Queer Collective Podcast

Recent episodes

1. The Struggle of Being Aromantic in a Love-Obsessed World from Queer Collective Podcast

   Jul 16, 20261 hr 44 min

   We’re unpacking aromanticism. What if the person everyone calls cold, avoidant, or emotionally unavailable simply doesn’t experience romantic attraction? We’re tracing the misunderstood world of aromanticism; From the rise of the aro label and the pressure of amatonormativity to the myths that confuse aromantic people with trauma, autism, asexuality, or commitment issues. We’re also asking the gay little question society hates most: can intimacy, partnership, and sex exist without romance? Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2631-queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Aromantic or Emotionally Unavailable? 01:26 What Does Aromantic Mean? 05:54 Sex Without Romance 13:30 What Falling in Love Feels Like 19:20 Am I Aromantic? 35:05 Aromantic vs. Asexual 39:17 The Aromantic Spectrum 47:28 What Is Amatonormativity? 51:34 Marriage Before Romantic Love 57:44 Aromantic People in History 1:06:15 How Aromanticism Got Its Name 1:14:26 Does “Love Is Love” Exclude Aros? 1:20:52 Aromantic Myths 1:35:15 Allo-Aro or Fuckboy? 1:42:14 Why Aromantics Aren’t Taken Seriously Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

2. Lesbians and Bisexual Women Don’t Trust Each Other from Queer Collective Podcast

   Jun 25, 20261 hr 38 min

   We’re dragging lesbian-bisexual relationship drama out of the group chat and onto the mic. From “she’ll leave me for a man” panic to bisexual erasure, biphobia, anxious attachment, queer gatekeeping, and the cursed phrase “basically a lesbian now,” we’re unpacking the insecurities sapphic couples whisper about but rarely say out loud. It’s messy, tender, deeply researched, and yes, someone is probably getting lovingly read. Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2626-queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 The Man She Might Leave You For 01:02 Lesbian Insecurities, Unfiltered 05:08 It’s Not Really About Him 10:04 The First Sapphic Relationship Panic 15:32 What Am I Not Providing? 21:11 The Straight-Life Fantasy 24:48 The “Good Bisexual” Trap 31:06 Were You Really Left For A Man? 35:25 Are Lesbians Centering Men? 40:31 Bisexuality As The “Deviant Other” 46:35 A Listener Challenges The Narrative 1:00:47 When Queerness Becomes Political 1:12:58 Bisexual Insecurities Come Out 1:20:00 The Pressure To Identify As Lesbian 1:28:32 Sapphic Red Flags Game Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

3. Why No One Believes Bisexuals from Queer Collective Podcast

   Jun 11, 20261 hr 32 min

   Bisexuality has been gaslit for literally thousands of years. We’re tracing the chaotic, horny, surprisingly academic history of bisexuality. From ancient queer goddesses and emperors building cities for their boyfriends, to Freud being confidently incorrect (again), 1970s sapphic beef, and the Bisexual Manifesto. It’s funny, messy, dramatic, and weirdly validating. Turns out bisexuals weren’t confused. History was just very committed to pretending they weren’t there. Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2620-queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 The Bisexuality Smear Campaign 01:26 Before Bisexuality Existed 08:11 The Emperor and His Boyfriend 14:52 The African Queen With Wives 21:04 When Bisexuality Was Invented 30:56 The Degenerate Brain Theory 35:26 Alfred Kinsey Changes Everything 42:47 The Scale Everyone Knows 49:24 The Biphobia Wars Begin 01:02:18 Political Lesbianism 01:10:36 Why Bisexual Women Were Targeted 01:17:28 Bisexuals Fight Back 01:23:13 The Bisexual Manifesto 01:28:42 The Woman Who Built Pride 01:34:37 The Real Bisexual Legacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

4. Why No One Can Tell You’re Gay from Queer Collective Podcast

   May 28, 20261 hr 43 min

   From hanky codes, Polari, earrings, camp, gay voice, and all the tiny clues queer people have used to find each other in public; We’re unpacking why queer visibility has always existed somewhere between safety and recognition, and why so many femmes, nonbinary people, and straight-passing queers still feel painfully unclockable today. From secret codes to modern aesthetics, this episode asks what it means to look queer, be read correctly, and finally feel seen. Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective AJAHNIS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ajahnischarley/ NFB: https://www.youtube.com/@nfb CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Why Can’t Anyone Tell? 01:06 Secret Symbols of Queerness 08:12 Queer Codes and Survival 12:14 Polari: Secret Queer Language 16:55 When Queer Slang Gets Stolen 21:11 Lingo, Safety, and Community 27:19 Why Signaling Still Matters 31:08 Performing Non-Binary “Correctly” 39:34 Queerness and the Inner Child 46:42 Authenticity vs. Misgendering 48:05 Femme Visibility and Recognition 49:33 What Camp Really Means 01:00:06 When Signaling Feels Performative 01:10:30 Building Your Queer Avatar 01:26:25 Haircuts, Mustaches, and Signals Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

5. The Adult Industry’s Queerest Secret from Queer Collective Podcast

   May 14, 20261 hr 35 min

   The adult entertainment industry has a very dirty little secret: some of its most profitable fantasies are queer, but the people behind them often aren’t. We’re diving into the strange, censored, and scandalously political history of trans and sapphic adult media; from ancient lesbian imagery and underground screenings to the feminist s*x wars, On Our Backs , and trans creators reclaiming the lens. Maggie MacDonald, and Val Webber, we follow the money, the gaze, and the fantasies we inherited to ask one deliciously uncomfortable question: who gets rich when queer desire becomes a product? Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2620-queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 0:00 Queer P rn, Straight Profit 2:09 Trans P rn Meets Capitalism 5:09 Algorithms Shape Queer Desire 15:27 Lesbian P rn’s Short History 17:30 Who Defines Lesbian P rn? 19:51 Performance vs. Authenticity 25:41 Gay P rn Came First 31:07 Women Locked Out of P rn History 43:29 The Feminist Sex Wars 47:06 On Our Backs 1:00:49 Is P rn Feminist? 1:08:15 The Centerfold Debate 1:09:32 Straight-Made, Queer-Watched 1:21:31 The Internet Changed Everything 1:24:31 Did Lesbians Help Trans P rn Begin? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

6. Society Hates Difficult Women. Queer People Worship Them from Queer Collective Podcast

   Apr 30, 20261 hr 26 min

   A diva isn’t born, she’s labeled. And usually right when she stops behaving. We’re unpacking how a word that once meant goddess became shorthand for “too much,” and why powerful, sexual, opinionated women keep getting recast as problems instead of icons. From 1800s opera stages to anti-Nazi spies, civil rights legends, and the queer community that turned them into coded symbols of survival and rebellion. Because maybe being a diva isn’t the insult we were taught, it’s the whole point. Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 02:19 The origin of the term Diva 08:40 Theatrical stars 13:16 Dancing divas 23:09 Bisexual icons 29:00 Bad rep in hollywood 38:09 Are you a friend of Dorothy? 46:16 The difficult woman 51:52 The civil rights Movement 1:02:01 Rejection of the diva 1:04:32 Celebrities as imperfect characters 1:17:24 The obsession with Cher 1:21:48 Gender neutral diva Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

7. Are Trans Brains Different? The Science Says… from Queer Collective Podcast

   Apr 16, 20261 hr 42 min

   Being trans isn’t a trend… but the world sure panicked like it was. We’re diving into the science behind the transgender brain, the rise of the “social contagion” theory, and the messy history of sexology that started it all. Let's break down what research actually shows about gender identity and biology (and what it doesn’t), why this question is more dangerous than it seems, and how the answers could be used to both validate and weaponize trans existence. This one gets uncomfortable. Fast. Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer CONTACT SEB Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/squishymangoboy/ Housewerk: https://www.instagram.com/housewerk.to/ Jewelry: https://www.instagram.com/natureboythings/ CONTACT MAYA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/akamilani/ Dance party: https://www.instagram.com/feelit_to/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 02:55 What's causing the trans boom? 10:49 The social contagion is real 19:38 The bioessentialism problem 28:22 Pros of trans brain science 38:21 Polymorphism makes you trans? 51:00 Maybe you're born with it 58:08 Sociology of transness 1:03:43 Inside the trans brain 1:13:33 How do hormones change your brain? 1:31:32 Would you choose it? 1:38:31 Does science undermine the experience? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

8. Most People Are Dating on Autopilot from Queer Collective Podcast

   Apr 2, 20261 hr 2 min

   You think your dating choices are yours… but there's invisible rules shaping your sex, love, and identity. However, there is a disruption that queer, kinky, and non-monogamous people are leading, exposing amatonormativity, and the fantasy of desire that isn’t actually yours. To break down how to unlearn, rebuild, and finally choose yourself, we put Feeld’s new Reflections tool to the test; because self-discovery shouldn’t feel like homework. The script stopped working. Now what? Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT AIANO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aiano_/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queer_homemaking CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 00:54 Do we make our own choices? 07:44 The bedroom crossover 16:54 Subliminal beliefs we hold 25:50 social rewards and punishments 34:01 ananormativity 29:44 grow out if it 44:49 compulsory heteronormativity 46:43 can't name it can't claim it 50:31 finding your true desires 53:11 scary things that won't kill you 57:39 are you happy? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

9. Why the Church Makes People Kinky from Queer Collective Podcast

   Mar 26, 20261 hr 13 min

   The Church might be one of the gayest institutions in history and no one’s talking about it. We’re diving into the hidden queer and kinky world inside religious life. From lesbian nuns to closeted clergy, and how centuries of repression shaped it all. Connecting history, theory, and lived experience to ask: does religion suppress desire, or secretly create it? Because once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer CONTACT RYLAN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rylanstreight/ Salem: https://www.instagram.com/salemburns_/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 00:59 Growin up with gay clergy? 06:00 Deep in it 11:45 All priests are gay 17:19 The nuns are gay too 21:25 All falling apart 33:08 The shame is too strong 40:53 What religion teaches us about sexuality 48:40 Saying goodbye to Jesus 53:19 Kink will save us 1:00:34 Morality is in question 1:08:02 Religion is Kink in cosplay Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

10. Men Are Losing Women (And They Don't Know Why) from Queer Collective Podcast

    Feb 26, 20261 hr 20 min

    Vox crowned 2025 the year of decentering men. But lesbians were doing it first. We’re unpacking whether “man-hating” is a dead-end, a coping mechanism, or a misread of a much older feminist strategy, with Olivia (aka Olisunvia). Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT OLIVIA: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@olisunvia Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/olisunvia/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@olisunvia CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 01:00 Man-hating vs de-centering 05:39 Choice vs radical feminism 11:27 the real hate for men 24:13 Second wave feminism 34:15 The feminist manifesto 48:07 Ideal vs reasonable change 57:29 What's in our best interest? 1:07:39 Are women healthier without men? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

11. The Identity Even Progressive Spaces Get Wrong from Queer Collective Podcast

    Feb 12, 20261 hr 37 min

    Studs aren’t a vibe, they’re a lineage. We’re unpacking the history, politics, and lived reality of Black masculine lesbians at the crossroads of race, gender, and desire. From the swagger and softness, Harlem Renaissance sapphics, stud vs butch, AGs, Stud4Stud discourse, toxic masculinity, and why Black masculinity plays by different rules. Joined by Elisabeth Clarke, Nadine Wiltshire, and Kiké, we dig into stereotypes, erasure, dating myths, and the radical tenderness at the core of stud identity. oin Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 What is a stud? 05:00 The toxic expectations 12:11 Recreating masculinity 19:12 It's because you're black 24:31 Stud on stud clash 35:03 Who can be a stud? 1:03:04 Know your stud history 1:16:04 Black vs white lesbian division 1:31:21 What can femmes do better? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

12. The Gender Mystery Historians Still Can’t Explain from Queer Collective Podcast

    Jan 29, 202651 min

    The feral, gender-defiant life of a Canadian WWI veteran who ditched a wealthy upbringing, lived alone in the woods, enlisted three times, fought on the Serbian front as a man, got captured as a prisoner of war, fell in love in a prison camp, and spent decades confusing barbers and bureaucrats alike. We’re queering the Great War, unpacking gender outlaw survival, and asking the spicy question: early non-binary icon or radical dissident woman? Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 01:19 Our hero's early life 07:27 The radical of it all 13:52 What was it like for women in 1900s? 21:00 How did a woman get into war? 27:54 Enlisting as a man 36:37 First love interest (as a man?) 43:43 Actually non-binary? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

13. Stone Top And Pillow Princess: The Lesbian S*x Dynamic People Don’t Understand from Queer Collective Podcast

    Jan 15, 20261 hr 24 min

    Stone butch lesbians. Pillow princesses. An erotic dynamic that fits like a deviant little puzzle and has been wildly misunderstood ever since. Syd and Addy give us all the details from their own personal experiences, tackle myths and misconceptions, and get radically honest about desire, boundaries, and sexual alignment. Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT ADDY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/princesslezbian/ CONTACT SYD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotboysyd/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 00:49 what's a stone top? 07:41 what's a pillow princess? 13:33 can straight girls be a pillow princess? 20:59 myths and misconceptions 25:33 when it's used as an insult 30:35 are they asexual? 34:40 exploring outside the dynamic 42:34 melt the stone? 49:04 finding a partner 51:13 stone butch history 1:01:05 stone butch blues 1:08:22 pillow princess history 1:10:41 all about dating 1:18:31 is it viewed as negative? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

14. The History and Secrets of How Lesbians Have S*x from Queer Collective Podcast

    Dec 11, 20251 hr 32 min

    We’re cracking open the secret, censored, and wildly creative history of lesbian sex. We’re digging through ancient poems, forbidden medical texts, barroom gossip, queer zines, and the techniques they definitely didn’t teach in sex ed. Tracing sapphic desire from Sappho’s bedroom to modern queer culture and exposing just how inventive lesbians have always been. Foxers: https://bekomando.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 01:05 Why is lesbian research scarce? 06:25 do men have higher libido 21:05 ancient greece lesbians 27:24 ancient india lesbians 29:46 medieval lesbos 37:36 is using a dildo phallocentric? 41:21 sexy reddit strap stories 45:42 the arabs had the right idea 48:58 the "itch" 54:04 early modern lesbos 1:02:03 lesbian nuns 1:09:41 modern lesbians 1:12:32 birth of the leather dyke 1:20:49 bdsm kinky lesbians 1:23:11 prison dykes 1:29:15 crafty prison pleasure toys Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

15. The Queer Community Is Tearing Itself Apart (Here’s Why) ft. Taha from Queer Collective Podcast

    Nov 27, 20251 hr 17 min

    Every corner of queer TikTok is on fire. Hot takes, call-out wars, and “LGB without the T” chaos, and suddenly the biggest culture war isn’t left vs. right, it’s inside our own community. We’re diving into the history of queer infighting, from Stonewall splits to homonormativity, moral panics, tender-queer discourse, and why assimilation vs. liberation is the eternal gay cage match. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 4 months FREE Surfshark: https://surfshark.com/queercollective Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT TAHA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tahalikesyou/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 00:52 What is causing the divide? 07:19 Are we taking it too far? 11:50 The moral panic 16:51 Am I the problem? 23:31 The worst it's ever been 31:23 Save the children 41:44 Assimilation vs abolition 50:23 Which strategy will win? 57:38 This time is different 1:03:53 How tf do we move forward 1:13:14 What can I do today? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

16. The Bisexual Man’s Field Guide to Dating Men ft. Mark and Bobby Box from Queer Collective Podcast

    Nov 13, 20251 hr 31 min

    You’re bi (or gay), and honestly? You’ve got no idea what to do with your hands. We got you. Sex columnist Bobby Box and bi icon Mark Erenberg join us for a crash course in gay sex 101. From flirting with men and building confidence to actually being good in bed. We’re talking imposter syndrome, gay panic, and the do’s and don’ts of bottoming… all with a wink, a giggle, and a lube bottle. Think of it as your guide to queer pleasure, power, and sweaty first kisses. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 4 months FREE Surfshark: https://surfshark.com/queercollective Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT BOBBY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bybobbybox/ CONTACT MARK Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mark.erenberg/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ensider.mp3/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/disgustingparty/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 01:11 First time with a man 10:42 Realizing you like men 16:07 Imposter syndrome for bi men 21:59 How do Gay men feel about bi men? 25:46 Will he leave you for a woman? 30:25 Gay vs straight dating 37:36 Consent in gay men spaces 43:06 You're getting more attention now 47:47 How to hit on a guy 56:24 Hard skills 1:00:08 Bottoming 1:07:40 What is side? 1:12:29 How about group sex? 1:15:00 Giving great BJ's 1:18:26 What if it's too big? 1:21:36 First time prep 1:25:41 Sexy smut Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

17. Is Bisexuality The Same As Pansexuality? ft. Leo And Taty from Queer Collective Podcast

    Oct 30, 20251 hr 12 min

    Pansexuality: it’s not just bisexuality with extra glitter. We’re tracing its wild origins from the BDSM underground to the free love 70s to the nonbinary explosion of the 2010s, because this label has range. We’re unpacking the bi vs. pan debate, the pan pride flag’s secret meanings, and why pansexuality has always been the sexy rebel of the LGBTQ+ alphabet. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT LEO 1st Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anne__alien/ 2nd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/polterguy666/ CONTACT TATY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taty.wab/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 01:34 Bi or pan? 10:26 Pan is the umbrella 14:55 What is a lesbian? 19:55 What does attraction look like for pansexuals? 24:02 History of pansexuality 31:38 Early examples of pansexuality 35:45 The kinky history 39:41 The evolution of pan 48:55 Sexuality is not fluid? 56:08 Pan challenges 01:05:37 Is pansexuality inherently political? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

18. The Lesbian Relationship Myths We Can’t Kill ft. Shannon from Queer Collective Podcast

    Sep 25, 20251 hr 10 min

    Do all lesbians think the same? We’re digging into the big three stereotypes. Emotional intensity, U-Hauling, and lesbian bed death, to see if Sapphics really do relationships differently. We’re breaking down where these tropes come from, what’s rooted in history, and what’s just straight-up lesbophobic myth. Joined by hopeless romantic & poet lesbian play boy poetry, we’re asking: are lesbians too intense, too fast, and too sexless, or just misunderstood? Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Banff Pride: https://banffpride.ca/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT SHANNON Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/lesbianplayboypoetry/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 01:28 Are we more intense? 07:11 It's the hormones 17:20 Good or toxic? 28:35 U-hauling 44:18 Lesbian bed death 01:02:50 Frequency is the key Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

19. How to Hook Up With Your Friends ft. Syd And Zhané from Queer Collective Podcast

    Aug 28, 20251 hr 25 min

    Is sleeping with your friends a queer love language or just lesbian chaos theory? We’re spilling on crushes, cuddle hookups, and why queers can’t stop blurring the friendship line. With Zhané and Syd, we talk jealousy, intimacy, ENM vs monogamy, and every messy “oops, I made out with my bestie” scenario. Gay disasters, incoming. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW ZHANE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ziosaaa/ FOLLOW SYD https://www.instagram.com/hotboysyd/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 01:44 Have you hooked up with friends? 09:20 Pros and cons of hooking up 25:39 What about the friendship? 40:10 Is it inevitable? 49:15 Making the first move 57:56 Intoxicated consent 01:04:18 Keeping a platonic vibe after 01:10:38 How to avoid problems 01:16:52 Role playing scenarios Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

20. The Epidemic of Masc Fragility ft. Ms. Myles And Danielle Lastres from Queer Collective Podcast

    Aug 14, 20251 hr 4 min

    Femininity: feared, fetishized, and slapped with a “no fems” dating bio. We’re pulling femmephobia apart with Ms. Myles and Danielle. From its colonial, patriarchal origin story to the high school boys who think they have to one-up each other in a contest to sound the most heterosexual. CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains mentions of SA. Please take care of yourself while listening, and feel free to skip to the next episode if it’s not the right time for you. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT DANIELLE Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/danielle.lastres/ CONTACT MS MYLES MUA IG: https://www.instagram.com/ms.mylesmua/ DJ IG: https://www.instagram.com/madame.myles/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 02:25 Define femmephobia 05:28 How does society treat femmes? 15:06 Being a trans femme is something else 23:32 Origins of femmephobia 31:09 The misogyny mask 43:11 No femmes allowed 48:37 Unwavering queerness 53:23 Do you wanna be a boy? 58:15 Protect the dolls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.