Farm Family Harmony Podcast

In this episode, I'm talking about something many farm families wrestle with: how to have better conversations with your siblings about farm transition. Farm siblings and non-farm siblings can look at the same farm and see things very differently. You may have different expectations, different concerns, and even different ideas about what the future should look like. So how do you talk about it without the conversation going sideways? I share some practical talking tips and questions to help you come from a place of curiosity, get clearer about what matters to each person, and keep the conversation moving forward. If conversations with your farm or non-farm siblings have been difficult, avoided, or long overdue, this episode is for you. "Respect doesn't mean that everyone agrees, but it means that everybody gets to speak without being labeled entitled or greedy or ungrateful or impossible." - Elaine Froese Elaine Froese (pronounced 'phrase'), CSP, is a certified professional speaker, certified coach, and author. She's a go-to expert for farm families who want better communication and conflict resolution to secure a successful farm transition. As a farmer and mother to the successor of their farm, she understands the culture of agriculture intimately. Her superpower is helping families find harmony through understanding. Her expertise is to discuss what she calls the Undiscussabull™ – the bull in the middle of the farm family that no one wants to talk about. She is an award-winning author who's written 5 books over the past 25 years. Faith Today magazine has dubbed her "Canada's Farm Whisperer". She was awarded the Farm Management Canada Wilson Loree award for excellence in Farm Business Management, the 4-H Canada First Most Distinguished Alumna award from a pool of 350,000 alumni, as well as the Manitoba 150 Women Trailblazers award. Elaine's passion is to share simple, practical and actionable tools with farm families so they can talk about tough issues and get traction in their farm transition. Her topics are a catalyst to courageous conversations and conflict resolution. Expect her to WOW your audience by bringing clarity with workable and practical tools. She's on a mission to guide farm families, across North America, to get unstuck, communicate better, find harmony through understanding, and secure a profitable farm legacy. Elaine's goal is for everyone to be rich in relationships. Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 00:30 - Why sibling conversations matter during farm transition 01:30 - Farm siblings vs. non-farm siblings 02:57 - Expectations, assumptions, and the roots of conflict 04:51 - Three questions to start the conversation 06:21 - Why parents' wills and intentions should not be kept secret 07:51 - Writing down commitments and next steps 08:48 - Speaking up before small irritations become big problems 09:46 - Using time tracking and data instead of emotion alone 11:23 - What non-farm heirs may still want from the farm 13:16 - Land as inheritance, equity, and long-term planning 15:10 - Warm-hand succession and transferring assets early 16:38 - What is underneath "I'm fine" 17:38 - Planning for vulnerable family members and caregiving 19:35 - When mediation or facilitation is needed 21:09 - Self-awareness and the conflict dynamic profile 24:17 - Personality differences and how they affect farm teamwork 25:28 - Why quick repair matters in sibling relationships 26:39 - Clarifying expectations, timelines, and roles 28:54 - Why Elaine does this work and the role of lived experience 29:54 - The power of thank-you notes and written conversations 34:16 - Celebrating the good together as a family 36:16 - Avoiding estrangement and choosing repair 37:56 - Why facilitators help families have safer, shorter, more productive conversations

In this episode, I sit down with Jaclyn Turpin , Registered Social Worker and founder of Rural Refresh, for a conversation about grief and loss on the farm, including the losses that don't always involve a death. With over ten years of experience as a social worker and her own connection to agriculture as a farm spouse, Jaclyn understands how deeply change and loss can affect farm families. Together, we talk about experiences like selling livestock, transitioning out of farming, losing independence, and other changes that aren't always recognized as something we need to grieve. Jaclyn shares why naming and talking about these experiences matters, along with practical ways to navigate loss, ask for help, and better support the people around us when they're going through a difficult time. If you or someone you know is navigating grief, change, or loss on the farm, this episode is for you. "We don't always recognize those non-death losses and transitions as a loss experience, and they really are. This is people's identity. This is people's life. It's their livelihood. It's so much a part of them." — Jaclyn Turpin, MSW, RSW, BA Resources Mentioned During This Episode Rural Refresh website: https://www.ruralrefresh.ca grief, loss, and mental health support with Jaclyn Turpin National Farmers Mental Health Alliance: https://nfmha.ca agriculture-informed mental health support for farmers and farm families Do More Ag Foundation / AgTalk: https://www.domore.ag/agtalk confidential mental health support for the Canadian agriculture community About Our Guest Jaclyn Turpin is a Registered Social Worker in private practice. With both her lived experience and education, she supports farmers and their families with transitions, loss, and change. Jaclyn has years of experience working with those who are experiencing grief from both death and non-death losses. She now farms with her husband and children in Oxford County, Ontario, and is committed to supporting those who identify as the farmer and those who keep the rest of the roles filled, both on and off the farm. Jaclyn is passionate about working with rural individuals and appreciates the uniqueness of rural mental health and grief on the farm. Contact Jaclyn Visit Rural Refresh Website Follow Jaclyn on Facebook Follow Jaclyn on Instagram Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 00:00 - Introducing grief and loss support for farm families 00:33 - Jaclyn's background growing up in Oxford County 01:19 - Why loss and grief work became personal 03:07 - Why non-death losses matter in agriculture 05:19 - Naming the actual loss in farm transitions 06:01 - Using a loss timeline to map layered grief 07:36 - Why "buck up" culture makes grief harder 08:10 - Phrases people say that are not helpful 09:30 - Replacing shallow comfort with real empathy 10:21 - Questions that open space for honest grief 11:54 - Presence matters more than perfect words 12:41 - Why "let me know if I can help" is too vague 13:04 - Practical support that actually helps farm families 14:03 - What makes agricultural grief unique 15:12 - Small losses children notice on the farm 16:50 - Slowing down after a major transition 18:50 - Understanding ambiguous loss and dementia 20:47 - How dementia affects independence and farm identity 21:45 - Caregiver grief and the challenge of supporting safely 23:18 - Practical adjustments for people in care homes 24:21 - How to contact Jaclyn and work with Rural Refresh 25:39 - Why some people resist getting help 27:12 - Why it is never too early to seek support 28:38 - Making stress conversations normal in farming 30:05 - Choosing not to bottle everything up 31:39 - Why busyness is not the antidote to grief 32:16 - Expanding what community support can look like 33:57 - Frozen meals, expectations, and practical care 35:35 - Why follow-up matters long after the funeral 36:39 - Helping children understand death and loss 37:10 - Jaclyn's virtual support group for spouses of farmers 38:47 - Building community across Ontario and beyond 39:36 - Final encouragement for farm families and listeners

