The I Have ADHD Podcast is a clear, concise, and FUN podcast for adults with ADHD. Listen to learn about how ADHD impacts every area of your life from the boardroom to the bedroom...and how you can begin to overcome your symptoms by accepting who you are, flaws and all. Host Kristen Carder is a dually certified coach who has supported thousands of people with ADHD worldwide. Kristen's extensive experience working with ADHDers began in 2012, and she now leads a global community of adults with ADHD in her coaching program, FOCUSED. ****OBVIOUSLY, the content in this podcast is not meant to be a substitute for medical advice. Kristen Carder is not a medical professional.
426 Your Dream Isn't Too Big. You're Just Avoiding This One Feeling.
42 min
Preorder You're Not in Trouble: USA or International What if the biggest obstacle to your dream isn't ADHD? What if it's your unwillingness to feel uncomfortable? In this episode, I share the behind-the-scenes story of writing You're Not in Trouble and what it taught me about pursuing an "impossible goal" with ADHD. From years of waiting for the right season to months of writing through boredom, fear, vulnerability, and self-doubt, I learned that accomplishing meaningful goals isn't about finding motivation. It's about building enough support to tolerate discomfort. We'll explore the difference between waiting because you're afraid and waiting because you genuinely don't have the capacity yet, why immediate gratification gets in the way of long-term goals, and how self-compassion, not self-criticism, is what helps us follow through. If you've been carrying a dream that feels impossible, this episode will help you identify what's really standing in your way and encourage you to take one small step toward becoming the person who can accomplish it. In this episode, you'll learn: Why discomfort is the price of meaningful goals The difference between fear and lack of capacity How to support yourself instead of shaming yourself into action Why your impossible goal may be closer than you think Preorder You're Not in Trouble: USA or International Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED ! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
425 BITESIZE | Real or Perceived, Rejection Hurts the Same (Here's Why)
12 min
Preorder You're Not in Trouble: USA or International Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #364: From Walking on Eggshells to Walking in Self-Trust Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
424 The Best Episode I Never Planned (An ADHD Pivot)
42 min
Well… this episode wasn't the one I planned. My guest was a no-show, so we pivoted! Instead, I pulled a few listener voicemails and answered your questions live—and honestly, I loved how it turned out. We talk about what to do when you're stuck in an emotional spiral and can't seem to move forward, how to navigate a relationship when your partner refuses ADHD treatment, and why finding the motivation to clean can feel nearly impossible (and what actually helps). If you've ever felt emotionally overwhelmed, frustrated in your relationships, or completely frozen by everyday tasks, this episode is for you. Thanks for calling in. Keep those voicemails coming! Call 833.281.2343 and leave me a message. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED ! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
423 Why Weekends Feel So Hard When You Have ADHD
17 min
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #392: The Weekend Trap: Why Free Time Sends ADHD Brains Into A Spiral Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
422 You're Not In Trouble | Book Launch Party!!
45 min
Preorder wherever you buy your books! USA preorder here . International preorder here. In this special episode, I'm officially introducing my book, You're Not In Trouble: The ADHD Guide to Building Healthy, Connected Relationships . You'll get the very first look at the cover, title, table of contents, and everything you need to know about preordering the book. I also share why I wrote it, who it's for, and what I hope it offers every ADHDer who has ever wondered, "Why do relationships feel so hard?" Whether you joined us live or you're listening later, I'm so grateful you're here to celebrate this milestone with me. Preorder the book now!! Thank you for being part of this community and for celebrating with me. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED ! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
421 BITESIZE | ADHD on the Weekend: DO NOT TAKE MED BREAKS (unless you have to)
15 min
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #392: The Weekend Trap: Why Free Time Sends ADHD Brains Into A Spiral Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
420 I Cured My ADHD Revenge Bedtime Procrastination. Here's Exactly How.
51 min
Do you stay up way past bedtime, even when you're exhausted, because it's the only time that finally feels like yours? That's called revenge bedtime procrastination, and for many adults with ADHD, it isn't about poor discipline. It's about desperately trying to reclaim autonomy after a day full of demands. In this episode, I share the surprising mindset shift that completely changed my relationship with bedtime. Instead of trying to force myself to sleep earlier, I stopped making bedtime the only time I belonged to myself. We'll talk about why ADHD brains crave freedom at night, how boundaries and transitions changed everything, why I made my weeknights intentionally boring, and the powerful decision to let the clock—not my to-do list—decide when work is over. If your favorite part of the day is when everyone else is asleep, this episode might change the way you think about your evenings—and your life. Because maybe you aren't addicted to staying up. Maybe you're starving for freedom Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED ! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
419 BITESIZE |The Only Way To Be Consistent With ADHD
15 min
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #384: Do It the Easy Way (The Hard Way Is Keeping You Stuck) Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
418 Tired of Feeling Tired? How to Rest When You Have ADHD
42 min
Rest shouldn't be so hard... and yet, for so many adults with ADHD, it is. If you've ever felt guilty for slowing down, found yourself scrolling instead of actually recharging, or wondered why you still feel exhausted after a "day off," this episode is for you. You'll learn why rest can feel so uncomfortable with ADHD, the different types of rest your brain and body actually need, and practical, neurodivergent-friendly ways to recover without pressure or perfection. If you're tired of feeling tired, this episode is for you. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED ! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
417 BITESIZE | Take the Path of Least Resistance (How to Accommodate Yourself to Get Sh*t Done).
19 min
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #384: Do It The Easy Way (The Hard Way Is Keeping You Stuck) Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
416 ADHD and Money: In This Economy?!
46 min
Money can feel hard when you have ADHD, especially these days. In this FOCUSED class, we talk about why managing money is so challenging for ADHD brains and how shame, avoidance, impulsivity, and overwhelm can keep us stuck. You'll learn simple, ADHD-friendly strategies to build a healthier relationship with money, make decisions that align with your values, and create systems that help you get what you actually want. No budgeting perfection required. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
415 BITESIZE |"I Don't Feel Like Eating": ARFID Explained
17 min
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #380: What If It’s Not Just Picky Eating? ARFID In ADHD & Autism Explained Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
414 Good Enough Parenting: What NOT to Do (with Dr. Lindsay Gibson)
52 min
What if raising emotionally healthy kids has less to do with perfect parenting and more to do with emotional maturity? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with psychologist and bestselling author Lindsay C. Gibson to discuss her newest book, How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child. We explore what emotional maturity actually looks like, how to respond with empathy when your child seems irrational, and specifically what NOT to do as a parent. Dr. Gibson shares practical wisdom for navigating parenting challenges at every stage—including the often-complicated teen years—and explains how parents can break generational patterns without carrying the impossible burden of getting it right all the time. Whether you're raising young children, parenting teens, or healing from your own childhood experiences, this conversation offers a compassionate roadmap toward deeper connection, resilience, and emotional health. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED ! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
413 BITESIZE
21 min
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #378: Sensational Headlines Vs. Science: ADHD Under Attack (Again) Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
412 How ADHD Steals Your Self-Trust and How to Get It Back with Dr. Russell Ramsay
1 hr 8 min
What if the biggest obstacle in your life isn't ADHD? What if it's that you no longer trust yourself? In this episode, I sit down with ADHD psychologist and author Dr. Russell Ramsay to talk about one of the most painful and overlooked consequences of living with ADHD: the erosion of self-trust. After years of missed deadlines, abandoned plans, and broken promises to ourselves, many of us begin to wonder if we can rely on our own intentions at all. Dr. Ramsay shares why self-trust matters, how it gets damaged, and—most importantly—how we can begin rebuilding it. We discuss the difference between self-compassion and letting yourself off the hook, why accountability works better than self-criticism, and how our childhood experiences and family dynamics can shape the way we see ourselves today. If you've ever thought, "Why can't I just do what I say I'm going to do?" this conversation is for you. And make sure to check out Dr. Ramsay's new book, Once I Get Started: The Adult ADHD Guide to Turning Intentions Into Action. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED ! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
411 BITESIZE | ADHD Freeze: Why You Know What To Do But Can't Do It
15 min
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #376: When ADHD Looks Like Freeze: You’re Not Lazy, You’re Overwhelmed Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
410 The Exhaustion, The Book, and The People Who Are Mad at Me
34 min
This week’s episode is a personal catch-up on everything that’s been taking up space in my brain lately. My capacity feels low . My ADHD symptoms feel loud. I’m exhausted in that deep, bone-tired way that makes me want to spend the next two months under a blanket. Between the end-of-school-year chaos, parenting an emerging adult through graduation and next steps, writing a book, and navigating the general heaviness of life right now, I’m feeling it. I also share some behind-the-scenes updates about my upcoming book, including a title I seriously considered: Nobody’s Mad at You . The problem? It’s not entirely true. Sometimes people are mad at us. There are people mad at me right now. The goal isn’t to convince ourselves that everyone approves of us—it’s to learn that we can tolerate discomfort, navigate conflict, and stay connected anyway. In this episode, I talk about exhaustion, ADHD, parenting, the economy, the book-writing process, and the freedom that comes from accepting that being imperfect doesn’t make you unworthy of love, belonging, or healthy relationships. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED ! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
409 BITESIZE | ADHD Parents: Your Child Doesn't Need a Perfect Parent
17 min
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #374: 10 Signs Of A Healthy, Functional Family (And How We Get There With ADHD) Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
408 I Surveyed Over 2,100 Adults with ADHD—Here’s What Broke My Heart
47 min
Last summer, I surveyed over 2,174 adults with ADHD about their relationships, and the results stopped me in my tracks. In this episode, I’m sharing the themes, patterns, and painful truths that emerged from those responses, and how they confirmed so many things I’ve observed over the last seven years coaching adults with ADHD. We talk about relational wounding, rejection, criticism, emotional misunderstanding, and what happens when you grow up feeling like “too much,” “not enough,” or chronically misunderstood. We also explore how those early experiences can shape the way we show up in our adult relationships today. This is a heavier conversation, but it’s also an important one. My hope is that you walk away feeling seen, understood, and a little less alone. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED ! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
407 BITESIZE | 80% of People Diagnosed with ADHD Forgo Treatment in the First Year
17 min
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #366: Five Things Doctors Still Get Wrong About ADHD Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .
