That Wasn't The Plan

Send us Fan Mail On October 24th, 1901 — her sixty-third birthday — a retired schoolteacher named Annie Edson Taylor climbed into an oak barrel the size of a pickle cask, had the lid screwed down, had air pumped in with a bicycle pump, and was pushed into the current above Niagara Falls. Nobody had ever survived going over those falls. Annie knew that. She didn’t care. She had a plan. This week Emily goes solo again with the extraordinary true story of the first person in history to go over Niagara Falls in a barrel and live — a woman who did it broke, widowed, and terrified of the poor house, on her birthday, at sixty-three. What you’ll hear: The geology of Niagara Falls — because the rock Annie went over is more than 400 million years old, the falls themselves are 12,000 years old and have been slowly walking backward up the river ever since, and the cliff she plunged off used to be the floor of a warm, shallow sea. So we start there. Annie Edson Taylor: born 1838 in Auburn, New York, one of eight kids, her father died when she was twelve, her baby son died in infancy, her husband David died in the Civil War — and then she just kept going. Teaching school, giving dance lessons, moving from Texas to New York to Mexico City to Michigan, doing what she always did: “If there’s no door, she builds one.” By 1900, she’s lost her home to a fire and her savings to a clergyman. For a single woman in her sixties in 1901, the end of the road had a name: the Poor House. And she was getting closer to it every year What changed everything: a man in a bar claiming he’d gone over the falls in a padded rubber suit. Annie heard it and did the math. If that was true, what could a schoolteacher do with a really good barrel? The barrel: oak, iron hoops, four and a half feet tall, a hundred and sixty pounds, cushions inside, a harness to hold her in, weight at the bottom so it would land feet first. She designed it herself. She named it the Queen of the Mist Her promoter Frank Russell, who put the barrel in a store window — and then told the press she was forty-two. She was sixty-two. “Everybody on this riverbank is lying about their age. Annie’s just the only one doing it on purpose.” The test run: her cat — possibly named Niagara — went over the Horseshoe Falls first. Survived with a small cut on its head. Emily has thoughts about this. October 23rd: the water’s too rough, the boatmen call it off, and Annie cries in front of the reporters because she’s sixty-two and broke and has psyched herself up for this once already October 24th, her sixty-third birthday: they row her out, she climbs in with a little heart-shaped pillow, they pump in the air, they plug the hole with a cork, and they push her into the current 170 feet. 90% of a river. One woman in a barrel. Twenty minutes “My God, she’s alive.” Her first review: “I will never go over the falls again. I would sooner walk up to the mouth of a cannon.” Five stars. Would not recommend What happened next: about $400 total in earnings, a promoter who disappeared with the barrel, a younger woman introduced to crowds as “the heroine of Niagara” — with Annie’s barrel The years that followed: a souvenir stand, postcards, stock market, a novel she tried to write, clairvoyant work, magnetic treatments. Always building a door where there wasn’t one February 23rd, 1921: Annie Edson Taylor walks into the Niagara County Poor House. She’s eighty-two. When they ask her age at the door, she tells them fifty-seven. She never stopped And the falls: still moving. Slower now, since most of the water gets diverted for electricity. They have a dimmer switch at night. In 1969, the Army Corps of Engineers turned the American Falls off entirely for six months so geologists could study the cliff. In 1848, an ice jam stopped the falls cold for thirty hours and people walked out into the dry riverbed. All that power, and they don’t get to decide where most of their water goes. Neither did Annie “Annie Taylor’s plan was never to be poor again. It didn’t work. Her other plan — to do something no one else in the world had ever done — she nailed that one.” She’s buried in Oakwood Cemetery in Niagara Falls, in a section called Stunter’s Rest. 💌 Have a story, a question, or something you’ve been carrying? Emily wants to hear it. thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan 🎧 If this one stayed with you — subscribe, leave a review , and share it with someone who’s building a door right now. That wasn’t the plan, and we will talk to you next week. K bye. 🛢️ Support the show

Send us Fan Mail In July 1917, a nine-year-old girl named Frances kept falling into a stream in Yorkshire and coming home with wet shoes. When the grown-ups asked why she kept going down there, she said she went to see the fairies. Her sixteen-year-old cousin Elsie — an art student who happened to live in a house with a darkroom under the stairs — said: fine, we’ll prove it. What happened next fooled newspapers, photography experts, theosophists, and the man who invented the most famous detective mind in the world. It also cost two little girls a secret they carried for sixty-six years. This week Emily goes solo with a story that is part hoax, part history, part grief, and entirely human: The Cottingley Fairies. “They wanted to be taken in.” — Frances Griffiths Watch the video or look up Fairies and Their Sunbath . What do you see? 💌 Have a story, a question, or something you’ve been carrying? Email us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan 🎧 If this one surprised you — subscribe, leave a review , and share it with someone who loves a story that doesn’t end where you think it will. That wasn’t the plan, and we will talk to you next week. K bye. 🧚 Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Emily's on the road this week, so we're pulling one of our favorite early episodes out of the vault — originally released as Episode 6 back in Season 1, when Dr. Dini Miller became our very first-ever TWTP guest. We're re-releasing it for all of you who found the show in Season 2 and haven't dug back yet. If you've ever found a weird bug in your sheets and spiraled on the internet for three hours, this one's for you. Dr. Dini Miller is a professor at Virginia Tech, an internationally recognized expert in urban pest management, a PhD in urban entomology, and an inductee into the Pest Management Association Hall of Fame. She advises housing authorities, hotels, shelters, and schools. She published early research on insecticide-resistant bed bugs. She's won basically every award in her field. And she is also — according to Courtney — a total babe who once marched down Constitution Avenue dancing to Beyoncé at the 2017 Women's March. Today she's at Virginia Tech, pushing the entire industry to switch from IPM (integrated pest management) to APM (assessment-based pest management) — the radical idea that we should actually measure whether pest treatments work before and after, instead of just spraying 55-year-old chemicals and calling it done. She's trying to get U.S. HUD to pay for pest control rather than pesticide application, because apparently those are not the same thing. Spoiler: the current administration has eliminated most of the people who could help her do it. What you'll actually learn: how to identify a bed bug (size of an apple seed; babies are the size of a comma in a paperback book); why they poop a lot and what the little black marks mean; why lint rollers are your best friend ; why hotels aren't actually the problem but apartments are (92% of professional bed bug treatments); who's most at risk right now (the elderly, nursing homes, dialysis centers); the medical shame that keeps people isolated; why the Food Quality Protection Act limits what we can use indoors; what fumigation can and can't do; traumatic insemination (yes, that's a thing male bed bugs do, and it's exactly what it sounds like); and why the only thing that is 100% guaranteed to work is tenting your whole house. Also: how a female bed bug lays 25% more eggs if she can get away from the dudes, why cockroaches smell distinctly enough that an entomologist can identify them in a restaurant glass, what delusory parasitosis is, the man who put raw hamburger mixed with gasoline on his bald head to sleep (his house burned down), Dini's seven rescue cats and her dog Carol who adopted her against her will, and the single best piece of life advice from a woman who built an entire international career on cockroach crap: you just have no idea where life is going to take you. Keep saying yes. Reach Dr. Dini Miller directly: 📧 dinim@vt.edu 📄 Google "VDACS bed bug" (Virginia Dept. of Agriculture & Consumer Services) for her free fact sheets on bed bugs in apartments, social service orgs, heat treatment, chemical and non-chemical methods, and identification. All free, all accurate, all written by Dini. If you work in or know anyone at an elder care facility, assisted living, dialysis center, or social service org that needs bed bug training — Dini provides it for free through Virginia Cooperative Extension. Call her office or email her directly. Follow the show: 📧 thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com 🌐 https://thatwasnttheplan.com 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5RNnSi4FzNM3HbTpFErYgP 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/that-wasnt-the-plan/id1868758889 ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@That_Wasnt_The_Plan 📱 Instagram: @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎵 TikTok: @that_wasnt_the_plan If today's episode made you want to lint-roll your luggage, please rate, review, and share. New episodes return next week. #ThatWasntThePlan #TWTPPodcast #FromTheVault #BedBugs #UrbanEntomology #PestControl #VirginiaTech #WomenInSTEM #WomenInScience #DrDiniMiller #IPM #APM #TravelTips #HotelTips #PublicHealth #EntomologyPodcast #ScienceCommunication #StoryDrivenPodcast #WomenPodcasters #MidlifePodcast Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to Sunday Brunch — a new TWTP format where Emily and Courtney invite a friend to the table to talk about the thing that's eating all of us at the same time. For our first one, we called in Becky Smith. Becky is Emily's longtime close friend, a healthcare provider, and — most importantly for today — a woman who, within the span of about four months, dropped her only son off at college, watched her feisty 82-year-old mother fall twice (once at Becky's own house, once days after college drop-off), and became the sole long-distance caregiver for a mother who's also the primary caregiver for Becky's sister. In other words: Becky is the sandwich generation, and she's doing it mostly solo. Emily's mom Jan took a bad fall six years ago and never fully bounced back. Dad is the primary caregiver. Emily lives in Seattle, siblings are in Colorado, and the weight of the "set up systems that don't stick" cycle is real. Courtney and her husband Jonathan recently moved his dad in with them — Lewis Body dementia, Parkinson's — and discovered that purpose and panic can live in the same house, sometimes at 6 a.m. in the front yard in their underwear. What this conversation actually is: three women telling the truth about caring for the people who raised us. The grief before the loss. The specific rage of setting up a care team that your mom then fires in a week. The gift of being able to show up in person vs. the exhaustion of long-distance coordination. The reminder, delivered quietly and perfectly by Emily partway through: this is their first and only time on this planet too — and they are lucky to have gotten this far. A gentle reminder to grieve the role change out loud, to let yourself cry when it happens instead of filing it away for later, and to approach your parent as the human they are, not the problem to be managed. We don't solve it. We just come to the table. If you're in it right now, some things to look into: Support groups for caregivers — there's one for whatever you're facing, and most now meet on Zoom. Try the Family Caregiver Alliance (caregiver.org), AARP's caregiver resources (aarp.org/caregiving), or search "[your parent's condition] caregiver support group" to find one specific to what you're walking through. Home-based care through Medicare / Medicaid — ask your parent's primary care doctor to connect you with a home health coordinator, or search for home-care programs in their state. Courtney's family worked with Carilion Clinic's home care team in Virginia; your region will have an equivalent. Alzheimer's Association 24/7 helpline: 1-800-272-3900 Eldercare Locator (US): 1-800-677-1116 Follow the show: 📧 thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com 🌐 https://thatwasnttheplan.com 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5RNnSi4FzNM3HbTpFErYgP 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/that-wasnt-the-plan/id1868758889 ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@That_Wasnt_The_Plan 📱 Instagram: @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎵 TikTok: @that_wasnt_the_plan If today's episode made you feel less alone — please rate, review, and share it with the friend who's also in the thick of it. That's the whole point. #ThatWasntThePlan #TWTPPodcast #SundayBrunch #SandwichGeneration #CaregiverSupport #AgingParents #GenX #CaregivingJourney #Dementia #LewisBodyDementia #AdultChildrenOfAgingParents #MidlifePodcast #WomenPodcasters #CaregiverBurnout #CaregivingAndCommunity #StoryDrivenPodcast Support the show