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Ken Keis, president of CRG Consulting Group, leadership expert, and longtime friend, for an honest conversation about helping farm parents find purpose beyond the farm and why understanding yourself is essential for a successful transition. Drawing from decades of experience working with families, leaders, and organizations, Ken shares how personality, values, and purpose shape the way we communicate, make decisions, and navigate change. Together, we explore why so many farm transitions stall, the importance of having difficult conversations before a crisis, and how changing roles doesn't mean losing your identity. We discuss discovering your purpose beyond the farm, understanding different personality styles and values, creating a healthier family culture, and why transition planning should happen while everyone is healthy and able to make decisions together. If you or someone you know is struggling with letting go, finding purpose after farming, or navigating the next chapter of your family's journey, this episode is for you. "The farm or your business is your identity. And I'm here to say that is not true. It is just an entity. The relationship and the people are the legacy." - Dr Ken Keis Resources Mentioned During This Episode CRG Consulting Group: leadership development tools, personality assessments, and coaching resources Why Aren't You More Like Me? by Dr. Ken Keis explore personality styles, communication, and self-awareness Values Assessment Tool: discover your core values and what drives your decisions Insight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think by Dr Tasha Eurich: develop self-awareness, become more confident, and successful. Ken Keis' free eBook, The Quest for Purpose: discover your purpose, have meaning & fulfillment, live with passion and presence Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts: Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Marshall Goldsmith: overcome trigger points in our lives and enact meaningful and lasting change. About Our Guest Ken Keis, Ph.D., is a globally recognized expert in personality, leadership, purpose, and wellness. With more than 37 years of experience, he has delivered over 3,000 presentations and 10,000 hours of coaching and consulting, helping individuals and organizations realize their full potential. As President and CEO of Consulting Resource Group International (CRG), Ken has advanced professional and personal development through CRG's proprietary models, 10 online courses, and 14 assessments, including The Personal Style Indicator, consistently rated the #1 personality assessment by participants. He has also certified and licensed coaches, trainers, speakers, consultants, and HR professionals in more than 30 countries. Ken is the bestselling author of Why Aren't You More Like Me?, Deliberate Leadership, and The Quest for Purpose. His work has been endorsed by respected leadership experts, including Ken Blanchard, Jim Kouzes, and Marshall Goldsmith. Contact Ken Follow Ken on LinkedIn Connect with Ken on Twitter Follow Ken on Facebook Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction: Why farm family clarity and transition matter 00:30 - Dr. Ken Keis's background and farm experience 01:03 - The importance of measurement and clarity in life and farming 01:31 - The role of personal style indicators in understanding family dynamics 02:24 - Leadership development and realization of potential 03:00 - Procrastination's impact on agriculture and family decisions 04:21 - Personal family story: engagement, values, and clarity 05:44 - Family meeting: using personality tools for farm decision-making 06:28 - Navigating risks and uncertainties in farming 07:25 - Why family members are wired differently and personality differences 08:43 - Recognizing strengths and challenges of varied personal styles 09:50 - The importance of purpose and the risks of taking the farm for granted 10:14 - The legacy of the farm: family relationships vs. land 11:07 - Inherited roles and aligning talents with farm roles 11:36 - Moving on: the story of finding fulfillment outside traditional farm roles 12:14 - Clarity about the farm as an entity, not identity 12:52 - The significance of values in decision-making and alignment 13:48 - Challenges of growth and outgrowing capabilities 14:15 - Self-awareness and perception gaps 15:14 - The need for intentional planning and clarity 16:37 - The importance of environment and culture on motivation 17:22 - Transition stories: CEOs and medical professionals 18:03 - Planning ahead for farm succession and estate transfer 19:03 - The importance of legal and estate planning 20:22 - Managing aging farm owners and health considerations 21:24 - Tools available for assessing wellness, confidence, and values 22:26 - Family and business values alignment exercises 23:41 - The role of congruence and authentic values in happiness and engagement 26:45 - Practical steps for clarity, communication, and intentional transition 28:02 - The impact of wellness, mental health, and self-worth on decision-making 29:49 - Embracing personal choice and living authentically 31:01 - Creating flexible, enjoyable retirement and transition options 32:02 - The power of intentional planning over reacting to circumstances 33:19 - Closing thoughts: Your ability to choose your farm's future

In this episode, I sit down with Michael Baker, CPA, Certified Financial Planner, and co-author of Financial Blind Spots, for a conversation about building financial confidence and creating more options for your farm family. Michael shares why so many farmers overlook important financial opportunities, the value of having the right advisory team, and how planning can help protect your family, your farm, and your future. We discuss common financial blind spots, creating a long-term vision, protecting your greatest assets, and why asking better questions leads to better decisions. If you're ready to take control of what you can and make proactive decisions for your family's future, this episode is for you. "Control what you can control. The only way to create possibility is to move forward. Reach out and ask questions. Just ask, ask, and ask. Eventually, you'll know." - Michael Baker, CPA Remember, successful financial planning is a journey — one step at a time. Share this episode with your farm family and community to build confidence and strengthen your financial future together. Resources Mentioned During This Episode Financial Blind Spots: A Deep Dive into Farm Finance A practical guide to building financial confidence. Values-Based Financial Planning by Bill Backrack Align your financial decisions with what matters most. Reid Wilkie, Farm Attorney in Medicine Hat Trusted legal guidance for farm families and transitions. About Our Guest Michael Baker, CPA, CA, CFP, TEP, is the founder of Baker Wealth in Medicine Hat, Alberta. With over 30 years as a professional accountant, Mike has become a leader in transforming financial landscapes, and his goal is clear: to be a visionary in financial planning and tax strategy using life insurance. At the core of his work is a single value: helping others create a life they love. He leads a balanced life and is located in Medicine Hat, AB. Mike has been happily married to Sabrina, the love of his life, for 23 years, and together they raise 16-year-old triplets — a son and two daughters. An accomplished athlete, he played University football for the Golden Bears and has completed seven Ironman Triathlons, bringing that same discipline and devotion to everything he does. Contact Michael Visit The Baker Wealth Website Follow Michael on LinkedIn Follow Michael on Facebook Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction to Mike Baker and the topic of financial freedom for farmers 02:37 - Mike's journey from CPA to financial advisor and the book Financial Blind Spots 04:56 - The gap in financial advisory engagement among farm families 07:09 - Building a North Star: setting long-term goals amidst life's uncertainties 10:25 - Key concepts of the "Financial Pyramid" model for farm planning 13:12 - The crucial role of protection and insurance in farm succession 15:22 - How land and asset valuation affect farm transition strategies 18:02 - The longevity risks faced by farm families and the 100-year legacy plan 23:31 - Values-based planning: aligning financial decisions with family priorities 27:41 - Practical advice for an older farm family just starting to plan 32:28 - The importance of health, prevention, and early diagnosis in farm safety 35:01 - Different types of insurance: term, participating whole life, critical illness, and disability 37:46 - The complexity of disability insurance and the importance of definitions 40:30 - The use of key person insurance in farm business continuity 44:23 - Innovative insurance strategies involving land and leverage 48:26 - How to choose and vet a trustworthy financial advisor 50:27 - Next steps for farm families seeking financial clarity and freedom 52:48 - Upcoming farm finance, legal resources, and networking opportunities 54:17 - Closing thoughts: taking one step at a time toward better financial health

In this episode, I sit down with Andrew DeRuyck, farmer, mediator, and farm management specialist, for a conversation about navigating divorce, conflict, and financial uncertainty in farm families. Drawing on decades of experience in both mediation and farm business consulting, Andrew shares how communication breakdowns, financial complexity, and unmet expectations can put enormous strain on relationships. Together, we explore the importance of finding common ground, improving financial literacy, and creating workable solutions that protect both people and the farm. We also discuss why listening matters, how trust impacts decision-making, and the role mediation can play in helping families move forward with greater clarity and less conflict. If you or someone you know is facing relationship challenges, separation, or difficult financial conversations on the farm, this episode is for you. "When a marriage is struggling, the first place I go is common ground. Why did you get married in the first place, and how did you end up here?" - Andrew DeRuyck Resources Mentioned During This Episode Farm Family Coach National Farmers Mental Health Alliance When Sorry Is Not Enough, by Dr. Gary Chapman About Our Guest Andrew is a mediator, financial consultant, and farmer in southern Manitoba. He has worked for Farm Debt Mediation Service for over 20 years. Andrew and his wife Tanis began farming full-time in 2001 and were named Manitoba's outstanding young farmer of the year in 2011. He has a degree in Agriculture from the University of Manitoba and has worked for FCC, CIBC, and various chemical companies. Andrew now specializes in farm finances, divorces, and agricultural mediations. Contact Andrew Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 00:00 - Welcome and episode overview 01:30 - Andrew's farm journey and transition from cattle to grain farming 03:21 - Introduction to farm divorce and Andrew's role in facilitating the process 04:55 - The challenge of legal costs and the importance of preparation 06:11 - The pitfalls of confrontation and advantages of active listening in mediation 07:50 - Mediation versus legal battles in farm divorce cases 09:39 - The importance of understanding intent, action, and effect in conflict resolution 11:11 - How neutrality and the role of the mediator help couples feel heard 12:21 - Common reasons why couples rush into legal action 14:21 - Organizing complex farm financial data for better decision-making 15:36 - The impact of increased land values and debt on farm finances 16:55 - Financial literacy gaps in farming and building confidence through data 18:19 - Addressing shame and embarrassment over financial unawareness 21:14 - Handling disagreements about farm assets and ways to find common ground 23:30 - Strategies for couples wanting to keep the farm intact during separation 26:34 - Creating solutions and opportunities through positive conflict behaviors 27:23 - Managing timelines and persistence in the mediation process 28:52 - The importance of trust and honesty in resolving conflicts 33:20 - Redemptive separation as a tool for addressing behavioral and relationship issues 34:53 - Age range and complexity of divorces in the farming community 36:17 - The significance of trust accounts and emotional bank accounts in relationships 37:31 - The role of admitting wrongdoing to move towards resolution 38:40 - Changes in behavior and the importance of genuine effort in reconciliation 39:37 - Protecting farm assets and the culture of transparency in families 41:05 - Building confidence in financial understanding for farm families 43:07 - The value of seeking common ground and shared goals in relationships 45:53 - Resources for mental health and relationship support 47:11 - Contact details for Andrew and available services 48:23 - Final thoughts on farm and family harmony, emphasizing relationship wealth over material assets

In this episode, I sit down with Jeremy Allen, a funeral director and grief educator, for an honest conversation about grief, loss, and how we show up for one another. Jeremy shares a grounded perspective on supporting people through difficult moments, especially in farming communities where emotions are often left unspoken. Together, we explore the difference between being prepared and being ready, and why grief isn't always about death. We discuss what to say (and what not to say), and how simply being present can make a lasting impact. If you've ever felt unsure how to support someone through loss — or how to face it yourself — this episode is for you. "People don't need you to have the perfect words, they just need to know you're willing to stay." - Jeremy Allen Resources Mentioned During This Episode Death Ed - Grief and Loss Education Brene Brown - The Power of Vulnerability Dr. Alan Wolfelt - Mourning & Healing The Emotion Wheel Bright Track Consulting About Our Guest Jeremy Allen is a licensed funeral director, embalmer, and manager of Gregory's Funeral Home in Provost, Alberta, but his work reaches far beyond the walls of a funeral home. Jeremy is a passionate advocate for transforming the way we understand death, grief, and the healing power of mourning. Contact Jeremy Visit the Dead Ed. Website Follow Jeremy on Instagram Follow Jeremy on Facebook Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 00:30 - Introduction to Jeremy Allen and the focus on grief in farming communities 02:37 - Jeremy's background in funeral service and grief education 03:39 - The difference between being involved in funerals and speaking about grief 08:30 - Personal story of grief and the importance of having documents in order 11:09 - Generational perceptions of emotion and the evolution toward emotional intelligence 16:30 - The significance of meaningful funeral rituals and community celebrations 20:37 - How relationships shape grief and legacy in farm families 23:33 - Celebrating the life of Dorothy and the power of storytelling in funerals 28:46 - Embracing vulnerability for deeper connections and trust 31:32 - How to normalize emotions and foster honest dialogue in families 37:22 - The significance of kindness and acknowledgment in funeral and grief contexts 41:59 - Contrasting emotions in grief and how they coexist simultaneously 49:07 - The importance of showing up and being present in loss 51:04 - Practical tools for initiating honest conversations and deepening relationships 52:43 - Jeremy's resources and how to connect online

In this episode, I sit down with Jace Young , founder of Legacy Farmer, for a practical conversation about safeguarding farm family legacies through strategic planning, financial transparency, and organized systems. Jace shares why many farm failures are rooted in silence, unclear data, and a lack of communication — not just financial shortfalls. From building a business owner mindset to strengthening family values, this discussion highlights actionable ways farm families can prepare for long-term success. Together, we explore how clear financial information, risk management, and thoughtful wealth transfer strategies can reduce conflict, prevent entitlement issues, and set up the next generation to thrive. "Farm failures don't happen because there's no money; they happen because families aren't talking, numbers aren't clear, and the next generation isn't prepared to step into a business owner mindset. Transparency and communication today are what protect the farm for decades to come." - Jace Young, founder of Legacy Farmer Resources Mentioned During This Episode Legacy Farmer the Podcast on YouTube Legacy Farmer the Podcast on Apple Podcasts Legacy Farmer the Podcast on Spotify Legacy Farmer Blog The Truth About Ag podcast with Evan Shout and Kristjan Hebert Building Your Farm Legacy About Our Guest What happens when a farm kid watches his family lose their $10 million operation — then becomes an ag loan officer and realizes why it happened? Today's guest is Jace Young, Founder and CEO of Legacy Farmer. He's on a mission to bring financial clarity, leadership structure, and long-term security to family farms across the country. With blunt truth and practical tools, Jace is helping ag producers protect their operations — and legacies — from going under. If you're in ag, you need to hear this. Contact Jace Visit Legacy Farmer Follow Jace on Facebook Follow Jace on Instagram Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 00:30 - Welcome and episode overview: Tools to keep farm legacy and achieve financial clarity 01:49 - Jace Young's background and how Legacy Farmer was started 04:28 - Farm debt mediation experiences and lessons learned 07:17 - Impact on families and communities when farms collapse 09:49 - The evolution of farmers into business owners and CEO mindset 12:33 - The significance of financial transparency for spouses and family unity 16:21 - The role of family living and managing personal expenses in farm planning 18:32 - The power of relationship decision-making over relying solely on banks 21:59 - Using software like Farmer Metrics for better farm financial management 25:13 - Building trust through organization and structure in succession planning 30:58 - Approaches to fairness, sibling rivalry, and family values in transfer strategies 34:15 - Using insurance tools for wealth transfer and farm succession 37:54 - Overcoming procrastination and emotional barriers to planning 39:30 - The 'Pain Web' concept for addressing life balance and farm stress 41:45 - The significance of holistic health, faith, and relationships in farm family wellness 47:50 - Final thoughts: The lasting impact of farm decisions made today

