Published by Jules Sebastian
Tea with Jules Sebastian. We will spill tea, share stories and take away life lessons from meaningful conversations. Pop the kettle on - it's time for tea! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Content warning: This episode includes an honest discussion of depression and suicidal thoughts. Please listen with care. If you or someone you know needs support, Lifeline is available 24/7 on 13 11 14. He's called Dr Happy. And he's lived with depression for most of his adult life. In this genuinely profound conversation, Jules sits down with Dr Tim Sharp, clinical and coaching psychologist, founder of The Happiness Institute, best selling author and one of Australia's leading voices in positive psychology. But as Jules discovers, the power of Tim's story isn't the title. It's everything sitting behind it. Tim built an entire career around happiness while privately battling severe depression and suicidal thoughts, and spending years believing he wasn't good enough, smart enough or worthy enough. His honesty about that gap between the public persona and the private reality is what makes this episode land so deeply. Together, Jules and Tim unpack what happiness actually is, and why most of us have been chasing the wrong version of it. Tim explains why you're not supposed to feel good all the time, why negative emotions aren't the enemy, and why the pressure to be happy every minute of every day is quietly making us miserable. He shares the simple daily practices that genuinely move the needle, the beauty of finding joy in the mundane school run and the everyday moments, and a powerful approach to sitting with difficult feelings instead of running from them. His final pearl of wisdom is simple, and Jules says she's printing it out for every wall in her house. Love yourself. Love others. Love the world. This is one of those conversations that might just change what you're really searching for. Pour yourself a cup of tea, and settle in. Connect with Dr Tim Sharp (Dr Happy): Website: https://drhappy.com.au/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehappinessinstitute/ If this episode raised anything for you: Lifeline — 13 11 14 (24/7) — https://www.lifeline.org.au Beyond Blue — 1300 22 4636 — https://www.beyondblue.org.au CHAPTERS 00:00 — Introducing Dr Tim Sharp, Australia's Dr Happy 02:27 — Setting the Intention: If This Helps Just One Person 03:20 — What Is Happiness, Really? Why We've Got It Wrong 04:32 — Positive and Negative Emotions: Why None of Them Are Bad 08:47 — The Three to One Ratio, and Why It's Not About the Numbers 09:46 — The Power of Gratitude: Noticing What We Overlook 10:45 — Finding Joy in the Mundane: The School Run and the Everyday 13:14 — Why Do We Feel We Need to Be Excited All the Time? 14:33 — Learning to Sit With Your Own Thoughts 15:22 — Lost and Found: The Story Behind Tim's Latest Book 17:46 — The Beauty of Getting Lost, and Why Failure Is Part of the Path 21:52 — Don't Think About White Polar Bears: Why Fighting Thoughts Fails 24:34 — The RAIN Method: A Practical Way to Handle Hard Emotions 29:21 — The Hardest Part: Tim on Living With Depression 32:04 — The Turning Point That Changed Everything 35:22 — Why We Hit Our Forties and Realise We Need to Reassess 38:07 — Chasing Success, Nice Things, and What Actually Fulfils Us 40:27 — Fifty Years of Research, One Answer: Other People Matter 42:30 — A Practical Happiness Check-In You Can Do Today 43:17 — Are You Choosing Happiness? The Daily Question That Matters 47:20 — Dr Tim's Pearl of Wisdom: Love Yourself, Love Others, Love the World 47:46 — Wrapping Up Tea with Jules Connect with Jules Get Jules' Newsletter – a letter each week with personal anecdotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails and podcast episodes Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Credits Produced by ME Entertainment Producers: @lisajohnston_ , @julessebastian , @Eggoau Sound Engineer, Video, Editor & Music: Mathew Eggleston – @Eggoau Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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A proper heart-to-heart. In this solo episode, Jules goes deep on something she's been thinking about a lot lately: letting go of the things that define us. The stories we carry, the pressure we put on ourselves, and whether the version of success we're chasing was even ours to begin with. Jules opens up about a belief she carried for almost her whole life, that she wasn't smart, formed in year four over a struggle with fractions, and how that single story quietly shaped her decisions, her confidence and the way she walked into rooms for decades. It's a powerful reminder of how the labels we accept about ourselves can become an identity we never actually chose. From there, Jules explores the beliefs so many of us carry without questioning. I'm too emotional. I'm bad with money. I'm behind in life. I'm only valuable when I'm productive. She talks about where these stories come from, how repetition turns them into truth, and the gentle, everyday ways we can start creating evidence against the lie. Asking if whether "having it all" is really the goal, or whether we've confused having it all with doing it all. Because a life that looks full from the outside can still feel empty inside. Success, she reminds us, looks different in every season. Sometimes it's ambition. Sometimes it's healing. Sometimes it's simply resting. This is a warm, gentle, permission-giving episode. Put the phone down, take a breath, and let yourself just be for a little while. CHAPTERS 00:00 — Welcome In: Wherever You Are, This Moment Is Guilt-Free 01:32 — Today's Heart-to-Heart: Letting Go