Becoming Reborn is a podcast dedicated to inspiring parents and ambitious individuals who are striving to balance the demands of fitness, career, and health while being present for their families. We explore real stories, mindset shifts, and actionable strategies to help our listeners navigate the challenges of modern life. By sharing lessons learned through resilience, adversity, and personal growth, we aim to empower parents to lead fulfilling lives while staying grounded in their values and prioritising family.
If your children were asked to describe you, what would they say? In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat explore one of the most important roles we'll ever have, being a parent, and the responsibility that comes with leading by example. Pat shares a powerful statistic showing that children with one fit and healthy parent are around three times more likely to grow up fit and healthy themselves. When both parents live a healthy lifestyle, that increases to nine times more likely. It's a reminder that our habits have a lasting impact on the people watching us every day. Trav expands on that idea by explaining that looking after your health is about far more than your appearance. The discipline, consistency, and confidence built through training often flow into every other area of life, from your relationships and parenting to your career and business. When you take care of yourself, you put yourself in a better position to show up for the people who matter most. Throughout the episode, the boys discuss why children learn more from what they see than what they're told, how small daily habits shape the next generation, and why becoming healthier isn't just an investment in yourself, it's an investment in your family. Whether you're already a parent or hope to become one someday, this conversation will challenge you to think about the legacy you're creating through your everyday actions.
Why does motivation seem to disappear the moment the weather gets colder? In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat tackle one of the biggest challenges people face every winter: staying consistent when it's cold, dark, and far easier to stay on the couch. Pat shares a perspective that might not be for everyone. He believes we've become too comfortable. As a society, we've grown so used to convenience that even small amounts of discomfort can stop us from doing the things we know we should. The boys reflect on how previous generations simply got on with life. They didn't wait for perfect conditions or rely on feeling motivated. They did what needed to be done, regardless of the weather or how they felt. Throughout the episode, they discuss the difference between motivation and discipline, why winter is actually the best time to build lasting habits, and practical ways to keep showing up when you don't feel like it. Whether you agree with Pat's take or not, this conversation will challenge the way you think about comfort, consistency, and what it really takes to create lasting change.
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat sit down for an honest conversation about balancing the demands of training, family life, business, and being present through every season of life. Pat shares a personal story from when his youngest was just six months old. Like many new parents, he was surviving on broken sleep, waking every couple of hours and wishing for just one uninterrupted night of rest. Then he stopped and thought back to the day his wife showed him the ultrasound. He remembered the excitement, the gratitude, and how badly he wanted to become a dad. That moment gave him a completely different perspective. He realised that while he was complaining about sleepless nights, there are people who would give anything to experience those same moments with a child of their own. The boys explore how easy it is to lose perspective when life gets busy, and why gratitude often comes from remembering the things we once hoped and prayed for. This episode is a reminder that every season brings its own challenges, but it also brings moments that one day we'll look back on and wish we had appreciated just a little more.
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat dive into one of the biggest differences between people who feel in control of their week and those who constantly feel like they're chasing it. The boys explain that winning the week isn't something that happens by chance—it happens by design. Success doesn't come from hoping the week goes well. It comes from planning for it before it even begins. Trav shares his weekly planning process, starting with the key categories that matter most. By identifying the important areas of life and intentionally scheduling them first, he creates clarity, focus, and direction for the days ahead. Pat discusses why so many people spend their lives reacting to their calendar instead of designing it. Without a plan, it's easy to let emails, meetings, and unexpected requests dictate your time. When you don't decide what's important first, someone else will. Trav also highlights a simple but powerful lesson: if you don't set aside dedicated time to plan your week, it probably won't happen. The habit of planning is just as important as the plan itself. This episode is packed with practical strategies to help you become more intentional with your time, reduce overwhelm, and create a week that aligns with your goals instead of reacting to everyone else's priorities.
What would you do differently if you had the chance to start from scratch? In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat reflect on the biggest lessons they've learned throughout their journey and the advice they'd give themselves if they were starting again today. Pat shares why he would document everything. Not just the wins, but the failures, setbacks and difficult moments too. In a world dominated by highlight reels, authenticity stands out. Taking ownership, being vulnerable, and sharing the lessons behind the losses builds trust and creates a genuine connection with people. Trav explains why the first thing he would do is write down the vision. A clear vision becomes your north star, guiding every decision you make. It gives your team direction, creates alignment, and helps everyone understand how their role contributes to the bigger picture. This episode is packed with practical advice for business owners, leaders, creators, and anyone starting something new. It's a reminder that success isn't just about working harder—it's about building with clarity, purpose, and authenticity from day one.
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat challenge listeners to take a closer look at the habits, behaviours, and excuses they've accepted as normal, and ask one simple question: What are you tolerating? The boys discuss how the standards we set for ourselves ultimately shape the life we live. Whether it's skipping training, constantly feeling tired, or putting our health last, what we continue to tolerate becomes our new normal. Pat shares a powerful example of Barack Obama, who prioritised an hour of exercise every day despite having one of the busiest jobs in the world. It's a reminder that making time for your health is less about having time and more about making it a priority. The conversation also explores the growing issue of poor sleep. Trav and Pat discuss why so many people believe feeling exhausted is just part of life, when in reality, long term sleep deprivation has simply become their baseline. They also share practical habits that have helped them improve their own recovery, including Pat's rule of keeping the TV out of the bedroom to create an environment that promotes qualit
Starting your fitness journey can be intimidating, especially if you've never stepped into a gym before. In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat break down the biggest mental barriers that stop people from getting started and how to overcome them. One of the most common fears is the thought, "What will everyone think of me?" The boys explain why this fear is far more common than reality. Most people in the gym are focused on themselves, their own workout, and their own goals, not judging anyone else. Trav and Pat also remind listeners that every confident gym member was once a beginner. Everyone has had a first session. Everyone has felt nervous. Everyone has walked through the doors wondering if they belonged. This episode is all about building the confidence to take that first step, letting go of the fear of being judged, and understanding that consistency always starts with one session. If you've been waiting for the right time to start, this conversation might be exactly what you need to hear.
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, the boys tackle a question that would have sounded crazy a few years ago — are gym challenges dead? They reflect on how much the fitness industry has changed. There was a time when transformation challenges, fat loss competitions, and body composition goals were the main reason people joined gyms. Challenges were a huge part of the fitness journey for many people and played a major role in building motivation and accountability. Today, the landscape looks very different. More people are training for external events and performance based goals. From HYROX and running events to endurance challenges and obstacle races, the focus has shifted from simply looking better to becoming more capable. The conversation also explores a more controversial topic — the rise of peptides, GLP 1 medications, Ozempic and similar treatments. The boys discuss how these developments may be changing the way people approach weight loss, body composition, and fitness, and what that could mean for the future of the industry. This episode is an honest discussion about where fitness has come from, where it's heading, and whether traditional gym challenges still have a place in today's world.
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Pat Carr sits down with Reborn's Head of Programming, Dan Wagstaff, to discuss one of the toughest challenges any athlete or active person can face — injury. Currently recovering from a ruptured Achilles, Dan shares the physical and mental challenges that come with having your routine disrupted and being forced to slow down. For someone who has spent years helping others improve their performance, it has been a powerful reminder of the importance of patience, perspective, and resilience. The boys dive into how injuries can impact identity, motivation, and mental health, while exploring practical ways to stay positive and focused throughout the recovery process. They discuss the importance of controlling what you can control, finding opportunities for growth during setbacks, and maintaining a long term perspective when progress feels slow. Whether you're currently injured, returning from a setback, or simply want to build a stronger mindset, this episode provides valuable insights into navigating adversity and coming back stronger. Because sometimes the greatest growth doesn't happen when everything is going well — it happens when you're forced to adapt.
In this episode of Becoming Reborn , the boys dive into a powerful conversation around parenting, presence, and the things our kids remember most They reflect on how children are always watching — not the big achievements or surface level wins, but the little things we do every day Your kids probably won't remember your business turnover Your body fat percentage Or how busy your schedule was But they will remember how you made them feel They'll remember how you treated people How you responded when things got hard How you carried yourself in difficult moments And what "normal" looked like inside your home This episode is a reminder that leadership starts in the household, and the example we set every day leaves a lasting impact far beyond what we realise A real conversation on fatherhood, values, and the legacy we create through our actions
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, the boys switch gears and dive into a lighter, banter filled conversation about all the unofficial gym rules they wish actually existed From people sitting on machines scrolling their phones, to not reracking weights, to asking what the session is right after the coach explained it — nothing was off limits Trav and Pat share the funny, frustrating and painfully relatable moments that happen inside gyms every single day, while also unpacking the culture and respect that make a training environment great This episode is full of laughs, gym stories, and the little things every gym goer will recognise immediately If you've ever been annoyed by gym etiquette or caught yourself doing one of these things, this one's for you 😂
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav sit down with Nu Brown and Brad Takairangi for a heartfelt conversation about fatherhood, culture, family values and the example they want to set for the next generation The boys open up about what it means to grow up in Polynesian culture and the importance of leading through love, presence and support Nu shares the values he wants to carry forward into his future family one day, with the biggest one being simple — love. The way you treat people, support your family and show up consistently matters more than anything else Brad reflects on the legacy he wants to leave for his kids. More than achievements or success, he wants them to remember him as someone who loved them deeply and always supported them no matter what This episode is raw, emotional and full of perspective on culture, family and what truly matters at the end of the day
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat unpack a truth that most people overlook — the boring stuff is usually what creates the biggest results They dive into the power of routine, structure, and consistency, and why success is rarely built on motivation or big moments. Instead, it comes from the small things you do over and over again Trav shares how creating structure and frameworks in your life actually gives you more freedom, not less. When you clearly define what you want to achieve and write it down, you remove uncertainty and gain focus. Instead of wasting energy constantly making decisions, you create a system that keeps you moving forward The boys talk about why so many people avoid the basics because they seem too simple, when in reality those basics are what separate people who stay stuck from people who make real progress This episode is a reminder that discipline, routines, and boring repetition are often the key to long term success in fitness, business, and life
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat break down one of the most common challenges people face — feeling like there's never enough time They challenge the idea that the solution is more hours in the day, and instead highlight that the real issue is a lack of structure Trav shares a real life example with Chloe, showing how even in a busy household with constant demands, it's not about having more time — it's about how that time is organised. Without structure, everything feels rushed, reactive and overwhelming. With structure, you create clarity, control and consistency The boys unpack how building simple routines, planning your week, and removing unnecessary decisions can completely change the way you approach your day This episode is about taking ownership of your time, creating systems that support your lifestyle, and understanding that progress comes from structure, not more hours
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat break down a mindset shift that can change everything — stop negotiating with yourself They explore how so many people delay progress by constantly going back and forth on decisions. The internal conversation of "maybe later", "just this once", or "I'll start tomorrow" slowly chips away at consistency and results Pat explains that every decision you make has an outcome. It can move you closer to where you want to be, or further away from it. And the reality is, no one else is controlling that direction — you are This episode is about taking ownership, removing the hesitation, and understanding that your future is shaped by the decisions you make in the moment No one else can do it for you No one else can change it for you When you stop negotiating and start committing, everything shifts
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat step away from performance, business, and training to talk about something deeper — gratitude They reflect on the moments and people that truly matter, and how easy it is to overlook them in the day to day Trav opens up about his relationship with Chloe and how a time apart made him realise how much he had taken for granted. That experience shifted his perspective and reminded him to value what's right in front of him Pat shares a simple but powerful moment with his eldest son, Cooper. A reminder that it's often the small, everyday experiences that leave the biggest impact This episode is about slowing down, being present, and recognising what actually matters beyond goals, success, and external wins
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Dan Wagstaff dive into one of the most frustrating parts of any fitness journey — hitting a plateau They unpack why progress can stall, even when you feel like you're doing everything right, and what actually needs to change to start moving forward again Dan shares the often overlooked importance of rest and recovery, explaining that it's not a step backwards, but a critical part of growth. Without it, performance drops, motivation fades, and results slow down The conversation also highlights the value of understanding your training. Every session is designed with intention, built from years of experience and knowledge. When you follow the program properly and understand why you're doing what you're doing, you give yourself the best chance to progress This episode is about trusting the process, respecting recovery, and taking a smarter approach to training so you can break through plateaus and keep improving
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav sit down with Head of Programming Dan Wagstaff to unpack what it really takes to get results in fitness, health and business Dan shares his perspective on high performance and why it's not reserved for leaders, athletes or people in positions of authority. It's a mindset anyone can adopt. Wanting more for yourself, holding a higher standard, and consistently acting on it is what separates those who progress from those who stay stuck The conversation then shifts into the reality of growth, especially in business. Trav breaks down one of the biggest misconceptions people have — expecting more wins than losses. In truth, progress comes through setbacks. Every loss is a lesson, every mistake is feedback, and each step forward is built on what you've learned along the way This episode is a reminder that success isn't clean or linear. It's built through consistency, resilience, and the ability to keep moving forward when things don't go to plan If you're chasing better results in any area of your life, this one will give you the mindset and perspective to stay in the game
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav, Pat and Dan reflect on a powerful milestone — 10 years of sobriety Trav opens up about what the last decade has really meant to him. When people ask what he's achieved, his answer is simple. It's not about accolades or wins. It's about becoming someone who no longer causes pain or problems, and showing up as a better man each day Pat shares his perspective on the impact Trav has had, not just within Reborn, but on the people around him. From building a life he loves to creating an environment where others can grow, the ripple effect has been massive Dan Wagstaff adds a unique point of view. Having only been around Trav for just over a year, he reflects on the time he closed his own gym and was offered a role at Reborn — and turned it down. At the time, his perception was different because he didn't truly know Trav. Now, after witnessing his growth and evolution as a leader, Dan speaks on how much that's changed, and why he now loves being part of the team This episode is about growth, second chances, leadership, and the long term impact of choosing a better path
In this episode of Becoming Reborn, Trav and Pat unpack how the fitness industry has shifted over time and what that means for the way we train today They reflect on the old approach to fitness, where most people were driven by aesthetics and focused purely on changing how they looked. While that still plays a role, the conversation has evolved Now, more people are training for something deeper Better health More energy Longevity And the ability to show up in life at a higher level Trav and Pat break down why this shift matters and how training with purpose leads to more sustainable results over time. When you focus on how you feel and how you function, the physical changes become a natural by product This episode is a reminder to zoom out, rethink your "why", and build a relationship with training that lasts for life
