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Today, we’re talking all things motherhood, mindset, and youth sports with Chandler Ashcraft, the creator behind @chanwiththeboys and founder of Moms Away. Chandler brings her background in education and her experience raising four boys to the conversation, sharing why perspective can help us take the pressure off, how to set developmentally appropriate expectations for our kids, and why confidence often comes from being willing to do hard things. We also get into the reality of youth sports, from the pressure to do more to the mental load that comes with keeping everyone’s schedules moving, and how to make choices that actually fit your family. Key Topics Covered How exposure to hard moments builds confidence and resilience Teaching kids to take ownership of their attitude, effort, and response Why confidence, especially for women, is built through failure and trying again How to evaluate the tradeoffs that come with youth sports Keeping the long game in mind when making decisions for your family CONNECT WITH CHANDLER: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chanwiththeboys TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chanwiththeboys Learn more about Moms Away: Website: https://www.momsaway.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moms.away LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF SITKA SEAFOOD: Visit https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/herself for $35 Off + free salmon burgers for a year with a continuous subscription. The code HERSELF25 should auto-apply when using this link Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Since it’s Labor Day here in the U.S., we’re bringing back one of our favorite conversations on shifting jealousy and comparison into inspiration and possibility. It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to other women and feeling jealous, intimidated, or like you’re somehow behind. But what if you could shift that mindset and instead feel genuinely inspired by the success around you? In this episode, we share a recent real-life experience from a mastermind we attended with highly successful business owners and how it challenged us to see comparison differently. Instead of letting the “small fish in a big sea” feeling discourage us, we used it as proof of what’s possible. We talk about the mindset shift that helped us move from comparison to inspiration, why personal growth plays a huge role in that process, and how surrounding yourself with the right people can change the way you view your own potential. In this episode, we discuss: What it felt like walking into a room full of highly successful entrepreneurs. The surprising common habits we noticed among women operating at a high level. Why taking care of your physical health often supports long-term success. The “highlight reel vs. inner life” trap and why it distorts how we see other people’s journeys. Questions to ask yourself when someone else's success triggers comparison. The hidden sacrifices and personal work that often sit behind visible success. Practical ways to shift from jealousy to curiosity and inspiration. Why your mindset about others’ success can either hold you back or move you forward. How getting support, such as a mindset coach, can help you break out of negative thought patterns. The powerful question to ask when a negative thought about someone else pops up. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Have you ever found yourself taking your child’s behavior personally, getting defensive, or reacting in a way you wish you could take back? Today, we’re talking about how the Gottman Institute’s Four Horsemen of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling can show up in our parenting, why our kids’ emotional development means we have to take the lead when it comes to navigating conflict, and how much they learn from the way we handle hard moments. We’re not going to get it right every time, but becoming more aware of our patterns can help us model healthier communication, repair, and relationships for our kids. Key Topics Covered Why criticism can feel like an attack or humiliation to a child How to tell the difference between taking a break and stonewalling Why self-regulation has to come before trying to coach your child through a conflict How to soften the start-up and communicate your feelings more clearly The importance of taking responsibility and modeling a genuine apology LINKS AND RESOURCES: AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u MOMCOZY: 20% off with code HERSELF https://momcozy.com/ Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We’re so excited to welcome Dr. Marisa Franco back to the podcast for the third time to talk about something so many of us struggle with: feeling worthy. We’re diving into why simply telling ourselves to “love ourselves” doesn’t always work, how our past experiences continue to shape the way we see ourselves today, and what it can look like to meet ourselves with more understanding instead of trying to force ourselves to feel differently. We also talk about how our own self-worth impacts the way we show up for our kids and how we can help the next generation build a healthier relationship with themselves. Key Topics Covered Why insecurity can actually be an adaptive response How attachment theory can become another form of perfectionism Why some people struggle to receive compliments The connection between self-worth, memories, and our emotional responses How to recognize, regulate, and respond to difficult emotions CONNECT WITH DR. MARISA FRANCO: Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco Check out her website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/ Pre-order Marisa’s new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment here: https://amzlink.to/az0RRIqPA4gxb Listen to her past episodes on HERself: 59. The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000505703230 314. Attachment Styles in Adult Friendships https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000739104904 LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF SITKA SEAFOOD: Visit https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/herself for $35 Off + free salmon burgers for a year with a continuous subscription. The code HERSELF25 should auto-apply when using this link Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

What do you do when you and your partner keep having the same fight over and over again? Learning how to navigate those gridlocked arguments can help you stop spinning your wheels and start finding a way forward, even when you don’t see eye to eye. Today, we’re breaking down practical ways to approach these recurring disagreements, including how to look beneath the surface of the argument, stay connected when you don’t agree, and find a livable solution together. Because sometimes the goal isn’t to finally agree, but to learn how to handle the disagreement in a healthier way. Key Topics Covered: Why some relationship conflicts are unsolvable How childhood experiences can shape the way we handle conflict Why vulnerability can help you break out of a cycle of defensiveness How to find common ground when you disagree What to do when pushing for a solution isn’t working LINKS AND RESOURCES: HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Money is one of the biggest sources of conflict in relationships, but it's rarely about the money itself. This week, we unpack why couples get stuck in the same financial arguments, how our childhood experiences and money beliefs shape the way we spend and save, and what it really takes to get on the same page with your partner. We also share practical ways to have healthier money conversations, better understand each other's financial habits, and build a stronger partnership instead of keeping score. Key Topics Covered: The four common money personalities and how they influence financial decisions Why regular money check-ins help couples stay connected and avoid resentment How financial anxiety can show up as overspending, oversaving, or avoiding money altogether The impact of lifestyle creep, comparison, and keeping score in a relationship Four simple questions to uncover your own money beliefs and start better conversations with your partner LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF MOMCOZY: 20% off with code HERSELF https://momcozy.com/ GOTTMAN INSTITUTE ARTICLES ABOUT MONEY: https://www.gottman.com/blog/money-bankrupting-marriage/ “MONEY MAPS” FROM THE GOTTMAN INSTITUTE: https://www.gottman.com/blog/arguments-money-arent-money/ Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Resetting a tough day doesn't always require a complete restart. Sometimes it's about catching an unhelpful thought, asking for what you need, or making one small change that shifts your momentum. Today we're sharing five simple ways we turn our own days around when we're feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, or stuck, along with real examples from our lives that have helped us respond differently. If you've ever felt like a bad morning means the whole day is ruined, this conversation is for you. Key Topics Covered: How to identify and reframe unhelpful thought patterns before they spiral Why taking one small action today is more powerful than waiting for tomorrow How clearly communicating your needs can reduce resentment at home Simple ways to build momentum by changing your environment or routine How gratitude and remembering you're on the same team can shift your perspective LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Feeling like yourself again often starts with zooming out instead of chasing the latest wellness trend. In this conversation, we sit down with Nurse Practitioner Carmen Stansberry to explore the bigger picture of women's health that focuses on the idea of longevity vs a quick fix. We cover everything, from finding the right healthcare provider to understanding hormones, inflammation, sleep, and the daily habits that have the biggest impact over time. If you've been wondering where to start when you don't feel your best, this conversation offers practical guidance to help you make informed decisions and focus on what truly moves the needle. Key Topics Covered: How to find a qualified healthcare provider who looks at the full picture instead of offering quick fixes What heart rate variability (HRV) can reveal about stress, hormones, and overall health The truth about peptides, GLP-1s, and why personalized care matters How inflammation affects aging and simple ways to reduce it through everyday habits What to know about hormone therapy, hair health, collagen, and protein as you get older The best longevity tips for women CONNECT WITH CARMEN: Follow Carmen on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmen.stansberry.np LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF MARY RUTH HAIR SUPPLEMENT: https://amzlink.to/az0kELnE6fNiV Check out episode 342: Our Unfiltered Thoughts About Turning 40, where we talk about aging and our thoughts on it: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000772765470 Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Summer can be one of the most fun seasons of the year, but it can also leave us feeling stretched thin. Today we're talking through the biggest sources of overwhelm our community is experiencing right now, from changing routines and packed schedules to messy houses and the pressure to make summer feel magical. We share simple mindset shifts and practical strategies that can help us adjust our expectations, focus on what matters most, and create a summer that actually works for our families. Key Topics Covered: How to create consistent routines even when every week looks different Creative ways to make summer logistics easier, including carpools and sharing responsibilities with other families Why boredom can be a gift and how to encourage kids to solve it on their own How to find a balance between planning enough and overscheduling your family Letting go of guilt and remembering that kids often treasure the simplest moments most LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Marriage doesn't just bring two people together. It also brings together different families, expectations, traditions, and experiences. Today we're talking honestly about some of the most common challenges that come with in-law relationships, from feeling the weight of comparison to navigating boundaries and unmet expectations. While we can't solve every complicated family dynamic, we hope this conversation reminds you that your feelings are valid, you're not alone, and you and your partner can work together to build the family culture you want. Key Topics Covered: Why comparison between grandparents is natural and how to appreciate different ways of showing love How healthy boundaries protect relationships instead of damaging them Ways couples can stay united when navigating difficult family dynamics Practical ideas for handling extended visits, grandparent favoritism, and differing expectations Why speaking up gives family members the opportunity to make positive changes LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Join us at Tricky Foods in Madison, WI on Thursday, July 30th for Moms’ Night Out! Learn more and get your ticket here: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/shop/p/herself-moms-night-out-1 Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Whether you're climbing the corporate ladder, building a business, negotiating a raise, or wondering if it's time for a career change, this conversation is full of practical advice for every stage of your professional journey. We sit down with leadership coach and Growth Inc. founder Colleen Bordeaux to talk about redefining success, advocating for yourself, navigating burnout, and building a career that actually fits your life. If you've ever felt overlooked, stuck, or unsure of your next step, this episode will help you approach your career with more confidence and clarity. Key Topics Covered: Why asking for a raise starts with owning your value How leadership requires letting go of perfectionism and control Questions to ask when you're deciding whether to stay or leave your current role Why your career doesn't have to follow a traditional path A different way to think about burnout and creating a more fulfilling career CONNECT WITH COLLEEN: Growth, Inc. Instagram (@growthincubator): https://www.instagram.com/growthincubator Colleen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/colleenbordeaux TikTok: https://www.instagram.com/growthincubator LINKS AND RESOURCES: FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Grab a copy of the book The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level: https://amzlink.to/az0I8iLhyyJIL Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

When it comes to dating your spouse, how often should you actually be going on dates? We started asking ourselves that question and quickly realized the answer depends on your relationship, your season of life, and what helps you feel connected. We share how our own approaches to dating have evolved over the years, from weekly nights out to low effort basement dates and small moments of connection throughout the week. We also dive into the research on dating your spouse, debate what actually counts as a date, and talk about why regular check-ins matter more than following someone else's rules. Key Topics Covered: The research behind dating your spouse, including the "gold standard" of weekly dates and the 2/2/2 method. Why Amy and Drew and Abby and Colin have completely different dating styles, and how their needs have evolved as their kids and schedules have changed. The debate over whether group dates count as dates and why couples may have different definitions of quality time. How to have honest conversations with your partner about feeling connected, sharing the mental load, and getting on the same page. Why meaningful connection can happen in everyday moments and does not always require elaborate plans or expensive nights out. LINKS AND RESOURCES: FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Growing up as millennials, we were often told not to be too loud, not to ask for help, and to push our feelings down. Attachment therapist and author Eli Harwood joins us to unpack how our upbringings shaped us and how we can break generational cycles as parents. Eli opens with a powerful reframe: our parents truly did the best they could with what they knew. From there, we dive deep into what childhood trauma actually looks like (and why so many of us don't recognize it as trauma), how to build resilience in our kids, and why the way we parent almost always traces back to how we were parented. Whether you struggle with patience, saying no, or knowing when to discipline versus when to have a conversation, Eli offers practical, connection-focused tools to help us show up differently for our kids. Key Topics Covered: What secure attachment looks like and why Eli centers her work on connection and relationship rather than control and behavior. How to identify the childhood experiences you may be carrying into adulthood without realizing they are traumas. Finding the middle ground between raising independent kids and raising kids who feel safe asking for help. The number one predictor of long-term resilience in children and how to actively foster it. Why millennial parents may struggle with patience, and why the birthing parent often has less of it than their non-birthing partner. Punishment versus conversation: how to rethink your approach when your child does something wrong. Why saying no feels so hard for millennial parents and what to do if you want to change that pattern. CONNECT WITH ELI: Instagram & Threads (@attachmentnerd): https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/attachmentnerd TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@attachmentnerd Get Your Copy of Eli’s Book: https://amzlink.to/az09tHmrRU6NT LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Abby's 40th birthday served as the perfect launching pad for an honest conversation about aging and all the feelings that come with it. With most of our 30s spent raising kids, we are stepping into this new decade with a fresh perspective, and we're keeping it real about the insecurities, the mindset shifts, and the things we actively do to feel and look our best. We also explore the power of having older women in our lives as role models, share a meaningful mantra from Abby's grandma, and wrap up with a reminder that making peace with aging is so much easier when you're surrounded by people who own it unapologetically. Key Topics Covered: Finding your personal balance between embracing aging and doing the things that make you feel confident and youthful. How dressing for your changing body can support a more positive relationship with it. The reality of working out as you get older, including injuries and setbacks, and knowing you're not alone in facing them. Why surrounding yourself with people who are unapologetic about their age can shift your entire outlook. LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Patreon Book Club: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Hair Supplement: https://amzlink.to/az0kELnE6fNiV Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

As parents, control feels like protection. It feels like we can prevent our kids' mistakes, soften their pain, and steer them away from decisions that might hurt them. But here's the truth: control protects us, not the relationship. In this episode, we sit down with board-certified child psychiatrist Dr. Willough Jenkins to talk about one of the trickiest parts of parenting: helping our kids navigate friendships. In this episode: Is it developmentally normal when kids suddenly want to drop a friend? How to support a child with an anxious attachment style when friendship gets hard. When (and whether) to get the other kid's parents involved. What to do when your child is hanging out with kids who don't bring out their best and being honest that our kids aren't always angels either. How to handle mean girl dynamics if you have a daughter going through it. Signs that your child may genuinely struggle with making friends, and what you can actually do about it. Tactics for staying a safe, trusted place your kids will actually come to when friendship gets tough. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Follow Dr. Willough on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drwilloughjenkins/ Dr. Willough’s Website: https://www.willoughjenkins.com/ LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Summer is coming, and this episode is your permission slip to get intentional about it. We're sharing hard-won lessons about summer parenting, starting with the power of identifying your stressors and expectations early so everyone in your household can thrive. From navigating screen time without the extremes, to hiring a summer nanny with clear goals, to making sure whoever is caring for your kids understands your priorities around food and nutrition, we cover the practical stuff. Amy gets personal about a scary moment with her youngest last summer that became a powerful reminder of why simple safety measures matter so much. The heart of this conversation is one big, clarifying question: what does a successful summer actually look like for your family? Key Topics Covered: Abby's reminder to leave room for spontaneous fun and why those unplanned moments often become your kids' favorite summer memories How to set your nanny up for success by communicating your goals and food standards from the start A reframe on screen time as a helpful tool rather than something to fear or eliminate Amy's personal story about her son's accident and the simple safety precautions that made all the difference How to define your top summer priorities, because not everything can be treated as equally important LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

In this "Greatest Hits" episode we revisit one of our most impactful conversations with child development expert Claire Lerner. As parents who have personally navigated the challenges of raising children who don't respond to traditional gentle parenting approaches, we share how isolating and exhausting that experience can be and how Claire's expertise changed everything. Claire breaks down why some kids are simply wired differently, explains that challenging behaviors aren't manipulation but rather a need for boundaries and support, and offers practical strategies for helping children self-regulate. From rethinking timeouts to surviving big family gatherings, this episode is a must-listen for parents of strong-willed or highly reactive kids. Key Topics Covered Why some children are "wired differently" and don't respond to gentle parenting. Understanding child behavior — why kids act out and what they actually need. Claire's concept of the "safe space break" as a modern alternative to timeouts. How to help children self-regulate during moments of aggression toward others. Managing big family gatherings and holiday triggers for highly reactive kids. How to talk to family members and teachers about your child's unique needs. The importance of community and reducing parental isolation and burnout. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Meet Claire . Visit Claire's website . LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF HERSELF AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Life in your 40s can hit hard, and if you're feeling the weight of it all right now, you are not alone. In this episode, Abby gets real and personal about a difficult situation she's been navigating with one of her kids, and how the stress of it has started to feel like so much more than just "situational anxiety." Between caring for our families, keeping up with the house, showing up at work, and being everyone else's emotional rock, it can feel impossible to also take care of ourselves. But here's the thing: it IS possible, and it looks different for everyone. Key Topics Covered: What situational anxiety actually is and how it can slowly start to feel all-encompassing. Why our 40s often bring a wave of hard life events, for us and the people we love most. Amy's observation about why Abby handles stress better than almost anyone she knows. The difference between situations we can't avoid and ones where we actually do have a choice. Practical things we do to take care of ourselves when life feels overwhelming. Why our brains crave predictability and what to do when life refuses to give us that. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself HERSELF PATREON : https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast INFRARED SAUNA: https://amzlink.to/az05Rg8T8ZNO5 Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

What does it really take to create lasting behavior change, especially in the middle of busy motherhood? In this conversation, our friend and behavior change expert Karin Nordin shares a refreshing, research-backed approach rooted in compassion rather than discipline. Drawing from her background in health communication and her own personal struggles, Karin breaks down why traditional advice around habits often falls short and what to focus on instead. This episode offers a practical and realistic framework for moms who want to follow through on their goals without burnout, all while embracing a more flexible and sustainable way to create change. Key Topics Covered: The trampoline metaphor and how it helps reframe all-or-nothing thinking. Why the word “habit” may be overemphasized and commonly misunderstood. The difference between discipline and conscientiousness and why it matters. Real-life examples of what qualifies as a habit and what does not. Coaching strategies for implementing a consistent morning workout routine. How to approach changes in eating patterns without relying on restrictions. What a ritual check-in is and how to use it effectively. Why routines should stay under 30 minutes. The shift from focusing on consistency to prioritizing frequency. Get your free Procrastination resource here : https://bodybrainalliance.com/herself Follow Karin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karinnordinphd/ Karin’s Website: https://bodybrainalliance.com/ For more information on Karin's programs: bodybrainalliance.com/change-academy LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

What actually creates deep, meaningful friendships? In this episode, we explore the idea of radical honesty and why it might be the missing piece in your closest relationships. Inspired by a therapist’s take and rooted in Amy’s long-held belief, we unpack what it really means to show up truthfully with the people in your inner circle. Key Topics Covered: • Why radical honesty is essential for deeper friendships. • The impact of people pleasing on adult relationships. • Navigating anxious attachment and overthinking. • Recognizing and breaking co-dependent patterns. • The role of tone and delivery in honest conversations. • Simple, practical one-liners to start being more honest today. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY : http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY : http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.