We're Out of Time

Why are so many boys growing up anxious, isolated and disconnected—and are we waiting too long to ask what went wrong? Richard Taite sits down with Dr. Michael Gurian , who has spent decades studying how boys develop, learn and become men, for a candid conversation about what parents, schools, therapists and culture may be getting wrong about boys. Gurian breaks down his brain-based approach to raising and educating boys, including why traditional talk therapy may not connect with some males, why fathers and male mentors matter, and how movement and side-by-side conversation can sometimes help boys open up in ways face-to-face questioning doesn't. Richard and Dr. Gurian also tackle smartphones and social media, male isolation, discipline versus self-regulation, anxiety and depression, the relationship between childhood trauma and later addiction, and what parents can do before a struggling boy becomes a struggling young man. Gurian shares his “three-family system” for raising boys and one simple piece of advice for parents: cut through the noise, understand the child in front of you, identify his gifts and challenges, and “nurture the nature.” It’s a provocative conversation about boys, mental health and what it takes to help young men grow into connected, resilient adults.

A mistrial. A national conversation. And two doctors ready to explain what postpartum psychosis actually is. This week, host Richard Taite sits down with two experts from Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa: psychologist Dr. Blair Steele and Dr. Kenneth Spielvogel, who spent nearly 30 years as an OB-GYN, before moving into addiction medicine, about what postpartum psychosis really looks like, how it differs from postpartum depression, and the warning signs families and providers need to know before a crisis hits. They cover the "perfect storm" of hormones, sleep deprivation, and underlying conditions; what command hallucinations and sundowning actually are; why home visits for new mothers nearly disappeared from the healthcare system; and what it would take to catch this earlier. A clinical, honest conversation about a gap in maternal mental health care. Before the conversation, Richard shares an update on his partnership with the CDC Foundation's COPE campaign, matching donations dollar-for-dollar up to $25,000. New episodes of We're Out of Time every Tuesday. Rate, review, and follow the show on Spotify. If you or someone you know is struggling with substance use, call One Call Placement: (888) 831-1581

Every parent thinks they're protecting their kid, until one day they realize they're not. Pediatrician Dr. Ken Ginsburg joins Richard Taite to unpack "lighthouse parenting," the balanced style he developed after finding it cut teen car crash risk in half. They get into why hovering backfires, how to let kids fail safely, and the one question ("tell me the drama") that gets teenagers to actually open up. A real, sometimes uncomfortable conversation for any parent trying to figure out where to hold on and where to let go. Guest: Dr. Ken Ginsburg, pediatrician and founder of the Center for Parent and Teen Communication (parentandteen.com), author of Lighthouse Parenting . Follow We're Out of Time and leave a rating — it helps more parents find this conversation.

Relationship coach Stephan Speaks joins Richard Taite to explain why healing, not chemistry, is what makes love last, and why so many of us keep choosing the wrong partner. Stephan Speaks is a bestselling author, certified relationship coach, and speaker whose advice reaches millions through his videos, coaching, and his book The Man God Has for You. In this episode: why unhealed pain drives bad partner choices, why chemistry can blind you to red flags instead of warning you about them, why women need to feel safe before they can fully show up in a relationship, and why couples who never define their roles set themselves up for conflict down the road. Plus, what's really driving the decline in marriage today, and why understanding the root of a behavior matters more than demanding someone change. Before the interview, Richard shares an update on his partnership with the CDC Foundation's COPE (Community Overdose Prevention Efforts) campaign, matching every donation dollar for dollar up to $25,000. Learn more or give at cdcfoundation.org/cope. Find Stephan Speaks: YouTube, Facebook and Instagram @StephanSpeaks, or shop at stephanspeakshop.com Explore more about Richard Taite, We're Out of Time, and Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa: https://linktr.ee/richardtaite New episodes every Tuesday. Follow the show so you never miss one.

What if we've been approaching addiction treatment all wrong? Richard Taite sits down with Dr. Jonathan Avery, Vice Chair for Addiction Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medicine and Medical Director of the NBA's anti-drug program, for one of the most honest and wide-ranging conversations about addiction medicine we've had on this show. They tackle whether "substance use disorder" is the right language or whether owning the word "addict" actually helps more people heal, what modern psychiatry still gets catastrophically wrong about addiction, why social media and sports betting are becoming the most dangerous addictions of our era, and what working with NBA players has taught Dr. Avery about recovery that no textbook ever could. Dr. Avery is the author of the upcoming Thriving with Addiction and host of the Thriving with Addiction podcast. Find him and the free SAFE family support program at Weill Cornell by searching his name. New episodes of We're Out of Time drop every Tuesday on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.

Overdose deaths have touched nearly every community in America — and this episode, released for Overdose Awareness Month, brings on two women working from inside the system to change that. Host Richard Taite sits down with Dr. Judy Monroe, President & CEO of the CDC Foundation, and Terri Perez, JD, a public health analyst and former deputy district attorney of 31 years, for a conversation about why overdose prevention has to be treated as a public health issue, not just a criminal justice one. Dr. Monroe explains what the CDC Foundation actually is and how it differs from the CDC itself, shares stories from her early career as a rural physician in Appalachia, and walks through a real public health investigation that stopped a multi-state outbreak before it made headlines. Terri Perez brings a rare dual perspective — decades prosecuting narcotics cases in San Diego, and her own family's experience with addiction and recovery. Together they talk about stigma, the partnership between law enforcement and public health, harm reduction on the ground, the new drug trends they're watching most closely, and what ordinary people can do in their own communities. This episode is part of the CDC Foundation's Community Overdose Prevention Efforts (COPE) campaign. Richard is matching every donation dollar for dollar, up to $25,000, to help expand education, strengthen communities, and give more people a chance to get help before a crisis becomes a tragedy. To learn more or donate, visit: cdcfoundation.org/COPE If someone you know is struggling, One Call Placement can help, affiliated with Carrara Treatment, Wellness & Spa and 1 Method Centers.

Dr. Kent Berridge spent 40 years at the University of Michigan asking why people keep chasing things that stopped making them happy. He's the neuroscientist who discovered that dopamine isn't pleasure, it's wanting, and his research changed how addiction science understands craving. Richard sits down with Berridge to break down the wanting versus liking theory, why some people develop sensitized cravings and others don't, and why a smell, a street, or a song can trigger an urge years after someone gets sober. Richard brings 25 years of his own recovery experience to test the science in real time. They cover genetics and vulnerability, GLP-1 medications and craving reduction, why people tend to gravitate toward one substance over another, and what Berridge's rat studies reveal about how the brain assigns addiction to a specific target. A conversation for anyone trying to understand the neuroscience behind compulsive behavior, whether it shows up as substance use, food, gambling, or something else entirely. If you or someone you love is dealing with substance use, One Call Placement can help you find the right resource. Call (888) 831-1581. New episodes every Tuesday. Follow We're Out of Time so you never miss one.

Some people survive adversity. Nick Lavery went back for more. Richard Taite sits down with Chief Warrant Officer Nick Lavery, an active-duty Green Beret, Silver Star recipient, and the first above-the-knee amputee in history to return to combat with a U.S. Army Special Forces team. After losing his leg in Afghanistan in 2013 during the most catastrophic insider attack of the Global War on Terror, Nick refused a medical retirement, spent a year recovering at Walter Reed, passed a grueling 15-week assessment, and deployed back to Afghanistan for full-spectrum combat operations. Nick and Richard talk about rebuilding identity after loss, how faith carried him through recovery, why veterans struggle to ask for help, the double edge of the warrior mindset, and what he learned from losing nearly a dozen brothers in combat — and three times that number outside of it. Nick also opens up about retiring after 20 years of service, the identity crisis that follows when the uniform comes off, and building his next chapter through MCHN, the human performance company he founded. Nick is the founder of MCHN, CEO of Precision Components LLC, and bestselling author of Objective Secure: The Battle-Tested Guide to Goal Achievement. Richard Taite is one of the foremost experts on addiction in the United States. He lost 25 years to addiction before achieving 21 years of sobriety — an experience that drives his work helping others through it. “We’re Out Of Time” dives into the issues America can’t afford to ignore — addiction, mental health, parenting, resilience, and hope. Raw truth, real stories, life-saving conversations. Learn more about Nick Lavery: https://mchn.co/ & https://www.precisioncomponentsllc.com/ More on Richard Taite and Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa: https://linktr.ee/richardtaite https://www.wereoutoftime.com/

Nobody warns you how hard stepfamily life really is. And almost nobody teaches you how to do it well. Richard Taite sits down with Dr. Patricia Papernow, one of the world's leading experts on stepfamily dynamics and author of Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships , for an honest, research-backed conversation about why blended families struggle — and what actually works. Dr. Papernow breaks down the five structural challenges every stepfamily faces, what loyalty binds do to kids caught between parents, why disciplining too early backfires, and why "connection before correction" is the most important principle any stepparent can follow. Richard opens up about his own experience and the two have a candid, sometimes funny conversation about what kids need — and why the gap between that and what stepparents need is where most blended families break down. 👉 Subscribe for raw, honest, and inspiring conversations —new episodes every week. 🔗 Explore more about Richard Taite, We’re Out of Time, and Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa: ⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/richardtaite⁠🔗 Learn more about Dr. Papernow: https://stepfamilyrelationships.com/

What does it mean to be Ethiopian, Israeli, and American — all at once? Richard Taite sits down with Tali Aynalem, a former IDF soldier, Ethiopian Israeli American writer, and social media influencer whose videos about Jewish identity, Israel, and history have reached millions. Tali shares her remarkable story: growing up in Israel, moving to Oregon at age 10, serving in the IDF as an admin worker with the Givati Brigade combat unit stationed along the Gaza Strip, Golan Heights, and Judea and Samaria, and returning to the United States — before October 7th changed everything. She and Richard discuss what it felt like to lose close friends overnight to ideology, why she finally decided to speak out, how she stays optimistic in a climate of rising antisemitism, and what she believes the world gets wrong about Israel and Jewish identity. Tali also opens up about her new Substack, her decision to date exclusively within the Jewish community, and why she believes being Jewish — proudly, openly, and without apology — is the only answer to the moment we're in. Follow Tali Aynalem on Instagram and subscribe to her Substack for weekly essays on Jewish identity, history, and culture. New episodes of We're Out of Time drop every Tuesday on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.

What if you looked completely successful on the outside—but were silently suffering on the inside? Clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins Richard Taite to explore one of the most overlooked mental health challenges of our time: Perfectly Hidden Depression. Together, they discuss why high-achieving people often hide emotional pain behind perfectionism, how toxic positivity keeps people from healing, and what emotional transparency really looks like. Richard also shares his own recovery journey and what it took to stop hiding behind success. Dr. Rutherford is the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression and the companion workbook. Her TEDx talk, How to Recognize Perfectly Hidden Depression , has been viewed more than 2 million times. Learn more about Dr. Margaret Rutherford: https://drmargaretrutherford.com Explore more from Richard Taite and We're Out of Time : https://linktr.ee/richardtaite

On this episode of We're Out of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with Dr. Alex Howard, internationally recognized trauma therapist, author, and founder of the Optimum Health Clinic, for a raw, deeply personal conversation about childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and the long road to healing. Dr. Howard opens up about his own teenage years living with a debilitating chronic illness, the conversation with his uncle that changed the trajectory of his life, and how that experience shaped two decades of work helping people heal from trauma and nervous system patterns. Richard and Alex dig into the difference between the trauma that happened to us and the patterns we built to survive it, why "it's not your fault" doesn't mean "it's not your responsibility," and how even loving, well-meaning parents can leave emotional needs unmet.The conversation moves through both men's complicated relationships with their own fathers, what it means to parent differently than you were parented, and how healing as an adult means learning to give yourself what you didn't receive as a child. Dr. Howard is the author of It's Not Your Fault: Why Childhood Trauma Shapes You and How to Break Free, and his work has reached millions through his books, online programs, and his YouTube series In Therapy with Dr. Alex Howard, where he films real therapeutic sessions. Learn more about at alexhoward.com.If someone you know is dealing with life's hardest challenges, share this episode — the right conversation at the right time can change everything.

Could medications originally developed for diabetes and weight loss help transform addiction treatment? In this episode of We’re Out of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with addiction medicine pioneer Dr. Mark Gold, widely regarded as one of the founding figures of modern addiction medicine. For more than five decades, Dr. Gold has helped shape the scientific understanding of addiction, cravings, dopamine, withdrawal, and recovery, with groundbreaking research that has influenced treatment approaches around the world. Together, they explore the growing interest in GLP-1 medications, and why many researchers believe they could represent a major breakthrough in treating substance use disorders. Dr. Gold explains the science behind cravings, the gut-brain connection, food addiction, alcohol use disorder, cannabis use disorder, and how GLP-1s may help reduce compulsive behaviors. Richard also shares observations from Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa after integrating GLP-1 medications into treatment for over three years, including an early finding that approximately 80% of participating patients have not relapsed. Dr. Gold helps place those observations into scientific context while emphasizing the need for continued research. The conversation also tackles one of the biggest questions surrounding GLP-1s: Should people stay on them long term? Dr. Gold offers a candid perspective on what researchers know, what they don’t know, and where the science is headed next.If you’re interested in addiction recovery, neuroscience, GLP-1 medications, cravings, and the future of addiction treatment, this episode offers a fascinating look at one of the most promising developments in the field today. If you’re interested in addiction recovery, neuroscience, GLP-1 medications, cravings, and the future of addiction treatment, this episode offers a fascinating look at one of the most promising developments in the field today.

What actually helps people recover from addiction? In this powerful episode of We're Out of Time, Richard Taite sits down with NY Times bestselling author, journalist, and leading voice in addiction science Maia Szalavitz to explore recovery, trauma, harm reduction, and the role of compassion in healing.Drawing from both personal experience and decades of research, Maia challenges common assumptions about addiction and explains why shame, punishment, and stigma so often fail to create lasting change. This episode covers: • Maia's journey from addiction to recovery and becoming one of today's most important addiction author • Why addiction is often rooted in pain, trauma, and disconnection • The debate around harm reduction approaches • Why compassion may be more effective than punishment • What actually helps people get — and stay — better • The future of addiction policy and care At the heart of it all, this is a conversation about why these approaches matter and creating more paths to recovery.

On this episode of We're Out of Time, host Richard Taite and guest co-host Patricia Freebery, LMFT, Executive Clinical of Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa, sits down with renowned psychiatrist, bestselling author, and interpersonal neurobiology pioneer Dr. Daniel Siegel for a wide-ranging conversation on human connection, consciousness, relationships, and the future of mental health. Drawing from decades of research, Dr. Siegel discusses how modern culture, social media, and emerging technologies are shaping the way people connect with themselves and one another. He explores the role of awareness, integration, and relationships in overall well-being, while sharing insights from neuroscience, psychology, and human development.The conversation also examines the rise of artificial intelligence and the growing trend of young people forming relationships with AI companions. Dr. Siegel offers his perspective on how technology may influence human connection, emotional development, and social interaction in the years ahead. In one of the episode's most memorable moments, Dr. Siegel reflects on a near-fatal accident in his youth that temporarily altered his sense of identity and ultimately influenced his lifelong exploration of consciousness, awareness, and the mind. From neuroscience and relationships to AI, identity, and the nature of human connection, this conversation offers a fascinating look at some of the most important questions shaping modern life.

On this episode of We’re Out of Time, US Army veteran Toni Lavery joins host Richard Taite to discuss her journey through military service, motherhood, and a life-changing health challenge. After serving for over two decades, Tony shares how she is navigating her identity transition and leading the first all-women commemorative jump into Normandy for the 82nd anniversary of D-Day. In this episode, Tony highlights the importance of advocating for one’s own health while managing vision loss and explains how the Fox Force Foundation is building a vital community for women veterans to find mentorship through shared resilience. The conversation also covers strategies for managing stress, prioritizing family wellness, and maintaining a strong partnership while both spouses serve.

In this episode of We’re Out Of Time, we sit down with Dr. Drew Ramsey — psychiatrist, mental health advocate, and leading voice in nutritional psychiatry — to unpack what’s really happening to our brains in the modern world. From the connection between food and mental health to the growing mental health crisis impacting millions, Dr. Ramsey explains why brain health is the foundation of emotional wellness. Together, we explore how nutrition, environment, relationships, biology, and lifestyle all shape the way we think, feel, and heal. This conversation goes beyond traditional discussions about mental illness and recovery, offering practical insight into building “mental fitness” before things fall apart. Dr. Ramsey shares why the modern brain faces challenges unlike ever before — and what science says we can do to protect it. If you’ve ever wondered how stress, diet, isolation, and everyday habits impact your mental well-being, this episode is packed with eye-opening perspective and actionable takeaways.

In this episode of We’re Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with world-renowned psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Bruce Perry for a powerful conversation about childhood trauma, addiction, healing, and the lifelong impact of early experiences. Dr. Perry, co-author of “What Happened to You?” with Oprah Winfrey and “The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog,” shares how the brain develops in childhood and why our earliest relationships shape the way we think, react, connect, and cope as adults. Together, Richard and Dr. Perry explore how trauma alters the developing brain, why addiction is often rooted in unresolved pain, and how healing begins with safety, regulation, and human connection. They discuss the growing “relational poverty” in today’s world, the effects of social media and disconnection, and why routines, movement, community, and meaningful relationships are essential for emotional well-being. Throughout the episode, Richard opens up about his own experiences working in addiction treatment and reflects on the emotional toll of helping people heal. The conversation is raw, insightful, and deeply human, offering a new perspective on trauma, recovery, parenting, mental health, and resilience.

On this episode of We’re Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with sports and performance psychologist Dr. Mark Aoyagi to explore what truly separates elite performers from everyone else. From Olympic athletes to professional sports teams, Dr. Aoyagi has spent years helping high performers build confidence, resilience, and mental strength under pressure. Together, they break down the psychology behind flow state, choking under pressure, fear of failure, confidence vs arrogance, and the mindset shifts that help people perform at their highest level. They also dive into the surprising overlap between elite athletes and addiction, explaining why perfectionism, anxiety, and obsession can drive both peak performance and self-destruction. This conversation goes beyond sports — it’s about identity, purpose, pressure, and what happens when your self-worth becomes tied to performance.

On this episode of We’re Out of Time , Sonia Kahlon — co-host of Sisters in Sobriety — shares her journey from high-achieving orthodontist to living alcohol-free. What started as “normal” drinking in a high-pressure, hustle-driven lifestyle slowly turned into nightly dependence. Sonia opens up about the moment everything shifted — including her first day without alcohol in over a decade — and what it actually takes to stay sober. The conversation dives into the stigma professionals face around addiction, why AA isn’t the only path to recovery, and how drinking culture is deeply normalized — especially for women. Sonia also shares the shocking story of discovering her husband’s affair and how sobriety forced her to face it without numbing out. This episode explores the rise of “sober curious” culture, the hidden cost of coping through alcohol, and what it really takes to become the person you were meant to be.