What if modern dating didn't have to feel exhausting, confusing or like a second job? Dating Intentionally is the podcast for singles who are done with outdated dating rules and are ready to date with clarity, confidence and purpose. Whether you're back in the dating pool after a breakup, using the apps for the first (or millionth) time, trying to stop attracting the wrong people, or just figuring out how to find your person in all the chaos, you're in the right place. Dating Intentionally is your how-to guide for making decisions that align with your values while finding joy in the process. Hosted by Talia Koren , Dating Intentionally dives into practical advice to help you attract better matches, build real connections and move toward the relationship you want - no matter what season of life you're in. Talia shares realistic, grounded advice from her experience going on 150 dates with over 60 people in under a year before meeting her husband, plus helpful conversations with guest experts, therapists and authors to guide you in your early dating journey. Tune in for new episodes on Tuesdays and Fridays! If you've ever asked yourself any of these questions, Dating Intentionally is for you: Why do I keep attracting the wrong people? How can I slow down in early dating? How do I stop going for emotionally unavailable partners? How many dates should we have before we define the relationship? How do I tell the difference between green flags, red flags and dealbreakers? How do I get back out there after a breakup? Where can I meet people who want a serious relationship? What are the signs they're interested in me? How do I know if we're compatible? How do I stop wasting time on dead-end dates?
285. Why You Lose Yourself When You Start Dating Someone w/ Chris Rackliffe
58 min
Do you tend to go all in when you like someone, to the point where you've lost touch with your own life a bit? I'm chatting with Chris Rackliffe , an anxious attachment coach and author of Needy No More: The Journey from Anxious to Secure Attachment , who's helped thousands of people heal from patterns of trauma, abandonment, and codependency. We're getting into why we lose ourselves in dating and what to do about it. We cover: The earliest signs you're starting to abandon yourself when you meet someone new Why resentment is the clearest signal a compromise has tipped into self-betrayal Chris's framework for codependency Why guilt is proportional to how long you've been overriding your own needs His concept of emotional diversification, and why spreading out your sources of connection is a protective strategy, not just something nice to have How to apply this whether you're in early dating or an established relationship Whether opposite sleep schedules are actually a dealbreaker At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about whether opposite sleep schedules are a dealbreaker. CONNECT WITH CHRIS Find Chris on Instagram and TikTok THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionally FREE STUFF Dating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & more MORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLY Submit a dating dilemma Slide into my DMs on IG Watch the pod on YouTube Join the Date Tracker app waitlist Reveal your dating blindspot (quiz) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
284. Rejected? Here's How to Bounce Back Faster In Early Dating
29 min
Rejection doesn't have to destroy your confidence or convince you that you'll never find your person. In this episode, I'm sharing how to bounce back faster after getting rejected, ghosted, or hearing "there wasn't a spark." We'll talk about why rejection feels so personal, how to stop the anxiety spirals before they take over, and the mindset shifts that will help you keep your self-worth intact while continuing to date intentionally. Tune in for... Why rejection feels so much bigger than it actually is How to stop telling yourself hopeless stories after a "no" The 24-hour rule for bouncing back faster Practical ways to stop anxiety spirals after rejection What to say when someone rejects you (and what not to say) Why rejection isn't a reflection of your worth The questions to ask yourself instead of "What's wrong with me?" My own experiences navigating rejection while dating Whether you've been ghosted before a first date or rejected after a few months of dating, this episode will help you move forward with more confidence and resilience. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Dating Roadblock Quiz Episode 281 (Kelsey Darragh) on healing after heartbreak Episode 221 (Cole Zesinger) on moving on after a breakup My "closing the loop" text templates Instead of asking "what's wrong with me," get curious and reflect on these questions: Am I consistently pursuing people who aren't available or aren't looking for the same thing? Am I showing up as myself, or am I trying to earn someone's approval? Am I choosing people based on mutual interest, or am I getting attached to potential before they've shown consistent effort? Am I overlooking signs that someone isn't able to meet me where I am? Am I being curious, showing interest, and being direct, or am I playing games to get their attention? Am I owning who I am, or leading with my insecurities? THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionally FREE STUFF Dating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & more CONNECT WITH ME Submit a dating dilemma Slide into my DMs on IG Watch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
283. Relationship Compatibility: What Science Says Actually Matters w/ Paul Eastwick
55 min
Is someone being "out of your league" even a real thing? In this episode, I'm chatting with relationship scientist and author Paul Eastwick ( Bonded by Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection ) to unpack the science of mate value, why matchmaking based on shared traits almost never works, and what actually predicts compatibility (it's not the traits on your list). From decoding your own dating patterns to knowing when attraction is genuinely going to grow, this conversation is packed with practical, research-backed advice for anyone who feels stuck comparing partners against a checklist. In this episode, we cover: Why what you say you want in a partner doesn't predict who you actually choose The truth about mate value and dating "out of your league" Why matchmaking based on shared traits and interests rarely works What actually predicts long-term compatibility (hint: it's not a trait) Why attraction often grows slowly instead of hitting all at once Whether a strict list of dealbreakers helps or hurts you At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a situationship where trust was broken, and whether it's worth trying to repair it. CONNECT WITH PAUL Love Factually podcast THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionally FREE STUFF Dating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & more CONNECT WITH ME Submit a dating dilemma Slide into my DMs on IG Watch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
282. Flaky Dates, Slow Texters and Catching Feelings When It's Casual (Dating Dilemmas)
25 min
Dating today can be a mess, and so much of that mess stems from confusion, uncertainty, and ambiguity showing up in ways that just infuriate us. In this episode, I'm answering four listener dating dilemmas that each capture a different flavor of that chaos, from the planning-phase ghost to the partner whose humor crosses a line to the slow fade that sends you spiraling over someone you barely know. These aren't rare, one-off situations either. I hear versions of these same four patterns constantly, which is exactly why I wanted to break them down together. I'm covering: What to do when a guy keeps initiating dates that never actually happen Why a plan without a set time, date, and location usually isn't a real plan at all How to know if you're being "managerial" by helping plan a date, or just being reasonable How to handle a new boyfriend whose "jokes" cross a real line What it means when a partner says the only way to be with you is to suppress part of himself Whether to say something when a casual connection's slow responses start to bother you How much effort is reasonable to expect when you're not looking for anything serious How to hold onto your sense of self when someone goes quiet after a great phone call How to tell the difference between an old trigger and an actual red flag in the moment For each one, I give you the exact tweak I'd make if I were in your shoes, along with the bigger pattern underneath so you can spot it before it drains you again. My hope is that you walk away from this episode more decisive, less likely to spiral, and a little more convinced that most of this isn't actually about you. THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionally FREE STUFF Dating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & more CONNECT WITH ME Submit a dating dilemma Slide into my DMs on IG Watch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
281. Why Closure Is a Lie (And What Actually Helps You Heal) w/ Kelsey Darragh
54 min
How do you actually get over a breakup, and why does it feel so impossible? In this episode, I'm chatting with author and mental health advocate Kelsey Darragh to unpack the science of heartbreak, why no-contact is so difficult, and what actually helps you move forward after a breakup (It's not the closure moment you think it is). From healing after a long-term relationship to knowing when you're ready to date again, this conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone struggling to let go of an ex or rebuild trust in love. In this episode, we cover: Why the story you tell yourself about your breakup matters The psychology behind no-contact (and how to stick with it) The truth about where closure comes from How to know when you're ready to date again Heartbreak vs. mental health: when to seek extra support Whether you should tell a new partner about mistakes you've made in past relationships At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about whether you need to disclose past cheating before entering a new relationship. CONNECT WITH KELSEY On Instagram Get her new book, Don't Do What I Did THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionally FREE STUFF Dating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & more CONNECT WITH ME Submit a dating dilemma Slide into my DMs on IG Watch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
280. How to Vet Someone Before a First Date (Without Overthinking)
27 min
Not sure who's worthy of a first date? In this episode, I'm sharing my exact process for deciding who gets a first date, including the one screening step I wish I'd done more of before meeting people in person. The 3 questions to ask yourself before meeting someone What's actually worth paying attention to on a profile (and what to ignore) Why over-vetting someone like a job interview backfires How texting for too long creates a false sense of intimacy Why a quick phone or video screening call beats weeks of DMs How vetting works differently when you meet someone offline vs. on the apps At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman whose boyfriend of three months lied about his age. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE How to nail a first date from start to finish THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionally FREE STUFF Dating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & more CONNECT WITH ME Submit a dating dilemma Slide into my DMs on IG Watch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
Love Island Lessons: Breadcrumbing, Exclusivity & Waiting for Them to Change (Week 6)
14 min
It's finale week, which means we're wrapping up this season of Love Island Lessons with five final dating takeaways from Love Island USA Season 8. In this episode, I'm breaking down why exclusivity has a place in modern dating (and why it's not the same as being in a situationship), how to recognize breadcrumbing before you get emotionally invested, and why waiting for someone to change is one of the biggest traps you can fall into. I also share my thoughts on what the compatibility challenge got wrong and why meeting the family is such a meaningful milestone in a relationship. Plus, we recap the finale couples, the winners, and the biggest dating lessons from the villa. MENTIONED IN THIS EP Tips for meeting the parents (and other relationship firsts) How to tell if you're compatible before you catch feelings CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
279. Dating Habits That Actually Lead to Relationships w/ Moe Ari Brown
50 min
In this episode, I sit down with Hinge's Love & Connection Expert, licensed marriage and family therapist Moe Ari Brown , to unpack what Hinge's latest LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E. Report reveals about modern dating. We dive into why so many first dates feel like they're going nowhere, the surprising "question deficit" that's making it harder to build connection, and why clarity is becoming one of the most attractive qualities in dating today. You'll learn... Why so many people aren't asking enough questions on dates and how it's impacting attraction. The best first date habits that actually lead to stronger connections. What Hinge's latest dating research reveals about how dating is changing in 2026. Why uncertainty is making people more intentional about what they want in a partner. The difference between saying you're emotionally available and actually showing it. How to communicate your intentions without killing the vibe. Why consistency matters more than grand romantic gestures. The case for embracing a slow burn How to build attraction through curiosity, clarity, and genuine connection. A listener dating dilemma: What do you do when you have a crush on your non-binary friend and can't tell if the feelings are mutual? Whether you've been frustrated by awkward first dates, mixed signals, or conversations that never seem to go anywhere, this episode will give you practical insights—and a fresh perspective on what actually helps relationships get off the ground. THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionally FREE STUFF Dating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & more CONNECT WITH ME Submit a dating dilemma Slide into my DMs on IG Watch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
278. Summer Dating Tips: Keep Your Momentum When Everyone's Traveling
33 min
Summer dating is the best, IMO. Vacation flings, coordinating dates when everyone's going away, dating app struggles and more - we get into it all in this guide to dating in the summer. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about a promising Hinge connection that fizzled out after both people traveled, and how to tell the difference between someone losing interest and your own anxiety talking. You'll learn... The conversation you need to have before you/they travel The biggest dating app mistake to avoid in the summer My tips for getting to the date quickly even when people's schedules are crazy Advice for deciding to take a break (or not) this summer How to navigate a vacation romance without the heartbreak and drama MENTIONED IN THIS EP Ep 277 with Camille Virginia about meeting people IRL Ep 249 with Eric Resnick about revamping your dating app profile Ep 186 on how (and when) to take a dating break The waitlist for Date Tracker , my new dating journaling app coming soon! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionally FREE STUFF Dating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & more CONNECT WITH ME Submit a dating dilemma Slide into my DMs on IG Watch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
Love Island Lessons: Bad Friend Advice, Exclusivity Tips & Broken Trust (week 5)
15 min
Movie Night brought the drama and lots of lessons to learn about dating. I’m watching Love Island USA Season 8 to draw real-life dating lessons from it. This week (Episodes 23–29), I’m breaking down why feeling stressed more often than at peace is a major red flag, why even well-meaning friends can give terrible dating advice, and why you should check in with a friend before pursuing someone they're interested in. I also get into a better way to have the exclusivity conversation, what it actually takes to rebuild trust after betrayal, and why "fixing" a relationship is never one person's job. Plus, I share my thoughts on the aftermath of Movie Night and what all the chaos can teach us about healthy relationships. MENTIONED IN THIS EP Tips for becoming exclusive in dating How to define the relationship CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
277. Get Asked Out & Become More Approachable w/ Camille Virginia
49 min
Approachability is a skill you can learn. I'm chatting with Camille Virginia , author of The Offline Dating Method and founder of Master Offline Dating, who went from a socially anxious introvert to one of the leading voices on meeting people in real life. I LOVE her book and this convo was so helpful. We get into: Where "high quality" like-minded single people are (and why you keep missing them) The limiting beliefs holding you back more than a lack of single people How to create a meaningful connection before you ever ask someone out Reading the signals that someone is open to being approached Sending signals that you're open to being approached At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about how to safely and gracefully exit a date that's gone wrong. CONNECT WITH CAMILLE Camille's Instagram Camille's website THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Enter to win Bellesa products! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionally CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Download my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ) Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
276. Are You Compatible? How To Tell Before You Get Too Attached
27 min
In this episode, I'm getting into how to gain more certainty in dating by figuring out if you're actually compatible with someone before you're in too deep emotionally. I'm breaking down the three tiers of compatibility (the big stuff, the important stuff, and the emotional stuff), the five things to look for in the first month of getting to know someone, and three ways to actually start building compatibility early on instead of waiting around to "discover" it. I also do a quick gut check for anyone seeing someone right now, plus why chemistry alone can never carry a relationship long-term and how Johnny and I built our own little love languages over time. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman whose date ghosted her after they slept together on date two. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Download 90+ dating questions THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Quince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/talia CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
Love Island Lessons: Casa Amor, Toxic Attachment & False Hope (week 4)
17 min
Casa Amor has officially arrived, and it exposed exactly why so many dating connections fall apart. I’m watching Love Island USA Season 8 to pull real-life dating lessons from the villa. This week (Week 4, Episodes 16–21), I’m breaking down why scorekeeping is a losing strategy, what having high standards actually looks like, and why asking about someone else's dating life too early can backfire. I also get into the red flag behind "I was just joking," why toxic attachments can feel stronger than healthy connections, and how hope can keep us stuck in relationships that aren't actually right for us. There's a lot to unpack after Casa Amor. THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS Quince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/talia CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
275. Male POV: "If he's not making plans, it doesn't mean anything." w/ Jacob Lucas
52 min
I'm chatting with Jacob Lucas , a dating coach who went from the boxing world to building a huge online following, helping people date with intention. We're discussing everything from his "love at first sight" story with his wife (and why he didn't act on those intense early feelings) to the difference between your gut instinct and your anxiety, to why some people text constantly but never actually make plans. Jacob also breaks down how to invite physical touch rather than force it, and why the right person never gets scared off by your boundaries. At the end, we tackle four listener dating dilemmas about long-distance dating with a busy partner, shooting your shot a second time, handling a too-touchy first date, and what to do when the conversation never goes below the surface. CONNECT WITH JACOB Instagram & TikTok: @jacoblucas101 YouTube: Jacob Lucas Dating Coach THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS Quince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/talia CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
274. 10 Green Flags You Can Spot On The First 3 Dates
30 min
How much can you really know about someone after three dates? Not enough to know if they're your forever person, but definitely enough to spot signs that they're worth continuing to get to know. In this episode, I'm breaking down 10 green flags to look for on the first few dates that tell you to keep going! We'll talk about the difference between real green flags and behaviors that only look promising, why consistency matters more than chemistry, and how to tell whether someone's actions actually match their words. You'll learn: The #1 green flag that creates connection quickly Why initiative and follow-through are different (and why you need both) How to tell if someone is rushing the connection The role consistency plays in building trust What someone's relationship history can reveal about them Why feeling calm around someone is often a better sign than feeling a spark Green flags submitted by listeners from their own dating experiences Behaviors that seem like green flags—but aren't Plus, I answer a Dating Dilemma from a listener whose partner struggles with emotional conversations and discuss how couples can navigate different comfort levels around difficult feelings. THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS Quince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/talia CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
Love Island Lessons: Rushing Sex & Why It Won’t Work Out (Week 3)
17 min
Things are not looking good for the islander's connections, and we can learn a lot about dating just from spotting the early signs things won't work out. I’m watching Love Island USA Season 8 to pull real-life dating lessons from the villa. This week (Week 3, Episodes 10–15), I’m breaking down what happens when you rush physical intimacy too soon, why emotional repair breaks down in early relationships, and how defensiveness can quietly destroy a connection before it ever has a chance. I also get into the importance of multi-dating in early stages, why slow-burn connections built on friendship can actually be stronger than instant chemistry, and how extreme highs and lows are often a huge red flag. So much to unpack here. THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS Quince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/talia CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
273. Limerence vs Love: Why Uncertainty Makes You Want Them More w/ Amanda McCracken
50 min
I'm chatting with Amanda McCracken , author of When Longing Becomes Your Lover , about the psychology term taking over dating culture: limerence. We're discussing everything from the difference between a crush and full-blown limerence to how ADHD can fuel the dopamine chase, why distance and uncertainty make feelings burn brighter, and how Amanda finally took her real-life crushes off the pedestal. Amanda also shares how she identified as a late-in-life virgin into her forties, and how she eventually built the secure, "boring," trusting relationship she once avoided. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a casual hookup that turned into real feelings, right before he moved several states away. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Book: When Longing Becomes Your Lover: Breaking from Infatuation, Rejection, and Perfectionism to Find Authentic Love Amanda's work: www.amandajmccracken.com Instagram: @AmandaJMcCracken Podcast: The Longing Lab THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Quince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/talia CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Download my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ) Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
272. “Am I Overreacting or Are They Just Not Interested?” (Dating Dilemmas)
26 min
We have five new dating dilemmas! I'm answering listener questions about uneven effort, intense early connections, addiction recovery, confusing endings, and relationships that move way too fast. I get into... What it means when you're always the one initiating dates How to tell the difference between interest and investment Why we ignore red flags when we're excited about someone The mistake people make after noticing a shift in someone's behavior Whether it's too risky to date someone in addiction recovery If sending a "close the loop" text is actually worth it What to do when a new relationship is moving at lightning speed Why trying to decode someone's feelings often keeps you stuck If you've ever found yourself wondering, "am I overreacting?" or spending more time analyzing someone's behavior than evaluating whether the relationship is working for you, this episode is for you. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Free dating FAQ guide: datingintentionally.com/gift Close the loop text templates on IG THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Quince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/talia CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Download my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ) Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
Love Island Lessons: Falling For Potential & Empty Promises (Week 2)
12 min
What can we learn about dating from Love Island? Turns out - a lot. I'm watching Love Island USA Season 8 to pull real-life dating takeaways from the villa. This week (episodes 5-9), I'm getting into early dating expectations, knowing your needs, and how important it is to let someone show you who they are. Actions speak louder than words every time. I also talk about how people pleasing can be harmful and why it's GOOD that secure relationships feel boring. So much to unpack here. THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS Quince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/talia CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
271. How to Attract a Securely Attached Partner w/ Dr. Amir Levine
54 min
Have you read or heard of the book Attached? I'm chatting with Dr. Amir Levine , psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and author of Secure and co-author of Attached, a book that has indefinitely changed my life. In this episode, we break down exactly how to attract and spot a securely attached person in early dating, and how to build more security in your life (whether you're in a relationship or not). At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who flew across the country for a guy who then changed his mind. You'll learn... All about Dr. Levine's CARP and SIMI frameworks Why CARP should be your new non-negotiable dating standard How to do a "CARP intervention" early without it feeling like a big emotional conversation Why a secure relationship is supposed to feel boring The strategy for distancing yourself from someone who isn't meeting your standards Why most of us already have secure people in our lives and keep ignoring them How your attachment style can be totally different with different people (yes, even your pet) MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Secure by Dr. Amir Levine Dr. Levine's website: amirlevinemd.com Attachment Quiz Dr. Levine's Masterclass: The Science Of Connection THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Quince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/talia CONNECT WITH ME: Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Download my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ) Get more dating advice from me on YouTube SUPPORT THE POD Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
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