Wisdom of Impermanence

Margaret sits down with Michael Todd Fink - licensed psychotherapist, mindfulness meditation teacher, host of the Kind Mind podcast, and co-founder of the folk rock group The Giving Tree Band - to discuss his beautiful new book of reflections and poetry, Losslessness: Reflections on Impermanence, Glimpses of Forever . Todd shares the wisdom at the heart of his writing: that impermanence doesn't negate meaning - it undergirds it. Through the metaphor of waves rising and falling on the ocean, he explores how what falls away clarifies what abides, and how loss can orient us back to our true nature. Margaret and Todd also dive into his poem "Life is a Movie," examining how the challenges and "plot twists" of our lives might be embraced as part of a meaningful story rather than resisted as obstacles. The conversation moves into Todd's clinical practice, where he discusses how creativity, ritual, and rites of passage help people navigate grief and transition. He shares the deeply personal story of how woodworking helped him heal after a painful loss, and how making small decisions through art can restore confidence and direction when we feel stuck. Drawing on his work with indigenous communities in New Mexico, Todd reflects on cultural humility and the many different ways of knowing beyond Western clinical research. Margaret and Todd also explore the tension between attachment and fear, how our culture's compartmentalization of art, science, and spirituality limits us - and how integrating all three streams can open the door to transformation. Todd generously reads from his poem "The Root of Fear," offering an intimate look at his own lifelong relationship with anxiety and the practice of letting go. Whether you're grieving a loss, facing a major life transition, or simply curious about how Buddhist wisdom intersects with modern psychology, this episode offers compassionate insight and practical wisdom for finding your center in a rapidly changing world. Find his book: "Losslessness: Reflections on Impermanence, Glimpses of Forever" (available on Amazon, michaeltoddfink.com, and Luna and Luz in Albuquerque) Find Michael: · Website: michaeltoddfink.com · Podcast: The Kind Mind Podcast (available on podcast platforms and YouTube) · Psychology Today Blog Series: "The Circle of Compassion" And do not forget: · Artist: Mary Drury (Dryad Expressions) created the cover art and offers prints

You know that moment at the amusement park - you've just stumbled off a roller coaster, heart pounding, and your friend turns to you with a huge grin and says, "Let's go again!" Sometimes you're right there with them. And sometimes... once was enough. In this episode, Margaret Meloni takes that familiar little moment and opens it up into something surprisingly profound: a meditation on samsara, the "wandering on" that the Buddha described - the wheel of birth, death, and rebirth kept spinning not by punishment or judgment, but by the sheer momentum of our own craving, aversion, and confusion. At the heart of this episode is a story about a clever question and a compassionate correction. Margaret once asked a respected teacher: if rebirth means coming back for another ride, shouldn't we celebrate death and mourn birth? Shouldn't we flip the whole thing around? His answer - gentle, patient, and quietly devastating - reframes the entire spiritual path. We don't celebrate death, because we don't know where someone goes next. The ride doesn't stop just because the car has returned to the station. It stops only when the conditions that keep it running have been uprooted. This isn't an episode about hating life or gritting your teeth until it's over. It's about something far more tender: learning to keep your eyes open while the ride is still in motion. To feel what there is to feel without contracting around it. To notice that the thrill of samsara always comes packaged with dread, that its pleasures always call for repetition - and that the "again" is itself the suffering. Whether you're deep into Buddhist practice or simply curious about what it might mean to find ground beneath your feet that doesn't move, this episode offers a gentle invitation: not to escape the ride, but to use it. To let the craving, the fear, and the clinging weaken and thin - so that when the ride ends, perhaps nothing pulls you onto the next one. Step off. Stand still. And listen.

Margaret sits down with Joshua Nathaniel Pritikin - a former software and statistics professional turned psychological counselor, and the author of Religion Unburdened by Belief: An Open Inquiry . Joshua's path took a bold turn when he left behind a career in tech to follow a deeper calling: understanding the human mind and helping others navigate mental health. Now an IFS (Internal Family Systems) Certified Practitioner, he brings a refreshingly grounded and open-ended approach to spirituality, one that invites curiosity instead of blind acceptance. Together, Margaret and Joshua explore what it might mean to practice a "scientific religion" - not in the sense of dogma or rigid doctrine, but as a way to make religious and meditative experiences more reliable, repeatable, and honest. Joshua shares how his book builds on the work of James Carse, and how he aims to develop tools for spiritual growth that include real feedback, not just self-deception or comfortable habits. They dive into a simple yet powerful meditation adjustment: instead of brushing aside distractions, take a mental note, return to your focus, and later tend to the "parts" that surfaced. It's a small shift that can deepen both meditation and self-understanding. The conversation also takes a fascinating turn as Joshua describes the use of serotonergic psychedelics in communal ceremonies, like those in the Santo Daime tradition. He explains how participants are asked to stay present with the group - singing hymns, keeping rhythm, and remaining aware - even as the substance pulls them inward. This practice of "firmness," he suggests, trains the same muscles we use in meditation: staying present, resisting distraction, and developing discipline that carries into daily life. It's a compelling look at how spiritual experiences can be observed, shared, and even measured in group settings. Throughout the episode, Margaret and Joshua touch on the danger of inherited beliefs, the vital role of questioning, and why open inquiry matters now more than ever. Joshua offers a hopeful vision: that religious experiences can inspire empathy, compassion, and a deeper sense of connection to all beings. And for anyone curious about taking this work further, Joshua shares that he has room in his talk therapy practice - available via Zoom, with a sliding scale - through his website, unburdened.biz. For more, check out this article: https://thegentlelaw.substack.com/p/what-is-the-goal-in-meditation Tune in for a rich, thoughtful conversation about meditation, belief, and what it means to meet the unknown with both rigor and an open heart.

Drawing on an ancient story from the time of the Buddha - 500 monks who are tormented by tree spirits during a forest retreat - Margaret reveals a timeless lesson: the things that haunt us in our own forests often change when we change how we meet them. What begins as a tale of frightened monks becomes a powerful invitation to understand love not as something that happens to us, but as something we can intentionally cultivate, like a garden. Margaret unpacks the practice of mettābhāvanā - the development of loving-kindness - walking listeners through the five classical stages: from offering goodwill to ourselves, to a beloved benefactor, to a neutral person, to a difficult person, and finally to all beings without exception. She illuminates the subtle "near enemies" that masquerade as love and compassion - attachment disguised as affection, pity disguised as care - and offers clear guidance for recognizing the counterfeit in our own hearts. Along the way, she introduces compassion as "metta with its sleeves rolled up," explores the transformative Tibetan practice of Tonglen, and touches on modern scientific research showing that these ancient practices genuinely rewire the brain and build emotional resilience. Blending intimate storytelling with practical wisdom, this episode is both a teaching and an invitation. Margaret includes a guided meditation for listeners, addresses common obstacles like self-criticism, emotional numbness, and the fear of opening our hearts to a suffering world, and shares how to carry these practices off the cushion and into the messy reality of daily life. Whether you're new to meditation or a longtime practitioner, you'll come away with tools to meet your own haunted forest with a different heart - and a deeper sense of how the truth of impermanence can set us free.

Margaret Meloni opens her heart to share the raw, unvarnished story of her own confrontations with death - from her mother-in-law's quiet passing at 98 to the shattering week when both her mother and her husband Ed died just five days apart. With gentle honesty, Margaret recounts how these losses, along with her father's terminal cancer and the death of a beloved uncle, forced her to move beyond fear and avoidance into a place of acceptance. She invites listeners to consider a radical truth: that embracing impermanence isn't about being morbid, but about finding freedom from anxiety, stress, and despair. Drawing on the Buddhist teachings that became her lifeline, Margaret explores how the Four Noble Truths and the Noble Eightfold Path can serve as a steady foundation when grief threatens to overwhelm. She reflects on the cultural pressure to "be fine" after three days of bereavement, the comfort of faith, and the unexpected grace of the people who show up when we need them most. This episode is not a prescriptive guide but a shared conversation about what it means to become death-ready, to let go of clinging, and to live ardently even as we know all things must pass. Whether you are grieving a recent loss, preparing for one yet to come, or simply seeking a more grounded relationship with life's only certainty, this episode offers companionship and clarity. As Margaret says, "We cannot protect each other from death - but we can learn to walk beside it with courage, community, and a little faith." Tune in for a message that is both tender and transformative. May you be well, may you be happy, and may you be free from suffering.

· Today, we are joined by the incomparable Dr. Kerry Burnight, a leading gerontologist and author of the New York Times bestselling book, Joy Span: The Art and Science of Thriving in Life's Second Half . We delve into the nuanced journey of aging, exploring the intersection of growth, connection, adaptation, and the power of giving. Dr. Kerry shares her extensive experience from her decades at the University of California, Irvine, where she has not only taught geriatric medicine but also pioneered groundbreaking work in elder abuse prevention. · Throughout our conversation, Dr. Kerry highlights the variability of aging experiences, emphasizing that while some may face suffering, others can cultivate inner growth, deep connections, and profound joy. By unpacking her research-backed strategies, she encourages listeners to embrace the aging process, shifting the narrative from fear to empowerment. With a candid discussion on the societal stigmas surrounding age and the anti-aging industry's influence, Dr. Kerry redefines what it means to age gracefully, urging us to invite our future selves into the conversation and celebrate the many benefits that come with age. · As we navigate topics such as internalized ageism, the importance of meaningful connections, and the necessity of adapting to life's inevitable changes, Dr. Kerry provides invaluable insights on how to cultivate a life filled with purpose and joy. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that aging is not a decline but a unique opportunity for growth, connection, and legacy. Tune in to discover how to reframe your mindset and embrace the beauty of your journey through life's second half.

Why do we suffer, even when life seems to be going well? In this episode, we delve into the Second and Third Noble Truths, examining how craving, clinging, and aversion subtly influence our daily lives. From career ambitions and relationships to old grudges and unexpected setbacks, we'll examine how our attachment to outcomes creates stress—and how the Buddha's teachings point toward genuine freedom. Through personal stories, meditation practices, and practical reflection, you'll discover how mindfulness can help you recognize attachment, loosen its grip, and move toward greater peace and contentment. If you've ever struggled to let go of what you want or accept what you cannot control, this episode offers a compassionate and practical path forward.

Roughly half of the people around you have, at some point, had what they'd call a spiritual awakening — a moment when the floor of ordinary life gave way and something quieter and more real opened underneath. Most of them have never told anyone. In this episode, we explore what spiritual awakening actually is — how it feels, what it changes, and the surprising statistics on just how common these experiences are in modern life. Then we step 2,600 years into the past, into the Therīgāthā — the verses of the elder Buddhist nuns, and some of the oldest known writings by women anywhere in the world. You'll meet three extraordinary women who became fully awakened: Kisā Gotamī , the grieving mother sent to find a mustard seed from a house untouched by death; Patācārā , who lost everyone she loved in a single day and found freedom while watching water disappear into the earth; and Ambapālī , the legendary courtesan whose awakening came not through catastrophe but through an honest look in the mirror. Their voices are still here. And they have something to say to anyone who has ever felt something crack open inside them.

Margaret Meloni welcomes grief counselor Gyani Richards ( https://ourgriefpath.com/ ) to discuss the intricate landscape of grief - not just as a response to death, but as an intimate part of the human experience that encompasses various forms of loss, from the death of loved ones to the bittersweet transition of becoming an empty nester. Gyani shares his deeply personal journey with grief that began at the tender age of 13 when he lost his father. This pivotal moment ignited a lifelong exploration of meditation and spiritual traditions that ultimately shaped his vocation as a grief counselor. Throughout their conversation, Gyani emphasizes the idea that grief is not merely a problem to be solved, but rather an opportunity for transformation and healing. He introduces listeners to the concept of befriending grief, encouraging them to lean into their pain and witness it as a sacred teacher filled with potential insights. Listeners will also discover the therapeutic power of nature as Gyani discusses how immersing oneself in the outdoors can serve as a catalyst for understanding and processing grief. He invites us to carry our grief into nature, allowing the beauty and stillness of the natural world to help us uncover the essence of our emotions. With practical tips for navigating the grief journey, including the significance of community and the necessity of exhaling our sorrow, this episode is a heartfelt invitation to embrace our vulnerabilities and find strength in our shared experiences. Join Margaret and Gyani for a rich and compassionate discussion that seeks to redefine how we view grief, encouraging a journey toward acceptance, connection, and ultimately, freedom from the burdens of loss. Whether you are navigating your own grief or seeking to support others, this episode offers invaluable insights and wisdom to guide you along the path of healing. Visit Gyani at https://ourgriefpath.com/

Your host Margaret Meloni explores the First Noble Truth—the foundation of Buddhist teaching that so many Western practitioners initially reject. She shares the remarkable story of growing up as a questioning Catholic, becoming an atheist, and ultimately finding a spiritual home in Buddhism. But more than that, discover how the loss of her parents and her partner transformed her understanding of suffering from something bleak into an invitation to truly live. Through personal narrative and Buddhist teaching, you'll learn why "dukkha" (often mistranslated as "suffering") is actually the doorway to liberation, and how confronting our mortality can teach us what truly matters. This episode weaves together the Buddha's teachings on impermanence, the wisdom of the Kalama Sutta, and the practical meditation skills that sustained Margaret through the most difficult periods of her life. Whether you're new to Buddhism or a longtime practitioner, this episode offers fresh perspective on the teaching that anchors all Buddhist practice.

Explore the complex journey of grief, guided by the heartfelt reflections of your host Margaret Meloni as she shares her personal experiences of loss and healing. Grief, often perceived as a backward glance filled with sorrow and regret, is instead revealed as a forward-looking process. It's about squinting through tears into an uncertain future, attempting to rebuild a life shattered by the loss of a loved one. Margaret speaks candidly about her realizations that grief is not something to be merely powered through or fixed; rather, it is an ongoing journey that requires recognition, acceptance, and, ultimately, transformation. Throughout the episode, you will delve into the stages of grief, from the initial overwhelming sadness to the gradual acceptance of a new normal. You will hear poignant anecdotes about the everyday moments that can trigger grief - like sorting through mail filled with reminders of those who have passed. Margaret will also discuss the false narratives surrounding grief, particularly the societal pressures to "move on" or "get back to normal." Instead, she embraces the understanding that grief manifests differently for everyone and encourages you to break free from the harsh self-judgment that often accompanies it. As the conversation unfolds, you will consider valuable insights drawn from mindfulness and Buddhist teachings, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion during times of suffering. Margaret highlights practical techniques for navigating grief, such as recognizing the waves of emotion that arise and practicing gratitude even amidst heartache. You are invited to acknowledge your feelings without judgment and to embrace the tenderness that comes with caring for yourself in such vulnerable moments. Listen in on this episode and honor the intricacies of grief, celebrate the love that remains, and remind yourself that while loss profoundly impacts your life, it also presents an opportunity for growth and renewal. Whether you are currently grieving or seeking to understand the experience of a loved one, this conversation offers solace and wisdom for navigating the journey ahead.

Margaret Meloni welcomes back the esteemed Bhante Sumitta, a Theravada Buddhist monk and educator. Bhante, who faced multiple losses from a young age, shares his insights on impermanence and how our understanding of it can transform our relationship with life and death. Throughout their conversation, Margaret and Bhante explore the "glorious uncertainties" of life, touching on the natural cycles of sunrise and sunset as profound metaphors for birth and death. They discuss the significance of self-appreciation, loving-kindness, and the importance of balancing personal well-being with the well-being of others. Bhante emphasizes the transformative power of true inner peace, suggesting that when we cultivate happiness within ourselves, we naturally radiate that positivity and inspire those around us. As they delve deeper into Buddhist principles, the conversation reveals the beauty of the Brahma Vihara - practices of loving-kindness, compassion, empathetic joy, and equanimity. Bhante offers valuable insights on how these qualities can be applied in our daily lives, encouraging listeners to appreciate life's fleeting moments and contribute to the greater good. So, whether you're seeking guidance on navigating personal loss or simply looking for inspiration for your spiritual journey, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom, inviting you to embrace the impermanence of life and find joy in each moment.

Drawing from the revered Mahāparinibbāna Sutta, we reflect on the last teachings of the Buddha, who emphasized that all component things are impermanent and ever-changing. As we navigate the complexities of our daily lives, understanding impermanence enables us to cultivate resilience and mindfulness, offering us the tools to gracefully handle life's inevitable ups and downs. While change is often difficult for us as humans, we discuss the common habit of complaining as a reaction to disappointment and how it can cloud our perspective. Much like fast food offers only a quick fix to hunger, complaining provides an immediate but ultimately unfulfilling response to our discontent. Instead of succumbing to empty complaints, we invite listeners to consider how they can engage more deeply with their feelings, transforming moments of loss or change into opportunities for growth and understanding. Throughout this episode, we also address the importance of self-compassion and the practice of mindfulness as we navigate our emotional landscapes. By acknowledging our attachments and aversions, we can start to embrace change as a natural part of existence rather than a source of distress. We provide practical insights on how to use everyday experiences - such as a favorite store closing or a broken plan - as reflections of the broader truths of impermanence. By cultivating awareness of our responses to change, we not only learn to accept the transient nature of life but also develop the resilience necessary to thrive amidst adversity. Tune in for a rich discussion that blends ancient wisdom with modern-day practices, aimed at helping you embrace the fluidity of existence and find peace in the present moment.

Host Margaret Meloni invites listeners to embark on a deeply personal journey through themes of death, grief, and spiritual awakening, all anchored in Buddhist wisdom and her own lived experiences. Margaret opens the episode by reflecting on her first encounters with impermanence, tracing back to her childhood memories of losing her beloved pets and family members. Through these poignant stories, she highlights how these early experiences shaped her understanding of mortality and the inevitable changes that define life. As the conversation unfolds, Margaret candidly shares her own story of adoption, exploring the layers of loss and transformation that permeate her life. She illustrates how the awareness of impermanence can be both challenging and liberating, allowing us to confront the anxiety and despair that often accompany thoughts of death. With a blend of personal anecdotes and spiritual insights, she emphasizes that embracing impermanence can lead to greater freedom and acceptance in the face of life's uncertainties. Listeners will resonate with Margaret's reflections on loss, from the heart-wrenching goodbye to a cherished pet to the profound sorrow of losing loved ones throughout her life. She underscores the importance of equanimity - an essential teaching that helps us navigate the complexities of grief and attachment. Margaret encourages her audience to recognize that impermanence is an inherent aspect of existence, offering a unique perspective that turns the inevitability of loss into an opportunity for growth, compassion, and connection. Join Margaret in this intimate and transformative conversation as she delves into the intricacies of life and death, offering wisdom and solace for those grappling with their own experiences of loss. Whether you are seeking comfort in your grief or simply wish to explore the deeper truths of life, this episode is a heartfelt reminder that within the cycle of impermanence lies the potential for profound awakening and peace. Tune in, reflect, and discover the richness of life's transient moments on the Wisdom of Impermanence podcast.

In today's episode, Margaret Meloni engages in a profound conversation with the inspiring Kate Manser, also known as "the alive Kate." As they explore the delicate balance between mortality awareness and the celebration of life, Kate shares her transformative journey from grappling with the fear of death to embracing the vibrant essence of being alive. Through heartfelt storytelling, Kate recounts her awakening, sparked by the sudden loss of friends, and how the awareness of our mortality can serve as a catalyst for living fully in the present. She emphasizes the importance of appreciating life's fleeting moments, encouraging listeners to find joy even amidst struggles and challenges. Margaret and Kate delve into the notion that being alive encompasses all experiences - good and bad - and that true wisdom lies in accepting the full spectrum of life. Listeners will walk away with practical insights on cultivating appreciation for their own aliveness, including exercises that invite mindfulness and presence into the everyday routine. Kate's journey of self-discovery, her academic pursuits in transpersonal psychology, and her commitment to inspiring others to live authentically serve as a beacon of hope and motivation. As they close the episode, Kate reminds us that we are all potential catalysts for change in the world, and that embracing our true selves can ripple out to inspire those around us. Join us for this intimate and transformative conversation that challenges us to confront our fears, embrace impermanence, and ultimately celebrate the beauty of being alive. Tune in and discover how to live vibrantly in the face of life's uncertainties!

Welcome to the inaugural episode of the Wisdom of Impermanence Podcast , where host Margaret Meloni invites you to embark on a transformative journey through the profound themes of death, grief, and spiritual awakening, all viewed through the lens of Buddhist wisdom. In this intimate and heartfelt conversation, Margaret sets the stage for a deeper understanding of impermanence - an essential aspect of human existence that can lead us toward liberation from the anxieties that often bind us. As Margaret reflects on personal experiences and teachings from the Buddhist tradition, she encourages listeners to fill in the blank: "I hope the year finds you..." This thought-provoking prompt invites you to consider your own journey and the myriad ways life unfolds. Building on the foundation established in her previous podcast, the Death Dhamma Podcast , Margaret emphasizes that embracing the truth of impermanence is not only crucial for processing loss but also for fostering a profound sense of peace and acceptance in our lives. In this episode, you'll discover how the Buddha's teachings illuminate the path to understanding suffering and attachment. Margaret explores key concepts, such as the Four Noble Truths and the Noble Eightfold Path, while weaving in her own narrative of grief and healing. Through rich storytelling and insightful discussions, she offers a fresh perspective on how we can learn to navigate the ever-changing nature of life with grace and clarity. Join Margaret as she shares wisdom from her book, Sitting with Death , and sets the tone for what promises to be a meaningful exploration of how we can live more fully by embracing the impermanence that surrounds us. Tune in, let go, and transform alongside a community dedicated to deepening understanding and compassion.

Everything changes. Everything ends. And in that truth lies profound freedom.* Welcome to The Wisdom of Impermanence—a space to explore death, grief, and spiritual awakening through the lens of Buddhist wisdom and lived experience. This podcast invites you into intimate conversations about mortality, loss, and transformation. Each episode features authentic storytelling, interviews with spiritual teachers and grief experts, and contemplative insights drawn from Buddhist philosophy and personal experience. Whether you're navigating devastating loss, seeking to understand mortality more deeply, or ready to awaken to life's most universal truth, here is where you will find guidance, compassion, and wisdom. Discover how ancient Buddhist teachings illuminate modern grief. Learn from those who have transformed sorrow into spiritual practice. And join a growing community ready to embrace impermanence—not with resignation, but with courage, understanding, and awakening. Listen in. Show up. Transform.

Welcome back to the Death Dhamma podcast. It's time to make some changes to the podcast, and the discussions that we will have as move forward together. It's all about helping one another along the path, and being human while being Buddhist.

This episode weaves together the major threads from Season 5: Equanimity vs. Apathy Emotional resilience and spiritual courage Practical tools for chaos and anxiety The path from anger to compassion Mindful restraint in an overstimulated world The Bodhisattva's quiet strength Whether you're meditating in stillness or navigating modern life's storms, equanimity becomes the thread that holds it all together— a stillness that doesn't withdraw, but wisely engages .

Together, let's explore the profound terrain of jhāna —a Pali term meaning "meditative absorption"—and how equanimity emerges as a central force in its deepest stages. These states of deep concentration are not just about peace or bliss, but about arriving at a radical stillness where distractions dissolve and the mind becomes clear, unwavering, and impartial. We delve into: · The progression through the jhānas , especially the third and fourth, where equanimity becomes dominant. · The distinction between physical and mental sensations, and how their transcendence reveals the purity of mindfulness. · The concept of the equanimity of purification , a mental quality that stills all opposition and polishes the mind to a bright, imperturbable clarity. · How mindfulness and equanimity work in tandem to support awakening—and how these factors were central in the Buddha's own path to enlightenment. Whether you're a longtime practitioner or just beginning your meditation journey, this episode offers both a practical and philosophical guide to understanding equanimity—not as detachment, but as luminous balance.