Project Loving Myself

You keep telling yourself you'll start when you feel ready. More confident. More sure. Less afraid of getting it wrong. But what if that feeling never shows up on its own? In this episode, we talk with Ana Lauren Hoare, model, actress, filmmaker, and author of Radiant AF: Confidence, Courage and the Art of Living Out Loud After 40, about why so many women wait to feel confident before they let themselves move. With warmth and refreshing honesty, Ana opens up about stepping away from the camera to raise her family, and what it took to walk back into a creative career in her mid 40s. Together, we sit with the questions underneath all that waiting. What happens to the way you see yourself when you keep letting yourself down? What do you do with the fear of falling flat in front of everyone? And how do you start choosing yourself after years of coming last, without it feeling selfish? Episode Resources ✨ Download my free 9 9 Self-Love Journal Prompts - simple questions to help you slow down, hear yourself more clearly, and reconnect with what you need, one page at a time. In this episode, we explore: ✨ What quietly happens inside you every time you break a promise to yourself ✨ The habit from Ana's athletic background that changed how she handles failure ✨ Why midlife may hold a superpower so many women overlook ✨ What Ana did in the six months before she stepped back in front of the camera ✨ The question Ana asks herself every morning, before she even gets out of bed If you've been waiting for the day you finally feel ready, this conversation may be the nudge you didn't know you needed. Connect with Ana 🌐 www.babyramproductions.com 📸 @theanalauren 📚 Radiant AF: Confidence, Courage and the Art of Living Out Loud After 40 Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You can build the career, the home, and the life you love, and still quietly wish someone were there to share it with you. So why does admitting it feel like giving something up? In this episode, we talk with Treva Brandon Scharf, ICF-certified life coach, dating coach, and author of Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer’s Guide to Love, about the tension so many independent women feel between the life they’ve built and the love they still want. With her warmth, humor, and hard-won honesty, Treva shares her own long road to love, which didn’t arrive until she was 51. Together, we sit with the questions behind the pride. What are we protecting when we say we don’t need anyone? Can you believe in feminism and still enjoy traditional romance? And what is modern dating quietly doing to even the most confident women? Episode Resources ✨ Free dating tools from Treva : break-up tips and first date conversation starters on her website, plus a 20% coaching discount for Project Loving Myself listeners ✨ Take my Love Blocks Quiz : discover which patterns may be shaping the way you approach your love life and show up in your relationships. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why admitting you want love can feel like losing power ✨ What independent women may be protecting when they say they don’t need anyone ✨ Whether feminism and traditional romance can live in the same heart ✨ What modern dating can bring out in even the most self-assured women ✨ What changed for Treva when love finally arrived at 51 If you’ve ever played down how much you want love so your independence stays intact, this conversation may change the way you think about wanting it. Connect with Treva 🌐 www.trevabrandonscharf.com 📸 @trevabme 📚 Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer’s Guide to Love Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You told yourself to calm down. You told yourself to stop overreacting. And somehow the feeling only got bigger. In this episode, we talk with Dr. Suzanne Wallach, licensed psychotherapist and founder and executive director of SoCal DBT, about what happens when emotions feel too big to handle. With her candor and humor, Suzanne shares honest moments from her own life, including the ones where she’s the one who gets overwhelmed. Together, we sit with the questions behind the reaction. What’s actually happening inside you when a feeling takes over? Why do so many of us feel we have to get louder just to be heard? And what if the goal was never to feel less? Episode Resources ✨ Download my 99 Self-Love Journal Prompts : simple questions to help you slow down, hear yourself more clearly, and reconnect with what you need, one page at a time. In this episode, we explore: ✨ What’s really happening inside you when emotions feel too big ✨ Why so many of us feel we have to get louder to be heard ✨ What the emotional climate we grew up in can leave behind ✨ What it looks like to parent a child who feels everything intensely ✨ The question Dr. Suzanne asks herself when a conversation starts to heat up If you’ve ever said something you couldn’t take back, or felt a feeling take over before you could decide how to respond, this conversation may change what you think emotional regulation really means. Connect with Dr. Suzanne 🌐 www.socaldbt.com 🌐 www.suzannewallach.com 📸 @drsuzannewallach Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There's the life you pictured, and then there's the one you're actually living. What happens in the space between them? In this episode, we talk with Dr. Molly Burrets, licensed clinical psychologist and couples therapist with 20 years of experience in relationships and women's mental health, about what happens when life stops following the plan. Drawing on her work with women and couples, and on her own story, Dr. Molly opens up about the parts of this experience that so many of us carry quietly. Together, we sit with the questions that surface when the future you imagined starts to look different. Who are you when the plan falls apart? How do you stay close to the people you love when you're hurting in different ways? And what do you do with a dream you're not sure you can let go of? Episode Resources ✨ Download my 99 Self-Love Journal Prompts : simple questions to help you slow down, hear yourself more clearly, and reconnect with what you need, one page at a time. In this episode, we explore: ✨ What happens to your sense of self when the life you planned doesn't arrive ✨ The one question Dr. Molly asks before letting go of a dream ✨ Why two people who love each other can grieve the same loss so differently ✨ The conversations around infertility that so many women are left to face alone ✨ What Dr. Molly discovered at the lowest point of her life If you've ever grieved a life you thought you'd have, or wondered who you became when the plan changed, this conversation may meet you right where you are. Connect with Dr. Molly 🌐 www.drmollyburrets.com 📸 @drmollyburrets 🎙️ Kissing Frogs Podcast Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

That voice in your head that says you could have done better, should have worked harder, and it's still not enough? You've probably called it motivation for years. Maybe even discipline. In this episode, we talk with Loz Antonenko, well-being coach, speaker, and bestselling author of Get the Fuck Unstuck, about the voice so many high-achieving women rely on to keep moving forward, and what it might actually be costing them. With her unfiltered honesty and humor, Loz opens up about her own experience of looking like she had it all together on the outside while something very different was happening underneath. Together, we explore the tension between ambition and self-respect, what happens when the drive that built your success starts to feel like pressure, and the strange, unfamiliar space that opens up when you finally stop pushing. We also talk about the difference between the voice that pushes you forward and the voice that quietly wears you down, and why it can be so hard to tell them apart. Episode Resources ✨ Work with Loz: Get Your Mojo Back in 12 Weeks is a personalised online coaching program for busy women who feel stuck with their energy, weight, and confidence, built around simple habits that fit real life. ✨ Download my Self-Love Cheat Sheet : simple, practical reminders to help you replace self-judgment with self-respect and build a more loving relationship with yourself, one small choice at a time. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why so many of us confuse self-criticism with discipline ✨ Where the voice in your head might have come from ✨ What can be hiding behind a life that looks successful from the outside ✨ Why slowing down can feel so uncomfortable for high-achieving women ✨ What it means when self-love is something you do, not something you feel If you've ever wondered whether the voice pushing you forward is also the one holding you back, this conversation may change how you hear it. Connect with Loz 🌐 www.lozlife.com IG @lozantonenko ▶️ Loz Life Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Anxiety can make you question things you once felt certain about. Your decisions. Your relationships. Your confidence. Even the person you believe yourself to be. In this episode, we talk with Kelsey Darragh, bestselling author, comedian, filmmaker, and mental health advocate, about what happens when anxiety starts changing the way you see yourself. With her trademark honesty and humor, Kelsey opens up about living with anxiety and panic disorder, and the unexpected ways it can show up in confidence, relationships, and everyday life. Together, we explore the complicated relationship between anxiety, self-trust, and self-love, including what happens when the feelings you thought you had under control suddenly return in a different part of your life. We also get into the connection between anxiety and relationships, especially during moments of uncertainty, rupture, and change. Episode Resources ✨ Download my Chaos to Calm Guide — practical tools to help you regulate your emotions, calm your nervous system, and reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why anxiety can make you question who you are ✨ What happens when anxiety shows up in your relationships ✨ The connection between anxiety, self-trust, and self-abandonment ✨ Why high-achieving women can become so good at hiding what they're experiencing ✨ What it might look like to relate to anxiety differently If anxiety has ever made you question your confidence, your choices, or even your own identity, this conversation may help you see what you're experiencing from a completely different perspective. Connect with Kelsey 🌐 www.kelseydarragh.com 📸 @kelseydarragh 📚 Don't Do What I Did Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most of us have become incredibly good at avoiding ourselves. We stay busy, keep achieving, solve everyone else's problems, or find something to distract us when uncomfortable feelings come up. But what if the moments we most want to escape are actually asking us to slow down and pay attention? In this episode, we talk with Allana Pratt, emotional intimacy expert, bestselling author, and host of Intimate Conversations, about a self-love skill many of us were never taught: staying emotionally present with ourselves. Together, we explore what it really means to make intimacy an inside job and why the relationship we have with ourselves can change the way we experience connection with others. We talk about the emotions we avoid, the parts of ourselves we may have learned to reject, and what happens when we stop immediately trying to fix, suppress, or outrun what we're feeling. This conversation invites a deeper question: What might become possible if you stopped abandoning yourself when life gets uncomfortable? Episode Resources ✨ Get Allana's FREE Top 5 Mistakes — discover the relationship mistakes that may be getting in the way of deeper intimacy and connection. Get the Free Resource ✨ Download my 99 Self-Love Journal Prompts — prompts to help you slow down, reflect more deeply, and reconnect with yourself. In this episode, we explore: ✨ What it really means to make intimacy an inside job ✨ Why we can become so disconnected from our own emotions ✨ Why vulnerability can feel so uncomfortable ✨ The connection between emotional presence and deeper relationships ✨ A question that may change the way you relate to yourself If you've become used to pushing through difficult emotions or keeping yourself busy whenever life feels uncomfortable, this conversation may make you pause and ask yourself a different question: What happens when you finally stay? Connect with Allana 🌐 www.allanapratt.com 📸 Instagram: @allanapratt 🎙️ Podcast: Intimate Conversations Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A breakup doesn't just end a relationship. Sometimes it changes your entire sense of who you are. The weekends feel empty. You miss the person, question your worth, and wonder how you're supposed to build a life that suddenly looks completely different. In this episode, we talk with Janice Formichella, Breakup Coach and host of Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On, about dealing with what happens after a breakup and why healing is about so much more than getting over your ex. She shares how “breakup brain” can affect our thoughts, routines, and emotions, and why we have more power over the healing process than we realize. Together, we explore how to navigate the loneliness and empty space that comes after a relationship, what to do about maintaining contact, and how to rebuild your identity when so much of your life was built around someone else. Most importantly, we unpack how a breakup can become the beginning of a powerful new chapter when you choose to engage with your healing instead of simply waiting for time to 'heal.' Episode Resources ✨ Get Janice's FREE Breakup Brain eBook — a science-backed toolkit to understand what your brain and body go through after a breakup and learn how to navigate this difficult time. ✨ Take the Love Blocks Quiz — discover the relationship pattern that may be keeping you stuck in the same cycles and understand what could be getting in the way of creating the healthy love you want. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why a breakup can feel like an identity crisis, not just the loss of a relationship ✨ What “breakup brain” is and why your body and mind can feel completely out of sorts ✨ What can help you take back control of your healing ✨ How to navigate the loneliness and “white space” after a breakup ✨ The difference between being alone and feeling lonely ✨ How to rebuild your life and become your own best company ✨ The six-months-from-now exercise that can change the way you heal ✨ How to transform a breakup into the beginning of a powerful new chapter If you're struggling to let go, questioning your worth, or wondering who you are without the relationship, this conversation is a reminder that the end of a relationship doesn't have to be the end of your story. You can grieve what was, acknowledge what happened, and still choose to create something completely different for yourself. Connect with Janice 🌐 janiceformichella.com 📸 Instagram: @janiceformichella Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most of us don't wake up one day and decide to run from ourselves. We learn to through pain, fear, and sometimes simply to survive. And over time, that escape can take many forms: another drink, another achievement, another scroll, another relationship, another reason to stay busy. In this episode, we talk with Shannan Kym, an internationally award-winning author, TEDx speaker, and transformational mentor, about the ways we escape ourselves and what we're really running from. Drawing from her own experience with childhood abuse, alcoholism, and an unhealthy relationship, Shannan shares how facing the parts of ourselves we've been avoiding can become the beginning of real change. Together, we explore why temporary relief isn't the same as healing, how stillness can reveal the patterns we've been trying to escape, and why awareness is the first step toward creating a different life. We also unpack identity, self-trust, and what it means to stop running from your pain and start becoming the person you truly want to be. Episode Resources ✨ Grab Shannan's Self-Discovery Workbook — a resource to help you unravel your past, reconnect with the present, and create a brighter future. Valued at $500. Download the FREE Workbook ✨ Download my Self-Love Cheat Sheet — a simple, practical guide to help you reconnect with yourself, break self-sabotaging patterns, and start choosing yourself every day. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why we turn to distraction, achievement, and unhealthy habits to escape pain ✨ How the patterns we develop in childhood can shape the lives we create as adults ✨ Why stillness can bring the emotions and limiting beliefs we've been avoiding to the surface ✨ The difference between temporarily feeling better and actually becoming better ✨ How knowing what you want can be the beginning of changing your life ✨ Why your identity is something you can consciously create and embody If you've been using busyness, achievement, relationships, or other coping mechanisms to avoid what you're really feeling, this conversation is a reminder that you don't have to spend your life running from yourself. Sometimes, the beginning of change is simply becoming aware of what you don't want, getting honest about what you do want, and choosing to face what's been waiting underneath. Connect with Shannan 🌐 www.shannankym.com IG: @shannankym Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We spend so much of our lives rushing from one thing to the next that we forget what it feels like to simply be here. Thinking about what happened. Worrying about what’s coming. Checking our phones, answering messages, carrying a hundred things at once. And eventually we feel it — stressed, anxious, and strangely disconnected from ourselves. In this episode I talk with Rev. Connie L. Habash, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of Awakening from Anxiety, about how time in nature can calm your nervous system and bring you back into your body.Together we explore how nature slows you down, quiets the noise you’ve stopped noticing, and becomes a practice you’ll actually keep. Episode Resources ✨ Download Rev. Connie's The Gift of Calm — a simple resource to help you create more calm, regulate overwhelm, and reconnect with a sense of inner peace. ✨ Grab my Chaos to Calm guide — simple, practical tools to help you reset emotionally, quiet the overwhelm, and come back to yourself when everything feels like too much. In this episode: ✨ Why stress and overwhelm are often signs you've disconnected from yourself ✨ How nature pulls you out of your head and back into the present ✨ Why slowing down feels so uncomfortable when you're used to constant stimulation ✨ The simple daily practice Connie uses to reconnect with your senses ✨ What nature teaches about being, instead of constantly doing If you've been feeling overwhelmed, or like you're moving through life on autopilot, this conversation is a reminder that feeling better doesn't always take more effort. Sometimes it starts with stepping outside. Connect with Connie 📸 Instagram: @conniehabash 🌐 Website: awakeningself.com Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There comes a point when achieving more stops answering the questions you thought it would. You can have the career, the goals, the relationships, and a life that looks good from the outside… and still wonder, “Is this actually what I want?” In this episode, we talk with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby — psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, board-certified coach, founder of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching, and host of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast. We unpack why external success doesn’t always change how we feel on the inside, and why constantly chasing the next milestone can leave us disconnected from who we actually are. Together, we explore what it really means to know yourself beyond your achievements, roles, and other people’s expectations. From understanding your personality and values to paying attention to what you genuinely enjoy, need, and want, this conversation looks at why knowing yourself may be one of the most important parts of creating relationships, success, and a life that actually fits you. Episode Resources ✨ Download the Success Blocks Checklist — uncover the hidden patterns around self-worth, achievement, and success that may be keeping you from fully enjoying the life you’ve worked so hard to create. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why reaching the next milestone doesn’t always make you feel the way you expected ✨ How external validation can become tied to your sense of self-worth ✨ Why knowing your personality, preferences, and values matters more than you think ✨ What happens when the life you’re living doesn’t match who you really are ✨ How understanding yourself can improve the way you relate to other people ✨ Why self-exploration needs to go beyond awareness and into how you actually live If you’ve built a life that looks successful but still find yourself wondering why it doesn’t feel as fulfilling as you thought it would, this conversation will help you ask a different question: "How well do you actually know the person you’ve been building all of this for?" Connect with Dr. Lisa 🎙️ Podcast: Love, Happiness and Success IG: @drlisamariebobby Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You can meet someone who is consistent, available, and genuinely good to you… and still find yourself wondering why you don’t feel the same spark. Then someone else gives you mixed signals, keeps you guessing, or stays just out of reach and suddenly, you can’t stop thinking about them. In this episode, we explore why the person who gives you the love you say you want can sometimes feel “boring,” while the person you have to chase feels exciting. We explore how what you experienced growing up can shape what you recognize as love as an adult and why you may keep finding yourself drawn to relationships where you have to work for someone’s attention. Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a simple question to ask yourself when you feel the urge to pull away, we look at what may really be behind that restlessness and how to tell whether you genuinely don’t want someone or you’re simply not used to love being this easy. Episode Resources ✨ Book a Make It Make Sense Call — if you know there’s a pattern in your relationships but can’t quite see where it comes from, this call will help you connect the dots and understand what keeps repeating. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why emotionally unavailable people can feel more exciting than available ones ✨ How childhood experiences shape what we learn to expect from love ✨ Why having to earn someone’s attention can feel like chemistry ✨ What may be happening when a good relationship suddenly feels “boring” ✨ How the same role you played growing up can follow you into adult relationships ✨ The one question to ask yourself before walking away from someone who treats you well If you keep losing interest when someone is consistent but becoming attached when someone keeps you guessing, this episode will help you look at that pattern differently and understand what you may actually be chasing when you think you’re chasing love. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So many women spend years believing that being loving means giving more. Giving more of their time. Their energy. Their support. Their patience. And without realizing it, they build their sense of worth around being the one everyone can depend on. In this episode, we unpack why overgiving isn't always about generosity. Sometimes it's about trying to earn love, approval, or a sense of belonging. We explore how childhood experiences shape the roles we take on, why receiving can feel so uncomfortable, and what it takes to stop measuring our worth by how much we do for everyone else. Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a simple practice to help you pause before you give, we uncover the deeper pattern beneath overgiving, people-pleasing, and overachieving and how to start giving from love instead of proving your worth. Episode Resources ✨ Book a Make It Make Sense Call — uncover the hidden patterns behind your overgiving, people-pleasing, and relationship struggles so you can stop proving your worth and start living from it. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why so many women become the one who gives everything but asks for little ✨ How childhood experiences can teach us to earn love through being helpful or useful ✨ Why overgiving and overachieving often come from the same wound ✨ The hidden request for love that can exist beneath generosity ✨ Why receiving can feel more uncomfortable than giving ✨ A simple practice to help you give from choice instead of fear If you've ever felt unseen despite giving so much, struggled to ask for what you need, or quietly wondered why your relationships feel so one-sided, this episode is a reminder that you don't have to earn the love you're worthy of receiving. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever felt completely confident... until you started liking someone? One unanswered text takes over your day. One change in their energy makes you question yourself. One person not choosing you suddenly feels like proof that you're not enough. If you've ever wondered why dating can trigger so much self-doubt, even when you're successful, capable, and self-aware, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface. In this solo episode, Sanaiyah explores why romantic relationships awaken old emotional wounds, how childhood experiences shape the way we seek love and validation, and why someone else's attention can become tied to our sense of worth. Through personal stories, coaching insights, and practical guidance, she shares how to stop outsourcing your self-worth and start coming back to yourself. Episode Resources ✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call with Sanaiyah to uncover the patterns behind your relationship struggles and begin healing what keeps you stuck. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why confident women can still feel deeply insecure in dating ✨ How childhood experiences shape the way you seek love, approval, and reassurance ✨ Why someone pulling away can trigger emotions that feel much bigger than the situation itself ✨ How praise, validation, and being chosen become tied to your sense of worth ✨ The difference between wanting love and depending on it to feel enough ✨ A simple practice to stop spiraling and come back to yourself If you've ever found yourself overthinking a text, questioning your worth after rejection, or letting someone else's reactions determine how you feel about yourself, this conversation will help you understand the deeper pattern and show you how to begin healing it with more compassion. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ YouTube: @sanaiyahgurnamal 📸 Instagram: @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are struggles in life that don't seem to make sense. You keep repeating the same relationship patterns. You attract similar experiences. You wonder why certain fears, behaviors, or emotional reactions feel so much bigger than the situation itself. And sometimes... the answers didn't begin with you. On this episode, we welcome back Monika Wyss — Family Constellation trainer, clinical hypnotherapist, and founder of Heart Sanctuary Kuala Lumpur. Through family constellation, inner child healing, and trauma-informed practices, Monika helps people uncover the emotional wounds, family dynamics, and generational patterns that quietly shape how they love, relate, succeed, and move through life. Together, we explore how childhood experiences become adult patterns, why unresolved family trauma can continue across generations, and how Family Constellation helps reveal hidden loyalties and unconscious stories that may still be influencing your relationships, health, finances, and sense of self today. Through powerful real-life examples, this conversation offers a deeper understanding of why healing isn't just personal, it's often systemic. Episode Resources ✨ Ready to uncover the hidden patterns shaping your life? Join the (In-Person) Family Constellation Workshops with Monika Wyss this August in Manila. Register here: www.thirdeyeonline.com/event-registration ✨ If you've been noticing the same relationship patterns repeating in your life, book a free Make It Make Sense Call with Sanaiyah. Together, you'll uncover the hidden patterns behind your relationship struggles so you can stop repeating them and start creating a different future. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why childhood wounds continue to shape adult relationships ✨ How blame can become a sign that healing is needed within ✨ What family constellation reveals about inherited patterns and generational trauma ✨ How unresolved family experiences can show up in love, health, money, and success ✨ Why awareness is the beginning of healing, not the end of it ✨ How compassion helps you break patterns instead of repeating them If you've ever wondered why you keep reacting the same way, attracting similar experiences, or feeling stuck in patterns you can't explain, this conversation may help you understand where those patterns began—and why they don't have to define your future. Connect with Monika 📸 Instagram: @monikawyss 🌐 Website: www.monikawyss.com Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Shame has a way of convincing us that one moment, one mistake, or one decision says everything about who we are. Long after the moment has passed, we keep replaying it... carrying the guilt, criticizing ourselves, and believing we have to keep punishing ourselves to prove we've learned our lesson. This is a guided self-love meditation created for the moments when you're struggling to forgive yourself. Not to erase the past or pretend nothing happened... but to help you meet the parts of yourself you've been judging with a little more compassion, understanding, and kindness. Join me as we gently release the weight of self-blame, reconnect with the version of you who needed love the most, and remember that healing doesn't begin when the past changes—it begins when you stop abandoning yourself because of it. Episode Resources ✨ Download the Self-Love Cheat Sheet — simple reminders to help you quiet your inner critic, strengthen self-compassion, and return to yourself with more kindness each day. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why shame often becomes part of the story we tell ourselves ✨ The difference between judging yourself and understanding yourself ✨ How curiosity can gently replace self-criticism ✨ Why compassion creates space for healing without denying the past ✨ A guided visualization to help you reconnect with the parts of yourself you've left behind If you've been carrying regret, replaying old mistakes, or finding it hard to forgive yourself, this meditation is a gentle reminder that your past deserves understanding... and so do you. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Verification code: 709068 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are moments in life when you start asking bigger questions. Why do I keep ending up here? Why do the same patterns keep showing up? And how much of the life I'm living did I actually choose... versus inherit from the stories I've been carrying all along? On this episode, we talk with Celinne Da Costa — master coach, speaker, USA Today bestselling author of *The Burning Ground*, and creator of the Story Atlas Methodology. Through her work, Celinne helps people uncover the hidden stories shaping their identity, relationships, and sense of purpose so they can move through life with greater awareness and intention. We explore how the stories we inherit quietly shape the choices we make, why the same relationship patterns keep repeating, and what it really means to understand yourself before trying to change your life. Episode Resources ✨ Download Celinne's free " The Art of Articulation " guide to better understand your story and learn how to communicate it with more clarity and confidence. ✨ If this conversation is making you wonder what patterns might be shaping your own life, book a free " Make It Make Sense Call " with Sanaiyah. Together, you'll uncover the hidden patterns behind your relationship struggles so you can stop repeating them and start creating a different future. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why the same relationship patterns keep repeating ✨ The difference between who you truly are and who you've been conditioned to become ✨ How your life story quietly influences your choices, relationships, and self-worth ✨ Why awareness is the first step toward meaningful change ✨ How inherited beliefs can shape the life you create without you realizing it ✨ What it means to choose your own story instead of living by default If you've ever felt like you're working hard to change your life but somehow keep ending up in the same place, this conversation may help you see your story—and yourself—from a completely different perspective. Connect with Celinne 📸 Instagram: @celinnedacosta 🎙️ Podcast: It's Not What You Think 🌐 Website: www.celinnedacosta.com Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So much of life is spent waiting. Waiting for the right relationship, the next achievement, or the moment when everything finally falls into place and happiness can begin. But what if you've been looking for it in the wrong place all along? On this episode, we talk with Maria Leonard Olsen — bestselling author, TEDx speaker, attorney, mentor, and host of the *Becoming Your Best Version* podcast. Through her own journey of recovery, reinvention, and self-discovery, Maria has learned that the most important commitment you'll ever make isn't to someone else—it's to yourself. We explore why so many women tie their happiness to external validation, how people-pleasing quietly pulls us away from ourselves, and what changes when you stop waiting for life to make you happy and start taking responsibility for your own fulfillment. Episode Resources ✨ Get Maria's Ebook " Becoming Your Best Version " — featuring practical wisdom and life lessons from inspiring women who have been guests on her podcast. ✨ Download the 99 Self-Love Journal Prompts — if this conversation is making you realize how often you've looked outside yourself for happiness, these prompts will help you reconnect with yourself, reflect more honestly, and start choosing yourself in a deeper way. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why happiness can't be built on someone else's approval ✨ The connection between people-pleasing and self-abandonment ✨ What self-commitment looks like in everyday life ✨ How social conditioning shapes the way we define happiness ✨ Why becoming your best version starts with the choices you make every day ✨ Small daily practices that create a more meaningful and fulfilling life If you've been waiting for a relationship, achievement, or someone else's approval to finally feel happy, this conversation might change where you start looking. Connect with Maria 📸 Instagram: @fiftyafter50 🎙️ Podcast: Becoming Your Best Version 🌐 Website: www.marialeonardolsen.com Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We often think freedom comes from having more choices, more independence, or more control over our lives. But sometimes the thing that's keeping us stuck isn't what's happening around us. It's the expectations we've been carrying for years without ever questioning them. On this episode, we talk with Sarah Gallucci — journalist, TEDx speaker, professor, and author of *Laid: A Memoir of Love, Sex, and Marriage*. What began as an exploration of her marriage became a much deeper journey into identity, gender roles, personal freedom, and the beliefs we inherit about what love and relationships are supposed to look like. We explore how cultural expectations shape the choices we make, why so many women lose themselves trying to hold everything together, and what happens when you finally start listening to the truth you've been avoiding. Episode Resources ✨ Join the 30-Day Self-Love Challenge — a simple way to start choosing yourself again through small daily practices that build self-trust, self-worth, and a deeper connection with who you are. In this episode, we explore: ✨ The invisible expectations many women carry in relationships and family life ✨ How gender roles can quietly shape our choices, wellbeing, and identity ✨ Why high-achieving women often struggle to speak up about what they need ✨ The difference between speaking your truth and trusting your truth ✨ What happens when you stop living by expectations that no longer fit If you've ever felt torn between who you are and who you're expected to be, this conversation offers a powerful reflection on what it means to choose yourself and create a life that feels true to you. Connect with Sarah 📸 Instagram: @_sarah_gallucci_ 🌐 Website: www.sarahgallucci.com Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So many women spend years asking the same question in love: Does he like me? Does he want me? Am I enough? And without realizing it, they build their entire dating experience around finding the answer. In this episode, we unpack one of the biggest shifts you can make in your love life: moving from trying to be chosen to becoming the one who chooses. Because when your focus is on whether someone wants you, it's easy to lose sight of what you actually need, want, and deserve in a relationship. We explore why so many women fall into "pick me" energy, how over-focusing on someone else's feelings causes us to abandon ourselves, and the simple question that can completely change the way you experience love. Episode Resources ✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call — uncover the pattern keeping you stuck in overgiving, overthinking, or waiting to be chosen, and learn what needs to shift so you can create healthier, more fulfilling relationships. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why so many women unconsciously audition for love ✨ How seeking validation can quietly shape your dating choices ✨ The difference between being chosen and choosing ✨ Why pulling away from love isn't always the same as healing ✨ The question that changes who you attract and what you tolerate ✨ A simple self-worth check-in for mixed signals, inconsistency, and overthinking If you've ever found yourself analyzing texts, waiting for clarity, or wondering whether you're enough for someone, this episode is a reminder that the real question isn't whether they choose you—it's whether you're choosing what truly feels right for you. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.