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Merle Massie, executive director of the Do More Ag Foundation, for an honest and timely conversation about mental health in agriculture and the power of community to make a difference. Merle shares why creating a culture of well-being in farming communities matters so deeply, and how regular people in regular rural places can help support one another through stress, struggle, and mental illness. From naming what's heavy in the spring season to recognizing the warning signs of overwhelm, this discussion highlights practical ways to care for both yourself and the people around you. Together, we talk about why listening matters, how stigma still affects help-seeking in agriculture, and why small actions — like checking in, creating space, and asking better questions — can have a life-changing impact. "The most important thing that you already have is your ability to listen — to create space for someone and be with them." — Dr. Merle Massie In this episode, we discuss: The importance of cultivating a culture of well-being rooted in community and shared values. How rural culture influences mental health and the need for ag-specific mental health resources. Recognizing and addressing signs of overwhelm, exhaustion, and mental health struggles in farmers. Key tools like self-check-in questionnaires and conversation starters (Talk, Ask, Listen) to promote open dialogue. The impact of farm transition challenges and intergenerational communication on mental wellness. Practical self-care activities and creating quiet, reflective spaces (e.g., labyrinths, journaling). The critical connection between physical health, substance use, and mental health, including the risks of self-medicating. How rural communities can step up for mental health, including retreats and men's sheds initiatives. Prioritizing one's own well-being with the power of saying "not right now" and managing energy levels. The significance of storytelling, journaling, and preserving farm history for mental resilience. Remember, fostering open conversations, prioritizing personal well-being, and building community are key to resilient farm families. Small daily acts—listening, sharing stories, and taking care of yourself—can make a significant difference. Resources Mentioned During This Episode Do More Ag Foundation "Hey, Are We Okay?" Podcast Crisis Contacts & Resources Kylie Stokes' Farm-specific Journals Navigate Journal by Alison Weaver Dr. Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication Book Lauren Van Ewyk- National Farmers Mental Health Alliance Newfoundland Farm Mental Health Program About Our Guest Merle Massie is a farmer, award-winning author, TEDx storyteller, and the Executive Director of The Do More Agriculture Foundation, which champions and cultivates a culture of mental wellbeing across Canadian agriculture. Email Dr. Merle Massie Follow Merle on LinkedIn Follow Merle on Twitter Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 00:30 - Welcome and introduction to the episode 02:45 - The mission of Do More Ag and the importance of culture 05:40 - Addressing mental health stigma and community support initiatives 10:52 - Recognizing stress signals in farming seasons and farm safety concerns 13:46 - Navigating farm transition challenges and intergenerational communication 16:46 - The role of sleep, nutrition, and self-care in farmer well-being 19:15 - Tools for mental health check-ins: self-assessment and conversation starters 21:48 - The link between alcohol, self-medication, and mental health risks 22:46 - Building resilience through storytelling, journaling, and social connection 25:50 - Opportunities for fun and community bonding on farms 27:36 - Practical tips for mental wellness: quiet spaces, creative outlets, and boundaries 33:31 - Encouragement for young farmers and the power of saying "not right now" 37:57 - The importance of self-care as a foundation for effective leadership and farm success 41:04 - Honoring farm stories and the long-term benefits of journaling 43:19 - Reflecting on community impact, recognition, and collective resilience 44:28 - Key takeaway: Every individual's ability to make a difference starts with listening 45:37 - Closing remarks: how to share this message and foster caring farm communities

In this episode, I sit down with Colleen Stegenga, an ag-informed therapist from South Dakota, for an honest conversation about the emotional side of farm succession. Colleen shares how her work with farm families has shown her that transition planning often stalls not because people don't care, but because grief, fear, guilt, and old family patterns are getting in the way. From identity loss in older generations to communication struggles between siblings, this discussion highlights why emotional healing is often a necessary first step. Together, we talk about how therapy can support the succession process, why families need a safe space to say what hasn't been spoken, and how healthier communication can make the road forward feel more possible. "It's never too late to get things on the right track, and it's never too early to start thinking about what that legacy means to you." — Colleen Stegenga In this episode, they discuss: The emotional challenges faced by farm families during succession. How grief, fear, and guilt impact decision-making. The importance of early conversations about legacy, identity, and expectations. Strategies for reducing stigma around mental health in rural communities. The role of family dinners and regular check-ins in strengthening relationships. Navigating sibling dynamics and fairness in inheritance. The benefits and accessibility of telehealth for farm families. Practical communication tips for difficult conversations. Creating safe spaces for emotional expression and conflict resolution. The significance of personal and cultural identity is tied to farming. Resources Mentioned During This Episode Embracing Change, CS Farm Family Coach Website Dr. Merle Massie - Do More Ag Foundation Josh Coleman's book Rules of Estrangement Lance Woodbury's Articles on Family Estrangement About Our Guest As a licensed social worker, Colleen Stegenga combines her knowledge of agricultural life, her lived experiences, and her occupation as a therapist to serve farmers, their families, and rural areas by advocating for the importance of mental health awareness and support in these communities. Having grown up on a dairy farm in small-town South Dakota, Colleen is familiar with the challenges and triumphs that accompany the farming profession. As a therapist, she helps equip clients with the tools to manage and overcome the symptoms of anxiety, depression, dysfunctional families, negative self-esteem, and more. By founding Embracing Change Counseling LLC, Colleen has strived to create a welcoming, compassionate space where individuals feel seen, supported, and empowered. Connect with Colleen: Email Colleen Follow Colleen on LinkedIn Follow Colleen on Link Tree Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 00:30 - Introduction to farm family transitions and emotional support 03:15 - Colleen's journey to becoming an ag-informed therapist 05:45 - The emotional impact of farm succession: grief, fear, guilt 08:35 - How farm identity influences transition challenges 11:30 - Addressing fears of failure and change among aging farmers 14:35 - Sibling relationships and fairness in farm inheritance 17:40 - Preparing families for tough conversations about legacy 19:55 - The importance of mental health awareness and de-stigmatization 22:20 - How telehealth helps farm families access therapy 26:30 - Ways to foster connection and celebrate family bonds 30:40 - Effective communication strategies and conflict management 33:30 - Building a supportive, respectful family environment 36:30 - Recognizing and addressing estrangement in farm families 39:30 - The power of early planning, hope, and ongoing support

In this episode, Elaine sits down with Jenny Weg, a young farm mom from Iowa, for an honest conversation about money, family, and preparing the next generation well. Jenny shares how she and her husband are thinking intentionally about finances while raising three young daughters on the farm. From paying kids for the work they contribute, to saving early and planning for future opportunities, this discussion highlights practical ways farm families can build financial strength over time. Together, Elaine and Jenny talk about why money conversations matter, how expectations around the farm can create tension if they're never discussed, and why thoughtful planning today can make life easier for the next generation tomorrow. "We really tried to tackle all of our personal debt to get all of that out of the way. And now that farming has come into our lives, we realize there's going to be debt that we have to carry with that. But just doing it in a very smart and strategic way so that we don't overextend ourselves and so that we can be there to prepare not only ourselves, but the next generation, and set them up properly for when it's time for them to take over." - Jenny Weg In this episode, they discuss: Why teaching kids about money early can build responsibility and confidence. Paying farm kids for their work and saving for their future. Long-term thinking when it comes to farm succession and family wealth. When it's wise to bring in a financial planner. Setting timelines and goals for transition conversations. Balancing motherhood, farm work, and family priorities. Navigating expectations and avoiding entitlement conflicts in farm families. Simple ways to manage household finances and stay focused on long-term goals. This episode is especially helpful for young farm families who want to be proactive about money, communication, and creating opportunities for the next generation. Resources Mentioned During This Episode The Wealthy Barber by David Chilton Jenny Weg on Instagram - Faithful Farming Family Jenny Weg on Facebook Farm Credit Services Iowa State University Beginning Farmers Conference About Our Guest Jenny Weg is a fourth-generation farmer and farm finance mom behind The Faithful Farming Family. She helps families build generational wealth by teaching them how to legally and strategically pay their kids through the family business. Through faith, farming, and practical financial strategy, she's on a mission to help parents secure their future — and their kids'. Connect with Jenny: Contact Jenny Follow Jenny on Instagram Follow Jenny on Facebook Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 00:30 - Welcome and episode overview: addressing entitlement and financial planning in farm families 02:52 - Jenny's background and how faith influences her farm and family approach 03:57 - The importance of conservative financial practices in farm succession planning 04:45 - The benefits of paying children for farm help and building generational wealth 06:15 - Using tax-advantaged accounts like Roth IRAs for farm kids 07:08 - The significance of starting financial education early for the next generation 08:35 - Addressing entitlement and fairness issues within farm families 09:51 - Conversations with aging parents about farm transition and legacy planning 12:27 - The importance of planning ahead and consulting a financial advisor early 13:11 - The complexity of family relationships and managing expectations across relatives 14:38 - Legitimacy of paying children legally and ethically for farm work 16:21 - Practical household management: budgeting and living conservatively 17:23 - Building readiness for opportunities like share purchases or farm buyouts 18:38 - The importance of clear communication and family involvement in decisions 21:15 - Using simple, strategic investments to grow farm family wealth over time 24:08 - Balancing family roles and farm responsibilities—staying resilient and present 27:15 - Common challenges farm women face: feelings of undervaluation and the importance of communication 29:06 - The role of family relationships over business conflicts and setting shared priorities 29:47 - Next steps: planning, patience, and building cash reserves for future opportunities 30:50 - How to connect with Jenny on social media for more farm family finance tips

In this episode, Elaine sits down with Dr. Kate Burke for a thoughtful and deeply practical conversation about what it really takes to plan well for the future of your farm. Because succession isn't just about land, shares, or strategy, it's about people. Together, they explore why strong farm transitions begin with understanding your family first. What does each person want? What are they afraid of? What expectations are sitting quietly under the surface? Dr. Burke brings insight from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to help families communicate with more clarity and emotional steadiness, especially when conversations feel hard. You'll hear about: Why succession planning must start with family, not just farm assets The emotional identity shift from leader to mentor to elder How our thinking patterns influence decisions more than we realize Questions that uncover purpose, expectations, and long-term vision Why trust and ownership are built through small, clear actions Planning for long-term care and end-of-life decisions with courage Simple frameworks like CARE that bring structure without overcomplicating things "As humans, we're emotional. It's a signal. It's data. We've been led down a path since industrialization that to be good at business, emotions didn't matter. But really good businesses are emotionally intelligent. They may not know it, but they're actually good at dealing with people, good at understanding and managing themselves." - Kate Burke, Think Agri This conversation is a reminder that you don't need a complicated strategy to future-proof your farm. You need clarity, emotional honesty, and the willingness to ask the right questions. If you care about your family and your legacy, this episode will give you practical tools and a deeper understanding of what truly holds a farm together. Resources Mentioned During This Episode Succession Future Proofing Your Farm (Available on Kate's website) Crops, People, Money and You – The Art of Excellent Farming (Search: "Crops People Money and You" Kate Burke) Think Agri YouTube Channel Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) About Our Guest Dr Kate Burke is an Australian Agri Strategist, author and speaker. Drawing on three decades in agronomy, consulting, and family business facilitation, Kate blends practical business thinking with an understanding of the people behind it. She guides families past the numbers and documents to tackle what really shapes farm strategy and succession: questions of identity, fairness, readiness, communication, and intergenerational trust. Contact Kate Visit the Think Agri Website Follow Kate on LinkedIn Follow Think Agri on X Follow Kate and Think Agri on Facebook Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 00:30 - Welcome and episode overview: why family and emotional clarity matter 02:36 - Start with family, not farm: the importance of family-focused planning 06:44 - Introduction to ACT therapy in farm succession: acceptance and values-based actions 09:16 - Valuing emotional wealth: key questions to start meaningful conversations 13:56 - Understanding the mentor-to-elder transition: identity and self-worth issues 17:04 - Building trust and emotional steadiness in future farm leaders 18:23 - Shift from fixing problems to guiding towards desired futures: towards and away moves 19:45 - Overcoming resistance: moving from defense to offense in farm planning 20:37 - The role of financial clarity and emotional expectations in weaving a successful succession 25:31 - How to discover good perspectives: asking "What do you want and why?" 27:02 - Attachment to land and legacy: crucial but often overlooked considerations 29:33 - Function and family harmony: aligning team and family objectives 32:10 - The performance framework: managing farm viability and productivity 35:14 - Strategy essentials: simple actions over complex plans 37:01 - Ownership and its emotional significance in farm legacy 40:17 - Planning for retirement, aging, and legacy: tough questions and long-term care 46:16 - Summing up: combining profitability with family care for a balanced farm future

