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The Backdoor Podcast with Steph & Kayls is where no question is off-limits. The viral duo behind TikTok’s hit “question series” take their raw, hilarious chemistry to the mic — diving deep into relationships, social media, and the realities of being viral creators, parents, and OnlyFans personalities. Expect unfiltered conversations, hot takes, and the kind of honesty everyone thinks but never says. Because sometimes, the real talk happens through the backdoor. NEW episodes Monday & Thusdays.
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In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast, we dive into one of the biggest questions couples ask themselves: Are we actually sexually compatible? We discuss: • What sexual compatibility really means (and what it doesn't) • Whether compatibility is something you're born with or something you build together • Signs you and your partner may be sexually compatible • Common causes of mismatched libidos • The role communication plays in a healthy sex life • How emotional connection impacts physical intimacy • Expectations vs. reality in long-term relationships • Red flags couples often ignore • Ways to strengthen intimacy and connection over time Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or somewhere in between, this conversation explores the challenges, misconceptions, and realities of maintaining a satisfying intimate relationship. Listen now and join the conversation. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Things Men Secretly Need But Rarely Admit | Ep. 82 What do men actually need in a relationship that they rarely say out loud? In this episode, we’re getting honest about the emotional needs men often keep to themselves and the things they wish their partners understood without having to ask. We talk about: The reassurance men secretly need Why appreciation matters more than you might think Feeling respected and valued in a relationship Affection and intimacy beyond sex Why men sometimes struggle to communicate their needs The importance of having a partner who genuinely listens Things men wish women understood about how they process emotions The difference between being “strong” and feeling supported The little things that can make a man feel loved and wanted Sometimes the things your partner needs most are the things they’ll never actually ask for. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What Your Partner Wishes You Knew But Will Never Tell You There are probably things your partner wishes you understood without having to ask—but for one reason or another, they may never actually say them out loud. In this episode, we get into the thoughts, feelings, frustrations, and expectations that partners often keep to themselves. We talk about the little things that can make someone feel loved and appreciated, the things that quietly hurt, the importance of feeling heard and desired, and the expectations couples sometimes assume their partner should already understand. We also discuss why people hold back from saying what they really feel and how unspoken thoughts can eventually create distance in a relationship. This episode is an honest conversation about the things your partner might wish you noticed, understood, or did differently—but may be too nervous, uncomfortable, or afraid to actually tell you. Topics discussed include: Things partners secretly wish you understood Feeling appreciated and valued The little things that matter in a relationship Unspoken expectations Feeling heard and understood Affection, attention, and quality time Things that quietly hurt your partner Why partners sometimes hold back their feelings Communication and emotional needs How unspoken frustrations can affect a relationship What couples can do to better understand each other Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
The Relationship Double Standards We All Have We all have relationship standards—but are we actually willing to follow the same rules we expect from our partner? In this episode, we have an honest conversation about the double standards that can show up in relationships and dating, including the ones we may not even realize we have. We discuss the different expectations people can have for themselves versus their partners, from friendships and social media to jealousy, communication, going out, money, attraction, and boundaries. We also debate whether some double standards are actually unfair or if there are situations where different expectations can make sense. This episode is all about holding ourselves accountable, recognizing our own contradictions, and asking whether we'd be okay with our partner doing the exact same things we do. Topics discussed include: Double standards we have in relationships Expecting things from your partner you don't do yourself Social media and relationship boundaries Jealousy and insecurity Friendships with the opposite sex Going out without your partner Communication and texting expectations Money and spending habits Attraction and flirting Relationship rules and personal boundaries Whether every double standard is actually unfair Holding yourself accountable in a relationship Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
The Habits That Make Someone Fall Out Of Love Falling out of love doesn't always happen because of one huge mistake. Sometimes, it's the small habits that slowly create distance, resentment, and disconnection over time. In this episode, we talk about the everyday behaviors that can quietly change the way your partner feels about you and your relationship. We discuss how taking someone for granted, poor communication, constant criticism, lack of affection, unresolved arguments, emotional distance, and stopping the effort can slowly damage a relationship. We also explore how relationships can change when couples become too comfortable and stop intentionally making each other feel valued. This episode is an honest conversation about the habits that can slowly kill attraction and connection—and what couples can do before those habits become impossible to ignore. Topics discussed include: Taking your partner for granted Lack of effort and consistency Constant criticism and negativity Poor communication Emotional distance and shutting down Neglecting affection and intimacy Never resolving arguments Losing appreciation for your partner Becoming too comfortable in a relationship How small habits can create major relationship problems Ways couples can reconnect before it's too late Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