Send us Fan Mail No guest this week — just Emily and Courtney, a rainy day, some research, and an hour of the purest content this podcast has ever produced: animals doing extraordinary things for humans, for each other, and sometimes just because. This one started with the 9/11 anniversary, a story about rescue dogs, and a myth about beavers keeping a little boy warm. It ended with a dolphin in New Zealand talking two stranded whales home to open ocean. In between: lions in Ethiopia, a sea lion off the Golden Gate Bridge, a gorilla named Binti Jua, a parrot named Willie, a pot-bellied pig named Lulu, a 22-pound rabbit named Dory, an elephant named Ning Yang, and Courtney's late Chihuahuas Rooster and Dwayne Taylor Brown, who woke her up before an earthquake in LA and remain legendary. A merch announcement: Emily is compiling 35 episodes of best lines and you get to vote. WWBJD bracelets are already on the list "Do it for Binti." — Emily White, 2025 📎 Documentaries mentioned: 🐋 Fathom — whale communication documentary, highly recommended 🌉 The Bridge — documentary about the Golden Gate Bridge. Heavy. Interesting. Not for everyone. 🔒 STANDARD CLOSING 💌 Have an animal story that blew your mind? We want it. Email us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan 🎧 If this one made your day — subscribe, leave a review , and share it with someone who needs a reason to smile today. That wasn't the plan, and we will talk to you next week. K bye. 🐾 Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Everything you think you know about human trafficking is probably wrong. Dena Smiley is Chairman of the Board at Blazing Hope Ranch — a Tennessee-based Christian residential ministry that provides free two-year aftercare, equine-assisted healing, job training, and (for every graduate) a donated car and support finding a home, all for women over 30 who have survived sex trafficking. In 2025, Blazing Hope became the first gold-standard-certified safe house in the state of Tennessee. Dena didn't plan any of this. She grew up in suburban Southern California, went to UC San Diego, got a master's in social work from the University of Denver, and spent 15+ years as a clinical social worker. In 1994, she smuggled Bibles by bicycle across the border from Hong Kong into mainland China. In 2019 she started going to Nicaragua on medical mission trips into the brothels of the third-poorest country in the southern hemisphere. In 2021 she moved her family to Tennessee (yes, she Googled "most conservative states"), turned 50, and showed up sight unseen with her three kids to volunteer at a horse camp for kids at risk of being trafficked. By that fall she was on the board. By last summer she was running it. This is the education episode you didn't know you needed. Dena, Emily, and Courtney walk through: the recruitment tactic that isn't a white van (it's an "affluent straight-A student" and a guy behind her at a basketball game offering to introduce her to his tattoo-artist buddy); the "Blossom the Butterfly" curriculum from the Philippines that Blazing Hope uses to teach 8-to-13-year-olds about grooming without scaring them; why traffickers spike around the Super Bowl; why familial trafficking and intimate-partner recruitment are the dominant patterns (not kidnapping); the five biggest myths about who gets trafficked and where; and the warning signs to actually watch for in your community. Also: horses as emotional mirrors, why every Blazing Hope graduate gets a car, and the kindest thing anyone has ever done for Dena (it involves a haircut). Ways to help — beyond Blazing Hope Ranch: 🌾 Blazing Hope Ranch — Dayton, TN — BlazingHopeRanch.org 🎟️ Hootenanny for Hope — Thursday, Oct 16 at 6pm — Bryan College, Dayton, TN — free to attend, register at BlazingHopeRanch.org/events Hotlines to know: 📞 National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 (24/7, 200+ languages) 📱 Text HELP or INFO to 233733 (BeFree) 📞 Tennessee Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-855-55-TNHTH (86484) 📞 DHS Report a Tip: 1-866-347-2423 🚨 Emergency: 911 📞 National Center for Missing & Exploited Children: 1-800-THE-LOST (843-5678) Other trafficking organizations doing the work: Polaris Project — polarisproject.org International Justice Mission — ijm.org Shared Hope International — sharedhope.org ECPAT-USA — ecpatusa.org Thistle Farms (Nashville, TN — survivor employment) — thistlefarms.org Street Hope TN — streethopetn.org Seattle Against Slavery — seattleagainstslavery.org REST (Real Escape from the Sex Trade, Seattle) — iwantrest.com Follow the show: 📧 thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com 🌐 https://thatwasnttheplan.com 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5RNnSi4FzNM3HbTpFErYgP 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/that-wasnt-the-plan/id1868758889 ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@That_Wasnt_The_Plan 📱 Instagram: @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎵 TikTok: @that_wasnt_the_plan If today's episode moved you, please rate, review, and share. Awareness is protection. #ThatWasntThePlan #TWTPPodcast #HumanTraffickingAwareness #EndTrafficking #ChildProtection #GroomingAwareness #BlazingHopeRanch #FaithBasedNonprofit #EquineTherapy #Tennessee #Nonprofit #SafeHouse #ProtectKids #ParentAwareness #StoryDrivenPodcast Support the show

Send us Fan Mail (We open with a spirited debate about sweet potatoes and mayonnaise. Courtney flashes the camera. Miracle Whip is described as the devil's sauce. And then somehow we pivot to one of the most remarkable guests we've ever had on this show. This is That Wasn't The Plan.) This week Emily and Courtney sit down with Kurt Kemple — and we need you to hold two things in your head at once. In 2004, Kurt walked into a bank, slid a note across to the teller, and left with $2,000. He has absolutely no memory of doing this. He was in a Xanax blackout. He woke up the next morning in a jail cell, turned himself in, waited an entire year to be sentenced, and then sat in a courtroom and heard a judge say five to seven years. And in that moment, he made a decision: not a single minute wasted. Today Kurt is the Senior Director of Developer Relations for the Slack platform at Salesforce. He has written a book. He has published a piece on Medium called "I'm an Imposter" that still gets shared years later. He has taught himself theoretical physics using AI — with no background, no training, and no degree — and published two peer-reviewed papers in Physics Letters B , the second of which introduces a new theory about black holes that nobody had proposed before. He did all of this from a GED. "Fascinating. Tell me more." — Kurt Kemple's favorite phrase, and honestly now ours too. 📎 Find Kurt & Resources Mentioned: 🌐 Website: kurtiskemple.com ✍️ Medium: "I'm an Imposter" by Kurt Kemple 💼 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kurtiskemple 📚 Book: Effective DevReel — Springer 🔬 Physics Letters B — Kurt's published paper on black holes 💙 Struggling with addiction? You don't have to figure it out alone. SAMHSA helpline: 1-800-662-4357 (free, confidential, 24/7) or text 55753 to reach the Partnership to End Addiction. aa.org is always there too. 💌 Have a question for Kurt — or a story of your own? Email us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan 🎧 If this episode made you believe something was possible that didn't feel possible before — subscribe, leave a review , and share it with someone who needs to hear it. That wasn't the plan, and we will talk to you next week. K bye. 🥂 #SecondChances #ThatWasntThePlan #KurtKemple #ImpostorSyndrome #Prison #TheoreticalPhysics #Salesforce #GEDtoSuccess Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Do I Smell Almonds? No guest this week — just Emily and Courtney, one gorilla-glued tooth, and a three a.m. Google spiral that took a hard turn into poisons. What starts as Courtney describing the ongoing chemistry experiment happening in her mouth turns into a tour of everything that can kill you and a lot of things that probably won't. We're talking the top three most poisonous poisons (spoiler: fentanyl is #1, and Buddhism has its own list). Women who spent centuries poisoning husbands because divorce wasn't a thing. The Colorado dentist who was lacing his wife's protein shakes with cyanide in 2023. Trini and Carmen's Mexican restaurant in Michigan and the largest US botulism outbreak in history (spoiler: don't home-can your jalapeños wrong). There's a full segment on the world's most poisonous plant (rosary pea), most poisonous land animal (golden dart frog — don't touch), most venomous snake (inland taipan, shy but capable of killing a hundred adults per drop), and most venomous sea creature (Emily nails it on the first guess). Plus: how a cougar's jaw can crush a human skull, why mama deer are dropping their babies off in Courtney's neighbors' yards like it's a doggie daycare, and why "make it weird" is the most underrated self-defense strategy for women. Also: Chef Boyardee slander. The egg float test. The moment Courtney's brother almost let her die on a road trip from Virginia to San Francisco because of one bad oyster in Yuma. And an emerging fantasy about being David Hasselhoff-level big in Copenhagen. Follow the show: 📧 thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com 🌐 https://thatwasnttheplan.com 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5RNnSi4FzNM3HbTpFErYgP 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/that-wasnt-the-plan/id1868758889 ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@That_Wasnt_The_Plan 📱 Instagram: @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎵 TikTok: @that_wasnt_the_plan If today's episode made you laugh, made you Google something, or made you email your mom about egg storage — please rate, review, and share. It's the single biggest thing that helps us grow. #ThatWasntThePlan #TWTPPodcast #PoisonPodcast #TrueCrime #DarkHumor #Botulism #Cyanide #MidlifeWomen #Perimenopause #WomenInTheirForties #FoodSafety #Menopause #StoryDrivenPodcast #FunnyPodcast #WomenPodcasters #Copenhagen Support the show

Send us Fan Mail What happens when the story you've been telling yourself for ten years unravels over a single glass of wine on the other side of the world? Annie Elmendorf is a mother of two, a cyclist, an athlete, and a sister. She's also — as she'll tell you herself — someone who has spent most of her life trying to feel at home in her own body. This is a solo episode with Emily; Courtney couldn't make it. And the story Annie tells is one Annie has never told publicly before. It starts on a Tuesday morning in March, on a Wi-Fi scale that has sixteen years of her data on it, in the middle of a separation, at the end of a couple of dark months. Fifteen pounds gone. All muscle. And a voice on NPR that morning talking about becoming a bodybuilder — Elizabeth Smart, of all people. To understand how Annie got to that scale, we have to go back. Way back. To a childhood spent gaining and losing more than two hundred pounds. To a gastric bypass in 2010 that changed her life, and then — a year later — introduced her to the specific way alcohol hits a body that no longer has a stomach. "It's like shooting alcohol into your vein," she says. Most people hate that feeling. Annie loved it. We walk through ten years of sobriety built on fear. The MS bike ride. The triathlons. The Iron Mans. The 200-mile weeks. The Rafa 500. And a single glass of Rioja at a paella dinner in the Canary Islands where — as Annie put it — nobody there knew her. Two weeks later, on a movie theater bathroom floor with her fifteen-year-old son in the theater, her intestine twisted. Three weeks after that, a piece of her small intestine died inside her body. Two weeks in the hospital. And four months later, on blood thinners, she rode across the Pyrenees. On the flight to Barcelona, she ordered a glass of white wine. Her mother died in June 2023. Annie went to the grocery store that day and bought a twelve-pack of ranch water. What followed was a year and a half of nightly drinking, "controlled" in the way addicts mean when they say the word. Then, in December 2023, a morning she can only describe as divine intervention. Thirty days of treatment in January 2024. Ninety meetings in ninety days. Now — three to five meetings a week, a bodybuilding coach in California, and the possibility of competing in the over-fifty division next fall. This is an episode about the still quiet voice you spend decades ignoring, about what it costs to finally stop performing wellness, and about the difference between fear-quitting and actually doing the work. Also: why post-gastric-bypass alcohol nearly killed her, why "transfer addiction" is a phrase she can now name out loud, and a stranger in a Texas pickup truck who reminded her that people are also good. Resources mentioned: 🩷 If you or someone you love is struggling with alcohol — AA has a meeting near you: aa.org Follow the show: 📧 thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com 🌐 https://thatwasnttheplan.com 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5RNnSi4FzNM3HbTpFErYgP 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/that-wasnt-the-plan/id1868758889 ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@That_Wasnt_The_Plan 📱 Instagram: @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎵 TikTok: @that_wasnt_the_plan If today's episode moved you, please rate, review, and share. It's the single biggest thing that helps us grow. #ThatWasntThePlan #TWTPPodcast #Recovery #Sobriety #Alcoholism #GastricBypass #WomensHealth #Midlife #Perimenopause #Menopause #Bodybuilding #WomensBodybuilding #ElizabethSmart #EnduranceAthlete #Cycling #IronMan #AAmeetings #TransferAddiction #StoryDrivenPodcast Support the show

Send us Fan Mail "Send me all the genitals" ft. Dr. Patty Brennan What do you do when the wildest sentence of your career is "I was sure it was a worm" ? Dr. Patty Brennan is a Colombian-born, Cornell-trained evolutionary biologist, a full Professor of Biological Sciences at Mount Holyoke College, and the world's leading expert on vertebrate genital coevolution. She's been featured in The New York Times, National Geographic, Scientific American, The Guardian, Slate, and NPR — and she's a featured scientist in the upcoming documentary Second Nature , narrated by Elliot Page. Before all of that, she was one of five sisters in Bogotá who became a biologist because she figured out she could scare her sisters off with bugs. Patty wrote us a line before we ever spoke that could be the tagline of this entire podcast: "The title of your podcast could be the byline for my scientific career." And she wasn't kidding. This episode is the whole arc — the girl who talked her way onto a research ketch in the Galapagos to scuba dive around the world (and got no further than the Galapagos, and married the American man she was never going to marry, thirty years ago). The moment she and her crew photographed the first live sighting of a whale that had only ever been known from a skull. The pivot to Cornell for marine mammals, the switch to birds, and the day in the Costa Rican rainforest when she thought she'd found a parasite and instead discovered a career. In 2013, Fox News, Sean Hannity, and Sarah Palin came for her NSF-funded research. She hid under her desk for a week — and then wrote back. What happened next was not the plan. Also: why females across the animal kingdom have weapons nobody was looking at, why 3% of birds have penises and the rest don't, why the full three-dimensional structure of the human clitoris wasn't mapped until the mid-1990s, dolphins as sexual harassers, Elliot Page's production company, and the Harlequin duck — the one duck that is not, in Patty's words, a "rapist duck." Watch or request a screening of Second Nature : 🎬 secondnaturedocumentary.com Books Patty mentioned: 📖 Vagina Obscura by Rachel Gross 📖 Bitch by Lucy Cooke 📖 Poking the Squid by Perry Ireland Follow the show: 📧 thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com 🌐 www.thatwasnttheplan.com 📱 Instagram: @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎵 TikTok: @that_wasnt_the_plan ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@That_Wasnt_The_Plan If today's episode made you laugh, made you think, or made you text a science-curious friend — please rate, review, and share. It's the single biggest thing that helps us grow. #ThatWasntThePlan #TWTPPodcast #DuckPenises #EvolutionaryBiology #WomenInSTEM #WomenInScience #MountHolyoke #Cornell #BasicScience #ScienceCommunication #SecondNatureDoc #ElliotPage #ColombianScientist #Galapagos #Genitalia #Vagina #DolphinSex #EvolutionaryBiology #StoryDrivenPodcast Support the show

Send us Fan Mail What happens when the paperwork for your son's college applications cracks open something you thought you'd buried 35 years ago? Lucas Smith is a Colorado-native-turned-Seattleite, a software engineer of 15+ years working at the intersection of AI and tech, a multi-instrumentalist, an avid cyclist, a master of the smoker (the grill kind), and the host of the Not Retired Yet podcast. And in about a month, he and his wife are driving their only son six hours south and dropping him off at college. What was supposed to be college paperwork became something else entirely. Somewhere between forms and financial aid, Lucas started losing sleep, getting angry at nothing, and couldn't figure out why. Until he traced it back to being 18 himself — the year his parents split, the family disintegrated, and a version of him was left to raise himself on his friend Dave's floor. This is an episode about handing your kid every single thing you never got. About Gen X and the eye of the hurricane between launching kids and aging parents. About unreliable memory, the sandwich generation, marriages that survive the empty nest (and the ones that don't), and Lucas's very honest admission that it was never part of the plan to live this long. Also: a 1984 drum machine, why our brains don't remember the diapers, and what a "pack horse" does when he finally has to plan. Follow Lucas & check out his podcast: 🎧 Not Retired Yet — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-retired-yet/id1823048074 Follow the show: 📧 thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com 🌐 www.thatwasnttheplan.com 📱 Instagram: @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎵 TikTok: @that_wasnt_the_plan ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@That_Wasnt_The_Plan If today's episode moved you, made you laugh, or made you text a Gen X friend — please rate, review, and share. It's the single biggest thing that helps us grow. #ThatWasntThePlan #TWTPPodcast #NotRetiredYet #GenX #EmptyNest #LatchkeyKids #MidlifePivots #SandwichGeneration #FatherAndSon #CollegeDropOff #SeattlePodcast #Memory #Fatherhood #GenXParents Support the show

Send us Fan Mail This week Emily and Courtney sit down with Daisy Fulgham — wardrobe stylist turned sex and relationship coach, devoted wife of 34 years, mother of two, and the woman who, at 54, Googled "sex coaching programs," sat down with her husband, and signed up before she could talk herself out of it. After the first weekend she was completely hooked. After this episode, you will be too. Daisy is warm, funny, disarmingly wise, and absolutely not here to talk about what you think she's here to talk about. Because this isn't really about sex. It's about intimacy. And intimacy, she'll tell you, is just deeply knowing yourself — all of it, the bright parts and the dark parts, the wounds and the triggers and the beautiful, complicated mess of being human — and meeting all of it with curiosity instead of judgment. "Shame can't really grow with a bunch of light on it." — Daisy Fulgham What you'll hear: The difference between therapy and sex coaching — and why Daisy's favorite clients are the ones who already have a therapist, because they're ready to stop just talking about things and start practicing them What most people are actually coming to her for when they book a session (spoiler: it's not what you think — it's _____________) Old narratives: the stories we were handed about who we're supposed to be as men and women, and why none of them are paying off for anyone Self-improvement vs. self-love — why we've been sold one when we desperately need the other, and what the difference actually looks like in practice The shame share : a simple, structured exercise for letting something you've never told anyone out into the light — and why shame physically loses its grip when someone witnesses you without judgment Pleasure as a radical act — "whether it's your kickball team, your knitting group, or sex in a ten-person orgy, you are just loving yourself so much more" — and why the patriarchy needs us to believe we haven't earned it yet What intimacy actually means — and why it's been quietly swapped out for the word "sex" by everyone who doesn't want to say sex Big Cat Energy — Daisy's concept of staying connected to that inner flow of energy that makes you more alive, more engaged, more sparkly — and how fashion and clothing can be a doorway into it Courtney's lingerie shower story: her mom, a Catholic schoolgirl costume, her brother, a grass skirt, two coconuts, and some genuinely excellent chaos Emily on pleasure post-cancer: huffing Lady Chunk the cat for five seconds and not caring what anyone thinks The embodiment breathing exercise anyone can do before they leave the house — and why Daisy is always surprised at how much it changes every interaction that comes after And a promise of an ethical porn list, available by email, no questions asked, anonymous welcome. Below is info for Ethical Porn! Email us. Daisy is accepting new clients. This is your sign. 📎 Find Daisy: 🌸 Website: daisyfulgham.com 📲 Instagram: @Daisy.Fulgham.coaching 📩 Want the ethical porn resource list? Email us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com — no explanation needed, no judgment, we promise 💌 Have a question for Daisy — or a story you've been carrying? Email us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎧 If this one hit you somewhere soft — subscribe, leave a review , and share it with someone who needs permission to take up space. That wasn't the plan, and we will talk to you next week. K bye. 🥂 Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Turns out That Wasn't The Plan is basically a Canadian podcast at this point. Toronto, Vancouver, Montreal, Calgary, Edmonton — you all showed up before anyone south of the border figured out what was happening. So Emily and Courtney decided to do the only reasonable thing: dedicate an entire episode to the Great White North. Courtney, for the record, is a dual citizen. Born in Newfoundland on a military base. Canada was apparently on the edge of their seat waiting to find out whether she'd claim it. Life happened. She forgot. She found out at the Social Security office in Los Angeles while in her twenties and spent the rest of the day walking around going "dual citizen." She has still never been back. She and Jonathan are planning their honeymoon there. One bathroom on a houseboat is where she draws the line. Emily, meanwhile, is accepting suitors. Canadian ones specifically. Three hours south of the border. Funny is non-negotiable. You know where to find us. What you'll learn about Canada in this episode: 🩺 Insulin — invented at the University of Toronto in 1921. Probably saved more lives than anything else on this list 🍕 Hawaiian pizza — invented by a Greek-Canadian man in Chatham, Ontario in 1962. The world's most divisive pizza is Canada's fault and we respect it 🎲 Trivial Pursuit — dreamed up by two Montrealers over beers. Courtney's strategy: say "that's what I was gonna say" every single time ❤️ The pacemaker and IMAX — both Canadian. We'll just let that sit there 🍟 Poutine — rural Quebec, 1950s, several restaurants currently in a very polite dispute about who invented it 🍁 Maple taffy on snow — hot maple syrup poured over clean snow, rolled onto a stick. Canadians looked at a blizzard and made dessert 💰 The Great Maple Syrup Heist — thieves robbed Quebec's strategic maple syrup reserve for roughly $18 million Canadian dollars in 2011-2012. Yes, there is a strategic maple syrup reserve. Yes, this is real 🍟 Ketchup chips, all-dress chips, Tim Hortons, and the Double Double — Emily has never had any of these and is prepared to drive to Vancouver to fix that 🎭 The absolutely staggering list of Canadian comedians and entertainers: Mike Myers, Jim Carrey, Dan Aykroyd, John Candy, Eugene Levy, Catherine O'Hara, Martin Short, Rick Moranis, Leslie Nielsen, Rachel McAdams, Ryan Gosling, Ryan Reynolds, Joni Mitchell, Leonard Cohen, Neil Young, Drake, Celine Dion, Shania Twain — we could go on 🏃 Terry Fox — who ran a marathon a day across Canada on one leg to raise money for cancer research before dying from it. Look him up 📺 Schitt's Creek and Anne of Green Gables — both beloved, both Canadian, Courtney watches Schitt's Creek with her whole family 🐋 The orcas of the Salish Sea — shared between Seattle and Vancouver Island, and Emily's personal neighbors 🐻 Polar bears of Churchill, Manitoba — self-declared polar bear capital of the world, where you can ride Tundra buggies out to see them up close 🦦 Beavers as ecological engineers — and why reintroducing them wherever possible might actually help save the planet 🚀 CanadaArm — the robotic arm that's been deploying satellites and supporting the International Space Station since the shuttle era 👻 The Old Hag of Newfoundland — centuries of folklore around waking up unable to move with a figure sitting on your chest, which we now call sleep paralysis. The cures included saying your name backwards, which Emily and Courtney attempt with very mixed results. Yentruoc Dnalloh is flawless. Ylime Etihw is a work in progress 🦕 Sasquatch Country — Harrison Hot Springs, BC, where local lore claims Sasquatches gather for reunions near the lake 🐉 Cadborosaurus — BC's own sea serpent, affectionately called Caddy, with a horse-or-camel-like head and an impressive number of alleged sightings 📩 Canada — write in and tell us where you're from. And Australians — you're next. Courtney's already planning your episode. 💌 Write in and tell us where you're listening from! thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎧 If this made you laugh — or if you're Canadian and just feel deeply seen right now — subscribe, leave a review , and tell a friend. Especially a Canadian one. That wasn't the plan, and we will talk to you next week. K bye. 🍁 Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back. Season 2. We opened with a tiger shark. Seemed right. That Wasn't The Plan is back for Season 2 — and we are not easing anyone in gently. Our first guest is Kinga Philipps : journalist, explorer, Shark Week host, Explorers Club Fellow, and one of the coolest humans on the planet. If you don't know Kinga yet, you're about to. We start where you'd expect — with a flight cancellation. Emily spent the night on the floor of LAX, made it to Australia, made it back, and showed up for this recording slightly jet-lagged and fully feral. What follows is one of the most genuinely fun, unexpectedly educational, and thoroughly unhinged conversations we've had on this show. And we've had some unhinged ones. What you'll hear: Kinga watched Jaws at a friend's house as a kid — wasn't allowed to — and was so terrified she couldn't go in a swimming pool for years. The little journalist brain in her eventually asked why she was scared, and that question changed the entire trajectory of her life Emily's own shark encounter in the Galapagos — six feet, two feet behind her, just curious — and what it actually feels like when the predator energy shifts What to do if a shark comes at you in the water — and why the Instagram influencer advice will absolutely get you killed The scariest moment of Kinga's career. 