Coming Up for Air

Will my ex come back? It’s one of the hardest questions to stop asking after a breakup especially when you were the one who was left. But there’s another stage of heartbreak nobody really prepares you for: the moment you realise they might actually never come back. In this episode I talk about why losing hope can feel like a second breakup, why you can still want your ex to come back even when you know the relationship wasn’t right, and what happens when 'they haven’t come back yet' slowly becomes 'maybe this really is over.' We’ll get into waiting for an ex to change their mind, struggling to let go, dealing with rejection, wondering whether they regret leaving, and how to move forward without forcing yourself to believe you’ll never hear from them again. Because healing after a breakup isn’t about knowing for certain that your ex will never come back. It’s reaching the point where your life no longer depends on finding out whether they will. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@loula.comingupforair Support the show

You've stopped speaking to them, so why are you still having entire conversations with them in your head? In this episode, I talk about why we mentally talk to an ex after a breakup, replay conversations, imagine telling them things and wonder what they'd think of the life we're building without them. We get into wanting recognition rather than reconciliation, missing being witnessed by someone who knew your whole life, and what these imaginary conversations might actually be doing for you. If you're struggling to stop thinking about your ex and wondering whether you'll ever fully move on, this one's for you. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@loula.comingupforair Support the show

If you’re single and scared you’ll never find love, I want you to imagine something: your future relationship is already secured. You don’t know who they are. You don’t know when you’ll meet. You just know you cannot miss them. How would you live differently if you weren’t constantly wondering when love was going to happen? In this episode, I am talking about being single in your 30s, dating anxiety, the fear of being alone, finding love later in life and the experiences we sometimes postpone until we have a partner. Then I’m changing the hypothetical completely: what if I told you that you wouldn’t meet them for another five years? Because this isn’t really an episode about how to find a relationship. It’s about what you might do with your life if you stopped requiring certainty about your romantic future before allowing yourself to fully live your present. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

If you’re single and quietly wondering whether you’re doing this stage of life 'right,' this episode is for you. There’s so much pressure to make single life look incredible the travelling, the career, the solo dates, the full social calendar, the constant proof that you’re thriving. But maybe your life doesn’t need to impress anyone. Maybe it just needs to feel like yours. In this episode, we talk about feeling behind while other people get married and have children, the fear of being single forever, loneliness, changing friendships, creating your own milestones and the ways we accidentally put life on hold while waiting to meet someone. This isn’t about convincing yourself that you don’t want love. You’re allowed to want a relationship and still build a life that feels meaningful now. Because your single years aren’t the waiting room for your real life. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

Being single in your 30s can feel completely fine… until suddenly it doesn't. Your friends are married, having children and building lives with their partners. You're not on dating apps, you don't have many single friends and you find yourself wondering: where am I actually supposed to meet someone? And underneath that is the question that's much harder to admit: what if I never do? In this episode, I'm talking about the pressure of the timeline we thought our lives would follow, the fear of running out of time, comparison, being surrounded by couples and how easily 'I don't know when I'll meet someone' can become 'maybe I never will.' This isn't an episode telling you to get a hobby, download a dating app or learn to love being single so much that you stop wanting a relationship. You are allowed to want love. You are allowed to find this chapter difficult sometimes. This is about learning how to live fully in the uncertainty without treating your life right now as evidence of what your future will look like. If you feel like everyone else is moving forward while you're still waiting for your life to begin, this episode is for you. 🤍 Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

Why does being single feel so much harder than it should? If you've ever found yourself wondering why everyone else seems to be moving on, why you're still waiting for your life to begin, or why being single feels like a personal failure, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I am not talking about learning to 'love being single' or pretending you don't want a relationship. I am talking about the hidden beliefs that make being single so painful in the first place. Together, we'll explore why being single can feel like rejection, why you might be grieving more than just your relationship, how comparison convinces you you're falling behind, and why your relationship status has quietly become tied to your self-worth. This episode is for anyone navigating heartbreak, healing after a breakup, rebuilding their confidence, or trying to stop seeing being single as something they need to escape. If you've ever asked yourself: 💛 Why am I still single? 💛 Why does everyone else seem to be moving on? 💛 How do I stop feeling left behind? 💛 Will I ever meet someone? I hope this episode reminds you that you're not broken, you're not behind, and your life doesn't have to wait for someone else to begin. If this episode resonates with you, I'd love it if you followed the podcast and shared it with someone who needs to hear this today. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