of the Things That Define Us 02:09 — The Question That Changes Everything: What Beliefs Am I Carrying That Aren't True? 03:41 — Smartness Comes in All Kinds of Ways: Rewriting the Story 05:41 — Healing Starts With Awareness: Creating Evidence Against the Lie 06:37 — Jules Gets Honest: The Instagram Scroll That Took Her Out for a Day 08:12 — Spotting the Pattern Behind Anxiety and Sadness 10:21 — Just Because Something Is Normal Doesn't Mean It's Healthy 11:41 — Why Women Are Conditioned to Seek Approval, and the Cost of It 12:44 — Is Having It All Really the Goal? 14:09 — Define Success for Yourself, or the World Will Do It for You 15:09 — Share, Subscribe & Come Say Hi Connect with Jules Get Jules' Newsletter – a letter each week with personal anecdotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails and podcast episodes Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Credits Produced by ME Entertainment Producers: @lisajohnston_ , @julessebastian , @Eggoau Sound Engineer, Video, Editor & Music: Mathew Eggleston – @Eggoau Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Content note: This episode includes discussion of suicide and mental health. Please listen with care. If you need support, Lifeline is available 24/7 on 13 11 14. Some conversations change the way you see everything. In this episode, Jules sits down with Leah Ashton, the founder of Hand in Hand in Ballarat, an organisation dedicated to supporting people experiencing mental health challenges and social isolation. The story behind Hand in Hand is one Leah tells here with extraordinary honesty and courage. It began with a chance conversation on a flight. Then, at the end of 2023, Leah's world fell apart. A phone call in the early hours of the morning. Her 21-year-old son, seven hours away in South Australia. Her husband overseas. What was first thought to be a car accident turned out to be something else entirely, and it was her son's best friend who finally told her the truth. Out of that came a truth she now shares with every parent who will listen. You cannot fix your child. They do not want to be fixed. They want you to be present. Just sit with them, in it. Jules and Leah talk about why mental health does not discriminate, why the conversations we are most afraid to have with our kids are the ones they most want to have, how loneliness and disconnection are quietly hurting communities, and the simple, small ways any of us can reach out to someone who might need it. Connect with Leah Ashton and Hand in Hand: Hand in Hand: https://www.handinhand.org.au/ Sebastian Foundation: https://www.sebastianfoundation.org/ If this episode raised anything for you: Lifeline — 13 11 14 (24/7) — https://www.lifeline.org.au Beyond Blue — 1300 22 4636 — https://www.beyondblue.org.au Kids Helpline — 1800 55 1800 — https://kidshelpline.com.au CHAPTERS 00:00 — Introducing Leah Ashton and the Work of Hand in Hand 01:16 — All the Way From Ballarat: A Community That Rallied 03:16 — A Chance Conversation on a Flight That Started Everything 04:43 — Hand in Hand Begins, and Then the World Falls Apart 05:15 — The Phone Call in the Early Hours of the Morning 06:20 — Forty-Eight Hours in a Hospital, and the Truth From a Best Friend 07:48 — "He Had a Loving Family, a Job, Friends. It Doesn't Discriminate." 10:52 — The Voicemail, and the Longest Twenty Minutes of Her Eldest Son's Life 12:08 — The Ripple Effect: How It Moves Through an Entire Family 14:55 — The Questions That Haunt a Parent: Was There a Reason? Did I Miss Something? 17:44 — "You Can't Fix Everything. Your Child Doesn't Want to Be Fixed." 19:19 — Letting the Whole Family In, and the Phone That Stays on Override 20:32 — The Burning Building: Understanding What That Moment Feels Like 21:42 — Living With the Demons: Why Mental Health Isn't Ever Simply Fixed 23:53 — Turning Pain Into Purpose, and the Cost of Reliving It 26:40 — Putting the Smile Back on the Dial 29:33 — The Talk at the School and the Student Who Ran Across the Room 31:49 — It's Not About Saying the Right Thing. Just Be There. 32:39 — The Stories People Carry, and Why Sharing the Load Matters 34:19 — Feeling Alone? Practical Ways to Build a Community From Nothing 36:03 — The Friday Night Cocktail Hour That Sparked Its Own Communities 37:21 — Why the Person You'd Least Expect Might Be the One Struggling 38:40 — Why a Generation That Can Handle Their Emotions Changes Everything 41:07 — One Thing For Yourself: Forgive Yourself 43:09 — One Thing For Someone Else: Never Assume 43:57 — Leah's Pearl of Wisdom: "Life Doesn't Get Easier, But We Can Be More Honest About It" 45:25 — Wrapping Up Tea with Jules Credits Produced by ME Entertainment Producers: @lisajohnston_ , @julessebastian , @Eggoau Sound Engineer, Video, Editor & Music: Mathew Eggleston – @Eggoau Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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What if your home already knew things about your life that you have never told anyone? In this fascinating episode, Jules sits down with Feng Shui master Kelly McCloskey, one of Australia's leading voices in the ancient art and science of Feng Shui. Kelly left a dream job selling real estate in Melbourne to study this 2,000-year-old practice, a decision so unexpected her own father asked her mother if she had joined a cult. Fifteen years later, she has guided thousands of people to transform their homes, their health, their wealth and their relationships, simply by understanding the energy of the spaces they live in. Jules and Kelly deep dive into what Feng Shui actually is, and what it is not. This is not lucky cats and red ribbons around your taps. Kelly explains the real thing: how the front door, the bedroom, the fridge and even a single open window can be quietly shaping your life, and how one client's jaw hit the floor when Kelly predicted a serious health issue just by reading the energy of his home. His response, how did you know that, might be the most chilling moment of the episode. Along the way you will learn why the artwork behind your bed matters more than you think, how Kelly has manifested everything from a husband to a beach house to an actual kitten, why decluttering is one of the most powerful things you can do for your energy, what to look for when buying a home, and the simple, practical changes any of us can make this week to invite more calm, clarity and abundance into our lives. Connect with Kelly McCloskey: Website: https://kellymccloskey.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kellymccloskey_fengshui/ Link to "Decluttering Episode" with Anita Birges https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-secret-to-a-calm-house-anita-birges/id1468288374?i=1000738117133 CHAPTERS 00:00 — Introducing Feng Shui Master Kelly McCloskey 01:01 — "Is She Going to Know Everything About Me?": Jules' Feng Shui Nerves 02:07 — Why Your Feng Shui Is Different to Your Neighbour's 02:36 — What Feng Shui Actually Is: Wind, Water and the 24 Sectors 03:32 — "How Did You Know That?": The Health Prediction That Stunned a Client 04:26 — What It Means to Be Out of Luck, and Your Power Sector Explained 05:20 — Leaving Real Estate for Feng Shui: "My Dad Asked If I'd Joined a Cult" 06:54 — The Three Lucks: Earth, Heaven and Human 08:18 — Why Some Restaurants Thrive and Others Fail 09:50 — The Houses That Made Her a Believer: Cancer, Separation and Forced Sales 10:33 — Her Own Home: Why Even a Master Lives in a Work in Progress 12:36 — Order and Clutter: Why a Messy Home Blocks Clear Thinking 13:27 — Broken Things and Great Aunt Mary's Artwork: What to Get Rid Of 14:01 — Behind the Bed: The Manifesting Spot That Brought a Husband, Kids and a Kitten 15:17 — Jules Confesses What Is Actually Behind Her Bed 17:31 — Light Up Your Front Door: The Simplest Energy Fix 19:01 — Water, Wealth and Activating the Right Sectors 20:31 — How Everyday Taps, Basins and Toilets Activate Energy 25:08 — Reading a Home Before You Buy: Feng Shui and Property 26:13 — Trusting Your Instinct: Why Some Spaces Just Feel Wrong 30:11 — The Fridge: A Surprising Big Activator in Your Home 31:00 — Red Ribbons in Bali: Why Feng Shui Gets a Bad Rap 32:23 — Classical Feng Shui vs the Western Version 33:19 — You Don't Need to Bulldoze: Small Tweaks, Big Shifts 34:55 — How to Get a Reading With Kelly 39:08 — Cactuses, Pointy Plants and What Not to Put at Your Front Door 40:04 — Guy Takes the Floor: "Be Brutal" 41:23 — Declutter Time: The Final Word 42:04 — Wrapping Up Tea with Jules Connect with Jules Get Jules' Newsletter – a letter each week with personal anecdotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails and podcast episodes Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Credits Produced by ME Entertainment Producers: @lisajohnston_ , @julessebastian , @Eggoau Sound Engineer, Video, Editor & Music: Mathew Eggleston – @Eggoau Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Kate Reeves and We Don't Have Time For This: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katerevz/ Know Thyself Live Show: https://www.wedonthavetimeforthis.com/knowthyself Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/we-dont-have-time-for-this/id1544178687 In this episode, Jules sits down with Kate Reeves, co-founder and co-host of the wildly successful podcast We Don't Have Time For This. Alongside her best friend of more than thirty years, Gemma Peanut, Kate has built one of Australia's most loved podcast communities, turning honest conversations about modern womanhood into sold-out live shows and a thriving business. But behind the laughs is a woman who has navigated real and significant change, including divorce, co-parenting, and rebuilding her life in ways she never expected. Jules and Kate go deep on what it really takes to keep showing up when life does not go to plan. They talk about the vulnerability hangover that comes from sharing your life publicly. Kate opens up honestly about her divorce, the word she made peace with, and the enormous decision to step outside the lines of the life everyone expected her to live. She shares what co-parenting has taught her, the things our children pick up whether we like it or not, and the hope she carries for the kind of relationships they will one day build. There is a beautiful theme running through this conversation about getting quiet in a noisy world, why silence has become the new luxury, and how life speaks to us first in whispers and then in shouts until we finally listen. Kate and Jules also explore the magic of building something with a best friend, the cruelty women can show one another online, why no woman is confident as a baseline, and the single most powerful feeling of all, which is not simply being seen but being truly known. Wise, warm, hilarious and deeply moving, this is a conversation about reinvention, friendship, and giving yourself permission to change. CHAPTERS 00:00 — Intro Kate Reeves of "We Don't Have Time For This" 03:50 — Best Friends Since Eleven: The Origin of Kate and Gemma 06:21 — How the Podcast Was Born Out of Covid and United Mothers 09:34 — The Vulnerability Hangover and Why 40 Means Giving Fewer F*^%$ 15:34 — When the Dads on the Sports Field Have Heard Everything 20:09 — "You Were Married to One": Talking Openly About Her Divorce 22:12 — Finding the Word She Felt Comfy With and the Mountain of the Decision 25:27 — What You Resist Persists: Life Speaks in Whispers Then Shouts 26:53 — Silence Is the New Luxury: Where a Mum Finds Space to Think 29:23 — Co-Parenting, What Kids Witness and What They Pick Up 33:52 — Building a Business With Your Best Friend on a Very Small Team 36:29 — Love What You Do: The Hours, the Hustle and the Why 40:55 — Is It the Truth? The Only Guiding Light Behind Every Episode 41:46 — "This Feels Like Church": The Live Shows and Feeling Known 42:51 — Know Thyself: The Meaning Behind This Year's Show 46:05 — The Mean Instagram DM and How Kate Handled It 49:36 — No Woman Is Confident as a Baseline 53:35 — Stronger as a Duo: Why You Don't Have to Do It Alone 55:02 — Every Seven Years You Become a Whole New Person 56:11 — Goals Are Allowed to Change: Permission to Evolve 58:25 — The Know Thyself Live Show and Wrapping Up Connect with Jules Get Jules' Newsletter – a letter each week with personal anecdotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails and podcast episodes Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Credits Produced by ME Entertainment Producers: @lisajohnston_ , @julessebastian , @Eggoau Sound Engineer, Video, Editor & Music: Mathew Eggleston – @Eggoau Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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What do you do when your whole life falls apart at 50? In this deeply moving and genuinely uplifting episode, Jules sits down with Kylie Jones, the founder of Fifty & Fearless, a platform and movement helping women over 50 rediscover their confidence, identity and purpose. But Kylie's story did not begin with inspiration. It began at rock bottom. In the space of just twelve to fifteen months, Kylie lost both of her parents and was suddenly retrenched from the 30-year career that had defined her. Completely broken and unsure how to even get out of bed each day, she opened her laptop one night and started an anonymous Instagram page. She didn't show her face. She simply began writing the words she needed to hear. Slowly, other women started to find her, and a movement was born. Jules and Kylie talk about what it really means to come home to yourself in midlife, why so many women wear busy as a badge of honour, and how to release the guilt that comes with choosing yourself. They explore why society teaches us to fear ageing, and why Kylie believes the opposite is true, that women become more powerful, clearer and more qualified for life with every passing year. They also dig into the small, doable changes that reconnect you with the things you used to love, the importance of sitting quietly with your own thoughts, and why your next chapter might just be your best one yet. Whether you are approaching 50, already there, or simply navigating a season of change, this conversation is a permission slip to stop shrinking and start living. Connect with Kylie Jones and Fifty & Fearless: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fiftyandfearless/ Website: https://www.fiftyandfearless.com.au/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/fifty-and-fearless-with-kylie-jones/id1829344250 CHAPTERS 00:00 — Introducing Kylie Jones and the Fifty & Fearless Movement 01:38 — "Maybe Midlife Isn't About Starting Over": The Instagram Post That Started It All 03:06 — Rock Bottom: Losing Both Parents and a 30-Year Career in Months 03:41 — The Night She Opened Her Laptop and Started an Anonymous Page 05:15 — When Friends and Family Realised the Page Was Hers 06:43 — Coming Home to Yourself: What It Actually Means 08:11 — The Wheel of Life and Why Women Put Themselves Last 19:42 — Wearing Busy as a Badge of Honour 20:09 — Choosing Me: Releasing the Guilt of Putting Yourself First 24:36 — Why Brands Still Aren't Speaking to Women Over 50 29:33 — Why Are We Taught to Fear Ageing? 33:21 — The Fifty & Fearless Community and the Women Inspiring Each Other 35:53 — It Doesn't Have to Be a Grand Gesture: Start Small 41:11 — Sitting With Your Own Thoughts in a World That Never Stops 44:28 — Overwhelmed by Information: Why We Need to Switch Off 45:36 — Kylie's Advice: Don't Be Scared of What's Next 47:32 — You Are the Most Qualified You Have Ever Been 47:44 — "You Want to Turn 50 Now, Don't You?" 48:06 — Wrapping Up Tea with Jules Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Ten years is a long time. The last time Sam Wood sat down with Jules on Tea with Jules, he was fresh off The Bachelor, newly in love with Snezana, and just beginning to figure out what came next. A lot has happened since then. In this episode, Jules reunites with one of Australia's most trusted voices in health and fitness, Sam Wood, founder of 28 by Sam Wood but before we get to dumbbells and discipline, Sam takes Jules behind the scenes of The Bachelor in a way he admits he has never quite done before. The story of how a gym client wouldn't take no for an answer. The moment he knew it was Snezana, weeks before the show would let him say so. The uncomfortable reality of dating other women on camera when your heart had already decided and what it was really like to go from a kids fitness trainer nobody knew to the most talked-about man in Australia, almost overnight. Then the conversation turns to where Sam is most passionate: your health. He delivers some of the most direct, useful fitness advice Jules has had on the podcast. Why strength training is non-negotiable for women over 40. Why you will not get bulky. Why the goal of how you look eventually gives way to something far more powerful. And why, if you are going through perimenopause or menopause and you are not strength training, you are doing yourself the biggest disservice of your life, his words. Connect with Sam Wood and 28: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samjameswood/ 28 by Sam Wood: https://28bysamwood.com/ 28 Menopause Program: https://28bysamwood.com/menopause/ CHAPTERS 00:06 — Introducing Sam Wood: One of Australia's Most Trusted Voices in Health and Fitness 01:08 — Welcome Back: Ten Years Since Sam Was Last on Tea with Jules 02:00 — Where It All Started: Gecko Kids and Australia's First Kids Gym 04:50 — How a Gym Client Refused to Take No for an Answer and Changed Everything 07:40 — The Boardroom Audition: Thongs, Jeans and the Head of Channel 10 09:30 — "If You Want It, You're It": The Phone Call That Launched Everything 12:00 — The Untold Story: Knowing It Was Snezana Early and Having to Keep Going Anyway 15:00 — The Producers, the Jeopardy and the Pressure to Keep It Interesting 16:00 — Blake's Situation vs Sam's: Why Sam Was Different from Day One 17:44 — The Moment Snezana Could Tell It Was Real 18:26 — Life After the Finale: The First Night Alone in a Cabin in the Blue Mountains 24:15 — "If You Didn't Pick That Single Mum, You Would Have Been the Most Hated Man in Australia" 28:00 — From the Bachelor to Building 28: The First 12 Months and 5,000 Members in 30 Days 32:00 — Progress Not Perfection: The Philosophy Behind 28 and Why It Actually Works 37:15 — Keeping It Real: Why Showing the Messy Side of Life Builds the Deepest Community 41:00 — What It Feels Like When Your Body Stops Responding the Way It Always Has 42:37 — Why Health and Fitness Is the Greatest Gift You Can Give Yourself 44:20 — Why Your Reason to Train Changes As You Get Older and Why That Matters 45:30 — The Non-Negotiable for Women Over 40: Strength Training, Full Stop 47:00 — You Will Not Get Bulky: Setting the Record Straight Once and for All 50:38 — Thank You Sam Wood and Wrapping Up Tea with Jules #TeaWithJules #JulesSebastian #SamWood #28BySamWood #28Menopause #MenopauseSupport #PerimenopauseHelp #StrengthTraining #WomensHealth #FitnessOver40 #HealthAndWellness #TheBachelorAustralia #BachelorSecrets #SnezanaWood #AustralianFitness #FitnessMotivation #MenopauseMovement #WomensWellness #AustralianPodcast #PodcastForMums #TeaWithJulesPodcast #FitnessForWomen #HealthyLiving #WellbeingPodcast #ProgressNotPerfection #SayYes #MindsetMatters #NewEpisode #FitnessInspiration #RealTalk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not intended as legal advice. Please seek independent legal advice for your individual circumstances. Separation and divorce are topics most of us only talk about in hushed tones, or not at all. But what if the conversation could actually help? Whether you're happily married, quietly struggling, or somewhere in the middle of the hardest decision of your life, this episode is for you. Jules sits down with Gabriella Pomare, a Sydney-based family lawyer, author, and founder of The Collaborative Co-Parent, a platform dedicated to helping separated families move through co-parenting with more compassion, clarity and grace. What makes Gabriella different from most lawyers? She's been through it herself. With a one-year-old at home and a career built on guiding others through divorce, she navigated her own separation and came out the other side with a perspective that is equal parts honest, practical and deeply human. In this conversation, Jules and Gabriella talk about why marriages quietly unravel long before anyone says a word, the dangerous idea of staying for the kids, how to protect your children through the hardest kind of change, what to do when your ex simply won't cooperate, and why in Gabriella's words, it's not a broken family. This is not a conversation about failure. It's a conversation about rebuilding. Connect with Gabriella: 🌐 Website: https://gabriellapomare.com 🎙 Podcast "Before It Break with Gabriella Pomare" https://gabriellapomare.com/podcast 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegabriellapomare/ CHAPTERS 00:00 — Introduction & Disclaimer 01:00 — Welcome: What Gabriella Wants You to Take From Today 02:50 — Why She Chose Family Law - and What Changed When It Got Personal 06:10 — Why Every Marriage and Divorce is Different: No Cookie-Cutter Answers 07:00 — The Silent Divorce: When Couples Stop Fighting and What That Really Means 08:30 — Communication is Everything - How to Have the Conversations You're Avoiding 14:00 — Is Divorce Failure? Reframing the Stigma 16:00 — "It's Not a Broken Family" - How You Do the Divorce Changes Everything 18:20 — Do You Need a Lawyer? The Practical First Steps After the Decision is Made 20:10 — The Danger of Suffering in Silence - and What Good Friends Can Do 25:00 — Putting Your Kids First: What That Actually Means in Practice 27:30 — Children Didn't Choose This: How to Help Them Feel Safe and Loved 29:00 — One Thing You Can Do This Week for Your Kids 31:30 — Staying for the Kids: When It Helps and When It Harms 32:50 — When Your Ex Won't Play Nice: Setting Limits with a High-Conflict Co-Parent 36:00 — The Path Through the Mud: Healing, Grief and Getting Unstuck 37:00 — Silver Linings: The Unexpected Positives for Kids and Parents After Separation 40:00 — What to Do If You're Feeling Lost Right Now 42:30 — Final Words: You Are Not a Failure. You Get a Do-Over. HASHTAGS #TeaWithJules #JulesSebastian #GabriellaPomare #DivorceAdvice #SeparationSupport #CoParenting #TheCollaborativeCoParent #BeforeItBreaks #FamilyLaw #MarriageAdvice #DivorceIsNotFailure #HealthyDivorce #CoParentingTips #SingleMum #BlendedFamily #RelationshipAdvice #WomensPodcast #AustralianPodcast #MumPodcast #HealingJourney #Rebuilding #MentalHealthMatters #LifeAfterDivorce #FamilyFirst #KidsAndDivorce #PodcastForWomen #Empowerment #NewChapter #TeaWithJulesPodcast #AusPodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Jules Sebastian is back! A new room, new era, and the story she's been waiting to tell. In this first episode of a brand new chapter of Tea with Jules, Jules sits down with her manager and friend Lisa Johnson to finally speak openly and honestly about one of the biggest moments of her family's year: her son Archie joining his father Guy Sebastian on tour and the extraordinary journey that led to a standing ovation in a packed arena. Jules shares what it felt like to watch Archie's talent quietly develop over years. The emotional weight of playing that unfinished song to her father in hospital. The conversations that convinced Archie to say yes. The moment she came outside herself, watching him on the big screen. And the pride in Archie, in Hudson, in Guy, and in this season of life as a family. This is also an episode about what tour life really looks like from the inside: the unseen stamina of an artist like Guy, the joy of bringing kids to the Brisbane Children's Hospital. Jules also reflects on what this podcast means to her personally, why she made it, what it's given her, and where it's going next. Pour yourself some tea, let's begin! CHAPTERS 00:00 — Welcome to the New Era: A New Room, A New Chapter 01:19 — What This Podcast Has Meant: Jules Reflects on Personal Growth 05:51 — Archie's Origin Story: No Lessons, Just a Gift 06:52 — The Mother's Day Song, the Studio Sessions & Hearing the Talent Grow 11:03 — Musical Theatre, the Stage Bug & Chitty Chitty Bang Bang 11:45 — The Song Written for Grandpa - Played in Hospital, Performed at the Wake 16:07 — A Standing Ovation for 'Go the Distance' - the Bug Bites Harder 17:09 — Guy Watches the Show and Says 'He's Ready' 17:37 — The Big Ask - and Archie's Very Firm 'No' 19:42 — The Conversation That Changed His Mind 20:27 — Newcastle: The Sound Check, the In-Ears & First Look at the Stage 21:07 — The Performance: Singing Whitney Houston with Guy on Stage 21:49 — Not a Dry Eye in the House - the First Standing Ovation 22:15 — How Guy Supported Archie on Stage and Let Him Have His Moment 25:32 — Hudson's Moment: The Brother Who Handled It Like a Boss 28:29 — Kids on the Road: What Tour Teaches That School Can't 31:46 — The Unseen Stamina of a Performer - What We Don't See 34:16 — Guy in the Crowd & Daryl Braithwaite 35:13 — The Girl Whose Hair Had Grown Back 36:07 — Brisbane Children's Hospital: The Moment That Put Everything in Perspective 38:17 — Tour Comedown, Reflections & What's Coming Next on Tea with Jules Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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In this solo episode, Jules brings it back to basics. Instead of chasing big routines or life reinventions, she shares five small, practical resets you can do at any point in your day to feel just a little bit better, because sometimes something small is all you need to shift everything. This episode is a reminder that you don’t need to change your whole life to change your state of mind. In This Episode, We Cover: Why overcorrecting when you feel off can actually make things worse The power of small, immediate actions vs. big life changes How your environment, body, and decisions impact your mood Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails, podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
32 min
In Part 2 with Dr Haley Watson, we dive deeper into the emotional world of teenagers - covering loneliness, low motivation, depression, and body image. We unpack why loneliness can feel so intense, how to support teens who seem flat or withdrawn, and why motivation often isn’t about “laziness” at all. Dr Haley shares practical tools to help both parents and teens navigate these challenges with more understanding and less pressure. We also explore body image, perfectionism, and the powerful reminder that how we feel about ourselves isn’t fixed by how we look. This episode is honest, practical, and full of perspective for anyone supporting a teen or remembering what it felt like to be one. What we cover: Loneliness and feeling excluded Low motivation vs depression “Do better to feel better” Small, practical ways to support teens Body image and redefining beauty Key Takeaway - You are not the problem - the measurement is. Connect with Dr Hayley and Open Parachute Open Parachute – in-school youth mental health program Follow Open Parachute on Instagram Follow Dr Hayley on Instagram Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails, podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
55 min
In this episode of Tea with Jules, Jules sits down with clinical psychologist Dr Hayley Watson, founder of Open Parachute - an in-school mental health program helping young= people build the skills they need to navigate emotions, anxiety and pressure. Through the partnership with The Sebastian Foundation, Open Parachute has currently reached over 240,000 students across 340 schools. To listen to a previous episode of Tea with Jules with Dr Hayley, click here . Dr Hayley spends her days speaking directly with teenagers, educators and parents to understand what young people are really going through. In this conversation, she shares practical tools for families navigating stress, school avoidance, perfectionism and the everyday challenges of raising teens. This episode is designed for both parents and teenagers - offering simple language, honest conversations and strategies that can actually be used in real life. Together, Jules and Dr Hayley explore how anxiety really works in the brain, why avoidance can make problems feel bigger, and how small steps can help teens build confidence and resilience. This is part 1 of a 2-part conversation; more to come next week. Connect with Dr Hayley and Open Parachute Open Parachute – in-school youth mental health program Follow Open Parachute on Instagram Follow Dr Hayley on Instagram Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails, podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
48 min
This week’s episode is a real-time life update. School term is back, routines are out the window, the gym schedule has collapsed, the Coke Zero is flowing and the lawyer in Jules head has taken up permanent residence. If you’ve ever gone from “I am thriving” to “I am unravelling” in the space of two weeks - this one’s for you. Lisa and I talk honestly about what happens when your carefully built habits get disrupted, how hormonal weeks can make everything feel heavier than it actually is, and why sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is surrender instead of spiral. There’s crying. There’s chips. There’s Beyoncé. There’s a saxophone wedding story that will wreck you in the best way. If you’ve been feeling off-kilter, emotional, stretched or like you’ve let yourself down you haven’t. You’re human. And you’re not alone. Hit follow if you’re loving Tea with Jules - your support means the world. Let’s keep trying to life together. Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails, podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
1 hr 9 min
In this powerful and deeply practical episode of Tea with Jules, I’m joined by one of Australia’s most trusted parenting voices, Maggie Dent - educator, bestselling author, and fierce advocate for raising emotionally healthy kids. We talk about the realities of parenting tweens and teens today - the phones, the parties, the pornography, the pressure - and how to stay grounded when everything feels overwhelming. This conversation is honest. It’s confronting at times. It’s also incredibly reassuring. If you’re in the trenches of parenting adolescents (or heading there soon), this one is for you. In This Episode, We Cover: Phones & Social Media Pornography & Sexual Development Alcohol & Parties Grief, Loss & Emotional Depth Consequences vs Punishment Body Image & Self-Worth If it resonated, share it with a friend who’s navigating the teenage years too. And as always, teammates - we’ve got this. Content Note: This episode discusses sensitive topics including pornography, alcohol, grief and teen mental health. The information shared is general in nature and not a substitute for medical, psychological or legal advice. Please seek support from a qualified professional if needed. Connect with Maggie Maggie’s Website Follow Maggie on Instagram Watch Maggie on YouTube Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails, podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
23 min
Have you ever waited to feel ready and realised that feeling never actually comes? In this solo episode, Jules explores why readiness isn’t a feeling it’s a decision. If you’re waiting for more confidence, more clarity, or more permission, this conversation is your gentle nudge forward. In this episode Why “I’m not ready” is often just fear in a respectable outfit How to start as the version of you that exists today The difference between failing and quitting too early Why discomfort isn’t danger it’s expansion How to trust yourself without needing to trust the outcome You don’t need to be more anything. You just need to be willing to try, to learn, to look silly, and to take one step. Maybe this episode is your sign. Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails, podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
49 min
In this episode of Tea with Jules, Jules is joined by Lisa Johnston for a very honest, very relatable conversation about the emotional whiplash of school returning. Routines, exhaustion, expectations, and the quiet pressure parents put on themselves (and their kids) without even realising it. There’s laughter, vulnerability, a few parenting confessions that may sting a little, and plenty of moments where you’ll think, oh wow.. that’s me. This episode is for anyone who’s navigating school drop-offs, parenting guilt, changing seasons of family life, or trying to learn how to guide their kids without controlling them. Because sometimes the hardest part of parenting is learning when to hold on and when to let go. Enjoy x Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails, podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
48 min
In this episode of Tea with Jules, Jules sits down with one of Australia’s leading neuroscientists, Dr Lila Landowski, for a fascinating, eye-opening conversation about what’s really going on inside our brains - and how modern life, social media, habits, multitasking, and AI are quietly reshaping the way we think, feel, focus, and connect. If you’ve ever wondered why your attention feels scattered, why habits are so hard to stick to, or why scrolling leaves you exhausted but oddly unsatisfied - this episode will make you feel deeply seen (and a lot more informed). Together, Jules and Lila break down complex brain science into practical, relatable moments. What you'll learn in this episode: Why your brain craves shortcuts and how habits are actually formed at neurological level The real reason motivation drops off when there’s no immediate reward How dopamine works as both a reward and a habit-builder Why multitasking feels productive but is actually draining your brain’s energy How social media is designed to fragment attention and keep you scrolling Why face-to-face connection gives us brain chemicals that texting never can What boredom actually does for creativity (and why kids need it) How exercise, silence, and green space physically improve brain health Why AI worries neuroscientists and how to use it without outsourcing your thinking What happens to the brain as we age (and how to protect it) The powerful science of belief effects and how mindset literally changes physiology Disclaimer: This podcast episode is intended for general information and personal reflection only. The content shared is not a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or mental health advice. If you are experiencing ongoing distress or mental health concerns, please seek support from a qualified healthcare professional. Connect with Dr Lila Landowski Dr Lila's Instagram Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails, podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
28 min
In this solo episode, Jules explores the 7 Signs you’re ready for a new chapter of life. It’s not the drastic or dramatic changes but a subtle shift inward that is pulling us towards change. From craving solitude and decluttering everything, to feeling exhausted in a way rest can’t fix, Jules unpacks 7 powerful signs that something new is emerging. Grounded in psychology, neuroscience, and lived experience, this episode is a reassuring reminder that you’re not lost - you’re evolving. In This Episode, We Explore: Why the “in-between” phase of life often feels confusing but is deeply meaningful How exhaustion can be feedback, not failure Why craving solitude isn’t antisocial - it’s neurological The psychology behind decluttering during times of transition Why old goals can lose their spark (and why that’s okay) Learning to say no without over-explaining Trusting yourself without needing clarity first Disclaimer: This podcast episode is intended for general information and personal reflection only. The content shared is not a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or mental health advice. If you are experiencing ongoing distress or mental health concerns, please seek support from a qualified healthcare professional. Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails, podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
1 hr 8 min
Welcome back, Tea-mates and welcome to the very first episode of Tea with Jules for 2026! This one is less “new year, new me” and more “this new year isn’t starting till February.” Jules is joined on the couch by the always-brilliant Lisa Johnston for a free-flowing, hilariously honest catch-up covering everything from mum-life realities and habit building, to manifesting, journaling, Taylor Swift, playdate pressure, and why January absolutely does not count as a fresh start for parents. This episode is pure banter, comic relief, and gentle reflection - the kind you listen to while driving, folding laundry, getting your steps or hiding in the pantry with a protein bar. ☕ In This Episode, We Chat About: Why January isn’t the real New Year for mums (February starters only, thanks) School holidays, survival mode, and the chaos of the last two weeks Taylor Swift, the Eras Tour documentary, and behind-the-scenes tour life Guy Sebastian’s upcoming tour - huddles, fairy lights, and hosting anxiety Manifesting vs “setting intentions” (and why the word makes some of us twitch) Journals, habit trackers, affirmation cards and the fear of being judged for all of them Remembering who you were before life got loud Protein peer pressure, fitness habits, and why it actually works (even when you’re sick of eggs) Play dates, snack pressure, being the “fun mum,” and ordering Uber Eats instead Christmas trees, Easter in January, and Bunnings trips That feeling of coming out of the mud and sensing something good is coming Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails, podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
1 hr 18 min
In this deeply moving and powerfully honest episode of Tea with Jules, Jules sits down with writer, speaker, content creator, podcast host, and fierce LGBTQIA+ advocate Sean Szeps. What begins as a conversation about parenting quickly expands into something much bigger: identity, belonging, empathy, religion, raising kind humans, finding love, rewriting the script of your life, and the courage it takes to live as your truest self. Sean shares his extraordinary journey - from growing up in a deeply religious community in the U.S., to navigating his sexuality alone as a child, to eventually coming out and finding acceptance, love, marriage, and fatherhood. He opens up about internalised shame, choosing between two impossible futures, the moment the world shifted and parenthood became a real possibility, and the emotional rollercoaster of raising twins through surrogacy. Jules and Sean dive into otherness - the feeling of being different and how every one of us, regardless of sexuality, gender, or background, has experienced moments of being the “only one in the room.” Together they explore how parents can prepare children to meet difference with empathy, curiosity, and compassion. This episode is emotional, uplifting, raw, hilarious, and full of wisdom, the kind that deepens your understanding of yourself and the world around you. Tea-mates buckle up. We go there. Connect with Sean Instagram Not Like Other Dad’s - Book Connect with Jules Get Jules’ Newsletter – a letter each week with personal antidotes, recipes, fashion, cocktails podcast episodes Jules Best Selling Book – Tea & Honestly Watch Tea with Jules on YouTube Follow Jules on Instagram Follow Tea with Jules on Instagram Follow Jules on TikTok Subscribe to Tea with Jules the Podcast in iTunes Credits: Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.