73 million sharks are killed every year for shark fin soup. What Shark Allies is doing about it, why it's working, and how you can help Kinga's new Shark Week show: What Shark Attacked? — forensic shark species identification using GoPro footage, bite mark analysis, and actual science. Airs July 30th And a tease for next time: ayahuasca . Kinga has an article. Courtney has questions. We're going back in. "You're safe in the water, ladies." — Kinga Philipps, probably not talking about all the other stuff we discussed 📎 Find Kinga & Resources Mentioned: 📲 Instagram: @kingaphilipps 🦈 Shark Allies: sharkallies.org (board member — shark conservation, fin trade legislation) 💧 Waves for Water: wavesforwater.org (clean water solutions globally) 📺 Shark Week 2025 — What Shark Attacked? airs July 30th on Discovery 📖 The Devil's Teeth by Susan Casey — go read it 💌 Have a question for Kinga you want us to put in front of her for round two? Email us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan_podcast . Kinga is on Instagram at @kingaphilipps 🎧 Season 2 is here. If you're glad we're back — subscribe, leave a review, and share us with someone who needs a shark story in their life. That wasn't the plan, and we will talk to you next week. K bye. 🥂 Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Happy 25th episode, everybody — and welcome to the Season One Finale of That Wasn't The Plan. Emily and Courtney sit down to close out Season 1 the only way they know how: completely unscripted, slightly unhinged, and somehow still kind of profound. Courtney opens with a literal cliffhanger, lands the plane on a calm, clear decision about her own health at 46, and then the two of them spend the rest of the episode doing what they do best — laughing, oversharing, and somehow turning a discussion about late-night jelly bean habits into something genuinely sweet. This one's a love letter to Season 1. They recap their favorite guest moments, reflect on what the show has become, and set up what's coming in Season 2 — launching July 23rd . Thank you for 25 episodes of listening, laughing, and showing up for this show. Season 2 is going to be even better. Go back and revisit your favorite episodes from Season 1 while we're away — and tell us which ones you want more of. 📎 Mentioned in this episode: Lindsay Brockman's tooth-flying moment: watch around the 45-minute mark of the Lindsay Brockman grief episode on YouTube or Spotify 💌 Have a story, a question, or feedback on Season 1? We want to hear it. Email us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan . All episodes are also up on Spotify and YouTube if you want to see our faces (filters and all — full transparency). 🎧 Season 2 launches July 23rd. Until then — please subscribe, leave a review, share us with a friend. It genuinely helps more than you know. That wasn't the plan, and we will see you in Season 2. K bye. 🥂 Support the show

Send us Fan Mail This week's guest , Jonathan Fitzgerald, showed up with a life story that none of us were fully prepared for. Jonathan grew up the middle child of ten in Sarasota, Florida, in a family that could only be described as a force of nature. His parents — both only children, for the record — moved to Virginia to help found a Bible college and wound up with 48 grandchildren. His father delivered seven of the ten kids at home after reading nine books on childbirth, built a prototype birthing chair in his garage, and tried to patent it. Nobody roasted him at his 50th birthday party because everyone was too busy crying about how much they love him. Jonathan's life goal since his teenage years was simple: be an amazing husband, be an amazing father, have as many children as possible. He did all of that. And then the 2008 housing crash wiped out his painting business, his marriage unraveled under the weight of financial stress and lost communication, and he found himself — sober, broke, and completely on his own — raising five kids between the ages of two and sixteen while working 7 to 5 for someone else and coaching two of them in football. He never missed a practice. "I've got way more content." — Jonathan Fitzgerald. He's coming back. 💌 Got a story you want to share? We'd love to hear it. Reach us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan podcast 🎧 If this one made you laugh, cry, or call your dad — subscribe, leave a review , and share it with someone who needs it. That wasn't the plan, and we will talk to you next week. K bye. 🥂 Support the show

Send us Fan Mail (We open with Courtney's puppy accidentally getting marijuana poisoning. This is relevant because it sets the tone perfectly for an episode about a man whose life has taken approximately seventeen unexpected turns.) This week's guest is Richard Ault — and his coworkers call him the most interesting person in the world. After about ten minutes, Emily and Courtney stopped arguing with that assessment. Richard is a biologist by training, a technologist by accident, and a high school teacher by something that can only be described as the universe intervening at exactly the right moment. His story runs from a latchkey childhood in Bethesda, Maryland to the Arctic tundra, from a rooftop party in San Francisco that accidentally launched his tech career to the inside of Napster during one of the most chaotic moments in music industry history — and then back down: addiction, bankruptcy, almost moving into his car, and finally, improbably, joyfully, back into a classroom. He's been sober for 13 years. He hiked to nearly 12,000 feet with his students two weeks ago. His favorite band is Tool. He is exactly who he appears to be. Richard's closing answer to "what's the kindest thing anyone's ever done for you?" might be the best we've ever gotten on this show. "It's stupid and corny, but — that wasn't the plan." — Richard Ault, nailing it. 💌 Have a story, a question, or something you want to share? Email us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit us at thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎧 If this episode moved you, please subscribe, leave a review , and share it with someone who needs to hear that the bottom isn't the end of the story. That wasn't the plan, and we will talk to you next week. K bye. 🥂 Support the show

Send us Fan Mail No guest. No agenda. No plan. Just Emily and Courtney showing up, catching each other up on their weeks, and somehow covering: shoplifting ethics, a stolen Power Ranger backpack, a suspicious kid at Target, toad venom, recovery, sitting with your feelings, and a stroller left alone in a parking lot that may or may not have had a baby in it. This is one of those episodes that was never supposed to be anything — and ends up being kind of everything. Grab a coffee, put your earbuds in, and hang out with us for a bit. "Life is not glossy and beautiful. It's fucking nasty. But it's also... real." — Emily White, 2025, exhausted as usual 📎 Reach out: Have a story, a question, or something you've been carrying? We read anonymous submissions. Email us: thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit thatwasnttheplan.com. 💌 Reach us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or visit us at thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplanpodcast 🎧 If you like what we're doing, subscribe, leave a review , and share us with a friend. It genuinely helps more than you know. That wasn't the plan, and we will talk to you next week. K bye. 🥂 Support the show

