To All the Men I've Tolerated Before

Natalie rewatched all of Desperate Housewives, got super irritated with Tom Scavo, and immediately knew she needed Margaret from the Smash Hit podcast to come do an episode on this iconic show. Natalie and Margaret will rank each husband on Desperate Housewives on their problematic tendencies. There will also be discussion on how important it is to see middle aged women be represented on tv, the secrets we keep in suburbia, and what Desperate Housewives taught us about love, life, and marriage. How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Find Margaret Podcast: Smash Hit Instagram

Kat Steinberg ( She Media ) is helping us define the trust economy and how it fits into our current media landscape. Kat and Natalie will discuss what it feels like when you’re living during a time where you can’t trust the media surrounding you. There will be discussion of women who have been targeted by negative media campaigns with a concentration on Chappel Roan, Sabrina Carpenter, Taylor Swift, and headlines from the past that affected Britney Spears and Amanda Bynes. Discussion will also include how the media portrays women and the negative connotations about womanhood we have had ingrained in us through our media. How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Find Kat SHE Media Instagram SHE Knows Instagram SHE Media website

Ellen Moore returns to the podcast to talk about her advocacy for herself when it comes to getting the disability aid she needs to survive. Ellen gives Natalie an update on her health and the process she went through in order to apply for disability aid. There will be discussion on stigmas people with disability face, how hustle culture affects our ability to rest, and how people can help Ellen as she goes through the process to try and appeal the decision that she cannot receive aid. How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Find Ellen Instagram Ellen’s Gofundme

Team Tolerator, the podcast is officially coming back! I know the feed has been quiet and here is your explaination as to why. We will be returning with regularly scheduled episodes next week! How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well!

Ellen Moore, host of The Slut Show with Ellen Moore, is back on the podcast! She opens up about a recent breakup that resulted in a nine page letter detailing how toxic masculinity had given her partner a misconception of what a relationship should be. The women go into how misogyny has created a culture around dating that allows for men to have their privilege leak over into our romantic lives. They talk about the emotional labor women take on within relationships, how toxic masculinity contributes to gender norms in relationships, and urge listeners to remember that everyone should feel cared for and seen during a romantic partnership. How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well!

To All the Men I’ve Tolerated Before is on summer vacay! In the meantime, we will be posting episodes of our livestream collaboration with Pop Culture Makes Me Jealous . Still Comfy? is an in-depth look at our favorite comfort shows and movies. After a conversation about the themes presented in the selected movie, we discuss how the movie holds up against our Tolerator and Jelly Pops morals and viewpoints. Enjoy our review of Freaky Friday starring Lindsay Lohan and Jamie Lee Curtis! You can watch Still Comfy? By subscribing to the playlist ! How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well!

Natalie is joined by Rose and Courtney from Fiction Fixation to talk about a shared favorite topic, movies! The episode will revolve around the idea of romantic comedies and what they do really well and where they miss the mark. Natalie is a known rom com hater and Rose and Courtney are here to have a more nuanced conversation about the genre. All three can agree that a rom com is a hard thing to pull off! They’ll all talk about the favorite rom coms, the tropes they love, the tropes they’re over, and what they hope for the genre in the future. Movies of note will be Anyone But You, The Idea of You, Set It Up, and more! How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well!

Natalie is joined by her friend Shanaz to get her thoughts straight on the Netflix docu-series, America’s Sweethearts Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. After a casual watch of the show, Natalie was convinced that DCC and the series was a great work of women supporting other women and her ideal type of feminism. It took a lot of people, including Shanaz, to get her to watch it again and see the sinister misogyny lurking behind the pretty facade. Shanaz and Natalie will talk about a lack of body diversity, low pay, women being in competition with one another, women being a commodity for men, and other ways misogyny presents itself within DCC. How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well!

How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well!

Still Comfy? is an in-depth look at Julia Washington and Natalie's favorite comfort shows and movies. After a conversation about the themes presented in the selected movie, we discuss how the movie holds up against our Tolerator and Jelly Pops morals and viewpoints. Enjoy our review of the 1998 movie The Parent Trap starring Lindsay Lohan, Dennis Quaid, and Natasha Richardson. Nat and Jules set out to answer the question, what happens when you don't get to go to summer camp? You can watch Still Comfy? By subscribing to the playlist ! How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Support Julia Shop Her Candles Instagram Patreon

Author Rae Wilde joins Natalie to have a conversation about her book I Do Not Apologize for My Position on Men and what drew her to writing stories surrounding sapphic women and the horror genre. The two women will delve into the real life horrors that women experience that create inspiration for the fiction they’re both interested in. There will be discussion surrounding heteronormativity, toxic relationships, horror stories, our current trying times, and more! How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Find Rae Website: https://www.raewilde.com/ Instagram: @_rae_wilde TikTok Shop

TATMITB is on summer break! And nothing screams summertime more than a little summer romance! Julia Washington ( Prose and Glow ) is back to talk to Natalie about entering her Rom Com Era. Julia has been creating content about dating herself and doing activities that you would find in a standard Rom Com to try and find her ideal relationship. Her and Natalie will discuss how the dating landscape has changed as women’s expectations for relationships and dating have evolved as they do things like de-centering men and honing in on their own independence and power. What will it take for men to catch up to being able to appreciate women who are confident in themselves and their standards? You’ll have to watch Julia’s romantic comedy lifestyle to figure it out! How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Support Julia Shop Her Candles Instagram Patreon

Team Tolerator is on Summer Break! But don't fret, because if you want to have new content on everyday misogyny, the Patreon will still be active and releasing new content! New episodes will resume on our free feeds in September. See you over on Patreon! How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well!

Ami Lum and Kana Felix got Natalie all fired up about the movie Her during one of their monthly script clubs. Ami, Kana, and Natalie will discuss the story of Theodore and Samantha and how misogyny plays a role in their relationship. They will also tackle topics like our reality living with AI, how misogyny presents itself in tech, how we’ve changed how we build connections to one another, and our definitions on what makes the love we feel for others real. So watch a movie and then connect with us about all the ways we connected to an unlikely love story. How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Find Ami See available workshops on Break Out Sesh Find Kana See available workshops Sign up for Script Club Instagram

Lynn Harris is the owner and founder of Gold Comedy , the online comedy school, professional network, and content studio where women, non-binary creators, and other “others" build their comedy careers, join a powerful community, and make funny stuff that gets seen on all kinds of stages and screens. Lynn and Natalie will discuss the ways misogyny has affected comedy, why it is important to have diverse voices in the comedy space, how comedy improves empathy for others, and personal anecdotes from their lives as funny women. How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Find Lynn and Gold Comedy Instagram Explore Gold Comedy Check Out the Build and Pitch Any Idea with Ryan Cunningham (Use code GOLD10PERCENTOFF when signing up for class to receive a 10% discount) Book a free comedy consult call with Lynn

Kristiana, former guest from our episode on the men of Grey’s Anatomy, is back! She is Natalie’s expert on the series The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives and is the perfect choice for discussing all the complexities around the discourse of season 4. Natalie and Kristiana will have a very nuanced conversation about Taylor Frankie Paul and her cancelled season of The Bachelorette. There will also be discussion on why no one wants Dadtok to be a thing as well as why Natalie has such a hard time buying into the show and how she’s constantly worried about what’s being portrayed as “women empowerment” . How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Find Kristiana Patreon Kristiana’s article on SLOMW Instagram

Happy end of the month, Team Tolerator! This is your reminder to head over to our Patreon so you can see all the free bonus content and subscribe to our newsletter. We have a WHOPPER of a Misogyny Roundup this month!Topics include: Christina Koch and her trip to the moon Chappell Roan existing and men being mad 62 million reasons to be a misandrist The Supreme Court's refusal to ban conversion therapy Summer House and Scamanda Everyone should see The Drama Protecting ourselves from men centered people Advice on how to make men more uncomfortable The only place to find a full trailer of our Misogyny Roundups is over on our free Patreon tier! We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well!

Still Comfy? is an in-depth look at our favorite comfort shows and movies. After a conversation about the themes presented in the selected show, we then discuss how the show holds up against our Tolerator and Jelly Pops morals and viewpoints. You can watch Still Comfy? on our YouTube Channel How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well!

Natalie’s friend, Jessica Toukatly, is on the show today to talk about the important work started by The Geena Davis Institute for Gender and Media . Geena Davis was watching television with her kids one day when she noticed a sharp difference between the amount of lines given to male characters versus the female characters in the show. So she started tallying and collecting data. Jess will go over the ways Geena used her standing in Hollywood to meet with executives to bring light to how little women were being represented in media when it came to their male counterparts. There will also be a discussion on what quality female representation looks like in film, how the institute eventually expanded to collecting data that would represent other marginalized voices’ time on screens, and other women who have pioneered paths forward when it comes to getting women’s stories told. How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Find Jessica Instagram

The podcast’s guest for today’s episode is Dr. Valerie Rein, the author of the book Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment. Natalie and Dr. Valerie will discuss all the negative effects living in a misogynistic culture has on the body, mind, and heart. There will be talk about how these negative side effects manifest within our everyday lives and the toll they take on our health. There will also be discussion on Dr. Valerie’s work in creating ways for women to heal from the trauma caused by Patriarchy. How to Support TATMITB: Want more TATMITB content? We just revamped all of our tiers on Patreon! Our Patreon is now the one stop shop for written content, the monthly newsletter, social content, bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and more! You can join our free tier or try out a free trial for our paid tiers here . We are also still keeping our Instagram and TikTok accounts active so feel free to follow the show on those as well! Support Dr. Valerie Rein Buy the book Instagram Website