Pleasure Science

The way you “hope” for love is quietly shaping your entire reality. In this season finale, sex scholar Nadège breaks down the secret reason why you aren’t getting what you want. It’s the difference between a life shaped by fear and a life shaped by aligned action. You’ll learn a hack that weaves neuroscience, hope, and psychology to overcome all the fear and shame holding you back from receiving pleasure and giving love. It’s time to learn exactly how to get over your fears so you can finally take the steps you are avoiding. By the end of this episode, you’ll have the blueprint that shows you how to stop expecting the worst, how to trust yourself again, and how to create the love life you actually want. Let’s raise your standards for what’s possible on the season two finale of Pleasure Science! Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-13-season-2 The Flirt Quiz (free!) - https://www.pleasurescience.com/flirt The Art of Flirtation - https://www.pleasurescience.com/the-art-of-flirtation

Disability is not the opposite of sexuality. On this week’s episode of Pleasure Science, sex scholar Nadège sits down with Andrew Gurza, Disability Awareness Consultant, to share crip sex tips and sex wisdom for everyone. What improves disabled sex improves sex overall. Access is erotic. Asking for help, tools, positioning, and care is not a mood killer; it is a doorway. Crip sex is a culture, not a workaround. It’s inventive, proud, and unapologetically hot. Asking for help to have sex is one of the key moments that elevates arousal to intimacy and trust, which softens shame immediately. As we all learn the pleasure science of relationships and intimacy, disability and ableism must be part of the conversation. This episode is one that will get you thinking, and I hope, open your heart as well as your eyes. Let’s build a future where disability stops being thought of as “them” and becomes “us.” Show Notes: Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-12-season-2 Connect with Andrew! andrewgurza.com Notes From A Queer Cripple Disability After Dark: The Podcast Instagram

You’re not broken if sex hurts, and this episode explains why. In this vulnerable episode of Pleasure Science , sex scholar Nadège shares her personal journey of painful sex and vaginismus, to pleasure, safety, and multiple orgasms. Get a rare look into how a lack of sex education, silence, and pressure shaped Nadège’s sex life, and how somatic healing, pelvic floor therapy, and communication were the magic tools that healed her life. Grounded in lived experience and science, this conversation outlines how healing is possible, pleasure is learnable, and your body is wise when given time, safety, and a voice. *TW for SA Show Notes: Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-11-season-2 Voice Your Desires The Body Keeps the Score

You’ve been lied to about sex and aging, and those lies are costing you pleasure, confidence, and connection. In this episode of Pleasure Science , sex scholar Nadège sits down with intimacy expert to millions, Susan Bratton, for an honest conversation about sex, relationships, and aging well. Susan has been biohacking sex and vitality for decades. She’s an expert in sexual health, longevity, and libido, and in this episode, she breaks down aging myths using eye-opening research and real-life results. You’ll also get a glimpse into Susan’s personal life. She’s in her sixties, married with kids, has a boyfriend, dates women and men, and created THE 20, a supplement line designed to support blood flow and sexual function. There’s no one better to challenge your fears about sex and aging than Susan Bratton. Pull up a chair and step into a new way of living; one where sex doesn’t fade with age. It gets better. Show Notes: Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-10-season-2 Voice Your Desires Connect with Susan! BetterLover.com Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin Get Flow Free Justin Lehmiller Kiiroo Keon GAINSwave Dr. Patty Taylor

When did old stop being a number and start feeling like an insult? Especially when it comes to sex. In this episode, sex scholar Nadège unpacks how age became a quiet source of shame in the bedroom, and why that story is deeply wrong. From libido myths and menopause, to erections, queer aging, late bloomers, and erotic confidence at every stage of life, this episode reframes aging as an upgrade, not a decline. Stop fearing that you will become invisible, undesirable, or “past your prime”. This conversation is here to remind you that your sexuality doesn’t expire. It evolves. Show Notes: Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-9-season-2 Voice Your Desires SAGE Open House LGBTQ Elders Meetups Damn Good Dyke Nights - Look for their Hot Flash and Hotter Flash events

In this intimate, unscripted episode of the Pleasure Science Podcast, Nadège offers Stefanie from the Broke Girl Therapy Podcast a live sex coaching session, giving you a front-row seat to what actually happens inside these private sessions. Together, Nadège helps Stefanie explore desire blocks, communication strategies, sexual confidence, attachment patterns, boundaries, and the invisible habits that keep people repeating the same dating and relationship dynamics. Whether you are single, partnered, or navigating something in between, this episode weaves emotional honesty with practical insight around sex, love, and connection, without shame or performance. Expect nervous laughter and surprising breakthroughs that land right where they need to in this special live coaching episode. Show Notes: Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-8-season-2 Nadège’s episode of Broke Girl Therapy Connect with Stefanie! Instagram TikTok Broke Girl Therapy website

Why does sex fade in long-term relationships? Why does casual sex feel confusing instead of fun? And why do so many people secretly believe the love life they want just isn’t possible for them? In this episode, sex scholar and relationship coach Nadège shares the five sex struggles she sees in almost every sex coaching session, drawing from 15+ years of research and real client work across dating, relationships, non-monogamy, BDSM, and sexual confidence. This episode is part crash course, part reality check—and part invitation. You’ll start to recognize where desire gets blocked, where communication breaks down, and why so many people are working so hard in their love lives without getting the results they want. If you’ve ever wondered “Is it just me?” or felt like you’re missing a key everyone else seems to have—this conversation will feel like it’s speaking directly to you. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-7-season-2

People think BDSM is “too intense.” But the truth? Most of you are already playing with power… just without consent, clarity, or intention. On this special BDSM episode, Nadège sits down with Javay da BAE, the Millennial Sexpert, to talk about power, sex, oppression, and liberation. How do you play with power and sex in a world that’s already oppressive? What are the secrets you should know as you start exploring kink? How does playing with sexual power heal you? This episode dives into all the BDSM secrets you wish you knew, and explains how to use these secrets to empower your life. Fans of the show already know: when we talk about kink, we go deep. This episode offers practical BDSM guidance, beginner insight, advanced reminders, and a completely fresh understanding of how kink rewires connection from the inside out. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode Website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-6-season-2 Connect with Javay! Website Instagram Facebook YouTube TikTok Twitter/X Bluesky Pinterest LinkedIn Yes/No/Maybe Lists Book Recs Welcome to Kinkyville Episode 5 - Wonder Woman is a BDSM Icon BDSM Fantasy Lab

Wonder Woman’s origin story isn’t just feminist — it’s kinky . In this episode of Pleasure Science , sex scholar Nadège reveals the hidden BDSM history behind Wonder Woman, and the unconventional polyamorous throuple who created her. You’ll learn how psychologist William Marston, his wife Elizabeth, and their partner, Olive Byrne, infused dominance, submission, bondage, DISC theory, and radical relationship ethics into the Wonder Woman’s comics. This is a deep dive into sex history, power dynamics, ethical kink, and how non-traditional relationships can change culture for the better. From kinky psychology to underground 1930s fetìsh parties, this is the story DC Comics never expected you to know… Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-5-season-2 Wonder Woman William Marston Elizabeth Holloway Olive Byrne Margaret Sanger Pleasure Science Podcast - Season 1, Episode 6 with Nicoletta BDSM Fantasy Lab

How do you stop fighting with the person you love — and start fucking again? Sex scholar Nadège sits down with Kenya K Stevens, CEO of the Progressive Love Academy, bestselling author, and the woman known for making relationships divorceproof . Kenya, who has been in a polyamorous marriage for decades, reveals the communication tools, emotional skills, and indigenous conflict-resolution techniques that help couples transform fights into connection, passion, and actual intimacy. Together, we explore: 🔥 How to stop destructive fighting patterns and break the “attack–defend” cycle 💥 The #1 behavior quietly destroying even the strongest marriages 😡 How to express rage, anger, and disappointment without harming your relationship 💋 The biggest sex problems long-term lovers face — and how to fix them Kenya also shares candidly about her own life: raising a family with two husbands, navigating jealousy, cultivating conscious communication, and keeping her sexual power alive. If you’re ready to stop fighting, heal resentment, communicate like soulmates, and revive the passion in your relationship, this episode is essential listening. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-4-season-2 Connect with Kenya! Progressive Love Academy YouTube Instagram TikTok Kenya’s gift! Esther Perel

Digital intimacy is real — and you’re doing it every day, whether you realize it or not. In this episode of Pleasure Science, sex scholar Nadège breaks down the secret emotional world happening inside your phone: the affection in your memes, the desire to send a sext, and the rituals of love hidden inside every cell phone. We explore how technology has completely reshaped human intimacy — and why your texts, nudes, and phone calls matter more than you think. From the psychology of sexting to digital boundaries, consent, and what happens when digital intimacy is violated through hacking or revenge porn, this conversation reframes online connection as a normal, healthy part of modern relationships. Discover how digital affection builds desire, how technology shapes communication in love, and why embracing digital intimacy without shame can transform your sex life and your self-confidence. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-3-season-2 Episode 1: 6 Lies About Sex You Probably Think Are True Voice Your Desires

Porn is good for your health — and the science will blow your mind! In this episode of Pleasure Science I sit down with Lotus Lain , an intimacy professional and sex industry advocate, to unpack the truth about porn, sex work, safety, and consent. Together, we dismantle the biggest misconceptions around sex work and explore what the research actually tells us: 📉 Decriminalizing sex work reduces rape and sexual assault 📈 Criminalizing sex work makes everyone less safe 💡 Porn sets some of the strongest standards of consent you’ll find anywhere Lotus shares her story of becoming a sex-work professional, the real meaning of consent, and why sex work is work. We talk whorephobia, porn literacy, and the cultural myths that keep people misinformed and afraid of the very industries designed to promote agency, communication, and choice. This is a necessary conversation that will challenge your assumptions, sharpen your understanding of pleasure, and expand the way you think about sexuality, safety, and empowerment. Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Connect with Lotus! www.icylotus.com Instagram TikTok Twitter X-Rated links Podcast YouTube We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival Inspire at Free Speech Coalition

Welcome back to Season 2 of the Pleasure Science Podcast! Where sexual liberation becomes your new normal by changing the way you love and feel loved. 💋Episode 1 will blow your mind as Nadège exposes the top six lies about sex that you probably think are true. Come join your friendly neighborhood sex scholar Nadège as she busts common myths about virginity, the hymen, libido, foreplay, and the clitoris with science-backed truths that will change how you understand your body. You’ll learn why sex is a social behavior , not a reproductive one, and how misinformation keeps us disconnected from pleasure and power. Whether you’re healing shame, exploring desire, or redefining intimacy, this episode helps you start fresh with confidence, clarity, and curiosity. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-1-season-2 Hymen photo Clitoris photo Touch and Trust Method

Pleasure Science is back! Join us for season 2 of the podcast that makes sexual liberation your new normal by changing the way you love and feel loved. Hosted by Nadège, your resident sex scholar... and trained dominatrix. New episodes start November 19th, so see you soon!

What if everything you thought you knew about sex was just one version of the story? In this episode, Nadège is joined by author and activist Lucie Fielding, whose groundbreaking work on trans sex is reshaping how we think about pleasure, bodies, and desire. Together, these two scholars explore how queering sex (i.e. breaking free from ideas of what sex should be) can make intimacy more exciting, fulfilling, and inclusive for everyone . In this eye-opening conversation, Nadège and Lucie talk about: The real reason why the traditional sex script limits your pleasure How renaming body parts can transform intimacy What “muffing” is and why you might want to try it If you’ve ever felt like sex was supposed to look a certain way, this episode will give you permission to rewrite the rules. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e12-queer-sex-tips Connect with Lucie! Lucie’s website - sign up for her newsletter! Instagram BlueSky Amber L Hollibaugh Douglas Crimp How to Have Promiscuity in an Epidemic Sigmund Freud Sigmund Freud: Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality Mira Bellweather F*cking Trans Women

Have you ever questioned the romantic milestones society tells us we should follow? The "Heterosexual Timeline"—also known as the Relationship Escalator—is something you’ve probably never heard of, and yet it is the thing telling you what it means to be successful in love. This unspoken timeline is the reason why most of us date the way we do, it’s why we assume that if you’re in love you should get married, and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. At one point we have to ask ourselves, what if the ways we’ve learned how to love has nothing to do with our desires, needs, or our identity? In this week’s episode, Nadège shares her personal coming-out story and explores how queer people have felt freer to make their own rules in relationships (and why this is a mentality EVERYONE should have!) This episode will change the way you think about sex, love, and relationships. Listen now and start creating your own timeline for love! Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e11-my-coming-out-story More information about the relationship escalator

What does it mean to love your body and embrace your unique story? This week on Pleasure Science , we’re joined by Lyss Ball—intersex advocate, somatic spaceholder, and trauma-informed embodiment expert. Lyss gets vulnerable on the pod and opens up about being intersex, redefining sexuality, and cultivating self-love through somatic healing. We dive into the powerful rituals that can help you connect to your body and deepen intimacy in all areas of life. Tune in for a transformative conversation about empowerment, identity, and pleasure! Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode Website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e10-somatic-intersex Connect with Lyss! Website Instagram TikTok

In this special episode, Nadège leads you through a transformative affirmation meditation designed to help you feel more confident, open, and worthy of pleasure. Drawing on neuroscience and the power of positive thought, these affirmations are crafted to rewire your brain, heal limiting beliefs, and connect you to the erotic power that already lives within you. Whether you're seeking to overcome obstacles, create a sex-positive mindset, or simply invite more joy into your life, this guided practice is a gentle and empowering journey toward self-love, body trust, and abundance. So, find a quiet space, take a deep breath, and allow these words to sink in—you are worthy, you are capable, and you are free. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/S1E9-sex-meditation

In this thought-provoking conversation, Nadège sits down with Midori (she/her), a groundbreaking sexologist, author, artist, and coach with over 30 years in the kink community. As the author of the first English-language book on shibari , Midori brings wisdom, nuance, and experience to the table as she explores her definition of sex, the concept of BDSM as “playtime for adults”, and how kink can be a powerful tool for healing, trauma recovery, and reclaiming your body as a sexual sanctuary. Whether you're a seasoned practitioner of BDSM or just starting to dip your toes into the conversation, this episode promises insight, warmth, and a whole new perspective on pleasure, kink, and power. Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/S1E8-bdsm-adult-playtime Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Connect with Midori: www.planetmidori.com Facebook Instagram Patreon Kink Informed Certification from Sexual Health Alliance Dr. Emily Nagoski

Have you ever been curious about BDSM (or kinky history)? In this episode, Nadège opens up about how she discovered kink and trained to be a Dominatrix. Then, our resident sex scholar dives into the fascinating and often misunderstood world of BDSM. From ancient Assyrian practices to the seductive powers of the forbidden fruit, kink isn’t just about whips, chains, and roleplay—it’s about power, play, and exploring the erotic edges of our human desires. Whether you are curious about the kink world or you already enjoy a BDSM lifestyle, this episode unravels why kink is so alluring, so misunderstood, and, yes, potentially the key to unlocking your own pleasure. Buckle up—it’s going to be a wild, empowering ride! Episode website: www.pleasurescience.com/S1E7-the-intrigue-of-kink Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium @PleasureScience on Instagram , TikTok , and YouTube Marquis de Sade Leopold von Sacher Masoch Episode 1 of Pleasure Science Fifty Shades of Grey Episode 3 of Pleasure Science