The Green Flags We Ignore Everyone talks about red flags, but what about the green flags? In this episode, we shift the focus to the positive qualities that often get overlooked in relationships and discuss why they're just as important—if not more important—than spotting warning signs. We break down the healthy behaviors that build trust, respect, and long-term compatibility, while also asking an important question: Is it actually a green flag... or is it just the bare minimum? In a fun segment, we debate common relationship behaviors and decide whether they deserve praise or should simply be expected in a healthy partnership. From communication and consistency to emotional maturity, accountability, and mutual respect, this episode explores what truly makes a relationship strong and why social media may have lowered—or raised—our expectations in all the wrong ways. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or simply reevaluating what you want in a partner, this conversation will help you recognize the qualities that deserve more attention. Topics discussed include: The green flags people often overlook Green Flag or Bare Minimum? (special segment) Consistency vs. grand gestures Healthy communication habits Emotional maturity and accountability Respect, trust, and reliability Relationship standards and expectations What healthy love actually looks like Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Awkward Questions We Don't Ask Our Partners Every relationship has uncomfortable conversations that somehow never happen. Whether it's out of fear, embarrassment, or simply not knowing how to bring them up, avoiding these questions can leave room for misunderstandings and unmet expectations. In this episode, we dive into the awkward questions couples often avoid asking each other—from finances, intimacy, and future plans to insecurities, boundaries, past experiences, and personal habits. We talk about why these conversations feel so difficult, what can happen when they're left unspoken, and how asking the right questions can actually strengthen trust, communication, and long-term compatibility. If you've ever wondered whether you're avoiding a conversation you should probably have, this episode is packed with relatable moments, honest opinions, and practical insights for building a healthier relationship. Topics discussed include: The awkward questions most couples avoid Why uncomfortable conversations matter Money, goals, and future expectations Boundaries and personal privacy Intimacy and emotional needs Past relationships and difficult topics Communication habits that build trust How to bring up sensitive conversations without creating conflict Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What's Something You'd Never Tell Your Partner? Is complete honesty always the best policy, or are there some thoughts that are better left unsaid? In this episode, we explore the question every couple has probably thought about but rarely admits out loud: Is there anything you'd never tell your partner? We discuss the difference between privacy and secrecy, whether every thought needs to be shared, harmless white lies, past relationships, attraction to other people, embarrassing moments, and the boundaries that help build trust rather than break it. We also dive into when honesty strengthens a relationship, when it can create unnecessary hurt, and how couples can communicate openly without feeling like they have to reveal every single thought. Whether you're dating, engaged, or married, this episode offers an honest conversation about trust, communication, and finding the balance between transparency and personal privacy in a healthy relationship. Topics discussed include: Is total honesty always the right approach? Privacy vs. keeping secrets in a relationship White lies and whether they're ever acceptable Thoughts you don't have to share with your partner Past relationships and difficult conversations Trust, boundaries, and emotional safety When honesty helps—and when it can hurt Building stronger communication without oversharing Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
The Biggest Myths From Social Media Social media is packed with advice, trends, and opinions—but how much of it is actually true? In this episode, we break down some of the biggest myths the internet continues to spread about relationships, dating, and everyday life, and discuss how these ideas can shape our expectations without us even realizing it. We dive into viral relationship "rules," unrealistic lifestyle standards, the pressure to constantly compare yourself to others, and why so much online advice lacks real-life context. We also share our own experiences as content creators, discussing the difference between what people see online and what actually happens behind the scenes. If you've ever caught yourself wondering whether social media is helping or hurting the way we think, this episode is an honest conversation about separating fact from fiction and focusing on what really matters. Topics discussed include: The biggest myths social media has normalized Viral relationship advice that isn't always realistic Comparison culture and unrealistic expectations Why highlight reels distort reality The pressure to live a "picture-perfect" life Behind the scenes of being content creators Learning to think critically about online advice Building confidence without comparing yourself to others Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