In this episode, I sit down with dairy farmer Denise Angst for an honest and encouraging conversation about navigating farm transition in real time — while life, loss, and change are all happening at once. Together, we explore how clarity, communication, and respect across generations can turn uncertainty into opportunity. We talk about why starting with simple family meetings matters, how fairness looks different than equality, and what it takes for parents to let go while still providing stability and support. Denise also reflects on her own personal growth journey, the courage it takes to ask hard questions early, and why investing in yourself as a farm woman strengthens the entire family business. If you're wondering how to begin succession conversations, how to support multiple children with different paths, or how to move forward without having everything perfectly figured out, this episode offers a hopeful, practical look at what's possible — one conversation at a time. "Different is not wrong. It's just different. The younger generation needs to respect the older generation, and we need to respect the younger generation. Let them talk about their ideas." – Denise Angst Resources Mentioned During This Episode Wellington County Transition Planning Resources: https://www.wellington.ca/business-development/environment-agriculture/transition-planning Empowe-HER-ed Book Order Link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScXeW38zQC6WXvtoTglv009a9_pTS8vrtgGcxtEQGdooLKz5g/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=102144042538019289024 Retreat Registration: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeMY86Wg0SDWMRuJp1BWLxtk-nsvIs-iPuEhUO4XMHpIAeToQ/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=102144042538019289024 Linktree for all Connections: https://linktr.ee/denisemyjourney About Our Guest Denise Angst is a dairy farm partner who built a dairy farm business with her husband after immigrating from Switzerland in 1997. She is a proud mother of three grown children — two sons and a daughter — and values the journey of raising her family while remaining deeply rooted in the community. Along the way, Denise drove a school bus for 15 years and volunteered in various roles, always giving back where she could. Over the past nine years, her commitment to personal growth has led her to become a first-time author, contributing a published chapter about how she found the strength to put herself first, and she is now preparing to host her third women's retreat. Recently, Denise transitioned into an office administration role, drawing on decades of farm office experience. By stepping off the farm's daily operations, she is intentionally creating space for the next generation to take on leadership and office responsibilities, while continuing to guide and support the farm's succession with confidence and strength. Contact Denise Follow Denise on Facebook Follow Denise on Instagram Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 0:00:30 - Intro & how Denise met Elaine/background 0:03:05 - Big family & housing changes (boys move out, parents move to town, daughter in basement) 0:05:38 - Training Lucas as successor, giving him management responsibility 0:05:44 - Paying kids for farm work, ideas of fairness vs equal 0:11:11 - New Zealand idea, Peter's surgery, Denise's mom passing, Denise's personal growth 0:14:07 - Starting family meetings, updating the will, using Elaine's workshop tools 0:19:16 - Patrick's role, land purchase, non‑dairy path & custom farming options 0:20:37 - Sweat equity, Lucas tracking all hours, housing/heat as part of compensation 0:22:20 - Accountant meeting, will changes, protecting Lucas if parents die suddenly 0:22:57 - Parents' income/retirement planning, Denise's off‑farm job, risk & cash flow 0:26:44 - Next‑step planning: documenting needs for Lucas and for Peter & Denise 0:29:08 - Cohabitation agreement for Lucas's girlfriend as a risk‑management tool 0:32:09 - Why other families avoid succession talks (fear, hard conversations) 0:34:13 - Peter's backstory, losing his dad at 17, being ready to hand over management 0:35:44 - Mutual respect between generations; recognizing different strengths 0:38:24 - Questions from "Your Farm, Your Future" (excitement, emotions, success, timing) 0:39:59 - What "good management" means when roles are split (barn vs office) 0:41:03 - Shifting responsibilities, moving bookkeeping to AgExpert Online 0:42:33 - Knowing what they own, investments, and the "gift" they want to give their kids 0:44:27 - Cleaning out the farmhouse, kids choosing sentimental items 0:46:55 - Message to farm women: self‑care, personal growth, and resilience 0:48:23 - Closing: this is a "happy" succession story that's still unfolding

In this episode, I sit down with therapist, speaker, and executive coach Carolyn Klassen, who holds a Master's in Marriage, Family, & Child Counselling and an undergrad in Occupational Therapy, for an eye-opening conversation about one of the quietest challenges in rural life: loneliness. Carolyn, founder of Conexus Counselling and creator of The Loneliness Course, shares why loneliness isn't always visible, and how many farm women feel isolated even while surrounded by people and productivity. Together, we unpack the concept of social health and why real connection is just as essential to wellbeing as food, water, and sleep. Carolyn also explains why meaningful connection takes courage, how rural life complicates vulnerability, and why we need to revive the lost art of popping by, picking up the phone, or simply inviting someone in. If you've ever felt unseen in the busyness of farm life or wondered how to help others feel like they belong, this episode will give you the language, tools, and permission to make the first move. "We do not have to hide that we struggle. What we get to decide is who we share that with—so we can have that sense of knowing that we aren't alone in our struggle." – Carolyn Klassen Resources Mentioned During This Episode The Social Health Checkup Use coupon code FARM for 60% off the Loneliness Course About Our Guest Carolyn Klassen is a seasoned therapist at "Wired for Connection" and the creator of The Loneliness Course. With years of experience supporting individuals through emotional and relational challenges, Carolyn has a deep understanding of how very hard humaning can be. She offers science-backed, heart-forward tools that support healing within a grounded program, bringing together science, compassion, and community wisdom to help people move from isolation to connection. With a heart for belonging and a gift for creating safe, inclusive spaces, Carolyn speaks to our inherent need for one another. Her work reminds us that healing often starts with being present for ourselves and for each other. Contact Carolyn Visit the Loneliness Course Follow the Loneliness Course on Facebook Follow the Loneliness Course on Instagram Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 0:00:033 — Introduction and context of the podcast, recognition of listeners. 0:01:37 — Introduction of loneliness as the main topic, Carolyn's work on loneliness. 0:04:07 — Discussion of "social health" and its importance. 0:04:54 — The Harvard Study: quality of relationships and health outcomes. 0:05:30 — The need for meaningful connection, "eight-minute people" and vulnerability. 0:07:00 — "Facebook fine" concept, technology's role, insights from women's conferences. 0:10:30 — Loneliness not as a personal flaw, causes, and validating the feeling. 0:13:14 — Post-COVID isolation and modern communication habits. 0:14:50 — Tools and strategy highlights from the loneliness course and video. 0:17:01 — Unique rural community issues, financial burdens, multigenerational stress, boundaries, and privacy. 0:20:30 — The importance of sharing personal stresses and anxiety in the community. 0:20:57 — Personal anecdotes on dealing with loneliness, sleep apnea, and community support. 0:25:30 — The challenge and vulnerability in reaching out, anecdotes about social outreach. 0:26:26 — Scientific research on connecting with strangers, the benefits of vulnerability, and how to overcome social anxieties. 0:28:36 — Examples of connecting with strangers, benefit of sharing struggles, and the importance of not hiding difficulties.

In this episode, I sit down with executive coach and author Cathy Carroll for a heartfelt and eye-opening conversation about one of the most overlooked challenges in farm families: navigating the tension between love and logic. Cathy, founder of Legacy Onward and author of Hug of War, shares how families can move beyond black-and-white thinking and start seeing conflict not as something to avoid but something to manage. Together, we explore the concept of polarities: two opposing but equally valuable truths, like tradition and innovation, control and trust, or fairness and equality. We talk about why trying to "solve" these tensions often backfires, and how learning to embrace both sides can transform your family's conversations, decisions, and leadership. Cathy also shares tools to help you create healthier dynamics, lead with clarity, and make space for both your heart and your head. If your family feels stuck between generations, mindsets, or values, this episode will give you a powerful new lens—and the language to move forward together. "In a family business, you're not choosing between right or wrong; you're holding two right answers at the same time. The challenge is not to solve the tension, but to manage it so you get the best of both worlds." — Cathy Carroll, MBA, MCC Resources Mentioned During This Episode Free Family Business Polarity Assessment https://www.legacyonward.com/assessment manage common polarities in a family business About Our Guest Cathy learned about family business leadership the best way you can – by leading her family business. After a twenty-year corporate career, she left United Airlines to lead her father's business and instantly recognized a difference between leadership in a family business vs leadership in a large corporation. Founder and President of Legacy Onward, Inc., Cathy Carroll is an internationally recognized family business leadership coach, speaker, and author of "Hug of War: How to Lead a Family Business With both Love and Logic." She also trains advisors serving family enterprises on the fundamentals of polarity thinking. Cathy earned certificates in both Leadership Coaching and Executive Facilitation at Georgetown University, an MBA at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business, and a BA at Boston College. She is also a Master Certified Coach (MCC) in the ICF. An active member of the community, Cathy currently serves as Chair of the Board of the Purposeful Planning Institute and co-founder & Treasurer of A Leg To Stand On. Contact Cathy Visit the Legacy Onward website Follow Cathy on LinkedIn Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 0:00:00 — Introduction to the podcast, Cathy Carroll's background, and the purpose of the episode. 0:07:15 — Managing the "equal vs fair" polarity in family business compensation. 0:12:41 — The polarity between business mindset (logic/profit) and family mindset (love/fairness). 0:14:38 — Domain crossover: balancing family and business relationships in decision-making. 0:16:59 — Shadow influencers: how people without formal authority impact family business outcomes. 0:17:54 — Tradition vs. innovation polarity within generational family businesses. 0:22:48 — Emotional vs. Rational polarity in business decisions. 0:24:12 — Reveal vs. Conceal: transparency and privacy in family wealth and information sharing. 0:29:38 — Privileges vs. Responsibilities polarity, and the risks of imbalance. 0:34:09 — Investing in the business vs. harvesting profits for family use. 0:38:33 — Task conflict vs. Relationship conflict and their roles in farm family businesses. 0:42:40 — Family first vs. business first: balancing needs for long-term sustainability. 0:44:48 — How to shift from "either/or" thinking to managing polarities for family business success.

Happy New Year, Folks! To kick off 2026, I sit down with Walt Moore, president and general manager of Walmoore Holsteins Inc., a five-generation dairy farm in Pennsylvania. In this candid conversation, we look at the Undiscussable™ issues facing farm and ranch transition — particularly those surrounding family identity, retirement, and growth. Walt shares his family's journey, including the 18-month planning process, the role of outside advisors (like their specialized financial guide), and how they navigated a complex blended family structure to bring in the fifth generation. We learn about their family's strategy of "stepping back without stepping away," managing non-farm heirs, dealing with issues of housing and debt capacity, and the critical importance of financial transparency for legacy success. Walt's insights reveal positive conflict behaviors and the power of peer support groups. This episode is packed with essential tools and motivation for any farm family looking to find harmony through understanding and proactively plan for their future. "You've got to communicate — don't be afraid to ask questions, and don't feel like you're on an island. I'm in a couple of your groups, and you realize really quickly that we're in the same trenches. When [you're in] a good group that's transparent with each other and willing to help each other, that's hard to beat." - Walt Moore, president of Walmoore Holsteins Inc. About Our Guest Walt is President and General Manager of Walmoore Holsteins, Inc. The family farm has been in operation for over 116 years and 5 generations. Walt is in partnership with his wife, Ellen, and three 5th-generation partners - Luke, Andrew, and Chase. Walmoore Holsteins, Inc. milks 1150 cows with a 32,000-pound herd average, raises 900-plus replacement young stock, 150 Wagyu crosses, farms 2000 acres of corn for silage and grain, alfalfa, soy beans, triticale, and grass hay. Walmoore employs 17 full-time and several part-time people. Walt is also the General Partner of Moore Family Farm LP, which was formed as a land holding company. Additionally, Walt and Ellen, with partners Duane and Marilyn Hershey, started Moocho Milk Transportation Inc. in 2006 to haul their own milk. Walt and Ellen, along with their son Jake and his wife, own Moore Meats LLC, a premium American Wagyu farm-to-fork meat company. Walt has traveled to other states and China, helping to educate producers on Best Management Practices. He serves on several committees, including the Chester County Conservation District Board, London Grove Friends Finance Committee, Land-O-Lakes Master Focus Group, and the American Dairy Coalition, currently serving as President. Walt has also served on the Horizon Farm Credit Customer Advisory Board and on the Center for Dairy Excellence Foundation Board, serving as President for two years. He has served on the PDMP board as the Vice-President and President. In his leisure time, Walt enjoys spending time with his family, attending PSU football games, hunting, boating, and traveling. Contact Walt Contact Walmoore Holsteins, Inc. Follow Walmoore Holsteins, Inc. on Facebook Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 0:00:00 - Introduction, Podcast, Guest Welcome, Purpose of Episode 0:00:43 - Guest Bio: Walter Moore, Family Farm Overview, Dairy Operations 0:04:40 - Discussing Transition, Generational Change, Retirement and Successor Dynamics 0:10:00 - Legacy Goals, Financial Planning for Next Generation, Advisors' Role 0:13:25 - Housing for Family and Employees, Family Member Roles 0:16:41 - Fairness, Family Compensation, Involvement of Blended Family and Non-family Employees 0:21:04 - Operational vs. Strategic Management, Corporate Meetings, Vertical Integration (Milk Transport Business) 0:25:00 - Financial Transparency, Budgeting, Planning for the Future 0:29:03 - Overcoming Procrastination, Learning from Previous Generations, Will and Estate Updating 0:32:45 - Risk Management, Divorce, Relationship Dynamics, Inter-spousal Agreements 0:36:34 - Conflict Management, Importance of Communication, Peer Groups and Networking 0:38:10 - Final Takeaways and Advice: Passion, Teamwork, Continuous Learning

In this episode, I sit down with Kevin Hegedus , Certified Financial Planner and founding partner of PWM Private Wealth Counsel , for a practical conversation about how to align vision with siblings and/or spouses when there's lots of disagreement. Kevin brings years of experience helping farm owners and families sort through the financial intricacies and reach retirement confidently. Together, we explore misalignment between spouses' vision for retirement and transition timing, and the value of early planning and using tools for transition. We discuss the 3 key farm transition snapshot points; the difference between equal vs. fair inheritance; and the importance of family meetings, celebrations, and communication. Kevin also brings valuable insight into contingency planning and long-term care for aging farmers. If you or someone you know is struggling to find alignment with their farm spouse or siblings, this episode is for you. "It boils down to having those early [planning] conversations. None of us are going to be here forever, so how do we make sure that what we worked so hard for transfers to the next generation properly." - Kevin Hegedus, PWM Private Wealth Counsel Resources Mentioned During This Episode PWM Private Wealth website: https://www.pwmprivatewealth.com financial planning, retirement, and succession resources Money Sense Radio Show: https://www.pwmprivatewealth.com/radio weekly insights on planning, tax, and retirement About Our Guest Kevin Hegedus is the Founder and Managing Partner of PWM Private Wealth Counsel in Saskatchewan. A Certified Financial Planner and Registered Portfolio Manager, Kevin has more than 25 years of experience guiding families, business owners, and farm operators through complex financial decisions. He specializes in connecting investment, tax, and estate planning strategies to help clients achieve clarity and confidence. Kevin is also the long-time host of the Money Sense radio show and a regular speaker on topics such as retirement income planning, succession, and intergenerational wealth. Contact Kevin Visit PWM Private Wealth Counsel's Website Follow Kevin on LinkedIn Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - explore Farm Transition Coaching MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube TikTok Timestamps 0:00:36 — Introduction & purpose of the podcast (alignment in farm family vision). 0:03:18 — Identity and challenges of farm business owners. 0:04:26 — Misalignment between spouses' vision for retirement and transition timing. 0:06:57 — Three key farm transition snapshot points: income streams, housing, fairness. 0:08:36 — Scenarios for retiree income and transition, selling equipment, rental of land. 0:12:58 — Financial transparency, farm women, and discovering hidden wealth. 0:13:49 — Managing sibling disagreement and succession, splitting the farm. 0:16:53 — Equal vs. fair inheritance, the role of insurance for fairness. 0:19:01 — The value of early planning and tools for transition. 0:21:26 — Building personal wealth, tax-free savings, and retirement income. 0:23:22 — Fee structure for financial advisors and value proposition. 0:25:08 — Historical reasons for tax avoidance mentality in farming. 0:27:25 — Income-splitting, tax strategies for retirement, the importance of financial planning. 0:29:57 — Income challenges for the next generation of farmers, debt options. 0:32:05 — Open family discussions for smoother transition and succession. 0:34:18 — The importance of family meetings, celebrations, and communication. 0:35:33 — Contingency planning for aging farmers and long-term care. 0:36:39 — Advocating for women's roles in planning and independence. 0:37:53 — The "poison pill" in farm succession and legal protections. 0:39:43 — Final advice: have open conversations about future planning, income, and fairness.

In this episode, I sit down with Lyndsay Seafoot , Human Resources Specialist and owner of Curbridge Consulting , for a practical conversation about one of the toughest dynamics on family farms: how to give performance feedback to family members. Lindsay brings years of experience helping farm businesses create clarity around roles, job descriptions, and communication. Together, we explore why giving feedback to employees often feels easier than giving it to your own relatives, and how to change that. We discuss how clear expectations, structured check-ins, and respectful communication can help farm families move from frustration to alignment. Lindsay also shares actionable tools for creating a more professional workplace culture without losing the warmth of family. If you've ever struggled to balance accountability with compassion, or wondered how to have honest conversations that don't end in conflict, this episode will show you how feedback — when done right — can strengthen both your team and your relationships. Resources mentioned on this episode Access the folder of resources About Our Guest Lyndsay Seafoot is the founder of Curbridge, Stand Out Staff, and Directors Desk, all of which are companies focused on building expert-level HR for companies and organizations. Lyndsay started in entrepreneurship in her 20s but has been focused on building and growing her HR companies since 2020. Lyndsay has a CPHR designation, and with her 14 years of experience in the field, she has worked with companies across the prairies to develop strong HR foundations that allow companies to grow, hire better, retain more, and get some peace of mind when it comes to employees and managing them. Contact Lyndsay Visit Lyndsay's website Follow Lyndsay on Instagram @curbridge.hr @curbridge @lyndsayseafoot Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube Visit the podcast website SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Transition Member FREE STUFF - downloadable tools for your farm transition CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here Farm Family Coach Social Media Links Facebook Instagram LinkedIn X YouTube tiktok Timestamps 0:00:33 Introduction and guest welcome; Lyndsay's HR expertise. 0:01:35 Defining frameworks and the need for HR foundations on farms. 0:03:00 Feedback challenges in farm families and key performance feedback questions. 0:04:34 Defining performance feedback: types (real-time vs. formal). 0:05:50 Communication issues and useful vs. unhelpful language for feedback. 0:10:11 When to give performance feedback and why it is often avoided in farm families. 0:14:33 How younger generations can seek effective feedback and build common ground. 0:18:33 Technology for farm procedure clarity; importance of face-to-face feedback. 0:20:15 How farm spouses/partners can encourage feedback initiation. 0:23:47 The cost of lacking feedback: retention, engagement, and the farm's reputation. 0:29:20 Leadership's role in scheduling and prioritizing feedback meetings. 0:32:47 Addressing the "not my job" mindset and fostering the right farm culture. 0:36:57 Accountability for improvement; holding family members to professional standards. 0:40:03 Key takeaways: respect, common ground, and choosing your response.

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to take back control of your future, especially if you're feeling stuck, micromanaged, or unheard in your family farm transition. I explore why so many farmers find themselves frustrated and uncertain, waiting for others to make decisions that deeply affect their future. From micromanaging parents to unspoken fears about letting go, I unpack the root causes of these tensions and the mindset shifts needed to move forward. I also share how curiosity, courage, and communication can turn conflict into clarity, and why it's time to stop accepting bad behavior, start setting boundaries, and make this winter the season you finally take action. If you've ever thought, "Things can't keep going like this," this episode will help you see that progress starts with you — one honest conversation, one clear boundary, and one next step at a time. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the Farm Family Harmony Membership waitlist RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 - Introduction and discussion about harvest season and Christmas 0:08:09 - Addressing micromanagement and family dynamics in farming 0:16:53 - Strategies for having difficult conversations and planning for the future 0:19:01 - Urgency of making changes and managing time effectively

In this episode, I sit down with Amber Meyer , Certified Financial Planner with TruStone Wealth Management, for an eye-opening conversation about how financial realities and family expectations shape the success (or the struggle) of farm transitions. Amber brings years of firsthand experience helping multigenerational farm families align money, mindset, and legacy. Together, we explore the biggest hurdles keeping families from "getting to the table," from unspoken assumptions and generational gaps to the tough math of cash flow, living expenses, and retirement readiness. Amber explains why clear communication, realistic asset valuations, and early planning are essential to keeping both the business and the family intact. We also talk about creative ways to make transitions viable—from custom work and diversified income streams to using tools like trusts and lifetime transfers to balance fairness with financial sense. If you've ever wondered how to start these conversations or how to keep them from derailing, this episode will help you see that peace and profitability can go hand in hand when families commit to transparency, teamwork, and communication. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com Discover more about our guest: Amber Meyer, CFP APMA Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the Farm Family Harmony Membership waitlist RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:01:55 - Amber's background growing up on a farm in North Dakota 0:04:34 - Discussion of generational gaps in farming 0:08:34 - Financial inventory and assessing farm viability 0:11:53 - Advice on saving and investing for young farmers 0:17:06 - Importance of wills and estate planning 0:21:37 - Setting realistic land and asset valuations 0:24:04 - Fee structure for financial advisors 0:28:58 - Who typically drives the farm transition process 0:33:56 - Key advice: Communicate, communicate, communicate

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. David M. Kohl, Professor Emeritus of Agricultural Finance and Small Business Management, for a conversation about what it really takes for young farmers to build strong, lasting farm businesses. We discuss why transition is not just a handoff but a transformative process that requires transparency, honest financial assessments, and the courage to face tough realities head-on. Dr. Kohl explains why starting with a clear resource assessment matters, how cash flow planning shapes long-term success, and why written goals act as a compass when the road gets messy. This episode offers young farmers, founders, and successors alike practical wisdom, fresh perspective, and encouragement to move from uncertainty to clarity — and to see transition not as a burden, but as an opportunity to strengthen both the farm and the family behind it. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com . Discover more about our guest: Dr. David M. Kohl Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube . SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the Farm Family Harmony Membership waitlist RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:04:40 - Discussion on farm succession 0:05:30 - Resource assessment for family business transition 0:06:55 - Importance of understanding true profitability through accrual adjustments 0:11:24 - Advice on debt servicing and working with lenders 0:14:59 - Land buying strategies for young farmers 0:18:29 - Importance of goal setting and using a facilitator 0:22:16 - Skill assessment and developing mini business plans 0:24:17 - Warren Buffett's advice on behavioral success 0:28:35 - Discussing family living arrangements and budgets 0:33:08 - The five key points for successful farm transition