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Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom. Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships. We talk about: • Marriage and intimacy • Sexual communication • Desire differences • Erotic exploration • Guided audio intimacy • Confidence in the bedroom • Reigniting passion after kids • Sex toys, play, and connection • Building emotional safety • Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together. New episodes every week.
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Most couples want to try dirty talk. Most couples never do because they don't know where to start and they're terrified of feeling ridiculous. In Episode 43, Scott and Brittney fix that. This is Dirty Talk 101: the psychology of why it works, the four styles and what each one sounds like, a practical step-by-step progression from complete beginner to genuinely confident, and the honest conversation about what not to do. The research is clear: couples who communicate verbally during sex report significantly higher satisfaction, more intense orgasms, and deeper emotional connection. And women despite the cultural assumption are more likely to fantasize about dirty talk than men. The information gap around this topic is enormous. Today's episode closes it. Scott and Brittney get personal about their own journey with verbal intimacy including the awkward beginning and give listeners everything they need to start tonight. In this episode: The 2021 Journal of Sexual Medicine study — what it found about verbal communication and orgasm intensity The four styles: appreciative, directive, narrative, and fantasy — what each sounds like and who it's for A step-by-step progression from beginner to confident What not to do including why porn dialogue is the wrong reference point Scott & Brittney's honest personal takes on their own journey with verbal intimacy How to recover gracefully when something lands awkwardly Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
Scott and Brittney are in a rut. Work, kids, life — all of it has been filling the space where intimacy used to live. And they're naming it publicly because they know they're not alone. In Episode 42, they share a 7-Day Intimacy Reset — a gentle, progressive plan for couples who feel stuck. Not a dare game. Not a challenge. A reset that starts exactly where you are and builds from there, one day at a time. Each day's practice takes fifteen minutes or less. The bar is low by design. Because consistency matters more than intensity when you're rebuilding something. The reset starts outside the bedroom because intimacy doesn't begin between the sheets. It begins in the morning hold, the real conversation, the appreciation said out loud, the slow dinner with no phones, the non-sexual touch that asks nothing in return. By Day 6, the foundation is there. And what happens on Day 6 feels different because of it. Scott and Brittney are doing this alongside their listeners. Not from a place of having it all figured out from a place of being right in the middle of it. In this episode: Why ruts happen to good couples and why naming it is the first step out Why intimacy outside the bedroom matters more than what happens inside it Day 1: The Reconnection Touch — sixty seconds before the day takes over Day 2: The Real Check-In — one question that goes beneath the surface Day 3: The Appreciation Letter — written, specific, and read out loud Day 4: The Slow Dinner — one real conversation starter and no phones Day 5: The Non-Sexual Touch Practice — fifteen minutes, no agenda, both ways Day 6: The Intentional Intimate Encounter — arrived at, not stumbled into Day 7: The Reset Debrief — what shifts, what stays, what becomes permanent Scott & Brittney's honest reflection on their own current season Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
This week we're giving you homework. The good kind. In Episode 41, Scott and Brittney introduce the Couples Dare Game — ten dares designed to be completed over the course of one week, escalating from easy and playful all the way to genuinely bold. One dare per day. Both partners playing. No skipping. From an unprompted appreciation ambush and a no-phone evening, to a question you've never asked, a handwritten note, an explicit midday text, an extended no-agenda touch session, a genuine fantasy share, an intentional intimate encounter, a bucket list item and a debrief that ties the whole week together. These aren't theoretical. Scott and Brittney want you to actually do them and they tell you exactly why each one matters, what to expect, and how to follow through even when it feels slightly uncomfortable. The couples who do this dare game won't just have a good week. They'll have a reference point — a week that showed them what their relationship looks and feels like when they're both fully showing up. In this episode: The rules — why pacing matters and why skipping is against them Dare #1: The Appreciation Ambush — specific, unprompted, out of nowhere Dare #2: The No-Phone Evening — what fills the space when screens disappear Dare #3: The Question You've Never Asked — Gottman's love maps in practice Dare #4: The Handwritten Note — why paper lands differently than a text Dare #5: The Midday Text — anticipation as an intimacy tool Dare #6: The Extended Touch Session — twenty minutes, no agenda, both ways Dare #7: The Fantasy Share — the most vulnerable dare on the list Dare #8: The Intentional Encounter — preparation as its own form of intimacy Dare #9: The Bucket List Item — turning inspiration into action Dare #10: The State of the Dare — the debrief that makes it all stick Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
Real life doesn't pause for intimacy. The phone goes off. The wrong song comes on. Someone says something accidentally hilarious. The body decides right now is the moment. The kid knocks. In Episode 40, Scott and Brittney get real and genuinely funny about the moments that accidentally kill the mood, share their own most memorable experiences, and turn all of it into a practical recovery guide that actually works. Because the couples who navigate these moments with warmth and humor aren't just surviving real life. They're building the kind of intimacy that only comes from being fully, imperfectly human together. In this episode: The phone notification — why the glance matters more than the sound The wrong song — and why an ex's song on a shared playlist is a special kind of catastrophic The accidental hilarious comment — and why laughing together is intimacy, not a failure of it The body that has its own agenda — and the partner response that makes all the difference The kid knock — recovery tips and why a bedroom lock is an underrated investment The temperature problem — the most underestimated mood killer on the list The emotional ambush — what to do when intimacy opens something unexpected The tech failure — and why choosing your partner over the Bluetooth speaker is the right call The five-second rule — the universal recovery toolkit for when anything goes sideways Scott & Brittney's most memorable real-life intimate moments — with full stories Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
Looking for the best sex toys for couples? Wondering what intimacy products are actually worth buying and which ones collect dust in a drawer? In this episode, Scott and Brittney share their 12 favorite couples intimacy products: the sex toys, personal lubricants, and bedroom accessories they personally use and genuinely recommend. No sponsors. No affiliate deals. No gifted products. Just honest reviews from a real couple who happens to host one of the most candid intimacy podcasts available. They break it down into three categories — her favorites, his favorites, and their couples picks — covering everything from vibrating cock rings and wand vibrators to male masturbators, a water-based penis pump, prostate toys, penis extenders, sensation play accessories, premium personal lubricant, a massage table, and butt plugs for beginners. They also share the Coelle app sessions that pair perfectly with everything on the list — including their favorite eye gazing session and a new series built around sexual anticipation and couples games. Whether you're a beginner looking for your first sex toy as a couple, or an experienced couple looking for new intimacy product recommendations — this episode gives you a curated, honest starting point from people who've actually tried them. In this episode: Best vibrators for couples — including wand vibrators and vibrating cock rings Male sex toys worth buying — Fleshlight review, Bathmate Hydromax water pump, and more Best personal lubricant for couples — why Gun Oil lube makes the list Prostate toys for beginners — the Njoy Pure Wand explained Penis extenders for couples — what they are, who they're for, and why girth matters Butt plugs for beginners — how to start with anal play toys safely Sensation play accessories — feather wand and blindfold for couples Massage table for couples — why this unexpected pick changed their intimate life Coelle app recommendations — eye gazing session and couples anticipation games How to talk to your partner about introducing new sex toys and intimacy products Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
It's in a lot of couples' nightstands. Almost nobody talks about it honestly. Today we fix that. In Episode 38, Scott and Brittney break down everything couples need to know about personal lubricant — the most underrated, under-discussed tool in intimacy. Not as a solution to a problem, but as an enhancement to an already good thing. They cover all four main types: water-based, silicone-based, oil-based, and hybrid — what each one is best for, what the research says about safety and effectiveness, which use cases require which type, the ingredients worth avoiding, and the practical tips that make using lube feel like a natural part of intimacy rather than an interruption. Plus, their honest personal takes on what they've learned, what surprised them, and what they'd tell every couple who's never opened a bottle. In this episode: Why lube isn't a sign something is broken and why the stigma is completely backwards The anatomy reality: why natural lubrication is a variable, not a reliable indicator Water-based: the most versatile, the safest for toys, and why glycerin-free matters Silicone-based: why it's the top research choice for anal play and water use Oil-based: what works, what doesn't, and the condom safety rule you need to know Hybrid: the best of both worlds and when it makes sense Specific use cases: vaginal sex, anal play, toys, condoms, sensitive skin Ingredients to avoid and why — glycerin, parabens, numbing agents, fragrance Practical tips for making lube a natural part of your intimate life Scott & Brittney's honest takes on what they wish they'd known earlier Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
Most people rate themselves as above average in bed. Statistically, that's impossible. And the gap between how people assess their own performance and what their partner is actually experiencing is where most sexual dissatisfaction quietly lives. In Episode 37, Scott and Brittney go somewhere most podcasts won't: the specific, research-backed patterns that make people consistently disappointing intimate partners without them having any idea. Not character flaws. Not fixed traits. Learnable, fixable patterns that nobody ever named because nobody ever taught most people what good intimacy actually requires. Five patterns. Real research. Personal honesty from both Scott and Brittney about where they've each caught themselves. And a practical fix for each one that doesn't require a personality overhaul — just a willingness to look. In this episode: Why most people overestimate their performance as intimate partners and what the research says about the actual satisfaction gap Pattern 1: Assuming instead of asking and why confidence and assumption are not the same thing Pattern 2: Treating sex as a performance rather than a collaboration Pattern 3: Prioritizing your own arousal timeline at the expense of your partner's Pattern 4: Disappearing after sex and why the ten minutes after matter as much as the encounter itself Pattern 5: Never updating your partner's manual A practical fix for each pattern you can use this week Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
Most couples have annual physicals, quarterly financial reviews, and performance check-ins at work. Their relationship — the most important thing in their lives — gets evaluated only when something breaks. In Episode 36, Scott and Brittney introduce the Relationship State of the Union: a structured 90-day check-in that gives couples a dedicated, intentional space to assess where they are before small things become big ones. Not a conflict conversation. Not a complaint session. A proactive, relationship-tending practice backed by research — and one that most couples wish they'd started years earlier. They walk through exactly how to set it up, the seven questions that make it work, how to listen in a way that actually changes things, and what to do with what comes up — including what to do when it gets emotional. By the end of this episode you'll have everything you need to schedule your first one this week. In this episode: Why most couples wait too long — and what the research says about proactive relationship check-ins How to set up the State of the Union so it doesn't feel like an ambush or an interrogation The ground rules that keep it productive rather than defensive All 7 check-in questions — with context for what each one is really asking The three-tier response system: celebrate it, act on it, or flag it What to do when the conversation gets emotional How to make it a ritual you both look forward to rather than a chore you dread Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
No frameworks. No research drops. No homework. Just opinions — and our most unpopular ones. In Episode 35, Scott and Brittney bring five genuine hot takes about sex and relationships that go against conventional wisdom, popular advice, and what most people want to hear. Then they defend every single one. Scheduled sex is better than spontaneous sex. Most couples don't need more communication — they need better listening. The word "foreplay" should be retired. A sexless period isn't a crisis but ignoring it is. And the best thing you can do for your sex life has nothing to do with sex. Plus a rapid-fire round of five more takes that are going to make at least one of you spill your coffee. This is the episode you listen to on the way to dinner and spend the whole meal talking about. In this episode: Hot Take #1: Scheduled sex is better than spontaneous sex — full stop Hot Take #2: Most couples need better listening, not more communication Hot Take #3: "Foreplay" is a useless and damaging category that should be retired Hot Take #4: A dry spell isn't a crisis — ignoring it is Hot Take #5: The best thing you can do for your sex life has nothing to do with sex Rapid fire: five more takes in 30 seconds each Scott & Brittney react to each other — and don't always agree Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
When couples say they want better sex, they're usually wanting three completely different things — and most of the time they don't realize they're in different conversations. In Episode 34, Scott and Brittney introduce one of the most practically useful frameworks in intimacy: the Three Dimensions of Sex. Partner sex — the intimacy dimension, craving genuine connection with a specific known person. Trance sex — the sensation dimension, craving deep physical immersion and altered states of embodied experience. Role-play sex — the fantasy dimension, craving the freedom to inhabit a scenario or dynamic that everyday relational identity doesn't allow. These aren't variations on the same experience. They're fundamentally different kinds of sexual satisfaction that engage different psychological systems and require different conditions. Knowing which one you primarily value — and which one your partner values — changes everything about how you understand your intimate life. Scott and Brittney walk through all three dimensions in depth, cover every pairing combination and what each one needs to thrive, share their own primary dimensions, and offer a Coelle session recommendation for each one. In this episode: Why "wanting better sex" is often three different conversations happening simultaneously The Partner dimension — what relational aliveness actually feels like and what kills it The Trance dimension — what deep physical immersion requires and why it gets shortchanged in long-term relationships The Role-Play dimension — why it carries stigma, what it's actually about, and what it unlocks Every pairing combination — best matches, trickier matches, and how to bridge the gap The "something's missing" diagnostic — how to identify which dimension is underserved in your relationship Scott & Brittney share their primary dimensions A Coelle session recommendation for each dimension Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
Why do you feel anxious after really good sex? Why does your partner pull away right when things get close? Why does a dry spell feel like evidence that the relationship is falling apart — even when you know logically that it isn't? The answer is almost always attachment. In Episode 33, Scott and Brittney complete their personality framework trilogy — Love Languages, Enneagram, and now attachment styles — with the one that goes deepest. Attachment theory doesn't describe a preference. It describes your nervous system's blueprint for closeness, developed in childhood and running automatically in every intimate moment of your adult life. They cover all four attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized — with specific, honest translations for what each one looks like in the bedroom, what it needs from a partner, where it gets in its own way, and which Coelle session is matched to its specific needs. Then they get personal about their own styles and what understanding them changed in their relationship. In this episode: What attachment theory is and why it's more relevant to your sex life than any other framework Why many "libido problems" are actually attachment cycles under stress Secure attachment — what it looks like and why it still requires intention Anxious attachment — why sex becomes reassurance-seeking and what the aftermath feels like Avoidant attachment — why the post-sex pull-away isn't rejection, even though it feels exactly like it Disorganized attachment — the push-pull of wanting closeness and fearing it simultaneously The anxious-avoidant pairing — the pursue-withdraw cycle explained A Coelle session recommendation for each attachment style Scott & Brittney share their styles — and what they wish they'd understood earlier What to do with this information without turning it into a diagnosis or an excuse Attachment Style Quiz: https://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/ (not affiliated in any way) Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
You know your Enneagram number. But do you know what it's been quietly telling you about what you need in bed? Following the success of last week's Love Languages episode, Scott and Brittney go deeper with the framework that actually explains why you want what you want — not just what you want. The Enneagram goes beyond behavior into motivation, which makes it uniquely revealing when applied to intimacy. In Episode 32, they walk through all nine Enneagram types — what each one needs in intimate relationships, what they bring to a partner, where they get in their own way, what growth looks like for each type, and which Coelle session is built for exactly what they need. Then they share their own types and what they recognized about themselves and each other. If you and your partner have different numbers — this episode explains some things. In this episode: Why the Enneagram works differently than other personality frameworks for understanding intimacy The key split: which types need emotional connection first, and which can separate sex from love All nine types — core drive, what they need in bed, what they bring, their growth edge, and a Coelle session recommendation Why Type 1s are secretly more adventurous than anyone thinks Why Type 2s struggle to ask for what they want — and what happens when they do Why Type 3s fuse sex with self-worth — and how that creates performance pressure Why Type 9s self-forget in bed — and what a partner can do about it Scott & Brittney share their types and what they recognized about each other The one question to ask your partner before you go to sleep tonight Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
You know your love language. But do you know what it looks like in bed? In Episode 31, Scott and Brittney take Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages — one of the most widely recognized relationship frameworks in the world — and translate each one specifically into what it looks like during intimacy. Not in general. In the bedroom. Because there's a massive gap between knowing your love language and knowing what your partner actually needs sexually. This episode closes that gap. They walk through all five — words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts — with specific, honest translations for each one. Then they share their own love languages and what they look like in their intimate life. This one is practical, a little spicy, and gives you something to talk about with your partner before the episode ends. In this episode: Why knowing your love language is just the starting point — not the answer Words of affirmation: why silence reads as absence, and what verbal intimacy actually sounds like Quality time: why presence during sex matters more than duration Physical touch: why HOW you touch matters as much as THAT you touch Acts of service: the most underappreciated love language in the sexual context Receiving gifts: why it has nothing to do with money and everything to do with thoughtfulness Scott & Brittney share their own love languages — and what they look like during intimacy Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
No research drops. No homework. Just a game — and a surprisingly revealing one. In Episode 30, Scott and Brittney play Would You Rather: Couples Intimacy Edition. Fifteen questions, real-time answers, zero prep — and more than a few moments where one of them surprises the other. Would you rather have amazing sex once a month or good sex three times a week? Would you rather know every fantasy your partner has ever had — or have them know all of yours? Would you rather spend the rest of your relationship never talking about sex — or talking about it so openly it occasionally gets uncomfortable? This one is meant to be listened to together. Pause after each question. Answer out loud. See what comes up. In this episode: 15 Would You Rather questions across four rounds — warm up, spicy, revealing, and the final three Scott & Brittney's live, unscripted answers — including the ones that actually surprised each other Why forced-choice questions surface preferences that open-ended ones never do The one thing to do after the episode ends Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
The orgasm gap is one of the most documented — and least honestly discussed — realities in sexual research. In heterosexual sex, men orgasm 95% of the time. Women? 65%. And that gap isn't a body problem. It's an information and attention problem. In Episode 29, Scott and Brittney tackle the female orgasm head-on — covering the anatomy most couples were never taught, the research on what actually works, and the conversation most heterosexual couples have never had. Scott shares what changed when he actually understood the anatomy. Brittney shares what it felt like before and after those conversations happened. This is the episode for every man who thought he understood this — and every woman who has spent years feeling like her pleasure was optional. In this episode: The orgasm gap by the numbers — and why the lesbian orgasm rate reveals everything The full anatomy of the clitoris — why it's nothing like what most people were taught Less than 10% of women orgasm from penetration alone — what that means for your sex life The four research-identified clitoral stimulation techniques most couples have never tried Why faking orgasm guarantees the gap continues — and what to do instead The specific behaviors most strongly associated with female orgasm The conversation every couple needs to have — and how to start it tonight Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
We made our actual Intimacy Bucket List. Then we told you which ones we've done. In Episode 28, Scott and Brittney get personal with 10 sexual experiences every couple should try at least once — and instead of keeping it theoretical, they share exactly where each item lands for them personally. Done it? Haven't gotten there yet? One of them more into it than the other? You're getting the real answers. From outdoor sex and blindfold and temperature play, to restraint, anal play, mirror sex, a nude getaway, and the one experience that should belong only to the two of you — this list is spicy, honest, and built for couples who want to keep their sex life genuinely alive, not just functional. Fair warning: you're going to want to pause this episode and text your partner at least twice. In this episode: Why long-term couples stop exploring — and what novelty actually does to attraction 10 bucket list experiences ranging from vulnerable to bold Scott & Brittney's honest, specific answers for each one — done it or not, and what the story is How to share this list with your partner without making it feel like a performance review Why finding the "easiest yes" together is the smartest starting point Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