The Lies Social Media Tells Us About Relationships Social media has changed the way we view love, dating, and long-term relationships—but is it setting unrealistic expectations? In this episode, we unpack some of the biggest myths social media promotes and how they can quietly impact the way we see our own relationships. From highlight reels that make every couple look perfect to viral relationship advice, unrealistic standards, public validation, and comparison culture, we discuss how online content can shape our expectations in ways we don't always recognize. We also talk about the pressure to create a "picture-perfect" relationship, why every relationship looks different behind the scenes, and how to build confidence in your relationship without comparing it to what you see online. Whether you're constantly seeing relationship content on your feed or you've caught yourself comparing your relationship to someone else's, this episode offers an honest conversation about separating social media from reality. Topics discussed include: The biggest relationship myths social media pushes Comparison culture and unrealistic expectations The pressure to have a "perfect" relationship online Viral dating advice: helpful or harmful? Public validation and posting your relationship How social media affects trust, communication, and self-esteem Building a healthy relationship away from the internet Focusing on what's real instead of what's viral Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
The Relationship Dealbreakers That Aren't Obvious When people think of relationship dealbreakers, they usually picture cheating, lying, or abuse—but what about the subtle issues that slowly wear a relationship down over time? In this episode, we explore the less obvious dealbreakers that often go unnoticed until they become major problems. We discuss how poor communication, emotional immaturity, lack of effort, incompatible life goals, financial habits, unresolved resentment, and mismatched expectations can quietly damage even strong relationships. We also talk about the difference between a red flag that can be worked through and a true dealbreaker that may signal long-term incompatibility. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or reflecting on past experiences, this conversation will help you identify the warning signs that aren't always talked about—and encourage you to think about what you should and shouldn't compromise on in a healthy relationship. Topics discussed include: The subtle dealbreakers people often overlook Communication habits that quietly hurt relationships Emotional maturity and accountability Effort, consistency, and feeling appreciated Financial values and lifestyle compatibility Trust beyond cheating and dishonesty When a red flag becomes a dealbreaker Knowing when to work through issues—or walk away Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
The Things We Never Thought We'd Argue About... Every couple has those moments where you stop mid-argument and think, "How did we end up fighting about this?" In this episode, we dive into the unexpected disagreements that have come up throughout our relationship—things we never imagined would become actual debates. From texting habits and household responsibilities to money, parenting, social media, and everyday annoyances, we share the funny, frustrating, and surprisingly meaningful arguments that taught us the most about communication. We also discuss why small disagreements often point to bigger issues, how assumptions can create unnecessary conflict, and the strategies we've learned to resolve arguments in a healthier way. Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or just curious about what really happens behind the scenes in long-term relationships, this episode is full of honest stories, relatable moments, and practical takeaways that will remind you every couple argues—it’s how you handle those disagreements that matters. Topics discussed include: The arguments we never expected to have Why little things can become big relationship issues Communication mistakes couples commonly make Household habits and daily frustrations Money and spending differences Parenting disagreements and expectations Social media boundaries and online behavior What these arguments taught us about building a stronger relationship Follow us everywhere on social media @stephandkayls and/or the podcast @thebackdoorpodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Has dating actually gotten harder... or have the rules completely changed? In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast , we're unpacking the realities of modern dating—from dating apps and situationships to ghosting, social media, unrealistic expectations, and the pressure of having endless options. We're discussing why genuine connection feels harder to find, what people are really looking for today, and whether modern dating is setting us up for success or disappointment. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, understanding today's dating culture can help you build healthier connections and avoid the mistakes so many people make. In this episode we discuss: Why modern dating feels so different Dating apps, situationships, and commitment How social media has changed relationships The biggest mistakes people make while dating What actually creates lasting attraction and connection If you've ever wondered why dating feels more complicated than ever, this episode offers an honest conversation about love, expectations, communication, and finding meaningful relationships in today's world. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What if the most attractive thing about someone has nothing to do with their appearance? In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast , we're diving into the qualities that create lasting attraction —the ones that make someone more attractive the longer you know them. From confidence and consistency to kindness, emotional maturity, and the way someone makes you feel, we're breaking down what really keeps the spark alive long after first impressions fade. Looks may catch your attention, but they're rarely what builds a strong, lasting relationship. In this episode we discuss: The qualities that make someone more attractive over time Why confidence and emotional maturity matter more than appearance The difference between physical attraction and emotional attraction The small habits that naturally build attraction in a relationship What men and women find genuinely attractive beyond looks If you've ever wondered why some people become more attractive the longer you know them, this episode explores the qualities that create deeper connection, lasting chemistry, and stronger relationships. Real conversations about love, attraction, communication, and the psychology behind what truly draws us to someone—no filters. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What gives people the biggest "ick" in a relationship? We asked our followers... and the responses did not disappoint. In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast , we're reacting to the funniest, most relatable, and most controversial relationship icks submitted by our audience. From bad texting habits and social media behavior to awkward personality traits, dating habits, and everyday turn-offs, we're debating which ones are fair, which ones are ridiculous, and which ones secretly bother us too. Some of these are hilarious. Some are brutally honest. And a few might make you question your own relationship habits. In this episode we discuss: The biggest relationship icks men have The biggest relationship icks women have Which icks are understandable vs. overreactions How small habits can change attraction Our honest reactions to your anonymous submissions Whether you're dating, married, or just curious about what turns people off, this episode is full of laughs, debates, and the relationship habits people can't stop talking about. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
We all have things we say "don't bother us" ... until they slowly start changing how we feel. In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast , we're diving into the small moments, subtle behaviors, and everyday situations that people brush off—but secretly carry with them. From changes in effort and communication to social media, appreciation, jealousy, and feeling overlooked, we're unpacking the little things that quietly shape attraction, connection, and resentment over time. Sometimes it's not one big mistake that hurts a relationship—it's the small things that go unspoken for too long. In this episode we discuss: The little things men and women pretend don't affect them Why people hide what they're really feeling How unspoken frustrations turn into resentment The subtle behaviors that impact attraction and connection Why honest communication matters before small problems become big ones If you've ever said "It's fine" when it really wasn't, this episode is for you. We're having an honest conversation about the feelings people often keep to themselves—and why those feelings matter more than we realize. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
How do you bring up something you've always been curious about without making it awkward? In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast , we're having an honest conversation about curiosity, communication, and the bedroom conversations many couples avoid. From the fear of being judged to navigating different comfort levels and preferences, we're discussing why these topics can feel so intimidating—and why talking about them matters. Every couple is different, and intimacy isn't about having all the same interests—it's about building trust, respecting boundaries, and creating a space where both people feel comfortable being honest. In this episode we discuss: Why people are nervous to talk about their curiosities and preferences The difference between fantasy and real-life comfort What happens when partners have different interests How to have open, judgment-free conversations about intimacy Why communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship Whether you're dating, married, or simply curious about how couples navigate these conversations, this episode is all about honesty, trust, and strengthening your connection. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Have you ever "tested" your partner without them even realizing it? In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast , we're exposing the subtle ways men and women secretly test each other in relationships. Whether it's waiting to see who texts first, noticing who initiates plans, looking for reassurance without asking, or paying attention to how your partner reacts in certain situations, we're unpacking why these unspoken tests happen and what they really reveal. Most of the time, these tests aren't about playing games—they're about wanting to feel loved, appreciated, secure, and chosen. In this episode we discuss: The relationship tests men and women secretly give Why people look for reassurance without asking for it The difference between healthy reassurance and unhealthy testing What these "tests" reveal about trust, communication, and emotional needs How to stop guessing and start communicating more openly If you've ever wondered whether your partner was testing you—or caught yourself doing it without realizing—this episode is full of honest conversations, relatable moments, and practical insights into why we seek reassurance in relationships. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
The hardest conversations in a relationship are often the ones that matter the most. In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast , we're talking about the important conversations couples tend to avoid—from feeling unappreciated and emotionally disconnected to intimacy, money, future goals, and resentment. While avoiding these discussions may feel easier in the moment, they often become the very issues that create distance over time. Healthy relationships aren't built by avoiding uncomfortable topics—they're built by having the courage to talk about them before they become bigger problems. In this episode we discuss: The conversations couples put off for too long Why people avoid difficult relationship topics How small, unspoken issues grow into resentment The role of communication in rebuilding connection How to approach tough conversations without pushing each other away Whether you're dating, engaged, or married, this episode is a reminder that honest communication isn't always easy—but it's one of the strongest foundations for a lasting relationship. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
We keep it honest, unfiltered, and real — the kind of conversations people usually have behind closed doors. WHAT WE COVER IN THIS EPISODE,The Relationship Standards We Have For Others But Not Ourselves, Double standards that are common ,Double standards we have done Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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