Tell Me Something Messy with Brandon Kyle Goodman

Actress Danielle Pinnock opens up about caregiver burnout. From learning to schedule rest and say "no," to breaking generational patterns and normalizing therapy and medication, this messy, honest conversation is for anyone who's ever run themselves into the ground taking care of everyone but themselves. 📩 Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com | And share your mess anonymously at SomethingMessy.com. Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Villa is in shambles and Brandon has thoughts. This week, Brandon recap the messiest Love Island USA episode yet — who got dumped, why America's votes don't add up, and whether Sincere is really "changed. Then, PEN15 co-creator and The Sane One author Anna Konkle joins Brandon for a bonus hang that includes a Beyoncé story Brandon probably shouldn't be telling. Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Anna Konkle (PEN15, Murderbot) pulls back the curtain on emotional incest — the covert, rarely-discussed wound of becoming your parent's confidant, spouse, and caretaker as a child. the family dynamics most people are too scared to name. Anna and Brandon get into her new book and unpack grief and forgiveness: how Anna cared for the father she'd been estranged from as he was dying, the letter that finally told him the truth, and the moment she told him "you did earth." Plus, they crack it all open with a chaotic '90s game of Homeroom, Study Hall, Detention (TLC's "Waterfalls" will never be the same). Get your copy of The Sane One by Anna Konkle 🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show! 📩 Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com | And share your mess anonymously at SomethingMessy.com. Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon recaps Love Island's most chaotic week, drags KC, weighs in on Oprah and NeNe, and brings back Dr. Joshua Gonzalez for the real tea on penis filler! 🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show! 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is a very special Pride episode of Waking Up With Ryan , the new podcast from iHeartPodcast’s Outspoken Network, launching July 7th. How you spend the first five minutes of your day determines how the rest of your day will go. Waking Up with Ryan is a daily audio/video podcast featuring short daily “moments of awakening” (10-12 minutes) that interrupt the inertia of fear, ego, and judgment — helping listeners connect with themselves before the noise of the day takes over. These daily episodes blend wisdom, meditation, and practical insight to create a ritual that grounds and inspires. The show is both a daily guide and an ongoing exploration of what it really means to remember who we are. Follow Ryan Weiss: Instagram Special thanks to Emily Kopp for scoring this episode. Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever wondered how often you really need an STI test, whether PrEP is just "a gay thing," or what a pelvic floor even is? Brandon's best friend Devere Rogers is back, and they brought in urologist and sexual health expert Dr. Joshua Gonzalez to answer the questions most people are too embarrassed to ask. 🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show! 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this Messy Bonus, Brandon breaks down the Love Island, chaos — Zach & Bryce's now-iconic "girth check," Melanie's "watch them" energy, Trinity's one-liners, and why the show desperately needs a gay. Then Justin Sylvester of The Yestergays pulls up for the extras: a Juneteenth Black sitcom showdown, two messy mails that turn into the commandments for threesomes, a gem about meeting Erika Alexander, and reflections on the father wound we had to "shave off." Grab your kettle chips, get your kitty on the ground, and get into the mess. 🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show! 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this Pride Month x Juneteenth crossover of Tell Me Something Messy, Brandon Kyle Goodman sits down with Emmy-nominated TV personality Justin Sylvester of The Yestergays for a conversation that is hilarious, nostalgic, and deeply healing. They unpack the “Fairy Gayfather” effect: the gay mentors who introduce us to queer culture, chosen family, nightlife, language, safety, and self-permission. Brandon and Justin also get into why gossip can feel like protection, how Black sitcoms and movies shaped their imaginations, and still live rent-free in all our identities. Plus: the viral video of a gay teen standing up for himself. And in Messy Mail, they dig into queer second adolescence, PrEP, desire, and what happens when you finally feel wanted after years of feeling unseen. Listen to Yestergays wherever you get your podcasts! 🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show! 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's giving six hours of sleep, Red Bull, and regret. Brandon is BACK after two Pride weekends in a row, and honey, the stories. Also, Brandon shares their thesis on the difference between gay spaces and queer spaces, and what it feels like to show up fully in your non-binary body when the world wants you in a box. Then it's Love Island time. Then for our bonus, Brandon revisits their chat with LA mayoral candidate Nithya Raman who will be in the runoff election this year so we're sharing her story of the 2022 leaked tapes scandal, and how she clawed back to victory. 🏃🏾 Catch HIGHKEY podcast! 🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show! 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Pride, Messy Mob!! Brandon is joined by Yvie Oddly and Ryan Mitchell for Part 1 of the messiest Messy x HIGHKEY crossover — and the range is truly unserious. We’re talking bathhouse recon, Pride anxiety, jealous bottoms, dog-owner slander, and the complicated grief of loving our mothers from a distance. Plus: a listener asks whether Pride is really for everyone, and the group gets into what it means to find your people when the party, the trauma, and the healing are all happening at once. 🏃🏾 Catch Part 2 on the HIGHKEY podcast! 🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show! 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon recovers from Pride hangover. Plus: a TV recap, why you shouldn't sleep on J. Lo movies, and some good ol' messy mess with Taylor Tomlinson. 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Pride, Messy Mob!! Writer, comedian Taylor Tomlinson came to play! Brandon and "Tay Tay" imagine a hypothetical "queer-platonic" marriage, debate location sharing etiquette, and Taylor shares one of the most surprising turns a hookup has ever taken in Messy's history. Plus: a listener sends a letter about being rejected by their church community after coming out — and how to grieve a community that won't grieve you back. 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Summer is here, and Brandon is clearing the calendar for reality TV. Starting with this episode, the messy bonuses are going all-in on the shows running our brains into rot all season — Bravo's Summer House reunion, Love Island USA Season 7 with Ariana Madix hosting, and whatever other reality TV chaos the universe coughs up between now and Labor Day. And to close out, bonus footage from our episode with Sarah Jones (Tony-winning artist, host of America, Who Hurt You?) on receiving compliments without flinching, being a recovering perfectionist, and why "messy" is the most healed version of yourself. 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sarah Jones came to the couch and left us speechless. The Tony-winning performer gets radically honest about how she's been "cheating" on every partner—not with another person, but with a fantasy version of who they could become. From there, we spiral into the messy truth about workaholism as a post-traumatic inherited response (yes, she connects it all the way back), and why Trisha Hersey's Rest Is Resistance is the book that changed everything. We dig into messy mail from a listener carrying heartbreak they can't shake, and Sarah delivers the kind of advice that will inspire you to write the text you're waiting for him to send, and send it to yourself. Plus: grief doesn't come with a timeline, quitting is a boss move, therapy shouldn't be your whole identity, and a whispered truth like soup for the soul. 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon has questions, concerns, and possibly a group chat theory. Drake just gave us what feels like a 43-song therapy session, and Brandon would like to know who’s taking notes, who’s holding space, and whether snacks were provided. Also, if you didn’t vote, this may not be your safe space right now. This Memorial Day Weekend Messy Bonus also features a clip from Brandon’s conversation with Dr. Vanessa Marin on cheating with AI Girlfriends, and a longevity study. Then Brandon makes the case again for scheduling sex — because “spontaneous” is cute until everyone is tired, booked, resentful, and lying. Stay for the Waymo conspiracy theory. Don’t ask questions. Just listen. 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Vanessa Marin gives us the sex ed class boarding school owed us. Brandon and Dr. Marin, creator of the Sex Talks card game, get into scheduling sex, ejaculation myths, open relationships, the surprising problem with fantasies, perimenopause, why “just relax” is terrible advice, and a longevity study involving ejaculations and a sticker chart. Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon gets into Pam Grier’s three-day orgasm story and the art of surrendering to pleasure, intimacy, and your own body. Then they turn from sex and pleasure to friendship breakups — when to call it quits with your bestie, what couples therapy can teach us about friendship, and when a therapist starts sounding more like a life coach. Plus, Cheyenne Bryant, emotional red flags, and the messy line between healing, honesty, and knowing when a relationship has run its course. Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon welcomes author and Boy Problems podcast host Liz Plank into the messy living room for a raw conversation about feminine energy, why patriarchy keeps men from connecting, pretty privilege, performing masculinity vs. actually embodying it, and why every straight man should understand what it feels like to receive. Watch on YouTube! Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon gets into Kevin Hart’s Netflix roast, Jamie Foxx’s appearance, and why people still care so much about interracial couples. Then Curly Velasquez is back with the best outtakes from his episode, including a wild mid-hookup story about a friend, kink talk, Amsterdam confessions, the parakeet claw grip technique, and whispered advice that goes fully off the rails. Watch the full episode with Curly on YouTube! 🔗 somethingmessy.com | Email anonymously: tellmesomethingmessy@gmail.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon sits down with Curly Velasquez, co-host of The Super Secret Bestie Club and Vice President of Development at LatiNation Media, for a funny, spiritual, and deeply messy conversation about grief, sober sex, ancestral rituals, chosen family, and the ways our bodies remember what our mouths are still learning how to say. The conversation also gets into the idea that messiness is not new — it is inherited. From vulgar grandmas and Bible stories to queer lineage, family lore, and the people who taught us how to survive with humor, desire, and spirit still intact, Curly and Brandon unpack how the mess can be sacred and hilarious. From altars and grandma stories to intimacy without numbing and the truth that “the only way to get through grief is to grieve,” Curly helps Brandon unpack how messiness can be inheritance, healing, and a practice of staying present. Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.