Jenna Love & Holly Harte: just two Aussie SWers sharing our expertise in disappointing our parents, breaching community guidelines, and banging the people who vote against our rights. www.somebodyyoulove.net Instagram/Twitter/Facebook: @somebodyyoupodwww.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod
The Stan Original series Turned On: Dirty Sexy Money "takes a peek into the opulent and outrageous lives of adult content creators on the Gold Coast. Dominating the top 1% of OnlyFans creators worldwide, these fiercely ambitious women rake in up to and over $1 million a year for as little as two days' work a week. They’ve officially hacked the system—taking total control of their own sexuality and dictating the terms of their success." Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod MERCH: http://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
83. Turned On: Madam
Based on a true story, Madam is a 2024 show made in New Zealand. Following her husband's affair, Mack decides to open her own ETHICAL BROTHEL. Holly & Jenna have thoughts about this. Quite a lot of thoughts. Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
82. Somebody You Love deals with the media
In this episode, Jenna shares some of her worst experiences dealing with mainstream media, and we chat about discretion in our Question of the Week and Shit People Say. If you stick around until the end, you’ll be soothed by crooning tunes by our fearless hosts. Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
81. Somebody You Love advocates for the sex industry
Welcome to season 5! Today we're talking about "accidental activists" and "sex work influencers". What is the cost of speaking about the industry under your work persona? We also answer a question about transitioning from a client/provider relationship to a friendship, and Holly delivers a "won't someone think of the men???" style Shit People Say. Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
80. Somebody You Love says goodbye to 2024!
It’s a big fat Holly & Jenna recap episode! What did we get up to this year? What games, movies, and tv shows did we love? What new sexual experiences did we encounter? And what is coming up for us in 2025?? Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
79. Somebody You Love needs rights not rescue (f**k your saviour complex)
NSWP (Global Network of Sex Work Projects): https://www.nswp.org/members APNSW (Asia Pacific Network of Sex Workers): https://apnswnew.wordpress.com/membership/members/ Sources: https://soundcloud.com/socialismconf/behind-the-rescue-sex-work-migration-and-the-anti-trafficking-industry https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-CfYvmGIzRE https://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2012/03/the-white-savior-industrial-complex/254843/ https://www.artofcitizenry.com/podcast/episode-15-rescue-industry https://truthout.org/articles/the-american-rescue-industry-toward-an-anti-trafficking-paramilitary/ https://titsandsass.com/baked-goods-or-baby-missionaries-in-conversation-with-the-cupcake-girls/ https://www.hrw.org/report/2010/07/19/streets/arbitrary-detention-and-other-abuses-against-sex-workers-cambodia Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
78. Somebody You Love needs rights not rescue (f**k the Nordic Model)
Well, the time has come. We are finally doing a deep dive on the Nordic Model! End Demand, Swedish Model, Equality Model... whatever you want to call it, it sucks. Sources: Sex in the New Europe: The Criminalization of Clients and Swedish Fear of Penetration, Kulick, 2003 Twenty Years of Failing Sex Workers: A community report on the impact of the 1999 Swedish Sex Purchase Act, Fuckforbundet, 2019 Sex Work and the Nordic Model (w/ Freja and Elizabeth), The Importance of Being Feminist, 2021 The human cost of ‘crushing’ the market: Criminalization of sex work in Norway, Amnesty International, 2016 What do sex workers think about the French prostitution act?, Medecins Du Monde, 2019 Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
77. Turned On: The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas
The film The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas was released in 1982, based on the 1978 musical, based loosely on a true story. The movie stars Dolly Parton and Burt Reynolds and this week Holly and Jenna are sharing their thoughts on it! Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
76. Somebody You Love makes and studies Indie Porn (Dr Zahra Stardust
Combining 15 years as a professional undresser, award-winning stripper, pole dancer, & 🌽 star with an international research portfolio spanning SWer activism, LGBTQ+ health, sexual rights and sextech, it’s Zahra Stardust! Order Indie Porn: Revolution, Regulation, and Resistance: https://avidreader.com.au/p/indie-porn-revolution-regulation-and-resistance Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
75. Somebody You Love faces digital violence (Pomma)
Pomma Granet, also known as Blair Bishop, also known as OnlyPomma, Juicy Pomma, Succubus Slut, and a host of other usernames given how many times they’ve had accounts deleted, is a New York-based full service sex worker, adult content creator, BDSM & fetish provider, cammer, and much more. Blair describes themselves as a bit of a nerd - they love video games, cosplay, anime, crafting, and alternative fashion and they are often traveling the country for anime conventions. They also spend a lot of their time online yelling into the void about sex worker’s rights and thus they fit right in here! Further reading: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00224499.2011.628132 https://www.bbc.com/news/technology-23030090 Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
74. Somebody You Love had a stalker Pt 2
CW: Stalking, harassment, sexual assault Welcome to part 2, and apologies for the darkness of these episodes! This time Holly & Jenna each share another story of stalking/harassment, as well as talk about the red flags they’ve learnt to watch out for, parasocial relationships, hitting on people at work, and female perpetrators. Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
73. Somebody You Love had a stalker Pt 1
CW: Stalking, harassment, sexual assault, animal death. We use the term “grandfathered” in this episode. We understand this term has very racist origins, and we apologise for the mistake. A better term would have been “legacy rates” While we are not more likely to be victims of violence because we sell sex, we are more likely to be victims of violence because people think the fact that we sell sex makes us less than human. Which is the whole reason this podcast exists. Today Holly & Jenna are each sharing one of the more harrowing experiences they have had in this industry. For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
72. Turned On: Pretty Woman
Holly finally convinced Jenna to watch Pretty Woman and here we are! Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
71. Somebody You Love wrote a book about sluts (Dr Hilary Caldwell)
Note: we had some technical issues when recording this episode, so unfortunately the audio isn’t at the level we usually like to deliver! Buy SLUTDOM: https://www.uqp.com.au/books/slutdom-reclaiming-shame-free-sexuality Dr Hilary Caldwell has been a sex worker for over 20 years and decided to come out of hiding to publish her first book. She is an academic with a Masters in Health Science and Applied Science. Her doctorate, ‘Women Who Buy Sex in Australia’ was the first study in the world to explore women buying sexual services and was informed by her sex work and professional career in the field of sexology. She is kinky and queer, a mother and grandmother. Dr Caldwell has recently released her first book, Slutdom, which argues convincingly and passionately for women’s enjoyment of sex as a force to advance gender equality. Delving into topics such as pleasure, pain, empowerment, and including real women’s stories and saucy tips, we are welcoming Dr Caldwell on the show to discuss her research, the Slutdom movement and her experiences as an academic and secret sex worker. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
70. Somebody You Love helps you ask sticky questions
How do I ask how recently they were tested for STIs? How do I ask for us to do something different this time? What if I get down there and it smells really bad? Holly & Jenna give you tips on how to tackle tricky topics and sticky subjects. They also answer the listener question “Is there room for older ladies to succeed in SW?” Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod MERCH: http://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
69. Just The Tips: So you want to be an Independent Escort Pt 3
In part three of this series (make sure you’ve listened to parts 1 & 2 if you’re new or thinking about joining the industry!), we’re talking about the actual booking - how do you keep time, how to set up for and run a booking, how to do health checks, tips for building assertiveness, and what mental self care is necessary in this job. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
68. Just The Tips: So you want to be an independent escort? Pt 2
In part two of this series, we are moving more into the logistics of the job itself. Holly and Jenna talk about advertising & advertising platforms, dealing with time wasters, screening, getting deposits, and supplying invoices. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/ For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
67. Somebody You Love lost their virginity* to an escort
Michael (he/him), and Louise (she/her) both lost their “virginity” to sex workers and they’ve both agreed to share their stories on the show! *Virginity is a social construct, but we talk about that more in the episode. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
66. Is Somebody You Love an arsehole?
Yep, this week we are mining reddit for content. We read out the SW-related stories of contributors to /r/AITA and decide if we think: NTA (not the arsehole) YTA (you are the arsehole) NAH (no arseholes here) ESH (everyone sucks here) Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
65. Turned On: Music Theatre and Sex Work
Get your jazz hands ready, we’re doing musicals! Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/41U6nuxshQciTYfLLnIsfb?si=a50dc606af40463e Songlist: 1. I Dreamed a Dream (Les Miserables, 1980) 2. Lovely Ladies (Les Miserables, 1980) 3. The Movie in my Mind (Miss Saigon, 1989) 4. The Transaction (Miss Saigon, 1989) 5. No One Knows Who I Am (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990) 6. Bring on the Men (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990) 7. Someone Like You (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990) 8. Out Tonight (RENT, 1994) 9. I Don’t Know How To Love Him (Jesus Christ Superstar, 1971) 10. Sugar Daddy (Hedwig and the Angry Inch, 1998) 11. Big Spender (Sweet Charity, 1966) 12. There’s Gotta Be Something Better Than This (Sweet Charity, 1966) 13. Don’t Tell Mama (Cabaret, 1966) Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod
