Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

You’re hurt about something that’s happened in your relationship. But should you say something? Is it just your thoughts? When should you speak up and when should you change the way you’re thinking about something? This is exactly what we’re talking about in today’s episode! Ready? Let’s dive in. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com How to feel calm when they're not responding - Private podcast

Do you see other people posting their engagement photos, or baby shower pictures and feeling envious? Or maybe you see people posting their travelling pictures - and start to feel dissatisfied with the lack of travelling you’ve done lately? Or maybe you see your best friend’s boyfriend spoiling her with expensive gifts, and you start to compare that to your own relationship - where your partner's idea of romance is splitting a chicken masala from the local takeaway. Comparison can leave us feeling anxious, frustrated, and disconnected from our lives. So let’s talk about why it happens, and how to stop it in its tracks. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Ever felt an intense feeling of shame when someone is upset with you? Well... I've had a couple of situations happen recently. One with my wife and one with a close friend of mine - where I experienced feelings of both shame & anxiety, after making a mistake. My brain jumped to thoughts like: 'I'm not good enough' 'I'm a bad friend' I even started catastrophising to... 'What if my friend doesn't forgive me?' 'What if the whole friendship group falls out with me over this?' So today, I'm walking you through exactly how I coached myself to the other side of it. And how you can too! Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Today I'm answering a question from a listener. "My boyfriend of 1.5 years and I started out having an open relationship. Turned out that this wasn't a good fit for me due to my insecurities and brought on anxiety that was unmanageable. "Now my boyfriend has agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with me. I find my self feeling "guilty" that he is now in a different style of relationship than what he initially wanted, and worried that he will inevitably change his mind and we will have to break up. "Any advice to how to deal with this anxiety and guilt?" Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com FREE masterclass - Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection

Is your fear of losing them pushing them away? Are you feeling so anxious that it’s getting in between you and your partner - or maybe you and your friends - when all you want is to feel closer to them? In today’s episode, I’m talking about 5 ways a fear of losing someone actually pushes the people we love away. And I’m offering you practical ways to start to challenge these subconscious patterns, and create connection with them instead. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com FREE masterclass: Your Self-Trust Bubble - How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection

Don’t like thirst trap pictures on Instagram. Don’t reply if your ex messages you. Don’t go for drinks with your female co-worker, unless other people are going. Sometimes we set rules for our partners as a way to avoid or manage our own fears and anxieties. Other times, we really don’t want to be okay with a certain kind of behaviour. In this episode, I help you get better at making that judgement call - and manage your mind in the face of any behaviour in your relationship. Mentioned in this episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection MASTERCLASS

Today I’m answering real-life questions from listeners on their real-life relationship problems. Including: A person whose partner has expressed frustration when she’s upset And boundaries around following people of the opposite sex on Instagram. Unless you’re the person that wrote it - you likely aren’t in either of those exact situations. That’s okay! Don’t skip the episode - because the way I coach on these topics is likely to help you see your own relationship mind drama in a new way, and apply the teachings to your own unique situations. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection

Do you find yourself getting a little too attached too quickly in dating? Maybe you’ve met the person twice, but find your mood is completely dependant on whether they’ve replied to your message yet. Or maybe you feel like dating is a rollercoaster, and even when you didn’t really know the person - the rejection feels unbearable. If so, this episode is for you! I’m talking about why people get so attached in early dating, the signs to look out for, and what to do to stop this pattern and date more securely instead. Mentioned in the episode: Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection 1:1 coaching with Rebecca

Do you ever worry that you’re just not lovable? When someone rejects you, or if someone has cheated, left, or rejected you in the past - does your brain jump to: I’m not good enough. There’s something wrong with me? If so - this episode is for you. We’re talking about what it really means to be lovable, and why how much someone loves you actually has nothing to do with you as a person. Mentioned in the episode: Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection 1:1 coaching with Rebecca

Protect your peace, it’s their job to meet your needs, heal before you get into a relationship… The online space is LOUD and full of well-intended relationship advice. But of course - the most common advice can sometimes be a little black-or-white - when in reality, relationships are filled with shades of grey. So we’re going to discuss more nuanced approaches to common relationship advice in today’s episode. Mentioned in the episode: Your Self-Trust Bubble - How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you ask your partner for reassurance multiple times a week? Or find yourself asking for reassurance on the same topic over and over and the anxiety still popping back up, despite what they say? Has your partner said they’re tired of reassuring you, and do you wonder how much reassurance is okay to ask for? If so, this episode is for you! I’m to talk about reassurance seeking, what it looks like in a healthy relationship, and most importantly - how to start reassuring yourself. Mentioned in the episode: Your Self Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection (FREE masterclass series) Get coached by Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Does the thought of your partner around other attractive women (or men) make you panic? Do you feel jealous when they talk about their co-workers, worried that they find them hot? Or do you feel on edge when they’re out in bars, afraid they’ll find other people attractive? If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking about why your brain likely sees attractive people as threats, and more importantly - how to train it not to. Mentioned in the episode: Processing Emotions Meditation Book a Relationship Anxiety Breakthrough Call with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Ever wonder: Why am I the way that I am? Why does an unanswered text ruin my day? Why does criticism seem so big and scary? Why can’t I ever stop worrying about what might go wrong? Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about some of the most common beliefs we learn in childhood that could be at the root of your relationship anxiety. Ready? LISTEN NOW! Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection - FREE masterclass - SIGN UP NOW

They’re distracted on their phone - so you go in a mood and make a passive aggressive comment. They didn’t ask about an important meeting you had - so you assume they don’t care and don’t bring it up. You haven’t heard from a friend for a while - so you imagine she’s having fun with people she likes more - and don’t bother reaching out to see when she’s next free. What do all of these examples have in common? You're being sabotaged by your unmanaged mind. Let’s talk about it. Mentioned in the episode: FREE MASTERCLASS SERIES - Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection 1:1 coaching - Book a free 45 minute Relationship Anxiety Breakthrough Call - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

I’m sharing something vulnerable in today’s episode. My wife recently told me she didn’t want children - when we’d always agreed and said that we would. This has of course thrown a huge spanner in the works of our relationship and our marriage - and it’s bringing up a lot of uncertainty. And so I wanted to talk you through how I’m handling that uncertainty - in the hopes that whatever uncertainty you’re facing right now - you can perhaps use a similar approach and help create a feeling of peace, calmness and self-trust. Note : This episode was inspired in part by the How to Be a Better Human podcast episode featuring Simone Stolzoff discussing uncertainty. Some of the ideas explored in this episode prompted me to reflect on my own experience, and this episode shares my personal perspective and how I apply those ideas in my own life and coaching practice. FREE RESOURCE - Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection Work with Rebecca: - Contact Rebecca about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

When someone is upset with you or you suspect they might be annoyed about something you’ve done - do you instantly feel guilty? When you see someone experiencing negative emotion - do you feel like it’s your job to try and fix it? And feel super uncomfortable until you know they’re okay again? If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking all about the difference between empathy and taking responsibility for other people’s emotions. And how to let go of responsibility, while still being a compassionate friend, partner, or family member. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - Use code 'SUN' to get 30% off

When I was at my most anxious in my relationships - I realised I had been depending on things outside of me being a certain way for me to feel safe, secure or calm. Can you relate? If so - I’m going to be talking today about the difference between internal and external safety. And I’m going to offer you concrete exercises to do to start building your internal safety muscle. So you can feel emotionally safe and secure - regardless of what’s going on outside of you. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Are you facing rejection? A setback at work? A difficult friendship dynamic? An uncertain outcome? Someone who keeps crossing your boundaries? Whatever feels tough right now - I want to offer you a question that is going to transform the way you approach it. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

This week, I’m answering two questions from listeners. The first is all about taking back a cheating, avoidant partner. The second is dealing with a jealous partner who has very different thoughts around a friendship with an ex. Mentioned in the episode: Join my email list Work with me 1:1 - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

People that work with me learn to STOP using the phrase ‘They made me feel…’ Because they’re finally able to take back responsibility for how they feel and respond to any situation in their life… And I call this taking radical responsibility for your own feelings. It’s something I did years ago - and it changed my life and relationships forever. And in today’s episode I’m going to help you understand what it really means to take radical responsibility AND how to start doing it today! Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca