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Welcome to The Visibility Shift, the podcast where style becomes your most powerful strategy for being seen, standing out, and leading boldly. I'm Ellie Steinbrink, stylist and personal brand coach, and if you've ever thought, "My style just isn't working anymore," take this as your sign. You're ready for your next level. Instead of launching into a panicked shopping spree, what you really need is a strategy. A style strategy that reflects where you're headed, not who you used to be or who you think you need to be to fit in. I'm here for the ambitious woman who's evolving. Maybe you're a founder, a speaker, a leader, or someone who's becoming more visible in your role. The opportunities are getting more exciting, the stages are getting bigger, but when you walk into your closet, you suddenly feel off, like you've outgrown it, like it represents a past version of you. We go beyond outfits and dive into the real strategies that elevate your presence, so your outer image reflects your inner power. Style from the inside out. Self-leadership through style. What it takes to create a strategy that's unique to you without losing yourself along the way. When your style aligns with your brand and your vision, everything shifts. You lead with more presence, you attract the right opportunities and clients, and you fully step into the woman you're becoming. Showing up as yourself is the most strategic thing you can do. New episodes drop twice weekly. Ready to stop second-guessing and start showing up as the leader you are? Let's get visible.
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One outfit doesn’t feel quite right. A few items feel old or outdated. Maybe you’re tired of wearing the same things over and over. What starts as just a few things that feel problematic can quickly turn into, “I’m screwed. This is hopeless. Nothing in here is right.” That’s the all-or-nothing thinking I know very well, both in my closet and everywhere else in my life. If you slip up or something doesn’t go as perfectly as you hoped, it can start to feel like you’ve failed. In your closet, that can look like taking a problem with just a few items and making it into an entire closet problem, or deciding that because a garment doesn’t suit your body, there must be something wrong with your body instead. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m talking about the all-or-nothing thinking that can wreck your style confidence and why I think we could all use a little more grace. I’m sharing how this mindset has been showing up for me lately, why one bad outfit or one bad day in your closet isn’t enough to take you down, and what it looks like to remember that something is better than nothing, progress is better than perfection, and you can get back up tomorrow. 1:37 - How missing a few newsletters and episodes sent me into all-or-nothing thinking 2:03 - How a few closet problems quickly become “I’m screwed” and “nothing in here is right” 3:20 - The downside of all-or-nothing thinking when there’s no room for grace 4:09 - The pressure I put on myself to have every outfit and every item perfectly curated 5:13 - Why a garment fit issue can quickly become a problem with your body instead 5:49 - The learning curve that comes with changing how you dress and choosing new silhouettes 6:20 - What my nutrition plan taught me about expecting perfection and getting back on track 7:19 - Why the goal is to embrace the mistakes and make them no big deal Mentioned In All or Nothing Thinking Is Wrecking Your Style Confidence The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
You can feel like you’re handling the body changes that come with midlife one day, then see yourself in a dressing room mirror the next and completely tank. Your body looks different than you thought it did, the clothes fit differently than expected, and suddenly you’re asking, how did I get here? I don’t even recognize myself. Even when your size technically hasn’t changed, your body can still look different, and that can be incredibly difficult to deal with emotionally. I find myself waffling between two very different emotions. One part of me knows I’m doing great because I’m sleeping better, feeling stronger, and seeing my health markers move in the right direction. Then the other part says I’m not doing enough because my body doesn’t always match what I think it should look like. That old patterning can make one difficult day feel like proof that everything is going wrong, even when I know I’m already on the right path. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m talking about how I deal with those wildly swinging emotions on a practical level and how I recover when a shopping trip sends me into a spiral. I’m sharing why one size, one mirror, or one day cannot define how you’re doing, how I’m learning to listen to my body instead of fighting it, and why understanding the silhouettes that work with your natural body structure can help you feel more grounded as your body changes. 1:02 - A shopping trip that brought the emotions of body changes in midlife to the surface 4:18 - Why a healthy body in midlife may not match the images you see in the media 7:35 - Practical ways to recover when shopping sends you into a spiral 10:08 - Why one day cannot define how you feel about your changing body 12:19 - Learning to listen to your body instead of fighting it 13:08 - How dressing for your natural body structure can help when your body feels unfamiliar 15:28 - Creating a different relationship with your body in midlife Mentioned In Navigating Body Changes and Style in Midlife The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
You can be putting in the same effort you always have and still find yourself in a season where things are slowing down. It can be hard to watch others around you doing well and thriving while you are grappling for answers and trying to understand why the things that worked before are no longer working in the same way. I have been wrestling with this in my own business. I knew I needed more clarity and alignment in my messaging and in my services, but if I am honest, the slowdown felt a little more circumstantial and a little more like failure. Now, as the story of our move to Pella has unfolded, I am beginning to see it differently. Maybe it was a gift. Maybe God was making space for this move before I even knew this move was coming. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m sharing why the world may look at a season of slowing down and call it failure while God may see it more like preparation. I’m talking about wanting proof, receipts, and guarantees before saying yes, what this move is teaching me about trust and obedience, and why the slowing down, the waiting, and the letting go may not be wasted. 1:05 - Why clarity and answers often come through quiet and stillness 3:42 - The question that made me realize I was resistant 5:14 - Our first trip to Pella and the slower pace of life that drew us in 8:05 - Leaving behind everything precious while still feeling incredible peace 12:06 - Why my business slowing down felt more like failure 14:35 - Getting focused on receipts, outcomes, and guarantees 15:25 - Why obedience can feel like loss before it reveals itself as gain Mentioned In When Slowing Down Is Part of the Preparation The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
Everywhere you look, the message seems to be the same. Do more. Buy more. Optimize more. Give your kids more experiences. Make your life more interesting. Keep improving, keep adding, keep proving that you’re making the most of everything. Even when all of that more is exhausting, it can still feel safer than letting any of it go. I’ve been noticing how deeply attached I am to that idea, not just with clothes and things, but with my time, my work, my health, and the way I measure whether I’m doing enough. Less can feel uncomfortable because it brings up bigger questions about productivity, value, security, and who we are when we stop filling every available space. Yet some of the biggest shifts in my life have come when I’ve pulled back, limited my options, and made room for what actually matters. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m talking about the attachment to more and why doing less can feel so threatening, even when we know the constant pressure to add, improve, and optimize is wearing us out. I share what I’m learning through my closet, my schedule, my health, and an upcoming move, and why letting go may be more about discovering what you never needed in the first place. 1:01 - Why the message to do less feels so unnatural when you were raised to keep going 2:40 - The pressure to keep optimizing your workouts, health, and performance 5:27 - Why doing and having more can create a false sense of security 8:11 - Why this conversation is really about attachment, not minimalism 10:33 - How limiting your options can create more intention and clarity 13:56 - The question to ask yourself when you feel like you need more to be doing better Mentioned In What If You Don’t Actually Need More The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
You open a retailer’s website just to look, and suddenly there’s a countdown clock, a low-stock warning, and a message reminding you that the item in your cart may be gone if you wait. Everything is designed to make this moment feel like the only moment that matters, and before you know it, you’re buying from urgency instead of stopping long enough to think. This is bigger than sleeping on a purchase before you click buy. Retailers aren’t only encouraging you to shop. They’re encouraging you to disconnect from your reasoning, your values, and your internal compass, because urgency does not leave much room for any of them. I saw that same dynamic play out recently while my husband and I were negotiating on a house, and an unexpected pause brought us back to what we actually wanted for our family. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m talking about the pause that interrupts the chaos and helps you reconnect with yourself before you make another decision. I’m sharing what a halted house negotiation taught me, why my styling process begins long before shopping, and how some of the most important shifts in my life happened when I stopped pushing for an answer and stepped outside the swirl. 0:57 - The retail urgency designed to pull you into the chaos and swirl 2:57 - The pause that shuts down urgency and reconnects you with your internal compass 3:42 - How a house negotiation pulled Ellie and her husband into scarcity mode 7:02 - Choosing the pause and finding a home that better aligned with their family’s priorities 8:27 - The missing step Ellie built into her styling process before shopping begins 11:53 - Stepping outside the swirl to see more clearly and reconnect with yourself 13:55 - Embracing the pause instead of making another rushed decision Mentioned In The Pause That Brings You Back to Yourself The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
A client of mine recently posted a photo of her highest heels and announced that she was done wearing them. Not taking a break. Not saving them for special occasions. Done. She works in finance, where heels are part of the expected power look, so it might have seemed like a snap decision, but I don’t think these decisions are sudden. I think they’re honest. They’re the culmination of dozens, maybe even hundreds, of moments when you’ve thought, Why am I doing this anymore? Who am I doing this for? The frustration continues to build until you finally reach the point where you’re willing to admit what you’ve probably known for years. These moments matter because they may be your truest self trying to shed some light on what you actually want and what you need. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m talking about what happens when you finally admit you don’t want to wear something anymore and why that snap moment is worth paying attention to. I’m sharing the two questions I use to look honestly at how I feel in my clothes, the rules and expectations driving my decisions, and whether those rules still serve me and where I’m going. 0:57 - The client who decided she was officially done wearing high heels 2:22 - Why snap decisions about your wardrobe are often honest decisions 3:55 - Ignoring the moment versus surrendering to what you already know 5:48 - How other people’s opinions can drown out what you actually want 7:09 - The first question to ask when something no longer feels right 9:14 - Separating external style pressures from internal beliefs 11:21 - How authenticity shows up through tiny flashes of honesty Mentioned In The Moment You Admit You Don’t Want to Wear It Anymore The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
I’m getting ready to move to Pella, Iowa, a small farm town deeply rooted in its Dutch heritage, and based on the few times I’ve visited, I have a sneaking suspicion I’m going to stick out. This isn’t exactly new. I’m used to not dressing like the people around me, but this might be a pretty big difference. And as I started packing up my closet, I realized pretty quickly that I wasn’t just deciding what clothes to bring. I was actually making decisions about identity. Moving, starting a new job, joining a new mastermind, or stepping into a different circle of leaders has a funny way of making you look at all of this under a microscope. Groups slowly start dressing alike, and it can happen so gradually that you don’t even realize you’re adapting. Sometimes it’s practical, but sometimes it’s fear. What if I stand out too much? What will people think of me? Will being myself make people disconnect from me, or will it actually bring them closer? In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m talking about the style questions that come up during big life changes and why they are rarely just about the clothes. I’m sharing what has been coming up for me as I pack for this move, the work environment that once made me question whether I needed to become someone different, and why staying true to yourself can feel uncomfortable way before it feels natural. 2:38 - The way a move, new workplace, or new group can put your style choices under a microscope 3:29 - Using three style words as a barometer for what feels like you and what does not 6:45 - Ellie’s shift from a polished ad agency environment to a much more casual workplace 9:50 - How choosing the clothes that felt aligned brought Ellie’s energy back 12:02 - The future-self vision that finally makes sense as Ellie prepares for a small-town move 14:23 - Why authentic style can feel uncomfortable long before it feels natural 15:17 - How to tell whether a new environment is bringing out more of who you are or pulling you farther away 17:08 - The deeper work of noticing where you’ve moved away from yourself and choosing who comes with you 18:22 - Why Ellie’s work is about refining what is already true, not becoming someone you don’t recognize Mentioned In The Style Questions That Come With Big Life Changes How Jessie Spressart Went From Blending In to Being Herself The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
Leonard Cohen has a lyric in his song Anthem that goes, "There is a crack, a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." Most of us spend our lives patching over the cracks, trying to manage the fractures and keep everything looking intact. But what if the moment your identity starts to break open is when something more real can finally come through? Identity shifts are inevitable. Whether you choose the transition or it chooses you, you reach a point where the version of yourself you’ve been performing no longer fits. Instead of rushing to the next role or title or polished version of yourself, standing in the messy middle is a far more powerful (yet uncomfortable) place to be. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m talking about two major identity shifts in my own life and why the disorientation I felt while still in the middle of them was necessary. I’m opening up about the grief that lives inside transitions we rarely talk about and why pausing during the in-between instead of running from it will help you find the gift waiting for you on the inside. 