Inner Bonding

Do you constantly replay conversations, wondering if you said the wrong thing or if people like you? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores why obsessing over others' opinions is really about self-abandonment—and how to finally heal it. You'll learn why trying to control what others think of you is impossible, how this pattern begins in childhood, and why your anxiety is actually your inner child telling you that you're abandoning yourself for approval. You'll also discover the two steps of Inner Bonding that shift you from seeking control and approval to developing a loving adult self—so your sense of worth becomes internal instead of dependent on others. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com . Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Holding grudges can feel protective, but resentment often keeps us emotionally tied to pain, blame, and the past. Dr. Margaret Paul explains how Inner Bonding can help you release resentment and return to peace, self-love, and personal power. In this episode, you’ll learn why grudges form, how the wounded self uses blame to avoid pain, and why resentment affects your heart, nervous system, joy, and ability to create connected relationships. You’ll also explore the difference between grief and resentment. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com . Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

In this episode, you will learn the true definition of personal responsibility beyond chores and rules, uncovering how your emotional regulation and intent shape your child’s behavior. You will discover why common patterns like blaming, people-pleasing, or avoiding conflict teach self-abandonment, and how shifting from control to an intent to learn creates genuine connection and safety. You will also explore practical ways to respond when triggered, how to repair ruptures with accountability when you lose your temper, and how to set healthy boundaries with kindness. Finally, Dr. Margaret leads an experiential reflection to help you step into your Loving Adult and cultivate deep self-trust within your family. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com . Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Do you believe you can make someone else change? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul reveals why trying to control others backfires—and how shifting your intention from controlling to learning transforms your relationships from the inside out. You'll learn why people resist being controlled, the false belief driving your urge to change others, and how covert control—like caretaking and compliance—can quietly damage your closest relationships. Through real client stories, Brett and Teresa, you'll discover how to stop abandoning yourself, start loving your inner child, and find true relationship healing that begins with you. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com . Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

In this episode, you’ll learn how self-neglect goes beyond ignoring physical needs. Discover how dismissing your emotions, staying silent, overgiving, remaining in unsafe situations, numbing out, and prioritizing others’ feelings can leave your inner child feeling alone and unimportant. You’ll also learn how to develop your loving adult, listen to your feelings, honor your needs, set compassionate boundaries, and take loving action. Through self-compassion and Inner Bonding, you can stop recreating old pain and begin building self-trust, emotional safety, and genuine self-love. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com . Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Relationships are systems: when you change your part of the pattern, the whole dynamic can shift. Dr. Margaret Paul shares how moving from control and blame to learning, self-responsibility, and love can create healthier, more connected relationships. In this episode, you’ll learn why recurring relationship conflicts are co-created systems—not simply one person’s fault. Discover common patterns such as pursuing and withdrawing, criticism and defensiveness, anger and resistance, and overgiving and demanding. You’ll also learn practical Inner Bonding tools for interrupting reactive cycles: shifting your intention from control to learning, taking responsibility for your feelings, responding with compassion, and knowing when lovingly disengaging or making a decision about the relationship is necessary. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com . Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Many parents believe that protecting their children from every struggle is an act of love, but what if that protection is actually preventing them from becoming capable adults? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul clarifies why avoiding natural consequences and over-managing a child's life can lead to long-term patterns of entitlement, anxiety, and a lack of self-confidence. She explains the deep value of allowing children to experience failure while they are young, using the example of a ten-year-old struggling in school to illustrate the shift from a power struggle to personal responsibility. By understanding the difference between rescuing and supporting, you can learn to step back as a controller and step forward as a role model who demonstrates true self-respect and emotional health. Tune in to this episode of the Inner Bonding podcast to learn more about how your intentions can shape your outcomes. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com . Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Control creates stress, while being open to learning creates safety. Control blocks connection, while learning invites it. In today’s episode, Dr. Margaret Paul dives into the topic of intentions and how we can become more aware of the intentions we bring into our relationships. She highlights the two core intentions we can choose from—to control or to love—and how that choice shapes the quality of our connection with others. She walks through how intentions show up in the way we communicate, how they impact our relationships, and why it’s important to be clear about whether we are seeking help, understanding, or simply compassion. Dr. Paul also explores the power of active listening and how it helps create the safety and openness that allow genuine connection to flourish. Join Dr. Margaret Paul on the Inner Bonding podcast and discover how shifting your intention can transform the way you communicate, connect, and love. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

The intention we choose in any given moment shapes everything that follows. In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores how becoming aware of our intentions can transform the way we relate to ourselves, others, and the choices we make every day. She unpacks the two core intentions in Inner Bonding: the intention to control and the intention to love. These intentions either strengthen the relationship between our loving adult, inner child, and spiritual guidance, or keep us operating from our wounded ego-self. Dr. Paul also reminds us that lasting healing cannot happen when the wounded self is in charge, because control and love lead us in very different directions. Tune in to this episode of the Inner Bonding podcast to learn more about how your intentions can shape your outcomes. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Have you ever tried to explain yourself in a conflict — and the more you explained, the worse it got? In this insightful and deeply practical episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores one of the most frustrating patterns in relationships: why explaining, defending, and justifying yourself rarely leads to understanding. She explains that when someone is operating from their wounded self, they are not in their logical upper brain. They are not available to hear you. And no amount of explaining will change that. Dr. Paul walks through what is actually happening beneath the surface of relational conflict, what the other person is really asking for when they come at you with anger or blame, and how to shift from the urge to explain and control into the loving adult who can respond with presence, curiosity, and care. She shares practical examples of what this looks like in real moments including how to comment on intent rather than content, how to actively listen, and how to take a sacred pause when your wounded self is ready to defend. Come explore a more loving and effective way of navigating conflict in the Inner Bonding podcast. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Have you ever found yourself asking: why can't I get it together? Why am I struggling so much when others seem fine? In this grounding and compassionate episode, Dr. Margaret Paul offers a profound reframe for anyone who has ever felt like a mess. What you are likely experiencing is not a personal failure, but a nervous system dysregulation. And understanding what that means, where it comes from, and how to respond to it with love rather than judgment can begin to change everything. Dr. Paul explains how the nervous system constantly scans for safety or danger, how childhood environments shape the survival patterns we still carry into adulthood, and why self-judgment only deepens dysregulation rather than resolving it. She also shares practical tools for nervous system regulation, including vagal breathing, EFT, EMDR, and somatic experiencing, and offers a gentle guided moment to help you connect with your inner child right now. Come explore a kinder, more compassionate way of understanding yourself in Why Am I Such a Mess? Understanding Nervous System Dysregulation. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

What if the most important form of self-care has nothing to do with bubble baths or vacations? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores one of the most overlooked dimensions of true self-care: learning to validate yourself. While external self-care has its place, she explains that no amount of outside validation from a partner, a parent, a boss, or social media can heal the wound of self-invalidation. That healing only happens from the inside. Dr. Paul walks through why so many people grow up dependent on others to reflect their worth, what self-validation actually means (and what it does not), and how learning to see, hear, and honor your own inner experience transforms not just your relationship with yourself but with everyone around you. She shares practical ways to begin practicing self-validation, including how to name your feelings with compassion, mirror your soul's qualities back to yourself, and stop outsourcing your emotional authority to others. Come explore the deeper meaning of self-care in Self-Care: How to Validate Yourself and begin building the kind of inner safety that no one else can take away. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Are you doing inner child work but still feeling stuck, anxious, or emotionally overwhelmed? In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Margaret Paul addresses one of the most important and most misunderstood topics in the healing space: what inner child work actually is, and the common mistakes that can inadvertently reinforce the very wounds you are trying to heal. Dr. Paul begins by drawing a crucial distinction between the soulful inner child and the wounded self that developed in response to fear and false beliefs, and walks through the key mistakes she sees again and again: giving the wounded child too much power, confusing love with indulgence, using inner child work to avoid adult responsibility, staying focused on pain without bringing in love and guidance, trying to fix the inner child rather than develop the loving adult, and attempting this work without a connection to something greater than the ego. Come explore what real, effective inner child work looks like here on the Inner Bonding podcast! Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

How do you tell the difference between a true spiritual teacher and someone who is subtly using you? In this timely and thought-provoking episode, Dr. Margaret Paul tackles a topic that is as widespread as it is rarely addressed: spiritual deception. Not the obvious, overt kind — but the subtle kind, where false prophets speak kindly, share genuine insight, and still manage to keep you dependent, doubtful, and disconnected from your own inner authority. Dr. Paul explains that a false prophet is not defined by what they say, but by their intent. She walks through the key red flags to watch for, the qualities that distinguish true spiritual teachers from those seeking power, and why the most important protection is a strong connection to your own inner and higher knowing. Come explore how to develop discernment, strengthen your loving adult, and learn to trust truth over charm in Discerning False Prophets here on the Inner Bonding podcast. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

What does it actually mean to take emotional responsibility — and why do so many of us get it wrong? In this illuminating episode, Dr. Margaret Paul cuts through the confusion around one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth. She explains why emotional responsibility is not self-blame and certainly not a burden. True emotional responsibility is an act of love — toward yourself and toward the inner child who carries your deepest feelings and needs your compassionate presence. Dr. Paul explores how the wounded self distorts emotional responsibility into shame, how fear keeps us from showing up for our own feelings, and what it looks like to become the loving, compassionate adult your inner child has always needed. She also draws a powerful distinction between self-blame, which comes from fear, and true responsibility, which comes from love — and shows how that shift alone can begin to transform your inner world. Come explore Emotional Responsibility and What It Really Means, and begin the journey toward genuine emotional freedom, deeper relationships, and a more grounded, peaceful self. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Have you ever felt yourself slowly disappearing in a relationship? In this deeply moving episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores one of the most common — and most overlooked — blocks to true intimacy: self-abandonment. She unpacks why so many of us lose our voice, our needs, and our sense of self in relationships, and what it truly takes to love deeply without betraying yourself. Dr. Paul guides us through the critical difference between love and attachment, how fear-based relating leads to resentment and emptiness, and why two whole, self-connected people are the foundation of any genuinely loving relationship. She also shares how the Inner Bonding process helps you develop the loving adult within — so you can show up honestly, set loving limits, and experience the kind of closeness that doesn't come at the cost of who you are. Come explore what it means to love without losing yourself in How to Create Loving Relationships Without Losing Yourself, and begin building the intimacy you've always wanted — from the inside out. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

How often do you say an affirmation, but don’t follow it with action? In this powerful episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores how to create loving affirmations that truly support the outcomes we desire, and how taking aligned, loving action is essential to manifesting our gifts and purpose. She dives into how we define our sense of worth, why our efforts matter more than outcomes, and how our intentions shape the quality of our relationships. As loving actions create loving feelings, she reminds us that the wounded self often drives false beliefs. By returning to our personal power and emotional freedom, we can begin to make our affirmations genuinely work for us. Come explore how to align your inner voice with meaningful action in Why Affirmations Might Fail Without Inner Bonding, and begin showing up for yourself in a way that truly supports your growth. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

With practice, you can become a loving adult father to yourself, even if you never had one. In today’s episode, Dr. Margaret Paul dives into how the “loving adult father” shows up in our lives, why we need both the nurturing energy of an inner mother and the action-oriented guidance of an inner father, and how intentional self-compassion becomes the catalyst for real transformation. Because without that inner loving father, the inner child can feel unseen and abandoned. But when you choose to lead yourself with love, you create space for deeper peace, stability, and joy in every area of your life. Listen in as we explore how real growth isn’t just about awareness — it’s about choosing loving actions, setting boundaries that honor your worth, and becoming the steady, supportive presence you’ve always needed. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

What makes your soul and your inner child truly come alive? Many spend their lives seeking approval or safety, yet few ask the one question that opens the door to a meaningful life: What brings me joy to offer the planet? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores how childhood conditioning and "survival mode" bury our natural aliveness under a mountain of obligation and numbness. Learn how to shift from the ego-wounded self to the inspired expression of your soul’s true blueprint. If you’re ready to stop going through the motions and reconnect with your purpose, this conversation offers the path back to your authentic self. Ready to reclaim your spark? Tune in to the full episode of Inner Child: What Makes You Come Alive? to dive deep into the Inner Bonding process and subscribe for weekly wisdom on self-healing. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Are you aware of how deeply your thoughts shape your relationships? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores how our thoughts directly influence our actions, our relationships, and the decisions we make. She unpacks how more supportive, compassionate thoughts can help us feel grounded and authentic, how our thinking shapes our access to inner and spiritual guidance, and why awareness and intentionality are powerful tools for shifting from a controlling mindset to a loving one. The wounded self often speaks with urgency and fear—but it does not reflect the full truth of who you are. The loving adult speaks with clarity, steadiness, and compassion, and reflects your inherent worth. Tune in as we explore how to shift from the wounded self into the loving adult—so you can show up in your life and relationships with greater trust, clarity, and self-worth. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/