Send us Fan Mail (Courtney's back, everyone. Let the drinks flow. Also — Courtney's tooth made a brief unscheduled disappearance. We kept it in. You're welcome.) This week, Emily and Courtney sit down with someone doing some of the most quietly essential work in grief support: Lindsay Brockman , licensed veterinary nurse, certified pet loss grief specialist, and founder of EverKin Pet Loss Support out of Richmond, Virginia. Lindsay has fifteen years across ER, end-of-life, and community animal medicine — and she's seen firsthand what happens when the humans in those exam rooms are left to navigate loss with nothing but a sympathy card and a parking validation. Her framework is built around disenfranchised grief — the grief the world doesn't quite know how to honor. The grief that gets "it was just a pet." Or "you'll get another one." Or the silence where a casserole should be. Lindsay's entire practice exists to say: no. All grief deserves support. But Lindsay brings more than professional expertise to this conversation. Earlier this year, her son Jack was stillborn at 38 weeks. And in one of the most honest, tender moments we've had on this show, she talks about how both losses — the ones she holds for clients, and the one she carries herself — share the same language. The same weight. The same need to be witnessed. What you'll hear in this one: What disenfranchised grief actually means — and why pet loss is one of its biggest, most overlooked forms What fifteen years in vet ER looks like from the inside — and why grief literacy training for veterinary teams matters so much Compassion fatigue: what it actually is (and why it's not the same as burnout), and the org Not One More Vet fighting to support vet professionals Courtney's story of losing Rooster during the pandemic — and arriving at a locked ER door at 2am, sobbing, saying "I'm coming" "We don't move on. We move with." — what honoring grief actually looks like What NOT to say to a grieving person — and what to say instead when you genuinely don't know what to say Curly Sue — Lindsay's new rescue from Richmond Animal League, who weighs almost exactly what Jack weighed, and only wants to be held Weighted Angels , a volunteer organization making weighted stuffed animals for parents who leave the hospital without their baby Lady Chunk's live cameo (the cat had opinions and made them known) Human names for animals: Alan, Susan, Patricia, Gary, Frank — we stand by all of it And the grocery store pasta sauce incident, which is one of the best grief stories we've ever heard on this show Lindsay's tagline is a Ram Dass quote: "We are all just walking each other home." By the end of this episode, you'll understand exactly why. 📎 Find Lindsay & Resources Mentioned: 🌿 EverKin Pet Loss Support: EverkinPetLoss.com 📲 Instagram: @EverkinPetLoss 💙 Not One More Vet: nomv.org 🤍 Weighted Angels: https://www.weightedangels.com/ Lindsay's books reopen June 1st — if you or someone you love needs support, now's the time to reach out. 💌 Have a story about a plan that went sideways? We want to hear it. Reach out at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🐾 If this episode moved you, please subscribe, leave a review , and pass it along to anyone who's ever loved an animal — or a person — and been told to just get over it. And as always — whatever plan you had? We're glad you're here anyway. 🥂 Support the show

Send us Fan Mail (Fair warning: Emily's mouth was fully uncensored this episode — blame the tech gremlins. Also, our earrings nearly derailed the whole thing. You'll hear it. We kept it in.) This week, Emily's co-host Courtney Holland is out due to an emergency — but honestly, today's guest doesn't need a wingman. Hilary Morris Pawlik has been Emily's ride-or-die since the eighth grade, and she shows up today to talk about something that affects 1 in 10 women and yet somehow remains one of the most underdiagnosed, underfunded, and dismissed conditions in medicine: endometriosis. Hilary is a professional dancer, award-winning choreographer, and co-director of Artist Entrance Dance Company in Los Angeles. She's performed with The Hollywood Pinup Girls and the Mental Head Circus vaudeville show, and she's basically done everything short of the Iditarod. But today, she's here to tell a different kind of story — the one about years of painful periods, fertility struggles, a missed diagnosis, a baseball-sized cyst, sepsis , and an emergency surgery that revealed her organs had started fusing together. What they cover: What endometriosis actually is (and why so many women — and their doctors — have no idea) The surprisingly wide range of symptoms, from painful periods to shortness of breath, leg pain, and GI issues Medical gaslighting: being told you're not in "enough" pain to have endo IVF, a uterine septum, and the winding road to becoming a mom Going from "watch and wait" to hospitalized with sepsis — while her husband was in Thailand The surgeon who quite literally saved her life (Dr. Richard Freeman at the Disney Cancer Center in Burbank) Why your regular OB/GYN may not be equipped to handle this — and where to find a specialist The Huberman Lab episode with Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi that every woman should listen to A Long Island research study actively enrolling women who haven't been diagnosed yet — and why that matters The hormonal birth control decision Hilary resisted and then reversed — and why she's so glad she did Community, support groups, and why both Emily and Hilary swear by themIf you have a uterus, know someone who does, or you're just a decent human who believes women deserve better healthcare — this episode is for you. 📎 Resources mentioned: 🎙️ Huberman Lab — "Female Hormone Health, PCOS, Endometriosis, Fertility & Breast Cancer" ft. Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hMzfGZnaPN8 🔬 ROSE Research Study (Northwell Health / Feinstein Institutes) — endometriosis research enrolling participants: https://feinstein.northwell.edu/institutes-researchers/institute-molecular-medicine/robert-s-boas-center-for-genomics-and-human-genetics/rose-research-outsmarts-endometriosis 📲 Find Hilary on Instagram: @hilarypawlik 💌 Have a story about a plan that went sideways? We want to hear it. Reach out to us at thatwasnttheplanpod@gmail.com or www.thatwasnttheplan.com 📲 Find us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube — search @thatwasnttheplan_podcast 🎧 If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review , and share it with a friend who needs to hear it. It genuinely helps us grow the show and reach more people. And as always — whatever plan you had? We're glad you're here anyway. 🥂 Support the show