Turns Out I'm Into It!

What’s the difference between degradation and humiliation? While these kinks often get grouped together, they actually tap into very different emotional experiences. In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores: the difference between degradation and humiliation play why these dynamics can feel so intensely erotic how old emotional experiences can sometimes shape our fantasies why consensual kink can feel healing, freeing, and empowering Harley also shares personal experiences with degradation play, discusses humiliation kinks like sissification and exposure, and unpacks the psychology behind why taboo emotions can become such powerful turn-ons. If you’ve ever wondered why these dynamics feel so hot, or whether there’s something wrong with you for being into them, this episode is for you. Explore coaching with Harley: https://harleyrabbit.com/privatecoaching/ xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Welcome friends! This one's for the sex nerds. 🤓 In this episode I'm nerding out on sexology and taking you behind the scenes on the Erototypes framework I've been developing. If you're curious about the thinking behind the system, what's changed, and why, you're going to enjoy this one. Thanks to the incredible feedback from this community, version two is here, and it's so much better. I've added four brand new erototypes (hello Monkey, Horse, Octopus and Stag 👀), made some tweaks based on your suggestions, and built something new that I think you're going to love. Download the free updated guide at harleyrabbit.com . And once you've picked your cards, head to harleyrabbit.com/my-erototypes to generate your shareable hand. 🃏 xx Harley 🐰 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

This week I'm diving into the fascinating world of fetishes: what they are, how they differ from core desires, and why some very specific things can become incredibly erotic. I share a very personal (and very cosy) story about my partner Slade's pyjama fetish, explore the psychology behind how fetishes form during our formative years, and reflect on my own unexpected turn-ons — including steel, and possibly Formula One cars. Whether you've got a fetish you've never quite understood, or you're just kink-curious, this one's for you. Grab your comfiest PJs and tune in. 🐰 Don't forget to grab my free Erototypes guide here , or visit harleyrabbit.com — a new updated version is coming soon! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Kink has a bit of a PR problem. Most people assume it’s all pain, whips and chains… but that’s actually a tiny slice of what’s possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 4 core ways desire shows up: Primal, Nurture, Obedience and Shadow. These aren’t rigid roles to fit into, but different flavours of turn-on that can help you start to recognise what actually feels good for you. As you listen, notice what stands out. You might see yourself clearly in one, or realise you’re a mix of several. That’s the point. Desire isn’t one thing — and the more you understand your own, the more fun this whole world becomes. 👉 Download your free Guide to Erototypes 👉 Ready to go deeper? Try the Discover Your Erototypes workshop xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Alright friends, it’s been a long time coming, but I’m finally ready to share something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes. 🥁🥁🥁 In this episode, I’m introducing Erototypes — a playful way to understand your desires. Instead of trying to fit yourself into a kink role or be a “good” sub or dom, we’re turning that question on its head and looking at desire from the inside out — exploring how you actually want to feel, and the different flavours of turn-on that make up your unique eroticism. Because the truth is, most of us aren’t just one thing. Our desires are layered, complex, and often a little contradictory… and that’s exactly what makes them so interesting! If you’re curious to discover your own erototypes, you can download the free PDF guide or visit harleyrabbit.com and start meeting your own naughty little spirit animals. 🐰🐶🦁 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Kink can ask a lot from a relationship. When we’re exploring things that feel vulnerable, taboo, or a little scary, the sense of safety between partners becomes really important. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the foundations of strong kinky relationships: secure attachment — and why feeling emotionally secure makes it much easier to explore desire, power, and fantasy together. The surprising part is that security is rarely built through big gestures or complicated relationship rules. More often, it grows through the small rituals and routines we share every day — the little ways we show up for each other that quietly build trust over time. I share a few examples from my own relationship and invite you to notice the tiny moments that might already be strengthening yours. Mentioned in this Episode: Polysecure - by Jessica Fern xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Claws are much more than a costume piece. They can completely change how your hands feel in play — and how you feel wearing them. In this episode, I’m joined by J from Claws & Clamps to talk about wearable claws for sensation play. We explore how they’re designed, the difference between sharp and scratchy (yes, that’s a real thing), how to choose the right material and fit, and how to actually use them well. We also dive into calibration, power shifts, primal energy, and why slowing down might be the sexiest move you can make. If you’re curious about trying claws yourself, you can check out J's work at clawsandclamps.com.au and use the code HARLEY for 10% off. Mentioned in this episode: Viroclean - hospital grade disinfectant Are Nylon Claws Safe? - article Mindfulness Exercise Book recommendation: Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams Follow Claws & Clamps: Instagram @claws_and_clamps Fetlife Claws_and_Clamps Facebook ClawsAndClamps xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Kink is supposed to be this underground, secret-club thing… Except it’s actually everywhere. In this episode, I’m diving into the surprisingly kinky places I’ve spotted power dynamics hiding in plain sight — from Phantom of the Opera to Beauty and the Beast , from Harley and Joker to Game of Thrones. Looking back, I can see how certain characters and storylines hooked me long before I had language for why. Turns out, maybe our “taboo” desires aren’t as rare as we think. Maybe they’ve been woven into our culture all along. Keep your eyes open. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Vote for Harley: It’s an honour to be shortlisted for Black Noise Magazine’s Kink Educator of the Year award. Huge thank you to Black Noise for supporting kink educators and helping our voices be heard. If you’d like to vote for me — or any of the other incredible nominees — click here . From our Sponsor: This episode of Turns Out I’m Into It is sponsored by Nothosaur , a fantasy toy brand bringing erotic imagination to life. If you’ve ever been turned on by mythical creatures, powerful beasts, or otherworldly encounters, Nothosaur creates beautifully handcrafted fantasy toys designed to match those desires. With a wide range of designs — and customisable options for size, firmness, and colour — you can create something as unique as your own imagination. Visit nothosaur.com xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