0:59 – How a simple shopping trip sparked a major realization about the identity scripts the world hands us without our permission 3:33 – The shift that happened inside a career transition that, at first, looked like a step backward but became a gift 8:08 – What happens in the mucky middle stage of transitioning, and the questions Ellie found herself contemplating as a result 11:47 – The grief tied to transition that never gets talked about enough but is felt by everyone 13:58 – How a decision Ellie thought was purely spiritual turned out to be one of the most disorienting identity shifts of her life 17:02 – Why the key to making transition periods work is to not rush to the next identity 18:49 – Two things that helped Ellie get through the uncomfortable in-between phase of transition 21:56 – The perspective shift that makes it possible to stop seeing the cracks in your identity during a transition as something gone wrong 24:56 – Why the real transformation in a styling experience has very little to do with the clothes themselves Mentioned In Why You Shouldn’t Rush to the Next Version of You Anthem by Leonard Cohen (Official Audio) How Personal Style Became Part of the Performance When Perfectionism Stops Working The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
“I used to be so intimidated by you.” Earlier in my career, that’s what I’d hear from client service team members after we’d worked together for months, and it always floored me. When I’d ask why, the answer was some version of, “You just look so polished and put together. It looks like you don’t struggle at all.” And every time, it bothered me, because that wasn’t how I felt on the inside. Not even close. If you’ve ever been around me, worked with me, or been in my zone, you know I walk like I mean business. I move like I always have somewhere important to be. And my clothes were absolutely part of that armor too. If I looked impressive, if I looked totally put together, maybe nothing could touch me. Maybe I could avoid criticism, avoid being told I was doing something wrong, and keep myself safe. What I can see now is that all of those little pieces of armor were part of something much deeper, perfectionism. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m sharing what happened when that armor cracked at a recent networking event, and I stopped trying to sound like I had it all figured out. I’m talking about the polished image I didn’t realize I was using for protection, the elevator pitch I rehearsed in the car but couldn’t make true, and why the thing I thought would expose me ended up creating the exact connection and support I was craving. 1:00 – How trying way too hard to look like she had it all together led to Ellie’s team members feeling initially intimidated by her 3:19 – The real reason why a polished, put-together exterior quietly functioned as a form of self-protection 4:21 – The "worst fear" scenario that forced a choice between faking it and telling the truth out loud 8:41 – What happened when Ellie replaced her rehearsed elevator speech with an unscripted, unpolished introduction that left her bright red in the face 12:37 – What made the difference for Ellie, and her vulnerability as a permission slip for others to admit their own 15:16 – Figuring out where to let go so you can let change happen Mentioned In What I Thought Would Expose Me Actually Created Connection The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown How Personal Style Became Part of the Performance When Perfectionism Stops Working The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
I was playing charades with my family when I realized I had no idea how to act out the card in my hand. Instead of laughing, guessing, or letting myself be bad at something for a minute, I froze. Then I got angry. Then I stormed out of the room like a full-grown adult having a tantrum. And that moment has haunted me for years because it showed me something I did not want to see. I had taken something that was supposed to be fun and turned it into something I had to do perfectly. That was not new for me. Perfectionism had been the way I kept myself safe for most of my life. It protected me from criticism, rejection, getting in trouble, and being seen as not enough. And I thought it worked, until I started seeing what it was costing me in the very things I had built my life around, including my family, my business, my body, and the work I genuinely wanted to offer. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m sharing the story I’ve avoided telling until now, the one that starts with a charades game over 20 years ago and leads into the messy middle of me finally choosing to stop performing my own life. I’m talking about what happens when perfectionism stops feeling like protection and starts becoming the thing that keeps you from actually living. 1:01 – The haunting moment when Ellie knew perfectionism had disconnected her from her joy 4:33 – How a clear message turned into one of the few times Ellie has allowed herself to play as an adult 7:07 – How that period of play turned into performance a year later, without Ellie even realizing it 9:18 – How Ellie’s life was at a breaking point when she decided to put her faith in Jesus 11:05 – Why Ellie is telling these stories now, and her invitation to come along on this messy middle journey Mentioned In When Perfectionism Stops Working How Personal Style Became Part of the Performance The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
There is a strange moment that can happen when you realize you’ve been performing for so long, you’re not even sure where the performance ends and the real you begins. For me, that realization did not come all at once. It came slowly over the past year as I started questioning things I had accepted and normalized for a long time, including the way I was living, the work I was doing, the way I was showing up, the clothes I was wearing, and the things I thought made me valuable. A lot of this started after my daughter came home from summer camp and told me she had committed her faith in Jesus, which led me to reaffirm my own faith in a way that changed how I was seeing everything. It felt like putting on a new pair of glasses. And once I saw my life through that new lens, I could not unsee how much of my identity had been built around achievement, excellence, praise, perfectionism, and performance. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I’m sharing a transformation I have not fully talked about before and what it has shown me about faith, personal style, entrepreneurship, and coming back to who I actually am. I trace where my perfectionism began, how it followed me into corporate life and business ownership, and what started to shift when I realized style had become one more place where I was trying to prove I belonged. 2:45 – The unexpected moment from her daughter that catapulted a reaffirmation of Ellie’s faith 5:30 – How the deep discomfort of disappointing her mother drove Ellie to perfectionism and performance in search of praise 11:13 – Why Ellie’s pursuit of perfectionism and performance intensified and made things worse once she became a business owner 13:45 – How Ellie’s love of style and creativity got swept up in the need for approval, triggering her impulse to question it all 17:00 – The power of big life moments to jolt you awake and allow the truest version of you to emerge 19:07 – Questions to ask yourself during your own self-awakening transition Mentioned In How Personal Style Became Part of the Performance The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
You have a closet full of clothes, and nothing in it feels quite like you. Maybe you've tried subscription boxes, made appointments with Nordstrom stylists, or fit in a session with M.M.LaFleur while traveling for work. You've spent real time and real money trying to solve this, and you're still standing in front of your closet feeling like something is off. One of my clients, Erin Wood , described it perfectly, there were nice pieces, but nothing great, nothing that made her feel like herself. Style spending spirals in specific, identifiable ways, and underneath almost all of them is the same thing. Fear. Fear that you're not enough, that you won't belong in bigger rooms, that if you stop evolving outwardly, people will stop taking you seriously. The spending is rarely the root issue. It leads back to something much bigger, and most women never stop long enough to look at what that actually is. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I'm walking through the specific ways style becomes expensive, both financially and emotionally. I'm naming the pressures that keep women on the spending hamster wheel, including the ones coming from retailers, from entrepreneurial culture, and from within, and talking through what it looks like to build a style that comes from a grounded place instead of a striving one. 2:49 – The issue that subscription boxes and store stylists simply aren’t set up to address 5:31 – How the pressure to keep your brand "fresh" is costing you more than you think 7:35 – What retailers are really doing with their trends messaging 10:40 – Why certain high-end circles create pressure to spend beyond your means 15:03 – Why fear is almost always the source of your overspending 16:10 – How internal pressure turns clothing into a frantic crutch for credibility 21:25 – The pathway to shift your relationship with shopping from an anxious striving cycle into real wardrobe freedom Mentioned In When Style Becomes a Crutch for Your Credibility How Erin Wood’s Personal Brand and Style Finally Aligned The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
Getting dressed used to be the most joyful thing in my life. As a little girl, it was pure creativity. Through my career at an ad agency, it was self-expression. When I launched my business, it was play. But somewhere along the way, entrepreneurship changed that. The more visible I became, the more I felt I had to look the part, buy certain brands, and become a version of myself I thought would earn credibility and clients. That pressure built quietly until an event in Canada brought it all to the surface. I ordered outfits I couldn't afford, tried on sleek, coordinated looks that screamed "six-figure business owner," and nothing felt right. Something inside me kept saying, this isn't it. In that moment, I had to choose between proving energy and the vibrant, colorful woman I'd always been. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I'm telling the full story of how my relationship with style shifted from self-expression to performance, and what it took to come back. I talk about proving energy versus grounded, God-led energy and why so many women are exhausting themselves trying to dress for credibility instead of coming home to who they actually are. 1:01 – The real reason a packed closet still sends you into a panic before a big event 2:59 – The freedom of creativity, play, and self-expression with style from childhood into adulthood 6:35 – How entrepreneurship quietly rewrote my relationship with getting dressed without me even realizing it was happening 10:21 – The energy that's been driving your style choices and how a business event in Canada forced me to confront myself 15:35 – The difference between the two ways visible women can choose to show up (proving energy vs. grounded, God-led energy) 18:22 – Why it’s not a coincidence that this craving to return to themselves often happens to women in midlife Mentioned In Stop Dressing to Prove Yourself and Come Back to Who You Are The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
You've built a career in a male-dominated industry. You've earned credibility, grown a client base, proven yourself over and over. And somewhere along the way, you stopped thinking about what you wear as anything other than a uniform. Neutral colors. Conservative cuts. Nothing that draws attention. It works, until it doesn't. Melissa Yano is the president of Capital Wealth Planners LLC and has spent nearly 20 years in finance. For most of that time, she dressed the way she'd been taught.Nothing too bold, too feminine, or too much. She followed the unwritten rules without question, until a conference, a photo she didn't love, and an encounter with a fellow advisor made her realize she'd outgrown every one of them. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I'm sitting down with Melissa to talk about what it took to shed two decades of industry conditioning and start dressing like herself. She shares what she expected this process to be (a practical wardrobe fix) and what it actually became, how she went from a closet full of black dresses to bright pink and citron green, and what changed when she stopped dressing to make everyone else comfortable and started dressing to show up as herself. 3:15 – Why Melissa decided it was time to make a style change 7:43 – Navigating the fear of being too bold, too bright, or too visible while wanting to play with wardrobe choices 9:32 – The rules that made Melissa feel like it wasn’t safe to show up in certain ways in her industry 10:58 – The style word that Melissa didn’t see coming, and the realization that she no longer had to prove herself 12:49 – Moving away from the male aesthetic toward a style that embraces the superpowerful asset of being a female financial advisor 15:06 – How being comfortable with her style has allowed Melissa to stop worrying about “dressing down” and redirect her energy to what really matters for clients 19:12 – How the questions Melissa asks herself before getting dressed have completely changed 20:46 – What Melissa thought this transformation was going to be vs. what it actually ended up being 23:20 – Melissa makes the case for why style work is an investment, not an indulgence 26:57 – The biggest thing I couldn’t stop thinking about after this conversation with Melissa Mentioned In How Melissa Yano Stopped Dressing Like the Industry and Started Dressing Like Herself Capital Wealth Planners, LLC | Facebook How Erin Wood’s Personal Brand and Style Finally Aligned Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
If you grew up watching What Not to Wear, you know the formula. The big reveal. The dramatic before and after. Someone walks out looking like an entirely different person after just a few days of shopping. But the question that always sat with me was what happened six months later. Did it stick? Or did they slowly drift back to what felt familiar? We've been sold the idea that style change should be fast and dramatic and Instagram ready. But the kind of change that actually holds doesn't work like that. It's not built in a shopping haul. It's built in the slower, unsexy work of looking at the beliefs running the show in the background. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I'm talking about the part of style change no one wants to sell. I share why being in a fix it now state keeps real change from happening, the difference between external compliance and internal integration, and why getting clear on your style beliefs is the first real step toward change that holds. 1:04 – Why Ellie's What Not to Wear obsession left her with one lingering question 2:50 – The unsexy part of style change no one wants to sell 3:29 – The Biggest Loser parallel and what overnight transformation actually costs 4:31 – Ellie's year-long battle with insomnia and what finally worked 5:47 – Why panic shopping isn't where real change happens 7:32 – The bold blazer scenario and the self-sabotage hiding underneath 9:25 – Style mindset defined and where style beliefs come from 11:58 – External compliance vs internal integration 13:22 – Why every client engagement starts with questions, not clothes 16:15 – How old beliefs sabotage you even after you've done the work, with a Jessie example 17:53 – Why slow is the only pace that builds real self-trust 19:20 – The Style Mindset Reset and how to start spotting your own beliefs Mentioned In The Style Change That Actually Sticks How Jessie Spressart Went From Blending In to Being Herself The Style Mindset Reset Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
You can build a voice people trust, sharpen your message, grow into a real leader in your industry, and still feel like the way you look hasn't caught up to any of it. The clothes work. They're professional. They follow the rules. But when you see yourself in photos or watch yourself back on stage, something is off, and it's not your message. That's where Erin Wood was for a long time. She's a certified financial planner and SVP of Advanced Planning at AssetMark, named Thought Leader of the Year at WealthManagement.com's 2023 Wealthies Awards, and a 2024 InvestmentNews Women to Watch Financial Literacy Champion. She's built a career around humanizing money and regularly speaks on stages, teaching other advisors how to do the work she does. Her voice had matured. Her style hadn't. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I'm talking with Erin about what it took to finally ask for help with her style, and the ripple effects she didn't expect. She opens up about the unwritten rules of her conservative industry, her experience with subscription boxes and stylist appointments, and what she found on the other side. You'll hear why she now sees style as a financially adjacent conversation women aren't having enough. 3:05 – The disconnect Erin felt between her evolving leadership and her existing wardrobe 7:15 – How more publicity and seeing a shift in two other women made Erin realize she needed a shift of her own 10:50 – Why subscription boxes and retail stylists couldn’t close the misalignment gap that Erin felt 16:44 – How Erin recognized her self-enforcement of the financial industry dress code “rules” and what happened when she stopped following them 19:39 – How creating her own style rules that still fit inside her industry reflects Erin’s message and personal branding 23:11 – How Erin navigates the occasional temptation to return to the old ways, and the results she didn’t anticipate 25:52 – Using style curation as a way to manage introvert energy and intentionally choose when to be “seen” and when to blend in 28:14 – The comment that caught Erin off guard, and a way of seeing style as a financial-adjacent tool 32:54 – What Erin has gained now that she’s on the other side of this kind of experience 37:10 – My favorite takeaway from this conversation and how it ties into what I strive to do for clients Mentioned In How Erin Wood's Personal Brand and Style Finally Aligned AssetMark Erin Wood on LinkedIn Stand Out Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
There's a pressure on visible women to keep refreshing themselves. A new look for every stage. Updated photos every season. An unspoken rule that you shouldn't be caught in the same outfit twice. You can spend years keeping up and still feel like what you're wearing doesn't match who you actually are anymore, even if you can't name what comes next. Most of us were taught to respond to that feeling by adding. A new color palette. A new signature piece. A rebrand. But what I've watched in my own life and in my clients' closets is that the refresh never quite lands. The shinier version isn't the magnetic one. And the harder you work to curate yourself into something more polished, the further you get from the thing people are actually drawn to. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I'm rethinking what it means to rebrand. I make the case that a real rebrand isn't adding more photos, more messaging, or more outfits. It's the opposite. It's subtraction. I share why the constant pressure to reinvent your look is actually working against you, the questions I walk my clients through when their style stops feeling like them, and why coming back to yourself is the work, not the next refresh. 1:02 – Why “What do you want?” can be one of the most terrifying questions asked 3:35 – A way to shift your focus to reveal a roadmap when you’re unsure where you want to go 5:17 – What happens when you stop forcing answers that aren't ready to come yet 8:24 – Why the constant pressure to reinvent yourself is a lie that you need to stop buying 10:47 – Why ownership of your own voice is your most valuable leadership asset in the age of AI 13:59 – Authenticity as a daily practice and why it’s better and easier in the long run 15:47 – How to flip the script on executive presence and move from careful orchestration to radical honesty in your closet 19:46 – How to return to yourself with small, honest moments instead of one big reveal Mentioned In When Your Personal Brand Stops Feeling Like You What Authentic Personal Branding Actually Looks Like What Differentiation in Personal Branding Actually Looks Like What Consistency in Personal Branding Actually Looks Like “Do You Stand Behind Your Words?” by Allison Shapira The Style Mindset Reset Standout Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
You're at a conference watching a woman on stage, and you are completely swept up by her energy. That magnetism she's commanding is so undeniable, and you think, I'll have what she's having. So you track down the outfit. It arrives, you try it on, and somehow you still don't feel confident. And in that moment, what you thought was outfit envy starts to reveal itself as something else entirely. This is the comparison trap, and it doesn't just show up with clothes. It shows up every time we convince ourselves that if we could just have what she has, our problems would go away. But the women you slightly envy, the ones with that twinge-of-jealousy kind of presence, they didn't get their confidence from their clothes. They got there by doing the inner work. And the outfit was just the cherry on top. In this episode of The Visibility Shift , I'm talking about why copying someone else's look will never give you what you're actually craving and what's really underneath that desire when you find yourself searching like a maniac for the look that you're convinced will save you. Because the clothes will always fall flat when they're doing work that only the inner foundation can do. 2:55 – The "curse" that comparison places on your perception of self-worth 5:14 – Why "fake it till you make it" strategies might be hindering your path to true confidence 6:40 – Example of how the same piece won’t transfer the same energy to all women who wear it 7:43 – How I recently fell into the style comparison trap and what I was really craving 9:47 – How trying to “shortcut” with another woman’s outfit shows up in other areas of your life 11:39 – Where the real transformation happens (before you ever select the first piece of clothing) 14:20 – A recent podcast conversation that highlights what you truly want deep down 15:55 – The question to ask yourself when you feel a twinge of jealousy toward someone else’s look Mentioned In Her Outfit Won't Give You Her Confidence How Jessie Spressart Went From Blending In to Being Herself Inspired or Influenced? How to Tell the Difference and Protect Your Personal Brand The Style Mindset Reset Standout Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
Springtime pulls most of us into our closets. The urge to clear things out, start fresh, make some decisions about what stays and what goes. You pull out the donation bags, try things on, do the work. And a few months later, you're still struggling with the same things. A closet clean out feels like a logical first step. And it can be part of the process. But when it's the first step, it almost always skips what's underneath. The beliefs and subconscious rules that created your closet in the first place are still running the show. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I'm making the case for slowing down before you ever touch a hanger. I walk through why closet clean outs fail, the belief-and-fear framework I use with every client before we do anything else, and how to use my free Style Mindset Reset to start seeing what's actually been driving your decisions. 3:38 – What’s running in the background subconsciously as you go through a closet edit 8:44 – The real reason why closet edits ultimately fail 11:39 – The framework I use that reveals why your actions might be leading to style self-sabotage 14:14 – Two types of external messages that dictate what you feel "allowed" to wear 18:30 – How the Style Mindset Reset guide will help you see what’s driving your decisions 20:38 – Why closet edits and shopping halls leave you unsatisfied with the results 23:09 – The input that determines the quality of your style output Mentioned In Why Cleaning Out Your Closet Doesn't Make Getting Dressed Easier “Are these 3 things hanging out in your closet?” The Style Mindset Reset Standout Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
You're in the middle of something big, and the ground feels like it's been swept out from underneath you. Maybe you left corporate to launch a business. Maybe you're stepping onto bigger stages. Maybe your body is changing, and nothing in your closet makes sense anymore. These are good things, or they're supposed to be. But when you're new to something, the confidence you used to rely on isn't where you left it. And that's when you start looking outside yourself for it. What are other women in my industry wearing? What would make me look credible? What does my audience expect me to look like? It feels like grasping for certainty, because that's exactly what it is. The problem is it takes you further from yourself, not closer. In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I'm talking about what happens to your relationship with style during a transition and why the instinct to reach for external rules and validation is so common, and so costly. I share what I've seen with clients, and my own version of this panic, and why your style can actually be a tool for rebuilding self-trust when everything else feels uncertain. 1:00 – Why transitions (even positive ones) feel like they’re killing your confidence 5:43 – The external referencing trap you might fall into during times of transition 7:56 – Examples of style rules that feel safe (but actually hold you back) 10:40 – The impact of urgency and panic shopping on your clarity and confidence 13:28 – How you might start grasping at external validation when in transition 18:09 – Style as an outside-in game reinforcing lack of self-trust and practical ways to build self-trust 21:53 – How I helped Julie start cultivating self-trust while transitioning into bigger speaking gigs 25:29 – Characteristics of women who’ve built self-trust and the importance of embracing your transition period Mentioned In Why Your Style Loses Its Way During a Life Transition Why Outfit Polls on Instagram Are Sneakily Eroding Your Self-Trust Speaker Style Rules That Make You Forgettable (and What to Do Instead) What Authentic Personal Branding Actually Looks Like What Julie Brown Found When She Broke the Unwritten Speaker Style Rules The Style Mindset Reset Standout Style Kick-Starter Work With Ellie Follow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedIn Leave a rating and review
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