The Affair Recovery Room

In this episode, I talk with psychotherapist and author Lauren LaRusso about her new book, Beyond Infidelity . Lauren's perspective is both professional and personal: her marriage ended after her husband's affair. Mine ended after I was the one who broke trust. We come at this experience from opposite sides, and that contrast shapes much of our conversation. Lauren makes a claim that may shift how you see your situation: the moment infidelity is revealed, the original version of your relationship is already gone. Whether a couple rebuilds or parts ways, they're no longer deciding about the marriage they had. They're deciding whether something new is possible. And the relationship isn't the only thing that changes. Who you thought you were inside that relationship changes, too. We talk about: What people are really asking when they ask "Should I stay or go?" Why that decision rarely becomes clear in the middle of a crisis—and what to focus on instead Letting go of the need to control the outcome, whether you're fighting to save the marriage or certain you'll leave How betrayal shatters identity, and why so much of our self-worth is tied to how others see us Lauren's story of a local magazine featuring her family on its cover just weeks after she discovered the affair Looking honestly at your role in the relationship—not in the infidelity—and why that matters for trusting yourself again Refusing to let the way a marriage ended erase everything that was real in it What Lauren looks for as evidence that someone who broke trust is actually doing the work Whether you were betrayed or you broke trust, and whether you're staying or going, this conversation is about the work that belongs to you—work nobody can take from you, no matter how your relationship turns out. LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/073 Lauren’s Book: Beyond Infidelity: How to Turn the End of Your Relationship into the Beginning of Your Life Review of Lauren’s book Lauren’s Website: laurenlarusso.com | Instagram: @laurenlarusso Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

This bonus episode is an introduction to Tim Tedder’s upcoming interview with therapist and writer Lauren LaRusso, author of the book Beyond Infidelity: How to Turn the End of Your Relationship into the Beginning of Your Life . In this episode, Tim talks about the book, explains why he recommends it, and plays clips from his conversation with Lauren. LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/072 Buy Beyond Betrayal on Amazon Read Tim’s review of Beyond Betrayal

Long before we could think about it, we learned how close was safe to get. Those patterns (researchers call them attachment styles) quietly shape how we handle conflict, disappointment, and closeness for the rest of our lives. Bev Mitelman, founder of Securely Loved, joins Tim to explain the four attachment styles and how they show up in infidelity: why the dismissive-avoidant pattern carries the highest risk of cheating, why betrayal cuts so deeply for the anxious-preoccupied partner, and why fixing the marriage without examining the pattern rarely holds. Tim shares his own story, and Bev names his pattern before he reveals his quiz results. Understanding the pattern is not the same as being excused by it, and if these patterns were learned, they can be changed. LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://affairhealing.com/podcasts/071 Bev Midelman’s Website: https://securelyloved.com Take the free Attachment Quiz ! Understanding WHY Course & Coaching Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

Three conversations. Three very different women. One idea that surfaced in all three: good sex doesn't begin with technique, and it doesn't begin with your partner. It begins with being honest about yourself. In this bonus episode, Tim revisits the three-part series on sexuality — sexual shame with therapist and intimacy coach Jocelyn Silva, sexual pleasure with intimacy coach Linda Landon, and sexual reconnection after betrayal with sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet — and shares an excerpt from each conversation. This episode also promotes the release of a free companion ebook, Good Sex: What Three Conversations about Sex Revealed about Shame, Intimacy, and Reconnection after Infidelity. Download the free eBook here → AffairHealing.com/goodsex Episode Page: AffairHealing.com/podcasts/070 Jocelyn Silva Interview & Resources Linda Landon Interview & Resources Xanet Pailet Interview & Resources

Episode Notes You apologized. You meant it. It didn't land. If that's happened to you, on either side of the conversation, this episode is about why. Two words in, an apology can still be intact. "I'm sorry." Nothing has gone wrong yet. It's the third word that decides everything, and there are four that show up in that position over and over again, each one quietly erasing the ownership that came before it. Through a series of dramatized conversations, we listen to all four fail, and then hear the same moments again, changed by a single word. In this episode: Why sincerity isn't enough, and why so many genuine apologies leave both people feeling worse BUT: the explanation that erases everything before it IF: the conditional apology, and why it does specific damage to someone whose perception has already been undermined YOU: the apology that makes your partner's reaction the problem THAT: the passive shrug, and why it's often shame rather than indifference FOR: the one word that forces specificity, and why that's a courage problem rather than a wording problem Why "for" is not a technique, and what happens when a betrayed partner senses performance For betrayed partners: what to do when the apologies you keep receiving don't help LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/069 The article: The Word After Sorry Makes or Breaks Your Apology The Understanding WHY Course & Coaching Need personal help? Schedule a Session with Tim, Sharon, or Jenn. APOLOGY EXERCISE Step 1 . Think of an apology you've already given. A real one, to a real person. Write it out, word for word, as close as you can remember. Don't improve it as you write. Write the actual thing you said. Step 2 . Circle the word that came right after "sorry." Just notice it. If it was one of the four — but, if, you, that — notice that too. Nearly everyone has said those four words, so you’re not alone. If the word is “for,” did you take specific responsibility and stop there? Step 3. Now rewrite the apology in three separate sentences, each one beginning "I'm sorry for" and each one naming something specific that you did. Not how the situation developed. Not how the other person acted or felt. What you did. Then here's the hard part: end each sentence there. Nothing after it. No explanation, no context, no "and I also want you to understand...” Just the named offense, and then a period. Step 4 . Read them out loud to yourself. Pay attention to what happens in your body when you do. Most people feel the urge to add more — to soften it, to frame it, to make it survivable. Pay attention to that impulse; it's the same impulse that will show up in the actual conversation. If you get through step three and find you can't be specific (if you genuinely don't know what to name, or you can name the behavior but not why you chose it), that's useful information. It's usually a sign that the work in front of you is a need for insight, not wording. The Understanding Why course was built for exactly that need, so it may be worth checking out.

After an affair, the sexual relationship rarely returns to what it was. Some couples find themselves in an unexpected surge of intensity. Others can't imagine being touched at all. Most land somewhere in between, unsure whether what they're experiencing is healing or avoidance. In this conversation, sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet joins me to talk about what sexual reconnection actually requires — and why so many couples begin in the wrong place. Xanet brings both professional expertise and personal history to this. She spent twenty-six years in a sexless marriage, much of it convinced she was broken, before doing the work that eventually redirected her career from healthcare law to intimacy coaching at age fifty. We talk about: Relationship drift: how emotional distance builds without either partner deciding on it. Childhood shame around sexuality, and how ordinary curiosity gets punished in ways that follow people into marriage. Hysterical bonding: the dopamine surge, the competitive edge underneath it, and how couples should understand it. Why emotional affairs are often harder to recover from than purely physical ones, including the grief the involved partner carries over what they've given up. The betrayed partner who feels compared, replaced, or physically measured against someone else, and where that healing actually has to happen. What to say, and what not to say, when reassuring a partner about desirability. The most common mistake couples make when they decide to "fix" things sexually. Emotional safety as the foundation, not the reward, of a good sexual relationship. Gender differences that leave couples at an impasse, and how to break it. Slowing down: touch, sensation, and why Xanet says you can't talk your way into better intimacy; you have to feel your way into it. LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/068 Xanet Pailet’s site: passionateintimacyretreats.com Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

For many couples, especially those recovering from infidelity, sex carries an impossible weight. The betrayed partner may feel pressure to perform, to compete, to prove something. The involved partner may be desperate to demonstrate change. And underneath it all, many people have never learned what genuinely brings them pleasure in the first place. In this second episode of our series on sexuality, intimacy coach Linda Landon offers a different path. Rather than chasing better technique or bigger outcomes, Linda's approach begins with each person coming home to their own body—learning to be present, to feel, and to receive—before reaching toward their partner. From that grounded place, she says, real intimacy becomes possible, and pleasure follows as an outcome rather than a goal. Linda speaks from lived experience. Despite being deeply embodied and sensual from childhood, she spent decades with a block that kept full sexual pleasure out of reach. At 50, during menopause, she began a journey of self-exploration that transformed her life and eventually reshaped her work as a couples coach. In this conversation, we explore: Why so many people (Linda estimates 80–85% of the women she works with) reach adulthood without knowing what brings them real sexual pleasure How early shame messages shape a lifetime of disconnection from our own bodies The problem with "male-centric" sexual timing and the pressure created by media expectations Why performative sex (sex as proving, pleasing, or achieving) leaves both partners disconnected How taking climax and penetration "off the table" can open the door to deeper intimacy Resistance as a doorway: why hitting a wall in this work is inevitable, and even welcome What this means for couples rebuilding sexual connection after betrayal, and why healing intimacy is not about better performance A guided practice for you to try right now LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://affairhealing.com/podcasts/067 Linda Landon’s website: igniteyourjoy.us — Download a free sample of Pleasure Past Fifty on the home page (with an option to receive the full book free). Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