There comes a moment after a breakup where you stop worrying about what happened. and start worrying about what it means for your future. What if you'll never love again? What if you've missed your chance? What if your best years are already behind you? In this episode I want to explore one question that completely changed the way I think about healing: If you could see your future would you live today differently? Because the truth is, we spend so much of our lives making decisions based on predictions rather than possibilities. We convince ourselves we know how our story ends simply because we can't see what's coming next. Together, we'll explore why heartbreak makes us believe our future has already been written, why your brain is so quick to predict the worst, and why every older version of you underestimated the life you're living today. If you're rebuilding after being left, struggling to trust life again, or feeling like you're stuck in the uncertainty of what comes next, I hope this episode reminds you that your future is still being written. The version of your life you're imagining today isn't the only one that exists. Your future has never asked you to predict it. It's only ever asked you to keep walking. If you'd like to go even deeper, I've created a bonus Patreon episode where I walk you through practical exercises to help you stop living according to the future you fear and start making decisions from possibility instead. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

Why can't I move forward from my breakup? If you've been asking yourself this question, you're not alone. In this episode I explore why so many of us become convinced we'll never move on after heartbreak. I talk about how your brain collects evidence that you're 'stuck,' why the story you tell yourself matters, and how changing small daily habits can completely change your healing. This episode will help you understand why if nothing changes, nothing changes and why that's actually the most hopeful thing you'll hear today. Whether you're struggling with no contact, anxious attachment, missing your ex months or years later, or wondering how to move on after being left, this episode will help you start changing the narrative. Healing isn't about one big breakthrough it's about the small decisions that slowly become a completely different life. If you're rebuilding after heartbreak, you're in the right place. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

If you've been left after a long-term relationship and you're wondering how to rebuild your life, this episode is for you. Today, I'm talking about The Rebuild the chapter that comes after heartbreak. Not just healing or moving on, but creating a life that's bigger, braver and more fulfilling than the one you thought you'd lost. I share the psychology behind why life can feel like it's standing still after a breakup, why your brain struggles to imagine a future without your ex, and how to stop surviving and start truly living again. If you're navigating heartbreak, no contact, rebuilding your confidence, or learning how to embrace being single after being left, I hope this episode reminds you that your future isn't gone it's waiting to be built. I also share a little about The Rebuild , my upcoming coaching programme designed to help you rebuild your confidence, identity and life after heartbreak. If this episode resonates with you, I'd love it if you followed the podcast, left a rating, or shared it with someone who needs the reminder that this chapter isn't the end of their story it's where they begin again. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

Have you ever wondered why being left hurts for years, even after you've done so much healing? In this episode, I'm talking about the hidden rejection that follows a breakup. The part nobody prepares you for. The part where someone else's decision slowly becomes the way you see yourself. If you've ever thought, ' Why wasn't I enough?' or ' Why does rejection still affect me years later?' this episode is for you. I'm sharing my own journey after my fiancé of 14 years left, why heartbreak can completely change your identity, and how I slowly stopped letting someone else's choice define my self-worth. We'll explore why rejection feels so personal, why it follows us into new relationships and dating, and how to rebuild your confidence without needing someone else to choose you. If you're healing after a breakup, struggling with rejection, or trying to rebuild your life after being left, I hope this episode helps you see yourself with a little more compassion and a lot more hope. In this episode: • Why rejection after a breakup feels so painful • The stories heartbreak makes us believe • Why rejection can stay with you for years • How to stop letting someone else's decision define your worth • The mindset shifts that helped me rebuild after being left Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

How do you actually enjoy being single after a breakup instead of just surviving it? In this episode, I'm challenging some of the most common breakup advice and sharing a completely different way of thinking about single life. Instead of treating being single like a waiting room, I explore why it can become one of the most freeing and transformative chapters of your life. I talk about why we keep living as though our ex is still watching, how emotional intensity can make peace feel unfamiliar, why we continue explaining our choices to people who are no longer in our lives, and what it really means to build a life that belongs entirely to you. If you're healing from heartbreak, learning to be alone again, or wondering how to enjoy your own company without relying on the usual clichés, this episode is for you. Because the goal isn't just to move on from your breakup. It's to become the author of a life that no longer needs anyone else's permission to feel complete. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

This isn't a self-help episode. It's a validation chat. If you've found yourself single in your late 20s or 30s after a breakup, engagement ending, divorce, or long-term relationship, this conversation is for you. I am talking about the things people don't say out loud: feeling left behind while everyone else seems to be moving forward, grieving a future you had already planned, rebuilding a life you never wanted, and comparing your reality to an ex who appears to have moved on. No generic advice. No "just focus on yourself." Just an honest conversation about the thoughts, fears and frustrations that come with starting over when you thought this chapter of your life was already written. Topics include: Being single at 30 Breakup grief Losing the future you planned Feeling left behind Starting over after a long-term relationship Watching your ex move on Relationship loss and identity changes If you've ever thought, 'I was supposed to have that life by now,' you're not alone. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

Will your ex come back? Why hasn't your ex reached out? Does no contact really work? And how do you heal when you've been dumped by someone you still love? In this episode, I explore the psychology behind heartbreak, attachment, and why so many people stay emotionally stuck waiting for an ex to return. You'll learn why silence feels so painful, why some exes never reach out again, what actually predicts reconciliation, and how to stop putting your life on hold while waiting for closure. This episode covers: • Will my ex come back? • Why my ex hasn't reached out • No contact after a breakup • Healing after being dumped • Getting over an ex you still love • Heartbreak recovery and attachment psychology • How to stop waiting for your ex • Moving on without closure • Breakup healing and emotional recovery If you're struggling with a breakup, missing your ex, or wondering whether they'll ever contact you again, this episode offers a deeper understanding of what's really happening and how to start moving forward regardless of what they choose. Because healing begins when your future is no longer dependent on their return. Support the show

In this episode, I talk about why it's so hard to move on after a breakup when you still believe your ex had so much potential. If you've been dumped, blindsided, or left heartbroken after a long-term relationship, you may find yourself obsessing over who your ex could have been rather than who they actually were. I talk about heartbreak healing, anxious attachment, relationship grief, emotional unavailability, waiting for someone to change, overthinking after a breakup, and why attachment to potential can keep you emotionally stuck. We explore how to stop romanticising the future you imagined, let go of false hope, rebuild self-worth after heartbreak, and focus on your own healing instead of somebody else's growth. This is a deep conversation about being dumped, moving on after a breakup, self-trust, emotional recovery, attachment styles, and learning to choose reality over potential. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

In this episode, I’m opening up about what it was really like selling the house I shared with my ex after our breakup. This isn’t just about moving house, it’s about letting go of a chapter of life, healing emotionally, and learning how to move forward without bitterness. I wanted this conversation to feel like sitting down with a friend, so I’m sharing the honest emotions behind leaving a home full of memories, the mindset shifts that helped me heal, and what I did to protect my peace during such a huge life transition. If you’re navigating a breakup, separation, divorce, or starting over in any way, I hope this episode reminds you that it’s possible to let go with love, grow through change, and create a fresh start for yourself. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

In this episode, I talk about the comparison trap after heartbreak comparing yourself to your ex, your ex’s new partner, people moving on faster than you, happy couples, engagements, and everyone who seems okay while you still feel heartbroken after being dumped. I talk about breakup anxiety, anxious attachment, overthinking, checking your ex’s social media, emotional obsession, feeling replaced, loneliness, rejection, and the emotional pain of feeling left behind after a long-term relationship ends. This episode is a deep conversation about heartbreak healing, rebuilding self-worth after a breakup, nervous system healing, emotional recovery, attachment wounds, identity loss after heartbreak, and learning how to stop measuring your value through other people’s lives. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

After going through a breakup I didn’t want, I quickly learnt how easy it is to fall into a situationship. Situationships feel feel addictive, emotionally intense, and impossible to let go of sometimes. In this episode, I talk about situationships after heartbreak, anxious attachment, breakup healing, why emotionally inconsistent people can feel so hard to move on from after being rejected. I explore how I fell into a siutationship & sometimes acting like you are okay and chill about them, can actually hurt you more because of your fear of abandonment, obsessive thinking after a breakup, and why confusing relationships can feel emotionally comforting while actually delaying healing. This episode is for anyone struggling to let go of someone emotionally unavailable, stuck in a confusing situationship, healing after heartbreak, or trying to rebuild their self-worth after rejection. A deep, honest, and comforting conversation about emotional healing, self-respect, attachment, and learning how to stop abandoning yourself just to keep someone close. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

Going through a breakup you didn’t want can make you feel rejected, misunderstood, emotionally drained, and impossible to move on from the person you still love. In this breakup healing podcast episode, I talk about heartbreak, anxious attachment, emotional pain, overthinking, self-worth, rejection, attachment styles, and how to stop trying to be understood by someone who has chosen to misunderstand you. If you are struggling with: ✨breakup pain ✨heartbreak healing ✨breakup anxiety ✨emotional attachment ✨being unable to let go ✨feeling emotionally abandoned ✨overthinking after a breakup ✨healing from an emotionally unavailable relationship ✨low self-worth after rejection ✨needing closure This episode will help you feel understood, grounded, and emotionally stronger. I also explore breakup psychology, nervous system healing, emotional validation, self-respect, confidence after heartbreak, and how to heal without losing yourself in the process. A deeply comforting and honest conversation for anyone trying to move on, rebuild themselves, and heal after heartbreak. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - @move.with.lou Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

How to heal after a breakup, move on from an ex, and learn how to be okay being single after being dumped. If you’re struggling with heartbreak, rejection, overthinking, or feeling not good enough after a breakup, this episode is for you. In this episode of I talk about how to heal after a breakup when you were brutally dumped and the 10 deep limiting beliefs that can keep you stuck in heartbreak without even realising it. If you’re trying to move on from an ex, rebuild confidence, or understand why being single feels so painful right now, this episode will help you shift your mindset and start feeling more grounded and emotionally strong. Coming Up For Air is a podcast that will help you deal with: ✨ How to heal after a breakup when you were dumped ✨ How to move on from an ex and stop overthinking ✨ Limiting beliefs after heartbreak and rejection ✨ Why being single after a breakup feels so difficult ✨ How to rebuild self-worth after being left ✨ How to stop feeling not good enough after a breakup ✨ Breakup recovery and emotional healing ✨ How to feel confident being single again This is for anyone going through heartbreak, breakup recovery, feeling rejected, or trying to move on after being left. You are not broken. You are rebuilding. Follow Coming Up For Air for more episodes on breakup healing, confidence, dating, and mindset. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/ Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

Going through a breakup? Feeling pressure to glow up, move on fast, hit the gym, or prove your ex lost someone amazing? This episode is for you. In this episode i talk about how to heal after a breakup, move on from an ex, rebuild confidence, and deal with the pressure to glow up after heartbreak. So many people feel like after a breakup they need a revenge body, a dramatic transformation, or to look like they’re thriving. Society pushes that message but a lot of the pressure also comes from within. This episode helps you change the part you can control: your mindset, your motives, and the reasons behind wanting to improve yourself. Inside this episode: ✨ Why breakup glow up culture can feel toxic ✨ Gym motivation after a breakup: healing vs revenge ✨ Eating healthy from self-love, not punishment ✨ Confidence after a breakup If you’re dealing with heartbreak, breakup recovery, rejection, loneliness, no contact, or trying to be happy single again, this episode will help you feel stronger. You do not need a revenge glow up.You need real healing. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/ Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show