Where did you learn about sex and intimacy? Movies? Church? A locker room? A well-meaning friend who was just as clueless as you? Most of us absorbed our earliest beliefs about intimacy from sources that were wrong, incomplete, or actively harmful — and we've been quietly running on those beliefs ever since. In Episode 27, Scott and Brittney get personal and a little vulnerable as they walk through the top 10 intimacy myths they actually believed — and what it took to unlearn them. From the spontaneous passion myth and the mind-reading expectation, to performance pressure, purity culture messaging, and the idea that wanting more means something is wrong with you — this episode names the scripts most couples are still running on without realizing it. It's lighter than it sounds. There's humor, honesty, and more than a few moments where Scott and Brittney share the personal cost of believing something that was never true. In this episode: Why unconscious myths do more damage than obvious ones The spontaneous passion myth — and what responsive desire actually looks like Performance myths about duration and frequency that were never based in reality How purity culture messaging shows up in adult relationships long after you've left the church The movie version of sex vs. the real, awkward, actually intimate version The common thread across all 10 myths: they were all designed to make you smaller Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
One of the most searched, least honestly discussed topics in couples' intimacy — and we're going there. In this episode, Scott and Brittney tackle anal sex for beginners: the real statistics, the anatomy you actually need to understand, a practical step-by-step guide for couples who want to explore it safely, and the emotional conversation that most how-to guides skip entirely. Whether you're curious and don't know where to start, one partner has brought it up and the other isn't sure how to respond, or you've tried it and felt like something was off — this episode gives you the honest, judgment-free information and perspective most people never get. In this episode: The actual prevalence data — it's more common than the silence around it suggests Anatomy basics: why the anus requires different preparation than vaginal sex The prostate and why anal pleasure is an anatomy thing, not an orientation thing A practical step-by-step guide: lube, pacing, prep, safety, and what "go slow" actually means How to bring it up with your partner — and how not to What to do if one partner is interested and the other isn't The trust component — and why that's the real prerequisite Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
How connected are you — really? Not how connected you used to be. Not how connected you intend to be. Right now, today — how well do you actually know what your partner is carrying, what they need, and how satisfied they are? In Episode 25, Scott and Brittney do something a little different: they walk through a 7-question Intimacy Audit live — answering each question honestly, reacting to each other's answers in real time, and inviting you to sit with your own answers as you listen. These aren't trick questions. They're the ones most couples never think to ask — until the drift has already happened. Questions about initiation, laughter, the things you haven't said, how seen your partner feels, and whether you actually know the answers or just think you do. This is a lighter episode — fun, honest, a little revealing — but don't be surprised if it opens a conversation you didn't know you needed. In this episode: Why slow drift is more dangerous than a big fight — and how to catch it early 7 audit questions that reveal more than you expect Scott and Brittney answer live — including the ones that hit hardest What to do with what you discover — without turning it into a grievance list How the audit connects back to the daily practices from Episode 24 Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
You don't need a weekend retreat to feel close again. You need six seconds. In Episode 24, Scott and Brittney break down the research-backed micro-rituals that keep connected couples close — and that disconnected couples have quietly stopped doing. These aren't elaborate date nights or weekend getaways. They're small, repeatable practices that take ten minutes or less, and the science behind them is hard to argue with. From Dr. John Gottman's famous 6-second kiss (built from 30 years of research on over 3,000 couples) to the 20-second hug that actually lowers your blood pressure, the daily appreciation practice that predicts next-day satisfaction, and the non-sexual touch reset most couples have forgotten — this episode gives you a practical toolkit you can start using tonight. Scott and Brittney also get honest about why couples stop doing these things — and it's rarely about being too busy. They talk about how emotional distance makes small rituals feel awkward, why that's the exact moment to lean in anyway, and how consistency is what turns a simple practice into real intimacy. In this episode: The science behind why small moments matter more than big gestures The 6-second kiss — what it is, why 6 seconds, and what it does to your brain The 20-second hug and its measurable effects on stress and connection The daily appreciation practice that boosts next-day satisfaction for both partners A no-phone check-in ritual and why "how was your day?" is the wrong question The sensory slow-down: non-sexual touch that actually rebuilds desire Why couples stop doing these things — and how to start again even when it feels awkward Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching
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