This episode is a little more vulnerable than usual, but so many of us are impacted by our mental health. So this week I’m sharing how kink is helping me stay grounded when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I talk about what it’s like when your mind starts spiralling, and how sensation, containment, and surrender can sometimes do what other tools can’t. Gentle reminder: we do touch on mental health, so take care of yourself while listening. Sponsor Message This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur , makers of stunning, body-safe fantasy toys designed to help you reconnect with your body and your pleasure. Self-pleasure can be a powerful form of self-care, especially when life feels overwhelming — and Nothosaur’s beautifully crafted, customisable toys are made exactly for that kind of intentional, embodied experience. If you’re curious, head to nothosaur.com to explore their range. Thanks to Nothosaur for supporting the show and helping keep these conversations alive. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

In this episode, I’m joined by El from Collared Foxy for a deep dive into the world of sensation play. We talk through wax play and impact play in a way that’s practical, creative, and genuinely accessible — whether you’re already experimenting or just starting to get curious. El brings such a rare mix of lived experience, craftsmanship, and clear language to this conversation, and honestly, I could have talked to her for hours. We explore why sensation play is so much more than just pain, how different sensations land in the body, and how to intentionally build a scene from start to finish. El walks us through everything from choosing candles and impact toys, to setting the mood, pacing a scene, and closing it safely and beautifully. If you’ve ever wanted to expand what’s possible with sensation play — or understand why it can feel so powerful — this episode is packed with ideas you can actually use. Mentined in this episode: The Professional (Game Maker Series) by Kresley Cole The Brie Collection by Red Phoenix Pain Play for Everyone by Luna Carruthers Claws and Clamps - Australian Kink Markers Find Collared Foxy Website: collaredfoxy.com.au Etsy: CollaredFoxy Message from our Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur . If you’re into wax play, you might also be into beautiful colours — and Nothosaur lets you fully customise the look of their toys, from solid colours to fades and marble effects. You can choose the size, firmness, and colours that feel right for you. Head to nothosaur.com to explore the options, and check out their colour gallery for inspiration. Huge thanks to Nothosaur for supporting the show and helping make these conversations possible. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

I’ve always proudly held the value that there is no shame in being a sexual being. I’ve lived that belief — posting spicy photos on FetLife, and speaking openly about kink without apology. But recently, after spending more time on social media, and having to censor myself, I've noticed that certainty start to wobble. This episode is a reflection on what happens when the pressure creeps in. When social censorship starts shaping how you see yourself, not just what you post. Mentioned in this episode: Fetlife writing: "Why I still Share Naked Photos on Fetlife (And Why It's Not Unprofessional)" This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted fantasy toys designed with intention, customisation, and inclusivity in mind — including their packers , thoughtfully made for trans, non-binary, and gender-exploring folks, or anyone wanting to play with gender expression. Their designs are inspired by werewolf mythology, symbolising strength, transformation, and connection to your primal nature — which honestly feels very on brand for this podcast. You can explore their full range at nothosaur.com. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

For a long time, I thought kink was all about big, flashy peak experiences — elaborate scenes, intense role play, and wild adventures that take a lot of time and energy. And while those moments can be amazing, most of us don’t live our lives there. In this episode, I talk about what kink looks like when life is real. Busy weeks, tired nights, limited capacity. I explore how focusing only on big scenes can leave you feeling like you’re not doing enough, and how comparison can quietly drain the joy out of your kink life. I share how I’ve started redefining my own kink practice, shifting toward something more sustainable and supportive. We look at how small, simple forms of play can still meet your core desires, and why everyday kink absolutely counts. Because kink isn’t just for people with endless time or energy. It’s for real people with real lives, who still deserve pleasure, play, and connection. This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. Nothosaur are the creators of beautifully crafted fantasy toys designed to help you explore the wilder corners of your imagination without shame or judgement. Each toy comes with its own rich lore and story, making play feel creative, immersive, and intentional. You can explore their full range at nothosaur.com — and a huge thank you to Nothosaur for supporting the show and keeping these conversations going. Visit nothosaur.com. Check out the Kohana here. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Merry Christmas, my lovelies, and welcome to my very first Christmas special! This episode is a little gift from me to you: a cosy, cheeky Christmas story with a very Harley Rabbit twist. I wrote it because I know the holidays can be magical… but they can also be overwhelming, lonely, or complicated. Especially for so many in this community who are queer, kinky, poly, or neurospicy. So think of this as your tiny refuge from the chaos. Something warm, playful, and just for you. Curl up, get comfy (no kids allowed!), imagine a crackling fire, and let Aunty Harley read you “A Very Adult Christmas.” 🔥 If you want more festive kink inspo… Check out Episode #106 , where I share 12 different Christmas-themed kinky activities to spice up your holidays. From our sponsor: This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur , who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

If you’ve ever wondered why so many smart, capable, high-performing women melt into a puddle the moment someone takes control… this episode is going to hit home. Today I’m joined by the incredible Julieta Chiara for a conversation that goes straight to the heart of why ambitious, high-functioning women crave the chance to finally let go . We unpack the deep psychological reasons so many of us who “run the show” in our everyday lives are drawn to dominance and submission. That moment where your brain finally switches off… the delicious relief of not making decisions… the thrill of being overpowered in a way that feels chosen, safe, and wildly sexy. Julieta and I talk about the internal battle between being competent, self-led adults and the part of us that fantasises about surrender. We explore psychological kink, degradation, rope, CNC, subspace — and how all of these can become powerful pathways into rest, intimacy, and embodiment for women who otherwise never stop thinking. If you’re a high-achieving woman who struggles to relax, who secretly wants someone to take the reins, or who feels confused about what “submission” really means… this episode will feel like someone finally translated your inner world into words. Mentioned in this episode: Empowered Submission Academy Nawa Foundations Nawa Flow Heart of Dominance (book) Existential Kink (book) From our sponsor: This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur , who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

It’s officially December, which means two things: Christmas chaos is upon us, and I am absolutely going to find ways to make it kinky. In this week’s episode, I’m sharing 12 fun, creative, and very naughty ways to sprinkle a little extra spice into your holiday season. Some are playful, some are sensual, some are downright filthy — and most of them work just as well if you’re partnered or solo, and some even work for long-distance. I didn’t expect Christmas and kink to be such a perfect combination… but once you start thinking about it, they pair beautifully . Kink is playful, cosy, connective, and full of imagination — which is exactly what this time of year is supposed to be. Whether you try one or all twelve, these ideas are designed to bring some fun, play, and pleasure back into a season that can be… a lot. Even if you adore Christmas, it’s still busy, emotional, and chaotic — so think of this as your little permission slip to create a moment of joy for yourself. If you end up trying any of these (or inventing your own twist), please tell me! I love hearing what you get up to. Mentioned in this episode: Harley's tentacle toy review on Fetlife From our sponsor: This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur , who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Hey friends, Harley here! This week we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood and surprisingly historic corners of fetish culture: tentacle erotica . From centuries-old Japanese artwork to modern fantasy toys, this genre has far more depth and erotic imagination than most people realise. In this episode, I explore: The surprising origins of tentacle erotica in Japanese shunga art How censorship laws helped shape the genre Why tentacle fantasies feel so erotic for so many people The many forms of tentacle creatures — from ocean beings to aliens and plant tendrils How to explore this fantasy safely and shame-free And my first impressions of Nothosaur’s Alla tentacle toy Explore fantasy toys at nothosaur.com . Mentioned in this episode: Article referencing the Dream of the Fishermans Wife by Hokusai - https://blog.alltheanime.com/hokusais-tentacles/ Tencicle art by Kitao Shigemasa (1739-1820) https://www.bonhams.com/auction/21861/lot/256/kitao-shigemasa-1739-1820-circa-1782/ ‘Diver and Octopuses ‘ Series ‘Picture Book: Lust of Many Women on One Thousand Nights (Ehon chiyo-dameshi)’, c.1786. https://shungagallery.com/katsukawa-shuncho-shunga-diver-octopuses/ Urotsukidoji: Legend of the Overfiend (1989) film (heavy content warning) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0108461/ Harley's tentacle inspired audio fantasy "The Blue Flower" on Fetlife Harley's X-rated Fetlife review of Nothosaur's Alla XL xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Hey friends, it's Harley here. In this episode, I chat with Kingsley from Nothosaur , the fantasy toy company turning imagination into art. From dragons and wolves to tentacles and alien lovers, Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted silicone toys inspired by fantasy creatures — each with its own character, backstory, and personality. Kingsley shares how the brand started in a tiny Hong Kong studio and grew into a 50-person creative team known for their wild designs and inclusive values. We talk about how toys are designed, tested, and refined (yes — real testers around the world give feedback!), how Nothosaur balances creativity with comfort, and what it means to “make toys unique and make sex free.” Mentioned in this episode: Nothosaur.com Nothosaur on X @nothosaurtoys on Instagram Sponsor: This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur — fantasy art you can feel . Each toy is body-safe silicone and fully customisable in colour, firmness, and size. Explore the collection at nothosaur.com and let your imagination run wild! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

In this episode, I speak with Kazami Sensei , one of Japan’s most respected figures in shibari and the founder of Kazami-ryu . Over a career spanning more than thirty years, he has performed and taught extensively throughout Japan and internationally, with certified schools now operating in Australia, Canada, and Hong Kong. In our conversation, Kazami Sensei reflects on his early years of self-teaching, drawing inspiration from the late master Randa Mai , and how his own style gradually developed into what is now known as Kazami-ryu. He shares how shibari has evolved over the decades, what continues to drive his innovation, and the philosophy that keeps his practice alive after thousands of performances. We talked about: How he creates such emotionally alive performances without rehearsing What he’s really focused on while performing (it’s not just technique) The evolution of shibari across three decades — from VHS tapes to global schools The story behind his signature L-locks and how Kazami-ryu developed Why his ties are always changing and improving How riggers can bring out their model’s beauty through awareness and intention And yes, the unforgettable story of the time a rope actually caught fire mid-performance 🔥 Mentioned in this episode: Photos of his performance at the Cabaret can be found on instagram. Follow @evilgirls.hq, @miss_gen_does_rope or @das_puppy. Follow: You can also follow Kazami Sensei @kazamiranki_shibari Learn more: If you’re interested in learning Kazami-ryu, visit kazami-ryu.com for links to schools across the world. If you're based in Australia or New Zealand, you can study Kazami-ryu through Miss Gen. Visit evilgirlshq.com.au xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Why does pain sometimes feel so damn good? And what actually makes a scene hot instead of just… well, hurt? In this episode, I’m diving deep into the delicious world of sadism and masochism — and the three ingredients that make it work: power, attention, and surrender. I just got back from Brisbane, where I got to do another rope scene with Deadmaxis (and yes, I asked him to show me a bit more of his mean side 😈). I also went to Miss Gen’s 10-year shibari anniversary cabaret, which was honestly breathtaking. Seeing those performances — including one by Kazami Ranki himself — gave me so much to think (and feel!) about when it comes to the psychology of pain and kink. In this episode, I share what I discovered about: Why power and vulnerability create such intense erotic charge. How attention — not just pain — is the secret sauce behind hot S&M. What surrender really feels like and what makes it possible. Why teasing, torment, and fear can actually feel incredible. If you’ve ever wondered how S&M can feel loving, connected, and insanely sexy all at once — this one’s for you. Mentioned in this Episode Deadmaxis - follow on Intragram @_deadmaxis xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

This week I’m joined once again by my partner, rigger, and Dom — Slade — as we unpack our recent experience completing Kazami-Ryu Level 1 , a three-day Shibari intensive right here in Townsville. Together we share what it was really like to dive into formal rope training — the challenges, the breakthroughs, and the lessons learned from both sides of the rope. We explore: Slade's lessons in persistence as an aspiring rigger Harley's insights on how mindset can have a major effect on pain tolerance The difference between playful rope and “lab-mode” learning How rope journaling can be a creative way to integrate learning When to upgrade your rope Navigating comparison and confidence in group learning The importance of having fun and being a supportive partner This one feels like you’re sitting down with us for a casual chat about rope over a few drinks. Neither of us are experts — but sometimes that makes the experience even more relatable for those who are also new to this world. From bleeding fingers and proud time-trials to unexpected moments of calm and connection, this episode is both an inside look at structured rope education and a love letter to the art of learning together. Special thanks to Basanos and Angel for bringing their amazing skills and tuition to our little town! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com