Broken Together

A check point for negative and self-destructive talk and behaviors

Transformation evolves through the ability to be genuinely authentic and radically honest.

The CDQ's Core Dialogue Queries, take you through 40 days of dialogue between you, the healthy recovering you and the addict. This is from Patrick Carnes "Recovery Start"

Using the "Core Dialogues" you can gain an understanding of how and why your addiction came to exist and take on a life of it's own.

Recovery is a life long journey

A letter from my husband, written with a fully surrendered heart.

It is not your partners responsibility to police the work you do or not in your recovery process; commit yourself to figuring out your own consequences if you violate the covenant between the two of you.

The "Sticky Note" exercise exemplifies the losses and cost effect for partners to stay or not.

Having patience is a virtue. It does not come natural for most of us. Digging in the trenches of our lives require that we sit in stillness, while God is doing something supernatural of our lives. Waiting for deliverance is the hard work of our salvation. We want it to be over and NOW, yet---God's plan is not our plan....know that you are loved and being transformed into the likeness of our God.

Abbott Pastor said: Any trial whatever comes to you can be conquered by silence." (Scazzero, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality)

Taking time to know yourself is a process of knowing God to know thyself.

Maintaining Balance in Recovery

Relational Circles, staying in the outer circle to create more space for recovery.

An important part of recovery is to look back into your childhood and pull up painfull memories, so you can began to process how they impacted you in the hear and now.

Healing through the trauma in your life. Let's start by writing your own personal mission statement and what it means to you.

Completion of the "Amends Matrix" and what it means to have accountability within the brotherhood.

Having to say your sorry is a process of leaning into the offended's story, their thoughts and feelings. What makes them hurt over your thoughts, behaviors and actions. Take the time to know yourself and feel the pain of making an amends using the 7 Steps of the Amends Matrix (Jason Martinkus).

Step 8 speaks into making an amend, using the "Amends Matrix" is a thorough apology.

Some of our hardest moments are when we reach the" bottom of the pit," this is exactly what Bill Wilson cried out, "if there is a God let him show himself, I am ready to do anything, anything." Wilson is the founder of AA.

History of your emotions. Learn what its like to recognize shame and turn it around before it consumes you and robs you of a precious moment to repair.