, and adrenaline become addictive • How adventure and challenge can unlock breakthroughs when discipline fails • Why community heals what isolation quietly destroys • The role of stillness in finding real vision, clarity, and direction Aaron brings a powerful blend of depth, honesty, and lived experience — challenging the belief that more success is the answer, and offering a different path forward: one rooted in presence, purpose, and embodied leadership. Connect with Aaron Velke Follow Aaron on all platforms: @AaronVelke Listen to The Living Vision Show on all major podcast platforms. Aaron also leads powerful, immersive experiences for high-performing leaders: • Living Vision Retreat — January 2026 • 90-Day Living Vision Accelerator — January / February 2026 To learn more about Aaron’s work, upcoming retreats, and programs, visit: https://www.living.vision If you’ve built a life that looks impressive but feels empty… this episode will hit close to home.

Most men aren’t stuck because they lack discipline. They’re stuck because they’re fighting the wrong battle. In this episode of Patterns Of Power, I sit down with Niko Arapkiles, founder of Vision Expresso, to expose the real reason change doesn’t last for most men: they try to fix behaviors without changing identity. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now! We break down why willpower eventually fails, how distraction quietly destroys focus and purpose, and why you’ll always lose in a fight against yourself if your identity hasn’t changed. This conversation goes beyond addiction. It’s about becoming the man you were meant to be. In this episode, we talk about: Why identity change matters more than habits, rules, or discipline How distraction, porn, and constant stimulation rewire the brain against you Why most men stay stuck even after therapy, retreats, or big breakthroughs How to operationalize identity so change actually sticks What it looks like to live from your future self instead of chasing motivation If you’re tired of starting over, white-knuckling sobriety, or feeling like you “should be further by now,” this episode will change how you see recovery, growth, and yourself. Learn more about Niko and Vision Expresso: https://visionespresso.co Find him on social media here: @nikoarapkiles

There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally. They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now! In this episode of Patterns of Power, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover — therapist, coach, and author of the bestselling book No More Mr. Nice Guy. His work has changed millions of lives, including my clients, and this conversation goes straight to the heart of why men struggle… and what actually creates lasting change. We dig deep into Nice Guy Syndrome — why it starts in childhood, how it destroys relationships, and why people pleasing is actually manipulation. We talk about lying (even “harmless” lies), boundaries, masculine integrity, and how men can finally step into honesty, power, and purpose. In this episode, we cover: • Why Nice Guy Syndrome forms early in life • How being “the good guy” kills intimacy • Why people pleasing becomes manipulation • Why lying — even tiny lies — keeps you powerless • How Nice Guys and jerks are two sides of the same survival pattern • Why boundaries are an act of love • How honesty creates REAL connection • How men can stop seeking approval and start living with clarity • Why community is essential for recovery If you’re tired of pretending… tired of shrinking… tired of living small — this episode is your wake-up call. Connect With Dr. Robert Glover Website & programs: https://drglover.com Integration Nation (Men’s Community): https://integrationnation.net

Most people look successful but feel dead inside. They’ve lost their spark, their purpose, and their voice — and they’re stuck people pleasing, hiding the truth, and calling it “love.” In this episode of Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions, I sit down with Melanie Spring — brand muse, international keynote speaker, and creator of Speak With Confidence — to talk about what authenticity really means, why lying is abuse (yes, even “little” lies), and how people pleasing is actually manipulation that keeps everyone stuck. If you’re a man struggling with sex or porn addiction — or a partner exhausted from carrying the weight of his secrets — this conversation is for you. We talk about: • What a brand muse actually does and why finding your voice is soul work • How we lose our creative spark and identity as adults • Why so many “successful” people are secretly miserable • The impact of addiction on partners: energetic abuse, gaslighting, lost intuition • Why lying is abuse even when he “doesn’t mean to hurt you” • Boundaries as love and why love must be boundaried • How Melanie set a hard boundary with her husband — and held it • Why women need conscious community, not gossip circles • How childhood betrayal loops repeat until we finally close them • Why people pleasing is lying and manipulation • What radical honesty and radical responsibility look like • Personal style as an expression of your authentic self If you’re tired of pretending and ready to stand fully in your truth, this episode will hit you in the best way. We don’t promote other programs very often — but this one aligns perfectly with what we teach at The Mindful Habit. Melanie Spring is incredible at helping people find and express their authentic voice, and I know some of you have been wanting to step into bigger stages, deeper truth, and more confident communication. If that’s you, you’ll get real value from this. Here are the details: Melanie’s SPEAK With Confidence program is on Black Friday sale right now — up to $1500 off through Tuesday at 8pm ET. Use code PERRA for an extra 10% off + it gives me 10% of what you pay. Program info: melaniespring.com/swc Swipe copy for emails, texts, or social posts if you want to share it too: melaniespring.com/swc/affiliates Code: PERRA If you’ve been feeling called to speak more powerfully in 2025, this might be the perfect next step. Connect with Melanie Spring 🔸 Website & retreats: https://www.melaniespring.com 🔸 Learn more about her Speak With Confidence program and upcoming women’s retreats on her site.