Sexual shame rarely announces itself. It settles in early—a look on a parent's face, a warning message from the pulpit, a silence where an honest conversation should have been—and it quietly teaches us that something about who we are is wrong. In this episode of The Affair Recovery Room , Tim sits down with therapist and intimacy coach Jocelyn Silva to trace how that shame shapes us, and how it can set the stage for betrayal long before any line is crossed. Jocelyn grew up in a conservative Catholic home in Los Angeles, once dreaming of becoming a nun. Tim grew up in a strict evangelical world. Their backgrounds pushed them in different directions—she swung toward recklessness, he turned inward and shut down—but as they talk, they uncover the same root beneath both stories: neither of them ever learned to be open and honest about sexuality, and that inability to be authentic quietly eroded intimacy in their marriages. This is a candid conversation about the difference between shame and guilt, between sex and intimacy, and why Jocelyn now calls "relentless authenticity" her number one tip for a healthy sexual life. Neither of them lets shame stand as an excuse for the choices that followed, but both are honest about how it left them unprepared to build the kind of trust that makes real intimacy possible. If you carry shame from how you were raised to think about your body and desires, this one offers a way toward something more honest, more connected, and more free. Listener caution : This episode includes frank discussion of sex, sexual addiction, suicidal thoughts, and a mental health crisis. Please listen in the way that feels safest for you. LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/065 Jocelyn Silva website: jocelynsilva.com , Instagram: @iamjocelynsilva Recommended Book: The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How To Recover What God Intended Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

In this first PageTalk episode of the podcast, Tim revisits his recent article The Betrayal Often Begins Before the Affair , which was posted on AffairHealing.com. Written after the release of the previous episode ( Unshakeable ), the article explores how betrayal often begins long before an affair, in the quiet erosion of a couple's emotional connection. Tim shares his own reflection on breaking his marriage promises years before his affair began, then makes room for another side of the story: a conversation with Steve, a client who felt the article told only half the truth. Steve describes years of feeling emotionally shut out by his wife before his own affair, and Tim uses the conversation to explore Esther Perel's insight that "the victim of the affair is not always the victim of the marriage," suggesting that both partners in a struggling marriage can find the humility to look back and the hope to move forward. LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/065 Article: The Betrayal Often Begins Before the Affair Building US Course & Coaching Podcast Episode: A Conversation with My Ex, part 1 Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

Suzanne Leydecker built a life that looked good from the outside: a husband at Goldman Sachs, children, a home in New York. Then one night, over what had been an ordinary date-night dinner, he told her he was leaving. He'd already arranged for his mother to fly in and help her "pull herself together." In this conversation, Suzanne talks candidly about the months that followed—the summer she buried herself in fun to avoid the pain, the late-night deck conversations where she realized he was deciding whether to stay or go, and her decision to tell him to follow his heart rather than beg him to choose her. She also opens up about what came after the divorce: years of repeating the same broken patterns in new relationships, shaped by a childhood in an emotionally volatile home where she learned to cry so no one would yell at her. Suzanne and Tim have an honest, sometimes pointed exchange about a question that shows up often in affair recovery conversations: how much responsibility a betrayed partner should take for a marriage's breakdown. Suzanne pushes for a version of accountability that includes her own contributions, while Tim challenges the idea that unmet needs explain infidelity. It's a rich back-and-forth, and listeners are invited to sit with the tension rather than expect a tidy answer. Suzanne now works with women on what she calls her three pillars: personal responsibility, saying no when it's not a "hell yeah," and treating themselves and others with kindness. She writes about her journey in her book, A Woman On Top: My Journey of Self-Discovery Through Love and Money . LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://affairhealing.com/podcasts/064 Suzanne Leydecker’s website: suzanneleydecker.com Listen to Tim’s conversations with his ex: Part 1 , Part 2 , Part 3 . Course & Coaching Courses

If you've been betrayed, you already know that the pain doesn't stay in the past. It follows you into ordinary moments—a song, a smell, a place, a glance at a phone—and suddenly you're flooded all over again. That's not weakness; it’s trauma. It deserves real treatment. In this episode, I talk with Laurel van der Toorn, trauma therapist and founder of Laurel Therapy Collective, about a modality that has helped many betrayed partners move out of that cycle of activation: EMDR. Laurel is refreshingly honest about it. She calls it "weird," and she means it. But weird doesn't mean ineffective. EMDR is one of the most empirically validated trauma treatments available, with decades of peer-reviewed research behind it. And for people stuck in the relentless loop of betrayal trauma, it may offer something that talk therapy alone often can't: relief at the neurological level. In this conversation, we cover: What trauma actually is and why it's less about what happened and more about how the brain stored it Why EMDR feels strange but works, and what bilateral stimulation actually does in the brain The eight phases of EMDR, from history-taking and resourcing all the way through processing and integration What a typical session looks like, whether in-person or virtual How targets are identified and why the most activating memory isn't always the most obvious one Why relational trauma (like betrayal) takes longer to process than a single-incident trauma How to find a qualified EMDR therapist, and what certifications actually mean Laurel also addresses common concerns, including whether EMDR is a form of hypnosis (it's not), whether you can do it on your own with an app (you shouldn't), and whether it works for everyone (nothing does, but the results can be remarkable). If you're past discovery and still not sleeping, still flooded with intrusive thoughts, still wondering if it ever gets better… this episode is for you. LINKS and EXTRAS Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/063 Laural’s Website (free EMDR webinar): laureltherapy.net EMDR website: emdria.org Our Coach & Therapist, Sharon Barbour , also offers EMDR to clients in California & Indiana. Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

Most people who follow this podcast are betrayed partners, and understandably so. The pain of being cheated on is acute, disorienting, and often traumatic. The Recovery Room is committed to honoring that experience. But genuine recovery, the kind that produces lasting change and real safety in a relationship, requires more than behavior management from the person who had the affair. It requires something harder with more work “on the inside.” And in this episode, we go there. Dr. Monique Thompson, a psychotherapist in the Dallas Metroplex with more than a thousand couples in her clinical background, joins Tim to talk about the side of infidelity that rarely gets examined: the inner wounds of the involved partner. This isn't about generating sympathy for someone who broke trust. It's about understanding what actually needs to happen for change to be real. In this conversation, Tim and Monique explore: Why the person who had the affair experiences a genuine fracture of identity, and why that matters for recovery The problem with treating behavior change as the finish line How shame keeps the involved partner stuck and why it actually increases the risk of repeated harm The concept of "seemingly unimportant decisions" and how people drift toward betrayal through a long chain of uncaptured thoughts Why self-compassion isn't self-excuse; it's the gateway to authentic inner change A breathing & thought practice that helps regulate the nervous system and access honesty How EMDR therapy is being used not just for betrayed partners, but for involved partners carrying shame The difference between trauma-informed self-care (including something as simple as a daily walk) and formal trauma treatment Where to start if you've had an affair and haven't yet done any real inner work Dr. Thompson is direct, warm, and grounded in current science, and she brings a genuinely non-judgmental lens to a topic that is easy to oversimplify. Whether you're the person who was betrayed, the one who broke trust, or a couple trying to figure out what real recovery looks like together, this conversation offers something worth sitting with. LINKS and EXTRAS Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/062 Dr. Monique Thompson’s Website: doctormoniquethompson.com Monique’s Book: Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples: Tools and Exercises to Rebuild Your Relationship The Understanding WHY Course & Coaching: AffairHealing,com/why

One of the most disorienting effects of betrayal is what it does to a woman's sense of self. She may have been strong, capable, even confident—and then the discovery of infidelity strips away the ground she was standing on. She doesn't just lose trust in her partner. She loses trust in herself. In this conversation, Tim talks with life coach Zerina Dervini about why betrayal hits identity so hard and how women can begin to find their way back. Zerina draws from her own story and her five-phase Self-Discovery Framework to offer a grounded, realistic path through. In this episode : The connection between betrayal and self-worth, and why infidelity destabilizes identity at its core. Why the first and most important shift is moving from Why did this happen to me? to What do I need now? What Zerina's five-phase framework looks like: Awakening → Unlearning → Exploration → Integration → Living Authentically Why strong women are sometimes the hardest hit—and what hope looks like on the other side. How fear can masquerade as intuition, and why the nervous system has to come first. The role vulnerability plays in healing, and how to approach it without being overwhelmed. Why "What are your needs?" is one of the hardest questions anyone can answer. What Zerina would say to the woman who is broken, uncertain, and doesn't know what's next. LINKS and EXTRAS Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/061 Zarina’s Website: zerinalifecoach.com Affair Healing Resource Finder: AffairHealing.com/find Suggested Reading: How Could I Have Been So Blind? Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

Six years ago, Elisa's husband told her he was leaving their marriage for another woman. In the original three-part "Elisa's Story" series, she shared the raw experience of that first year: the shock, the grief, the impact on her sons, and the anxiety of navigating co-parenting with the woman who had replaced her. Now, six years later, Tim Tedder revisits that conversation with Elisa to explore what long-term healing actually looks like. What has changed? What still hurts? How does she interact with her Ex? How are her children doing, and what happened when she came face-to-face with the other woman? And what does moving forward, including stepping back into dating, look like after a betrayal that upended everything? This episode is for anyone who wonders whether the pain ever truly lifts and what life on the other side of devastation can be like. 00:00 Introduction 01:40 Elisa reflects on her original interview 03:10 Interacting with the Other Woman 12:45 Reflections on interactions with her Ex 20:20 Considering her sons 29:00 Dating again 33:40 Concluding thoughts LINKS and EXTRAS Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/060 The original episodes of Elisa’s Story: 1-The Betrayal , 2-Clarity, Pain, Choices , 3-The Children, The AP Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

Joni Woods grew up with a clear picture of what marriage was supposed to look like—and an equally clear sense of what a faithful wife was supposed to do when it didn't. For fifteen years, she stayed in a marriage defined by criticism, control, and abuse, holding the appearance of a healthy relationship together while her church community watched. It wasn't until her children became targets of her husband's behavior that she finally filed for divorce. On her way out, she had an affair with a married man. In this conversation, Joni and Tim talk honestly about the pressures that kept her silent for so long, what eventually broke through that silence, and how she thinks about the affair now, including what it gave her, what it cost her, and whether she has regrets. Tim frames Joni's affair using the Exit Affair category introduced in episode fourteen : a relationship that functions less as a pursuit of something new and more as an escape hatch from something unbearable. That framing doesn't erase the complexity, but it does help make sense of choices that might otherwise seem hard to understand. LINKS and EXTRAS Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/059 Joni’s Website: JoniWoods.com Joni’s Book: Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever Bonus Audio: Pressured to Stay in a Broken Marriage (5-minutes of our conversation not included in this episode) Understanding WHY Course Preview Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

What makes a man emotionally unavailable? And what does it take to change that? In this episode, Tim Tedder sits down with Jason Lange, a men's coach and group facilitator, to explore one of the most underaddressed dimensions of relationship healing: the inner world of men. Jason draws on his own journey to explain how many men enter adulthood without two fundamental skills: self-awareness and the ability to communicate what they feel. The cultural script of masculinity, built around stoicism, self-reliance, and the suppression of vulnerability, doesn't just leave men emotionally isolated. It quietly undermines their capacity for the kind of intimacy that healthy relationships require. The conversation moves naturally into the territory of infidelity, not just as a relationship crisis, but as a symptom of deeper unmet needs and undeveloped skills. Jason shares what he consistently sees in men on both sides of betrayal: those who cheated often lacked the ability to communicate what was missing or to set honest boundaries; those who were cheated on often struggle to understand their own role in the relational disconnect that developed over time. But this episode is bigger than infidelity. Jason makes a compelling case for why every man should be in a men's group—not just men in crisis, but any man who wants to grow. Men's groups offer something rare: a structured, accountable community where men learn to connect with their own bodies and emotional lives, practice difficult conversations, and receive honest feedback without shame. As male loneliness continues to rise, Jason argues that this kind of relational infrastructure isn't a luxury; it's essential. LINKS and EXTRAS Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/058 Jason Lang’s Website: https://evolutionary.men Affair Healing Online Courses Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

The hardest part of healing isn't the moment you decide to forgive. It's every ordinary moment after that—the birthday parties, the graduations, the holidays—where you choose it again and again. In this final episode of A Conversation with My Ex , Tim and Konnie talk about the relationship they've built in the years since their divorce. It hasn't been without struggle. There have been seasons of tension, moments of hurt, and the ongoing challenge of staying cooperative when old wounds made that feel unreasonable. But they kept choosing it for their children, and for themselves. Their children speak in this episode, too. Now adults with families of their own, they share what it has meant to grow up watching two people refuse to let the worst chapter of their family's story become the defining one. Their children and their grandchildren are growing up knowing the full story and witnessing firsthand what genuine healing can produce. Konnie also shares that the cooperative, caring relationship she and Tim have built is one her current husband not only knows about but fully supports. This episode is a true account of what becomes possible when two people decide that their shared future matters more than their painful past. LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://affairhealing.com/podcasts/057 Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

Affairs often have multiple victims. This episode gives voice to some of them. Tim and Konnie's story has been told, in their own words, across two honest episodes. But there were others in that story, too. Five children who didn't choose what happened, didn't cause it, and couldn't stop it, but who carried it nonetheless, each in their own way. In this bonus episode, released before the final conversation between Tim and Konnie, two of those children speak. Their oldest son and youngest daughter offer their own perspective on what it was like to grow up through their father’s affair, the divorce, and everything that followed. They weren't coached toward a particular conclusion. They were simply invited to be honest. Their perspectives are windows into the experiences of children who had no say in the story they were handed, and into what it took to find their footing within it. If you are a parent who has put your children through something like this, listen carefully. This one is for you. LINKS and EXTRAS Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/056 Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

In this second episode of A Conversation with My Ex , Tim Tedder and his ex-wife Konnie talk about the disclosure of Tim's affair—first the partial truth, then the full confession he chose to make a week later. What followed was one of the most revealing stretches of their marriage: Konnie processing devastating grief while Tim watched, emotionally unreachable, from somewhere he couldn't explain. They tried. They stayed under the same roof for months, attempting repairs neither of them was fully equipped to make. And then, it was a misunderstanding that became the excuse for choices that would unravel their marriage. This episode doesn't soften their hard history, but it also doesn't leave you without hope. Two people talking this honestly about this much pain, with this much respect for each other, is its own kind of evidence that something worthwhile survived. I SHOULD FEEL SOMETHING (song lyrics) ©2025 Tim Tedder I know I did this , I know this mess is mine You fall to your knees while I make my stand I know I loved you so I should feel something But your eyes flood while mine fill with sand I feel nothing I feel nothing Pain shatters all around me I feel nothing Your heart’s broken You scream out my name, I feel nothing Except the shame I should say something, I should tell you we’ll be fine You cry for answers, I make you guess I sing songs so words should come easy But you strain for music while my song’s at rest I feel nothing I feel nothing Pain shatters all around me I feel nothing Your heart’s broken You scream out my name, I feel nothing Except the shame Where is the man who swore he would hold you? Where is the man with love gone wild? He would be covering you like a champion He would be comforting you like a child I feel nothing I feel nothing Pain shatters all around me I feel nothing Your heart’s broken You scream out my name, I feel nothing Except the shame My fist holds tight the seeds of regret Someday I might plant them, but I’m not ready yet LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/055 Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.

In this first episode of A Conversation with My Ex , Tim Tedder sits down with Konnie, his ex-wife, for an honest, unhurried look at the relationship they built and the choices that dismantled it. They talk about meeting in college, the early years of their relationship, the slow accumulation of disconnection, and the affair that brought everything into the open. What you won't find here is score-settling. What you will find is two people who have done the hard work of processing their shared history—separately and together—and are now able to speak about it with a candor that is rare and, at times, disarming. This episode doesn't ask you to take sides. It asks you to consider what's possible when injury doesn't get the final word. LINKS and EXTRAS Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/054 Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.