Are you ready to overcome imposter syndrome and become a powerful communicator? Whether you're preparing for a public presentation, sharpening your communication skills, or looking to elevate your personal and professional development, this podcast is your ultimate resource for powerful communication. The Speaking with Confidence podcast will help tackle the real challenges that hold you back, from conquering stage fright to crafting impactful storytelling and building effective communication habits. Every episode is designed to help you communicate effectively, strengthen your soft skills, and connect with any audience. With expert insights, practical strategies, and relatable examples, you’ll learn how to leave a lasting impression. Whether you're a professional preparing for a high-stakes presentation, a student navigating a public speaking class, or someone simply looking to enhance their interpersonal skills, this podcast has the tools to empower you, all with a bit of humor. Join us each week as we break down what it takes to inspire and influence through communication. It’s time to speak with confidence, captivate your audience, and make your voice heard! Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/timnewman
Unlocking Powerful Communication in the Age of Virtual Presentations
Have you ever wondered why so many virtual presentations feel flat or why “death by PowerPoint” is still so common, even with all the tools and technology we have? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dig into what it really takes to connect with an audience, both in-person and online, and how you can turn your presentations from forgettable to impactful right from the very first minute. My guest for this episode is Rick Altman, a presentation industry veteran with over two decades of experience, host of the world-renowned Presentation Summit, and author of the new book "Crush Your Next Virtual Presentation." Rick Altman has worked with hundreds of companies, been heard by tens of thousands of professionals, and read by millions looking for better results with their presentations. His expertise spans message crafting, design, software technique, and live delivery. We kick things off by addressing a frustration many of us share: If your audience can read your slides without you, why are you even there? Rick Altman dives into why content-heavy slides rob presentations of real human connection, especially in the virtual world. We talk about how easy-to-use technology can lead to bad habits like putting everything on a slide, using distracting animations, or letting AI do the creative thinking for you. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why most presentations miss the mark and how to fix yours from minute one My journey from transparencies to podcasts, and Rick Altman’s background in publishing and presentations How advances in technology like PowerPoint and AI make bad presentations easier and how to resist the temptation Why slides should never serve as your handout and how to separate the two for real impact The value of simplicity in slides and notes less really is more How to practice and prepare so you stay present and connected, not glued to your script or slides The vital role of audio, camera connection, and grace in virtual presentations Tips for managing your attention and leveraging moderators or help during live web events Responsible and efficient uses of AI for research, handouts, and presentation prep Rick Altman’s behind-the-scenes look at the Presentation Summit, including its evolution, content, and how virtual events create new opportunities If you’re looking to up your game as a communicator whether on stage, in the boardroom, or over Zoom this episode will give you practical, battle-tested strategies to present with more confidence and real connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Talk Like You’re Right, Listen Like You’re Wrong: The Key to True Connection
Have you ever walked out of a meeting or conversation certain you nailed your message only to discover later that almost no one actually understood or embraced what you said? In today’s episode, we’re exploring why being technically right or well-prepared isn’t always enough to truly connect, and unlocking the four-letter fix that can flip your communication from performance into genuine connection. I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and on Speaking with Confidence I’m dedicated to helping you develop the real-world soft skills like storytelling, public speaking, and authentic conversation that turn opportunity into results. In this solo episode, I dig deep into one of the distinctions that changed my approach to teaching, coaching, and communicating: the difference between broadcasting and connecting. Drawing from my personal journey and experiences in academic and corporate settings, I introduce a key framework that’s transformed my conversations: understanding why our confident delivery can often lead to missed messages, misunderstood intentions, and polite agreement with zero real impact. Today is all about sharing actionable insights drawn from countless coaching sessions, classroom stumbles, and the wisdom of leaders like John Maxwell. Here’s what we’ll cover in this episode: The pitfalls of “broadcasting” your message, and why head-nods don’t always equal understanding or agreement 00:09 The four connection failures that sabotage effective communication: assumption, arrogance, indifference, and control 02:31 How seemingly innocuous behaviors, like assuming you know what people want or racing to fill gaps in conversation, prevent real connection 03:18 A mindset shift talk like you’re correct, but listen like you’re wrong that creates true bridges between perspectives 05:14 The FORM framework (Family, Occupation, Recreation, Message): how it breaks through small talk and builds authentic relationships 05:55 Real-life examples of what it looks like to match your pace to someone else’s world, instead of demanding they enter yours 07:18 An assignment for you to practice in your very next conversation, so connection becomes a consistent part of your communication toolkit 07:59 By the end of this episode, you’ll have a concrete script and mindset shift to help you move from being someone the room politely tolerates to someone people actually want around. Progress, not perfection, is the goal and every conversation is your chance to practice. Thanks for tuning in, and remember your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Overcoming Cultural Barriers to Confident Communication
Have you ever wondered what it really takes to reinvent yourself in a brand-new culture, and how that experience can transform your confidence and communication? This week on Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into this question with our incredible guest, Ana Denis, a public speaking and communication coach, TEDx organizer, and the brilliant author behind “Reinvento.” This episode is all about starting over, building your identity from the ground up, and the hidden challenges and surprising rewards of trying to fit in while staying authentically you. I had the privilege of speaking with Ana Denis, who shares her personal story of moving from Russia to the Netherlands, tackling cultural differences, and what it’s like learning to communicate sometimes literally in a whole new language and set of values. We dug into Ana Denis’s journey as both an entrepreneur and a newcomer, where she had to face the reality of feeling like a “professional idiot” (her words!), admitting you don’t know anything, and letting go of the ego to start learning from scratch. We talk about how language and cultural differences aren’t just logistical challenges they hit at the core of your sense of belonging and your identity. Ana Denis has been there, felt the friction between collectivist and individualist cultures, and had to let go of the comfort of the familiar to build a new home, both personally and professionally. Some of what we cover in this episode: The shock of cultural differences even within Europe and how they challenge your worldview Why learning the local language goes far beyond practicality and is a gateway to true connection and trust Ana Denis’s personal journey of losing her safety net, building from scratch, and finding belonging in the expat community The role of asking questions, embracing not knowing, and letting go of ego when starting over Gendered societal messages and their impact on women’s confidence and willingness to speak up at work The danger of labels cultural, political, and personal and how they limit genuine human connection How to build real influence and trust, both as a speaker and as a newcomer in a different country The power of directness, consensus, and open dialogue in Dutch culture, and what we can learn from it The importance of active listening, curiosity, and putting relationships first regardless of status or background This conversation is packed with practical wisdom for anyone facing a big transition, working across cultures, or just wanting to show up with more clarity and confidence in their communication. If you’re ready to stop playing small, question the narratives you’ve been told, and actually reinvent how you show up, this episode is for you. We also talk about where you can find Ana Denis’s work, including her book “Reinvento” and the Reinvento Club for those ready to build communication skills or begin again in a new place. Tune in for heartfelt stories, actionable advice, and maybe a little push to take your own next bold step. Your voice matters and so does how you reinvent it. Connect with Ana: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ana-denis/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIAZJzumdHkVbD5913kBQDA Website: https://anadenis.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Three-Second Move That Boosts Confidence and Calms Any Conversation
Have you ever wondered why absorbing other people’s emotions seems to drain your energy, and yet rarely solves the problem at hand? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re diving into the real reason “feeling their pain” might actually be holding you back, and I’m sharing a simple, tactical move that works better and keeps you in control. I’m Tim Newman, your host, a recovering college professor turned communication coach. Through years of working with clients, students, and teams, I used to believe that being a great communicator meant soaking up everyone else’s emotions. I’d match their energy, carry their stress, and walk away completely depleted and still facing the same challenges. Sound familiar? It took me a long time and guidance from negotiation expert Chris Voss to realize that this approach was not only exhausting, it was also ineffective. In this episode, we explore the difference between emotional empathy where you feel what others feel and get swept away by it and tactical empathy, which is all about understanding others’ emotions without losing yourself in them. You’ll hear how Chris Voss, a former FBI hostage negotiator, used tactical empathy to defuse high-stakes situations by naming the emotion in the room with precision, not by absorbing it. We’ll walk through real examples from my own teaching days and coaching work, breaking down how simply labeling someone’s fear or frustration can disarm tension and open up productive conversations. I also point out the crucial final step that most people miss embracing silence after you drop your “label,” instead of rushing to explain or defend yourself. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why emotional empathy depletes your energy but rarely solves the root problem The neuroscience behind why naming an emotion helps people and yourself think more clearly How tactical empathy is different, and why it puts you in control The exact three-second “labeling” move: “It seems like…”, “It sounds like…”, “It looks like…” A breakdown of what makes a label effective versus what falls flat How to handle uncomfortable silences and why they’re key to making this work A simple homework assignment to practice this life-changing skill in your next challenging conversation By the end of this episode, you’ll be equipped with a powerful new approach for every situation where tension or defensiveness runs high without burning out in the process. Remember, progress, not perfection, is what moves us forward. Try out this tactical empathy tool this week and see how quickly your conversations shift. Your voice truly has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How do we actually bridge the generational gap in communication and empower younger leaders to show up with confidence? That’s exactly what we’re tackling in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. I’m Tim Newman, your host and communication coach, and today we’re diving deep into what it means to lead, learn, and grow not just as professionals, but as people who want to make a positive impact on those around us. With Gen Z and millennials set to dominate the workforce by 2030, most leaders still haven’t cracked the code on how to connect with and motivate them. We’re going to change that. Joining me is Robin Lewis, host of the Big Life podcast, leadership coach, transformational speaker, and business strategist. Robin is all about helping purpose-driven business owners lead with clarity, build with focus, and create organizations that truly last. He brings not just expertise, but real stories and actionable frameworks from his own journey growing, stumbling, and ultimately becoming a leader who helps others do the same. In our conversation, Robin shares powerful analogies drawn from his life as a new grandparent, reminding us how we all start life eager to learn, unafraid to fall, and willing to try again. We explore how that spirit is too often lost as we grow and what it takes to reclaim it as leaders. Together, we break down reasons why young adults sometimes forget how to communicate honestly, how bottling up ideas becomes learned behavior, and what leaders can do to reverse that cycle by making people feel seen, heard, and valued. Here’s what you’ll take away from this episode: Why reclaiming a childlike hunger for learning and risk-taking matters in leadership The critical role of being seen, heard, and valued in communication, no matter your age How communication breakdowns aren’t always generational they’re often personality-based Robin’s “Lead to Last” framework and how he developed it after hitting a wall in his own business What separates leaders who say they have purpose from those who truly live it The importance of clarity of self, overcoming limiting beliefs, and defining your core values How to mentor the next generation to think introspectively and with intention Strategies for repairing and learning from failure as both leaders and parents The impact of collaborating instead of competing and finding commonality before difference Practical applications of DISC and other personality tools for team growth and better communication Whether you lead a business, a team, or your family, this episode is packed with hard-earned wisdom and actionable steps to help you (and those you serve) become more authentic, resilient, and confident communicators. Thanks for joining us let’s keep building the kind of leadership that truly lasts. Connect with Robin: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lewisrobin/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Robinlewis411/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robinlewisteam Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Four Shifts Every New Manager Must Make to Succeed
Ever found yourself promoted to a leadership position and suddenly realizing you have no idea how to build authority without losing the respect of your team? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle one of the most challenging transitions you can face at work: moving from peer to manager. I'm Tim Newmana recovering college professor turned communication coachand today we're diving into what really happens when you go from being "one of the team" to leading the team. There’s no guest joining me this week; it’s just you and me unpacking the real obstacles and actionable solutions for new leaders navigating this tricky shift. We all know that being promoted is exciting but it can also be disorienting. One day, you’re sharing complaints over drinks, the next, you’re the one in charge, trying not to repeat the mistakes of managers you once criticized. I break down the hard truth: many companies get management promotions wrong 82% of the time, leaving you with the title, a small raise, and very little guidance on how to actually manage people without damaging relationships. That tension between being accessible and asserting real authority gets new managers stuck in what I call the “access trap.” In this episode, I share the three pillars of real authority, clarity, consistency, and accountability and explain why they matter more than being liked. I walk through four transformative shifts every new manager must make: setting and respecting boundaries, giving honest and direct feedback, using confident language, and tackling conflict early. Each shift comes with clear examples and advice for how to break out of the habits that quietly erode your credibility and relationships. Here’s what you’ll learn: Why pretending nothing has changed after your promotion only creates confusion The data behind why promoting top performers doesn’t always make sense for leadership roles How to avoid the “access trap” and be more than just a buddy with a title The three foundational elements of real authority (and what it’s not) The four skill shifts every new manager must practice: boundaries, feedback, language, and conflict Practical steps for having honest conversations that set a new tone for your team Why consistency is more important than charisma for building trust How to start small choose one shift and put it into practice this week If you’ve just made the leap into management, or you want to support someone who has, I promise this episode will leave you with clear, actionable steps you can use immediately. Remember, your former peers don’t need a friend wearing a manager’s badge, they need a leader who sets the standard with courage and clarity. Listen in and take the first step toward building authority that truly holds. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How Dressing Well Boosts Your Confidence and Leadership Perception
How much does the way you dress really impact your confidence and the way others see you? That’s the question we dive into in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. On today’s show, we’re tackling one of the most overlooked yet transformative aspects of communication: your appearance. We often talk about content, delivery, and presence when it comes to confident communication, but what about the impact of what we wear? Whether you’re stepping into a new job, leading a meeting, or just trying to level up your everyday look, your wardrobe can be a powerful ally in building your leadership perception and feeling your absolute best. Joining me for this conversation are Caden Broussard and Jinny Chen, co-founders of Cello, one of the largest styling companies serving professionals especially men during big life transitions. Their team of stylists partners with clients to help them dress with both confidence and executive presence, demystifying the connection between clothing, self-image, and professional results. We kicked things off by reflecting on a big realization: so many people struggle with style not because they lack fashion sense, but because it feels like a confidence problem. Caden Broussard shared how, despite working hard and achieving corporate success, feeling uncomfortable or inappropriately dressed could undermine their belief in themselves. Jinny Chen pointed out that most people reach for the same clothes because comfort breeds confidence, something confirmed by research, including fascinating studies on how what you wear can affect your performance and self-perception. Here’s what we covered in this conversation: Why style is really about confidence, not just fashion Instant first impressions, the “halo effect,” and scientific studies on performance and clothing Cultural challenges men face around asking for style advice Why transitions like promotions or new jobs often spark the need for a wardrobe rethink The three key elements anyone can adjust right now for a better perception How clothing fit impacts confidence more than you might think Why self-expression matters, and how to sneak it into a professional wardrobe The hidden challenges of dressing appropriately post-pandemic and in hybrid workplaces Psychological barriers to cleaning out your closet and why this step is crucial How Cello uses technology, including AI and professional stylists, for effortless, confidence-boosting style Tips for building outfits for every occasion, from formal to casual, and why “uniforms” can work both for and against you Whether you’re someone who’s always in a blue shirt (guilty as charged!), or you’re just looking for ways to feel more confident and make a positive impression, this episode will give you plenty to think about and some simple steps to act on right away. Connect with Caden & Jinny: Caden LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caden-broussard-90985a90/ Jinny LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jinnychen/ Website: https://cellocloset.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hellocellocloset Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Why Difficulty Is the Filter, Not the Barrier
Have you ever wondered why things never really seem to get easier, no matter how much you improve? Why does every step of progress seem to bring a new kind of challenge? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dig into the real role of difficulty in growth and communication and challenge the myth that hard things are just barriers standing in our way. I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I want to let you in on a lesson that took me much longer to learn than I care to admit: hard isn’t the enemy. It isn’t something to run from or wait out. In fact, hard is the very thing that filters out the competition, exposes what we really know, and drives the lasting growth we all want. Today we’re pulling wisdom from thinkers like John Maxwell and even some military wisdom to unpack how our mindset about challenges determines whether we stall or move forward. I open up about my own history of waiting for the moment when things would stop being difficult and how everything changed when I realized that comfort doesn’t arrive on schedule, and that growth lives inside the struggle itself. In this episode, I cover: Why most people treat difficulty as a bad sign and the mindset shift to seeing it as a filter, not a barrier The military’s “embrace the suck” philosophy and why the difficulty never really ends (it just changes shape) John Maxwell’s ideas about evaluated experience and how simply enduring hard things isn’t enough you have to reflect The danger zone: what happens when difficulties pile up and why most people fall apart not because things get harder, but because their relationship to hard doesn’t change The real perspective shift: seeing difficulty as proof you’re in the arena, not as something that’s being done to you Why growth only happens in discomfort and how to train yourself to look for the lesson instead of resenting the pain Three practical ways to change your relationship with hard things right now, from reframing setbacks to learning how to welcome discomfort as a signal you’re on the right track If you’re tired of waiting for things to get easier or wondering if you’re doing something wrong just because you’re struggling, this episode is for you. Let’s shift your mindset, reframe your experience with difficulty, and get you confidently moving through the hard stuff, not around it. Remember: the people who win aren’t the ones who found a shortcut they’re the ones who got comfortable being uncomfortable. Progress, not perfection. Let’s get to work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How Asking Questions Builds True Communication Confidence
What if the secret to real confidence in communication isn’t about having all the right answers, but about asking better questions? Welcome back to Speaking with Confidence! I’m Tim Newman, your host and a recovering college professor turned communication coach. In this episode, we dig deep into the misconception that confidence means certainty and flip the script to show how the best communicators are defined not by what they know, but by how curious they are. Joining me today is Michael Ashford, a dynamic communication and leadership coach, longtime marketing executive, and two-time TEDx speaker. Michael Ashford is passionate about empowering people to communicate in ways that traditional education rarely touches, helping us inspire change, drive action, and resolve conflict more effectively in our lives. Together, we explore Michael Ashford’s journey from nearly failing out of college as an engineering major to finding his true path in journalism, a shift that taught him the importance of aligning passion, curiosity, and personal fulfillment. He shares how letting go of other people’s expectations and finding his own voice became foundational to his confidence and success. Here’s what we cover in this episode: The false belief that confidence requires always being right and what true confidence really looks like Michael Ashford's honest story of personal and academic failure, and how curiosity led him to a career aligned with his values The pivotal role of communication skills in every aspect of life and leadership Why the education system fails us by prioritizing certainty over curiosity and the ability to ask better questions How to break out of the sunk cost fallacy in careers, relationships, and heated debates The impact of information overload and social media on our ability to trust, listen, and connect The practical power of curiosity how asking more questions shifts conversations, builds trust, fosters empathy, and increases genuine confidence Tips for anyone wanting to be a better communicator today: ask more questions, get curious about your own motivations, and embrace the “power of the pause” before responding How true introspection and questioning our own beliefs lays the foundation for alignment, fulfillment, and lasting confidence This episode is packed with real talk, actionable strategies, and stories you can relate to whether you want to communicate better at work, defuse conflicts at home, or just find your own unique voice. Dive in, and discover how you can become the curious, confident communicator you’re meant to be. Connect with Michael: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaeldashford/ Website: https://michaelashford.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaeldashford YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@michaeldashford Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How to Become the Most Influential Person in Any Room in Just 13 Minutes
Have you ever sat through a meeting and wondered why the loudest voice in the room seems to dominate yet rarely drives any real influence? In this episode of Speaking With Confidence, I’ll answer a question that impacts every professional gathering: If it’s not the loudest voice that wins the room, what actually does? I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I’m pulling back the curtain on what really makes someone the most influential person in the room. Spoiler: It’s not volume, and it’s not vocabulary. After years in boardrooms, classrooms, and meetings of every kind, I’ve seen firsthand and struggled through myself the pitfalls of overcomplicating messages, hiding behind jargon, and talking just to fill the silence. The result? You risk becoming background noise, no matter how many slides or big words you pack in. Today’s episode is all about becoming the person who can say the one thing everyone is thinking but can’t quite put into words. I’ll walk you through research-backed truths on attention spans, the brutal math of memory retention, and the real cost of poor communication in the workplace. We’ll talk about why clarity is the most valuable currency you can bring to a group, and how being a clarifier trumps being the show-off or the non-stop talker every single time. I’m sharing the three habits that will make you the clarifier in any room, and you’ll walk away with tools you can use in your very next meeting. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why the loudest person is rarely the most influential and what actually creates influence The attention span cliff: what happens at minute 15 and why 18 minutes is a magic number The science of memory retention and why going long costs you credibility The “8th grade rule” for simplifying your message The staggering cost of poor communication in organizations Three habits to make you the architect of any conversation: the two second pause, the one sentence summary, and the clarifying question Practical examples and questions you can use to shift from noise-maker to problem-solver instantly If you’ve ever left a meeting frustrated because you didn’t feel heard or wondered why your great idea didn’t seem to stick, this episode is for you. Join me to learn how being a clarifier, not a commentator, will make you the most influential person in every room you enter. And remember: You don’t need a new personality, just a handful of simple tactical switches to start commanding attention and guiding conversations with confidence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Emotional Intelligence in Communication: Tools for Self-Awareness and Confident Speaking
What’s really holding you back from being a confident, impactful communicator could it be less about your words and more about truly understanding yourself? Welcome back to Speaking with Confidence! I’m Tim Newman, and in this episode, we dig deep into the heart of communication not just the techniques and the tips, but the self-awareness that’s at the foundation of how you show up and connect with others. Today, I’m joined by Sandy Gerber, a powerhouse communication coach, emotional intelligence trainer, TEDx speaker, and the award-winning author of Emotional Magnetism. Sandy’s journey from outward business success to a reckoning with personal fulfillment will resonate with anyone who’s ever felt their “on paper” life didn’t match up with how things felt inside. We kicked things off by asking the big question: is it really your communication skills that need fixing, or could it be a lack of self-awareness that’s clouding your conversations with others? Sandy shares a pivotal moment in her life, when, despite all the trappings of success, she felt like a fraud because her personal relationships weren’t thriving. That realization kicked off a decade-long exploration into what makes relationships at home and at work genuinely successful. We talk about how so many of us are “winging it” when it comes to communication, borrowing strategies from family or the workplace without understanding our own internal dialogue. Sandy opens up about learning from her failures, seeking out wisdom from luminaries like John Maxwell and Wayne Dyer, and ultimately developing her framework of emotional magnetism, the idea that we’re each driven by core emotional needs that shape our decisions and interactions. Here’s what we covered: The difference between communication problems and self-awareness problems Sandy’s journey from outward success to confronting personal dissatisfaction Why “looking successful” isn’t the same as “feeling successful” The role of emotional magnetism in shaping our choices and relationships How to identify and honor your and others’ core emotional motivators The pitfalls of labeling others (and yourself) by behavior rather than by motivations Why authentic connection and empathy are built on understanding “why” Tools for regulating your emotions in high-stress moments (the EQ Switch) The neuroscience behind naming your emotions and calming your nervous system Recognizing and addressing emotional disengagement (“quiet cracking”) in the workplace The fundamental importance of intentional pausing and reflection as a communicator Actionable body language tips to look more confident and approachable (“the E trick”) The life-changing impact of choosing your first and last thoughts each day Why doing the work on yourself is non-negotiable for genuine leadership and influence This episode is all about moving from surface-level techniques to deep transformation so you can communicate, connect, and lead with real confidence. Connect with Sandy: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sgerber/ Website: https://sandygerber.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandy_gerber_official/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ConnectedConversationsSG Magnetic Communication podcast: https://sandygerber.com/podcast/ Podcast Award Voting: https://www.womenpodcasters.com/magnetic-communication Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The 21-Day Challenge to Sound Confident and Articulate in Every Conversation
Have you ever wondered how some people seem effortlessly articulate, making every word count, while others struggle to get their point across? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I break down exactly what it takes to become that person the one others listen to, respect, and remember by following a simple 21-day system. I'm Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and I'm on a mission to help you discover the three foundational habits that can transform your speaking skills with no charisma required. Today, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step approach to building articulation as a skill, not a talent. Forget what you think you know about natural-born communicators. Together we’ll prove that anyone can learn to command a room and get results. We start by facing the real costs of poor communication, not just the $2 trillion it costs US businesses each year, but the quiet daily losses: fumbled meetings, muddled emails, and missed chances to show your worth. Then, I’ll guide you through each week of the system, designed so you can practice, record your progress, and see tangible clarity, confidence, and control develop day by day. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why articulation isn’t a talent, but a trainable, measurable skill if you use a structured approach The silent tax of poor communication in your professional life, and how it shows up in lost opportunities Week 1: Building clarity through “visual nouns” learning to paint pictures instead of offering empty abstractions Week 2: Leading with impact by putting your bottom line up front (BLUF), so your audience hears your message first, not buried in context Week 3: Commanding the room through staccato phrasing and confidence-boosting pauses, so you sound thoughtful, not rushed Practical, daily exercises for each habit, including rewriting emails, reframing project descriptions, and practicing presence in meetings Why recording yourself at the beginning and end of this journey is proof of progress, not perfection The ultimate takeaway: how to reach for concrete words, serve your conclusion before your context, and master the power of the pause Whether you want to stand out in meetings, make your emails count, or simply stop feeling like you’re speaking “in clouds,” this episode delivers the tools and the mindset you need to level up starting today. Don’t wait to feel ready. Press record, follow the system, and watch your communication transform in just 21 days. And remember: talk like you’re correct, listen like you’re wrong. For more resources, grab your free eBook “Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them” at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com and check out my Formula for Public Speaking course. Your voice truly can change the world. Let's make sure it gets heard. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Finding Your True Voice: The Power of Vocal Congruence and Self-Acceptance
What if the way you sound matters just as much if not more than the words you say? We often believe that effective communication starts and ends with content, but in today’s episode, we dig beneath the surface: how can aligning your voice with your authentic self change the way you connect with others? I’m Tim Newman, and this week on Speaking with Confidence, I invited Wolfe Lanier to join me for a truly eye-opening conversation. Wolfe is a Somatic Voice practitioner and researcher, currently completing his MFA in Voice Studies at the Royal Central School of Speech and Drama. His journey has taken him from the mountains of Appalachia, through New York’s corporate coaching world, into deep somatic practice all fueled by a central, fascinating question: why is there often a gap between who we are and how we come across? Wolfe shared his own story of performance anxiety, stage fright, and that all-too-relatable feeling of disconnect between inner worth and outward expression. We explored how self-talk, ego, and even physical tension in the body shape the sound of our voice and how often, what’s holding us back in communication is much deeper than we realize. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why your voice often reveals more than your words Wolfe’s personal journey from stage fright to vocal research The connection between self-talk, inner worth, and how you sound The science and experience of “vocal congruence” How culture, accent, and history influence voice and acceptance The role of somatic practice and releasing physical tension Why most people are their own worst critics and how to break the cycle The interplay between ego, perfectionism, and authentic communication Generational shifts in communication styles and expectations Step-by-step advice for building confidence and congruence in your voice If you’ve ever wished your voice could reflect your real confidence, or you’ve struggled to feel truly comfortable speaking up, this episode will give you a fresh perspective and practical steps to start bridging the gap between who you are and how you come across. Connect with Wolfe: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wolfe-lanier-1186a61b/ Website: https://www.wolfelanier.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wolfe.lanier/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Speak Like a CEO: Simple, Concise, and Confident Communication That Gets Results
Are you making your message clear or just making it longer? In today’s episode, we’re tackling one of the most common myths in professional communication: that sounding like a CEO means drowning in buzzwords and complex sentences. In reality, the strongest leaders use a different formula: simplicity, conciseness, and real confidence. I’m Tim Newman, your host for Speaking with Confidence. As a former college professor turned communication coach, I’ve seen firsthand how even the smartest folks can accidentally sound junior not because they lack expertise, but because we’re all trained to value complexity over clarity. In this episode, I’m breaking down the exact framework I use with executives who want to sound like leaders and get results. It’s just me, Tim Newman, sharing straight talk and some proven strategies you can start applying right now. We’ll look at why so many ambitious professionals default to overwrought, jargon-heavy language, and why that tendency actually undercuts your credibility in the boardroom. I’ll share stories from real pitch meetings, explain the “eighth grade rule” for clarity, and walk through practical techniques for making your message unmistakable. You’ll also hear why brevity is your best friend, how every extra sentence waters down your message, and how CEOs wield silence as a tool for authority. We’ll explore what true confidence sounds like (hint: it’s not loud or domineering), and I’ll walk you through the “certainty principle” talk like you’re correct, listen like you’re wrong. You’ll learn to spot and banish the hedges and caveats that sneak into everyday speech. I’ll wrap things up with actionable drills and real-world examples, including rewriting an email and running your own words through the simple, concise, and confident filter. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why most people accidentally sound junior at work and how to break the habit The three-part formula for executive presence: simple, concise, and confident The “eighth grade rule” for clarity and why it matters Practical exercises to strip jargon and complexity from your communication How brevity and silence signal credibility The difference between true confidence and performance How to replace hedges with certainty and why vulnerability is part of real confidence Tools you can start using tomorrow to make every word count If you’re ready to stop hiding behind big words and long explanations, and start being understood, this episode is your playbook. Remember, your voice has real power when you use it with intention. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Escaping Comfort: How Survival, Communication, and Leadership Shape Success with Said Eshaghi
What if the comfort you feel isn’t a sign you’re doing things right, but a warning that you’ve started losing ground? In this week’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dig deep into the real meaning of comfort and the high cost it can carry through the extraordinary journey of my guest, Said Eshaghi. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a rut or held back by a life that feels “just comfortable enough,” this is an episode you can’t afford to miss. I’m Tim Newman, your host, a recovering college professor turned communication coach and today we’re exploring the powerful, and sometimes dangerous, role comfort can play in our personal growth and professional transformation. This isn’t just another episode about communication tactics. Today, we’re talking about the crucial things that happen before you ever open your mouth, moments that shape your confidence, your ability to adapt, and ultimately, your life’s direction. Said Eshaghi is the founder of Lead Beyond, a Maxwell Leadership certified team member, DISC consultant, and author of the new book Escape from Comfort. Said’s story begins in war-torn Iran, where, as a young teen, he and his brother faced a life-altering decision that would forever change the trajectory of their lives. From a perilous escape across dangerous borders to rebuilding his life in Sweden, rising to become a world-class biochemist, and eventually confronting the pitfalls of unchecked ambition, Said’s journey is a masterclass in resilience, adaptability, and the power of honest reflection. Here’s what we covered in this episode: The harrowing journey that took Said Eshaghi from his home in Iran, through Turkey, and finally to Sweden and how the decisions made during that trek shaped his perspective on trust and survival. Surviving trauma as a child, and why sometimes the things left unsaid are just as important to your survival as what you do say. How positive thinking and the pressure to excel even in subjects you hate can be both a survival mechanism and a potential weakness. The life-changing impact of a compassionate teacher, and how that experience informs the way Said Eshaghi now helps others struggling to express themselves. The challenges of finding your voice in a new country and language, including the role that trust plays in overcoming cultural and communication barriers. Lessons learned from the world of academia why top performers in STEM and high-pressure fields often fail to communicate outside their technical “bubble,” and the difference a great communicator can make. The concept of “mind laundering”: how seemingly harmless persuasion, mixed with personal agendas, can manipulate even the most well-intentioned people and how to recognize the signs before it’s too late. The dangers of unchecked ego and accidental growth, and how losing your sense of purpose can cause even the most successful individuals to go astray. Said Eshaghi’s proprietary FAR framework and how it helps people navigate transitions (and uncomfortable conversations) to move from survival to leadership and fulfillment. How to spot the one degree shift that can, over time, take you miles away from your intended path and what to do if you realize you’ve drifted. Why personal growth, reflection, and a purpose bigger than yourself are critical not just to your own development, but to your capacity to help others in a meaningful way. You’ll also hear us discuss Said Eshaghi’s new book, Escape from Comfort, and how honest reflection on life’s turning points is the key to escaping the “trap” of a comfortable but unfulfilling existence. If you’re in your 20s and feeling directionless, or maybe you’re older and questioning whether your comfort is holding you back, this episode will give you the perspective and practical steps you need to start uncomfortable but ultimately transformative conversations with yourself. Ready to move beyond comfort and toward the life (and impact) you were meant for? Dive into this conversation and let’s start navigating the transitions together. Connect with Said: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/said-eshaghi/ Website: https://saideshaghi.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/said.eshaghi.9 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Three Powerful Phrases to Instantly Shut Down Disrespectful Coworkers
Ever walked out of a meeting replaying the moment you got interrupted or worse, wondered if there’s anything you could have done differently? If you’ve ever felt powerless in those situations, you’re not alone, and today’s episode is here to give you specific tools to reset those dynamics immediately. This week on Speaking with Confidence, I’m tackling a scenario many of us know all too well: a coworker disrespects you in front of the group, and all eyes are on you to see what you’ll do next. Most people default to one of two “losing” moves: shrink away or snap back. Both give control away, and neither actually solves the real problem. What’s really going on isn’t a confidence gap, it’s about perceived cost. In the workplace, disrespect thrives when it’s cheap for the other person. My goal today is to show you how to make sure crossing your boundaries becomes expensive. I’m breaking down the dynamics we so often encounter but rarely address directly. I’ll walk you through the hidden calculations your coworkers are making, and I’ll share three phrases that shift the power dynamic without turning things into a confrontation. Here’s what I cover in this episode: Why most responses to workplace disrespect—shrinking away or snapping back—don’t work, and what’s really happening in the silence after you’ve been interrupted The “perceived cost” principle and how others assess whether it’s worth it to disrespect you The first phrase: “I’m going to stop you right there,” how and why it works, and the importance of delivering it calmly and without qualifiers A real-world example of this phrase in action from a sports sponsorship meeting The second phrase: “That’s not what I said,” is designed to halt sneaky reframes and backhanded dominance moves, and how to effectively use it to reclaim accuracy and credibility How to prevent diluting your response and exactly what to do after using the phrase The third phrase: “I’ll need you to handle that differently next time,” for those chronic, ambiguous behaviors that are hard to call out but undermine your authority and effectiveness The importance of focusing forward, stating expectations, and not getting lured into relitigating old behavior Why the delivery, calm, flat, matter-of-fact is as important as the words themselves How all three phrases work as a simple system to block nearly every kind of workplace disrespect The real driver beneath all three: shifting the math so it’s not worth it for others to cross your boundaries I wrap up with a practical challenge for you: choose the phrase that fits your life the best, and practice it out loud so you’re ready the moment you need it. Progress, not perfection, is always our goal. Stick around for some free resources if you want to keep leveling up your communication skills! Remember, your voice really does have the power to change everything, especially when you use it with clarity and confidence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Unlocking the Hidden Clues to Your Purpose: Spirit, Soul, and Body Connections
Have you ever wondered if you’re missing the clues that are pointing you to your true purpose? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we tackle one of the most important questions anyone can ask: What if your unique design isn’t something you have to invent, but something that’s already waiting to be discovered in the signals of everyday life? I’m Tim Newman, and today we dig deep into the art and science of finding and living your purpose, with the help of a truly fascinating guest, Caleb Matthews. Caleb Matthews is the founder of The SeeLink, a renowned speaker in the spiritual strategy space, and the creator of the SSB method (spirit, soul, and body). With two decades of experience helping thousands decode the hidden signals in their dreams, personal history, and daily frustrations, Caleb Matthews brings insight from new age festivals to meeting rooms with government leaders, and his radio broadcasts have reached millions across Africa. In our conversation, we unpack what it really means to have a “DNA of Design,” why so many people struggle to interpret their own purpose, and the crucial role that our spirit, not just our mind or body, plays in guiding us. Caleb Matthews shares his own remarkable journey from practicing speeches with stuffed animals to speaking at a Kenyan orphanage at 18, which was a life-altering lesson in gratitude and the power of perspective. We explore why Western culture often sidelines the spiritual side of ourselves, and how reawakening it can be a powerful anchor, especially in times of crisis. We also get very practical: how can you start recognizing everyday signals and “dots” that point toward your calling? Caleb Matthews offers simple strategies, including the importance of writing down and reflecting on your dreams which, he argues, are not just random brain static, but coded messages from your deeper self (or even the divine). Some of the things we covered in this episode include: Caleb Matthews’s unique method for discovering purpose through spirit, soul, and body The transformative experience of speaking in Africa and what it taught about gratitude How Western society tends to diminish the role of spirit in personal growth and why that matters The essential practice of recognizing and interpreting dreams as guides for your life Specific reasons why most people miss the clues to their purpose by rushing from A to Z The importance of staying connected to awe, wonder, and childlike curiosity in adulthood The dangers of stuffing down conscience and emotion and how to open up again How who you surround yourself with (the five people you see most) shapes your identity and fulfillment The “three Cs” of construct, conform, and contract in self-development Practical tips on dream journaling and the first question to ask when interpreting your dreams The significance of safeguarding your senses in a noisy, social media-driven world Lessons learned from speaking across more than a dozen countries: every audience is different, yet fundamentally the same If you’ve ever wondered where your purpose is hiding or how to listen to your life for clues you might be missing this episode will give you both inspiration and clear steps to move forward. Plus, Caleb Matthews shares how you can take his free “DNA of Design” quiz at calebmatthews.net to get started on your own journey toward discovering your design type. I hope this conversation challenges and empowers you to look deeper, listen closer, and take the next step in living out your unique calling. Connect with Caleb: Website: https://www.calebmatthews.net Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theseelink/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheSeeLink Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/caleb.matthews.334/ X: https://x.com/TheSeeLink Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How to Give Honest Feedback Without Eroding Trust
Have you ever wondered if the classic “sandwich method” for delivering feedback (compliment, criticism, compliment) actually works, or if it’s causing more harm than good? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re tackling a management myth that’s been passed down for generations, but quietly erodes trust and sours relationships in the workplace. I’m Tim Newman, a former college professor turned communication coach, and I’ve seen countless managers, including myself, reach for this tried-and-true technique in hopes of softening the sting of tough feedback. But here’s the uncomfortable truth: our teams see it coming from a mile away, and the result isn’t motivation or clarity, it's confusion, distrust, and a growing reluctance to believe any positive feedback we share. In this episode, I dig into why the sandwich method fails everyone involved, and introduce you to Tim Elmore’s ALAG framework, a modern, honest, and far more effective way to have those hard conversations without burning trust in the process. While there’s no guest today, I’ll share a real-world story from my own experience to show you how this framework works in practice. We’ll talk about why the sandwich method was created to protect managers’ comfort more than employees’ growth, and how it ends up poisoning praise, confusing communication, and eroding the very trust managers hope to build. Then, I’ll walk you step-by-step through the ALAG framework: Ask, Listen, Empathize, and Guide. Each step is designed to break the pattern of defensiveness, invite genuine conversation, and move your team forward with both compassion and clarity. In this episode, you’ll hear: A breakdown of what actually happens inside a “sandwich” feedback conversation—and why it so often backfires The invisible ways trust is eroded conversation by conversation, even if you don’t see it happening Why opening with curiosity instead of conclusions instantly changes the tone and outcome How to practice genuine active listening instead of debating or rehearsing your next response The critical but overlooked role of empathy why it’s not agreement, and how to avoid compassion fatigue as a manager The power of the word “and” in balancing empathy with accountability How to gently guide toward action and clarity instead of shoving someone toward your standards A real-life example of helping a student navigate a tough decision with grace, using ALAG instead of empty praise Why being a better leader is about building character, not just managing discomfort Finally, I’ll challenge you to try the ALAG approach the next time you need to have a difficult conversation, and explain why real growth happens when you risk showing up with presence and honesty. Remember, we’re not aiming for perfection; we’re aiming for progress, every single day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Building Trust, Winning Work: Mastering Soft Skills for Professional Success
How can technically brilliant professionals turn their expertise into influence and success in the workplace? That's the question we dive into on this episode of Speaking with Confidence. I’m Tim Newman, a former college professor who’s become a communication coach, and I know from experience that technical skills will get you hired, but communication is what gets you noticed and promoted. We see too many talented people missing out on opportunities because they haven’t developed the soft skills that build trust and win work. That's why I sat down with Ken Harms, an advisor, speaker, and author of "Building Trust, Winning Work," to unpack exactly why soft skills are the critical difference maker. Ken brings over 40 years of experience observing technically skilled folks stumble not because of lack of knowledge, but because of an inability to connect, communicate, and build authentic relationships. In our discussion, we tackle the persistent gap in our education system that leaves graduates with excellent technical training but few tools for powerful interaction. Ken shares research from the Carnegie Institute: a staggering 85% of future earnings stem from your ability to communicate and lead rather than strictly from technical know-how. We go deep on the root causes of this soft skills gap, from education to workplace culture, and why so many people resist improvement, even when feedback could dramatically accelerate their careers. Ken talks through his experience with "doer-seller" models in industries like construction explaining why public speaking, storytelling, and, importantly, listening with confidence must be learned and practiced intentionally, not left to chance. We cover actionable ways to prepare for meetings and interviews, showing that confidence is really about preparation and client focus, not just charisma. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why technical skills alone aren’t enough to succeed and get promoted The education system’s failure to teach communication, public speaking, or relationship-building Doer-seller dynamics in architecture, engineering, and construction fields The difference between speaking with confidence and listening with confidence, including Ken’s WAIT (Why Am I Talking?) framework How to prepare for meetings and client interactions by researching and planning thoughtful questions Reframing sales as service and why this matters to younger generations The enduring power of face-to-face meetings and practical ways to create trust digitally Likability, Competence, and Trust: the three professional hurdles and why likability is often the biggest obstacle for new grads The intersection (and collision) between authenticity and professionalism Real talk about workplace attire, first impressions, and why they still matter The importance of teamwork, collaboration, and how group skills learned in sports or competitions apply to the workplace Why mentorship matters and how both young professionals and seasoned leaders must meet each other halfway Ken’s actionable advice for technically brilliant but invisible young professionals: get training, practice relentlessly, and seek out opportunities to shine By the end of this conversation, you’ll have a full picture of how soft skills can elevate your technical expertise so you can speak, serve, sell, and lead with real impact. Connect with Ken: Website: https://kenharms.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kenneth-harms-12b56629/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Secret Technique Confident Speakers Use to Connect
Have you ever wondered why some presentations are instantly forgettable while others stay with you for weeks, even months? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dig into the surprising science and strategies behind messages that stick, and how the secret might just be your story, not your slides. I’m Tim Newman, recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I want to shatter a misconception: that confident speakers are just born with it. In reality, the best speakers aren’t those with loud personalities or endless credentials; they’re the ones who know how to use storytelling to connect, build trust, and inspire action. I’m unpacking the game-changing research on narrative, why audiences remember stories 22 times more than facts, and the counterintuitive way to earn authority (hint: it’s not by leading with your résumé). I pull back the curtain on the real mechanics of storytelling, the “show, don’t tell” principle, and why sharing your mistakes can make you instantly more credible. You’ll hear about my own most embarrassing moment on stage, the neuroscience behind “neural coupling,” and practical tips you can use right away to transform your next presentation. I walk you through step by step on how to rewrite your stories for maximum impact, avoid the biggest storytelling mistakes, and end with actionable takeaways that tie your stories back to your main message. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why telling stories activates your audience’s entire brain—and why that matters The research that proves stories build trust and authority faster than credentials Why sharing a personal setback in your first 60 seconds is often the smartest move The difference between telling and showing, with concrete examples How to audit and edit your stories to make them vivid and memorable The one sentence every story needs to tie back to your main point Three mistakes most speakers make when telling stories—and how to fix them A weekly challenge: how to find, craft, and deliver a powerful story from your own life Whether you’re selling, teaching, leading, or just want to show up more powerfully in everyday conversations, this episode will give you the blueprint for becoming a more memorable, trusted, and confident speaker. Remember, your voice has the power to change the world. Let's start building that confidence, one real story at a time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Steal the structure. Not the show.
Keep the useful structure, then change the audience, point of view, and voice until the idea is unmistakably yours.
